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Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… |
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I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 13 weeks ago
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I’d hope so…. I’m not sure where some folks get the notion that all guys are desperate and will accept any crumb of sex offered no matter that there’s not the attraction there. That’s certainly not been the case with the men I’ve spoken to |
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. "
THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x |
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Yes have definitely tuned down a couple when the dynamic seemed one sided, ie. she was just doing it to please hubby, it should be fun for all three, each having their own kink for doing it 😘
Ps, Always turn up when we’ve decided to meet though !!! |
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I have never been propositioned by a couple to even meet socially let alone for a workout meet......
I have however met a few women for a social that got on well with over messages but at the social it was clear there was no chemistry so didn't take it any further.
I understand why some people just block rather than say how they felt as it's not an easy conversation to instigate, it usually me on the receiving end though |
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful.
THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x"
Thank you. That's really appreciated. Wasn't looking for credit in any way, but us guys aren't going to gain respect if it's not earned.
Glad to say they disappeared off Fab not too long after, with him hopefully learned the right way to treat a woman. I was lucky having been led into this world BY an amazing woman who is still a great friend. Respect and integrity cost nothing, but it does mean I can look myself in the mirror. No woman will ever be less than a hundred per cent safe in my company, although almost every one I know in the swinging world is a strong woman in her own right - which is a damn sexy thing in itself! |
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"Yes have definitely tuned down a couple when the dynamic seemed one sided, ie. she was just doing it to please hubby, it should be fun for all three, each having their own kink for doing it 😘
Ps, Always turn up when we’ve decided to meet though !!! "
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I turned down a single guy who asked Terry if he could fuck me while I was right there legs akimbo! I didn't like that he'd asked for my partner's permission and not mine. That changed me inside. Took a lot for me to get back into the swinging mindset after that. He was just rude from the off, kind of arrogant so he got sweet fanny Adams  |
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Very good question , we have met quite a few single guys , wife hasn’t played with all of them , and never said no to the ones who made all the right moves , But have had a fair few time wasters and a couple of no shows , which makes it harder for other singles , we tend to arrange the meets for at club now , or when we are on breaks or holidays |
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"Very good question , we have met quite a few single guys , wife hasn’t played with all of them , and never said no to the ones who made all the right moves , But have had a fair few time wasters and a couple of no shows , which makes it harder for other singles , we tend to arrange the meets for at club now , or when we are on breaks or holidays "
Understandable. |
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… "
Yeah I turn them down daily and I’m sure a lot of guys do. I think being Bi makes it more difficult for me as I feel that I need to be attracted to both sides of the couple otherwise I won’t be turned on (even if playing “straight”). And it’s rare that both are equally hot.
I’ve noticed that a common dynamic seems to be that one partner is much more attractive than the other (to me) |
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By *hybeamMan 13 weeks ago
Whyteleafe |
I’ve turned down couples before.
Main reason is when I feel the wife is only doing it because it’s what her other half wants. You can just sense that the hesitance goes beyond just nerves, it’s about doing something just to make the other one happy.
Going to a football match when you hate football is something you do to make your other half happy. Fucking someone else is a step too far and doesn’t feel right to me.
Another time was because we got back to the hotel room and she was throwing up in the toilet because she was so d*unk … her husband turned round to me and said, if she can borrow your toothbrush she’ll be good to go in 5 minutes … he got quite offended when I refused
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"I’ve turned down couples before.
Main reason is when I feel the wife is only doing it because it’s what her other half wants. You can just sense that the hesitance goes beyond just nerves, it’s about doing something just to make the other one happy.
Going to a football match when you hate football is something you do to make your other half happy. Fucking someone else is a step too far and doesn’t feel right to me.
Another time was because we got back to the hotel room and she was throwing up in the toilet because she was so d*unk … her husband turned round to me and said, if she can borrow your toothbrush she’ll be good to go in 5 minutes … he got quite offended when I refused
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful.
THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x"
100% as anyone with good morals and respect would agree and swinging is about everyone involved being happy and free to do or not do as they desire isn’t it ? Hence we should all be able to say no if we so wish and all should respect that |
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I pulled a hot woman in a nightclub.. like 15 years older than me when I was early 20s.. was with her for hours.. she invited me back to her hotel..then pointed at the bar and said her husband wanted to watch.. I shit myself and turned it down.. biggest regret ever ha |
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful.
THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x
100% as anyone with good morals and respect would agree and swinging is about everyone involved being happy and free to do or not do as they desire isn’t it ? Hence we should all be able to say no if we so wish and all should respect that"
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"I turned down a single guy who asked Terry if he could fuck me while I was right there legs akimbo! I didn't like that he'd asked for my partner's permission and not mine. That changed me inside. Took a lot for me to get back into the swinging mindset after that. He was just rude from the off, kind of arrogant so he got sweet fanny Adams "
If you ask the male partner if it's OK he often says ask her. If you ask her she often looks to him for approval. It's a confusing world out there... |
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I have the privilege to know several amazing couples, with all of them being extremely secure together. That's a key thing for me playing with them. I'll always tell a woman how attracted I am and that I'd love to enjoy some time in her company, but equally I'll ask for her partners blessing, each and every time - even if it's something that's happened before on several occasions. For me it's important that each know the other is respected by me, thereby showing that I'd never do anything that lacked complete integrity, nor leave either remotely concerned about me as a person. Without that it's simply not happening. |
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By *io--Man 13 weeks ago
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… "
Yes, lots when talking after having initial interest with each other because of a technicality or something along those lines which is totally expected, and yes a few messaging to outright meet usually due to age or just no attraction. Oh and wanting bi play
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I've turned down many couples. Nothing to do with their own dynamic because I've never met any of them but everything to do with their shitty attitudes towards me.
I've had introductory messages from couples telling me to lose the beard or I won't fuck the wife, that I'm too old and too straight but if I agree to play bi they will add me to their to-do list and also that my profile is shit and I know it is because men don't have options on fab and should be grateful for any attention.
These were all extremely well verified couples and those who approached with an attitude like that didn't like that I turned them down.
Some even told me I was an idiot for doing so, asked did I not know who they were and their standing in the community and they would end my fab journey with a few well placed messages.
Obviously I'm still here. |
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Two spring to mind..
One couple were video calling me at 3am asking to go to theirs which was about 35 miles away and I was really d*unk so couldn't drive. Said listen, I'm d*unk and knackered so it won't be worth your time. About an hour later they are ringing again saying they have driven to Birmingham to pick me up. The wife didn't actually speak on the video call before and the bloke just seemed so keen and pushy, I just thought he was definitely going to abduct me and kill me.
The other time the couple seemed really nice, was going to meet them in a hotel (they were touring England in a campervan) but checked them out on Facebook and it appeared the wife was terminally ill, seemingly quite far gone, so told them (lied) I couldn't make it a few days before. Still feel a bit guilty but a dying woman is a bit of a turn off for me. I feel dizzy just going near a doctor's surgery usually. |
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I've turned down a few couples. It's normally because they've messaged in the stereotypical single male way.... A one liner asking If I'm free now. Or when reading their profile it's clear I don't meet any of their listen preferences. Which I usually point out as the reason for turning them down. |
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Had a good experiences with couples in clubs. Sometimes I had to politely refuse a meet when I’m busy with my own normal life, but it doesn’t mean I don’t fancy a meet,
That’s why I like to meet in clubs, you are present at the moment and if you don’t click, there’s always opportunity to move one and play with others |
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Nothing springs to mind but we've been thanked but not interested a few times, it's not an issue, in a way would rather that then be let down later on, and plus we've turned down a far many more singles ourselves.
The idea is everyone is having fun happy and wanting to be there. |
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Yeah, several times.
The main reason why I often do is because of the entitled and shitty attitudes some couples have when approaching.
Some seem to think they are doing us single guys a favour as they think we are desperate and will jump through hoops.
Where this attitude comes from is anyone’s guess, but bad attitude and rudeness is such a turn-off when all you want is light-hearted fun. |
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I turned down a couple just last night actually! The female half really wasn’t for me, and I thanked them for their interest, then received a quite abusive message back followed by a block.
They received a counterblock |
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"Yeah, several times.
The main reason why I often do is because of the entitled and shitty attitudes some couples have when approaching.
Some seem to think they are doing us single guys a favour as they think we are desperate and will jump through hoops.
Where this attitude comes from is anyone’s guess, but bad attitude and rudeness is such a turn-off when all you want is light-hearted fun."
Well said my friend |
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Big respect to a guy that turns a couple down if it's not for him. Some guys would just jump at the opportunity of a meet and then it end up being a disaster and ruin it for couples. Couples that have a good time with single males will always go back for more. |
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As long as people are polite and people don't get hung up on egos, then people should be free to play and not play with whoever they want without anyone getting all whipped up.
I've rejected, been rejected, accepted and been accepted.... That's life.
I'm not here to sleep with anyone and everyone. I wouldn't expect that from a couple either. Sexual preference is sexual preference.
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I had to do this last night, newish couple with no verifications who dont meet single guys lol.
Random message about meeting subject to being sent a picture. Unfortunately I had had a drink so couldn't go. Couple of nice messages to them but unsurprisingly didn't get a reply lol |
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Males still have feelings, thoughts and preferences. We wouldn't be offended getting turned down by anyone. Each to their own and not what they fancy. Think there's abit of a stima on sites like this where couple has power over a male. I disagree. We're all human 👌 |
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"i would love te chance to turn don a couple
why docouples think our past it at 69
plentyf good tunes played on a ol fiddle
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Age is but a number but having no pics does not get you far on this site |
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When I was a single guy I never got to the stage where I had to turn down a proposal from a couple (bar a couple of out of the blue late night meet now messages from couples, but I dont think that counts). Had a few conversations online where I wasn't feeling them and I fizzled it out. But the couples I physically met I was happy with. So I guess that means my ingenuity online was sound. Which was good because as a single parent with young kids back then I had very little free time so I wouldn't meet physically unless I had a strong positive feeling about them.
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Yes I quite often turn down couples and females,
If I don’t think I can offer them what they state they are looking for in their profile then why would I waste their time, life is way too short for anything other than incredible sex. |
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I turned down a couple last night as they wasn’t my type.
I don’t subscribe to the “most men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough” train of thought.
You have to be turned on mentally as well as physically, it just makes the sex better. |
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"I turned down a couple last night as they wasn’t my type.
I don’t subscribe to the “most men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough” train of thought.
You have to be turned on mentally as well as physically, it just makes the sex better. "
Totally agree |
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"You may turn down a couple if you feel the dynamic isn’t quite right. "
Or if you don’t fancy them.
Or if it’s not the right time for you.
I’m not a cock in a spring. I need to want to do it and if anything isn’t right I’ll happily walk away. |
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"You may turn down a couple if you feel the dynamic isn’t quite right.
Or if you don’t fancy them.
Or if it’s not the right time for you.
I’m not a cock in a spring. I need to want to do it and if anything isn’t right I’ll happily walk away. "
I turned down a couple in a swinger club one night. She was so d*unk she couldn't walk in her heels. It did nothing for me, and I felt like I was almost 'taking advantage', so I politely declined... |
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Don't get many offers but I did turn down a couple.. well him at least. No idea if she was in on the idea. They asked me to book a hotel at short notice on the opposite side of London and then refused to send face pics when asked. I didn't book the hotel as I had no idea who I was going meeting.
They got huffy and called me a time waster. Oh well. |
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"I turned down a couple last night as they wasn’t my type.
I don’t subscribe to the “most men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough” train of thought.
You have to be turned on mentally as well as physically, it just makes the sex better. "
Yep.. there has to be an attraction for me too |
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… "
Yea I have on a few occasions. Just not for me really. |
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By *MCMan 11 weeks ago
London/EA |
Got messaged by an attractive HW couple today, because I didn’t reply to their message within an hour they removed the media and had my response ignored 😂
Weird ole place Fab…
But yeah when members can get quite funny when rejected by a single male I’ve found 🤷♂️ |
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"Got messaged by an attractive HW couple today, because I didn’t reply to their message within an hour they removed the media and had my response ignored 😂
Weird ole place Fab…
But yeah when members can get quite funny when rejected by a single male I’ve found 🤷♂️"
Haha! Never forget Fab Rule No.1; single guys must always be grateful…. |
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As a cock owning trans women , I’ll use my biological male card for this thread
I turn loads of couples down as it becomes evident it’s one sided / or they feel I’ll just instantly love the man half and should meet.
I don’t take Feb remotely seriously and meets / people are just like haribo. There is always more to choose / pick from so no biggie if you discard some.
Patience is the issue I see with most guys not turning down fully compatible meets as they just want a meet . |
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By *oomlMan 11 weeks ago
Fareham |
Had a couple approach me suggesting a fun threesome and after chatting for a while we agreed to meet. When it came to discussing a time to meet it had changed to him wanting me to meet her alone with him watching and issuing instructions on facetime.
They were quite surprised that I didn't want to do that. |
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I had a ‘couple’ message me after I commented on a hotwife post in the forum. Was the female messaging apparently. She couldn’t remember what post it was, I said I’m not bi (they want bi in their profile) she said he’s not always there and said she meets solo. I asked for a pic, she said she would upload some later.
Now this couple have been on fab over a year and have one veri from a guy with no pics.
Alarm bells are ringing here especially as sending a direct photo is easy. So I’ve left it and will wait for ‘her’ to send me a pic… I removed the pic I sent them 😂 |
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Tbh I had yeh same with a couple on Friday, watched them in a club a few months ago, was supposed to meet in a club last month. Spoke to
Them both in a club this month and decided they weren’t for me. Need to send a mail to say thanks but no thanks. I just didn’t feel the connection. |
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Thanks for contributing. I think the thing is that as a very gorgeous cock owning trans woman, you absolutely get your pick of haribo! As a single guy I definitely don’t have the same, so as you say the temptation is not to turn down couples (but I do!) |
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Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc....
I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off!
Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol.
It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!!
Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok.
Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well.
...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance! |
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By *ister_EMan 9 weeks ago
Hayling Island |
I turn down more than I meet. Not sure how many of those would actually have turned into real meets anyway though....
Most often it's because of distance, timing or condom usage.
But sometimes it's just that the attraction isn't mutual, or something just feels off or wrong about them.
And yes ocasionaly you defy common sense, break your own rules and take a chance and it turns out to be amazing
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc....
I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off!
Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol.
It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!!
Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok.
Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well.
...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!"
A much better story if your family and friends had all jumped out with a "SURPRISE!!!". |
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I have turned couples down, sometimes because they weren't my cup of tea and sometimes because it logistically didn't work.
In fact I had a couple proposition me by mail in the last week or so who I'd have loved to meet but it was short notice and I had something else on sadly. |
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful.
THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x"
^This! |
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By *oxy jWoman 9 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
everyone should be able to turn someone down as this lifestyle is about choice and preference its about sexual attractions, sexual connections, personality , being on the same page these people have my respect ...
those that fuck anyone do anything and its easy to pick these people out ''the fuck anything brigade'' ill avoid like the plague as just proves they are only desperate |
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For me if the communication starts to drift and they don't advise to a reason and it starts to feel more one sided on my paet and like I am chasing I opt out as I need a connection with the person I am playing with otherwise it feels transactional.  the worst for me is when they read messages on here on telegram/WhatsApp and don't send a courteous message even to say we are no longer interested. |
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Had plenty of guys message asking to meet as a couple, many having couples as a meet requirement on their profile. Excepting a request to is no guarantee that they will meet. Most like the idea, but just a fantasy, they don't turn up or cancel last min., but it happens on the females single account where she meets alone. Fab is full of people that have no intention of meeting and just use the site to stimulate their fantasies. |
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"Funny enough, I've turned down a couple because wife was pushing her hubby into something he was not happy with. And this was when we were all naked on the bed already."
Crikey!!!
Men are allowed to say no!! Please say no especially if you will feel unpleasant after.
You need to feel good and happy before, during and after sex. Make that a priority more than coming!! It's more satisfying!! |
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Hence why I rarely speak to couples on here, unless they have moved over to Telegram with their own discrete accounts.
The subterfuge and deceit they employ puts Mi6 to shame. |
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc....
I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off!
Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol.
It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!!
Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok.
Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well.
...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!"
Yes, I had a similar (05:00) experience a few years ago with a lovely couple in Leeds. |
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When I was a single male, yes, I turned down a few. Some couples get very pushy. One wife wouldn’t accept that I said know and actually rang me ( we were texting) and demanded to know WHY I said no!
People!!!! |
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"I haven't as couples don't seem to be all to interested in me, I'll message then but no-one msgs me "
you've only been on 5 weeks and you need to go to socials and clubs.
If you are an introvert, it will be hard to get couples to come to you and you would have to improve your profile a lot and work 1000 times harder than people who go out and chat.
your photos would need to be more "male boudoir" instead of male "trainspotting"
trust me it's very early days for being on the site. |
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"As we both have access and respond the messenger never actually knows quite who hes /she /they are taking to. General rule is trist your gut discuss abd act according 👍
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Hence why I rarely speak to couples on here, unless they have moved over to Telegram with their own discrete accounts.
The subterfuge and deceit they employ puts Mi6 to shame."
My Lord Nero, I cannot imagine the improbability of persons seen or unseen utilising the folly of subterfuge and deceit against one-self as so esteemed a gentleman.
As a converted libertine maîtresse-en-titre, I have to approach couples with nimble footwork and a variety of gambits lest I fall foul of their unsavoury and dramatic marital, romantic, sneaky link woes, one-upmanship/one-up-womanship, trysts, and liaisons.
I must remain above it all, poised, graceful as one of my fragile intellect and disposition can be; very demure, very mindful.
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc....
I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off!
Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol.
It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!!
Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok.
Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well.
...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!"
You brave brave man. I could never. Lol! Too uptight for that.
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"When I was a single male, yes, I turned down a few. Some couples get very pushy. One wife wouldn’t accept that I said know and actually rang me ( we were texting) and demanded to know WHY I said no!
People!!!!"
Eww an actual telephone call..the audacity....um the demand of why also... 
The only people allowed to call me are the authorities...lol! The government, the GP or the hospital/nhs/medical professionals...um the police......
Everyone else....email or text or voice note. |
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By *eyeYCouple 9 weeks ago
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D reckons he turned down about half the offers he got when single for various reasons and we've had a few guy's say no thanks to us..
Absolutely respect it, those who go by the "any hole" mantra aren't for us.. 👍 |
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"I haven't as couples don't seem to be all to interested in me, I'll message then but no-one msgs me
you've only been on 5 weeks and you need to go to socials and clubs.
If you are an introvert, it will be hard to get couples to come to you and you would have to improve your profile a lot and work 1000 times harder than people who go out and chat.
your photos would need to be more "male boudoir" instead of male "trainspotting"
trust me it's very early days for being on the site."
I will Try on the pics, not really a selfie taker.
Interms of the writing I'm just trying to be as truthful and upfront as I can be, trying to be myself I don't know what I could add at this time 😔 |
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