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By *addis OP Couple 8 weeks ago
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We ourselves are unverified, have met verified who hasnt verified us 😞 accused of being fake daily - lots of people appeal to us and some / most are not verified so what’s the point of the site if we can’t verify one another ? I appreciate there has to be a degree of protection but how do we get verified when the gent we met hasn’t bothered and most people were interested in aren’t verified ? |
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Ask nicely although in fairness that's bad form of whoever you met to not verify you. Not everyone wants a veri every time but after a first meet that's not very fair if you've asked.
Do a webchat with soneone perhaps. Alot of people seem to do this. Or pop to a club or social. |
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There should be a process for unverified people - if both parties message admin stating they've met the that should count. The details have to match though dates times locations etc then admin allow them a verification but its marked as via admin. As you’ve both rightly stated it can be difficult to get verifications. |
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"We ourselves are unverified, have met verified who hasnt verified us 😞 accused of being fake daily - lots of people appeal to us and some / most are not verified so what’s the point of the site if we can’t verify one another ? I appreciate there has to be a degree of protection but how do we get verified when the gent we met hasn’t bothered and most people were interested in aren’t verified ? "
Go to a club, you can chat to people and I’m sure they would verify. Or as the club to verify you, we’ve seen it often from clubs.
There’s 3 around you. |
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Unverified people on here seem to do very well meeting other unverified people, it's often mentioned on the forum. Anyone can go to a club and the club themselves will verify them, they may also chat to others most of who will be happy to verify. |
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"We ourselves are unverified, have met verified who hasn't verified us 😞 accused of being fake..."
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I'm not quite sure I follow this, OP. You met someone. They had verifications. They, however, didn't verify you because they thought you were fake?
Were you there in person when you met them? Were they blind and didn't believe you were there? |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 8 weeks ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"We ourselves are unverified, have met verified who hasnt verified us 😞 accused of being fake daily - lots of people appeal to us and some / most are not verified so what’s the point of the site if we can’t verify one another ? I appreciate there has to be a degree of protection but how do we get verified when the gent we met hasn’t bothered and most people were interested in aren’t verified ? "
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Quickest and easiest way would be to go on cam in the chat room and
someone in there who views you will give you a veri as a real couple.
As said above, a club visit is your best bet, fabbers you meet would happily
give you a veri as a real couple if you let them know you are fairly new
and not got any yet.
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Best to let them know you would like one though as many folks who like us
who only visit clubs don't bother too much about veris as what you see
is what you get in clubs so veri's aren't that important in that case lol  |
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It's so easy to get verified you literally just need to make a tiny bit of effort.
Pop on cam and ask someone, pop along to a local social and ask someone or go to a club and ask someone.
We were all unverified at some point.
Mrs |
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"So bloddy pointless "
Totally agree I've been on this site since it started as a married couple, me and gf and me single. Deleted account many times due to idiots. I have never cancelled a meet but been let down by verified users. |
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Verifications of a group social just shoe the person is good at presenting themselves well in a public setting. That is different to meeting someone and getting naked, trusting them with your body and that person being a respectful lover. At best a group social veri shows a couple really is a couple. And some people - men - are of the opinion that a social meeting isn't a 'real meeting' unless it goes somewhere, or suffer the bitter taste of (real or perceived) rejection. When my fwb and me had a couples account webcam verifications meant even less to us than a group social one. And often we took verifications with a pinch of salt, instead preferring to make up our own minds about someone.
I don't have any public verifications and I hide the summary so it looks as if I've been here for years and not met a soul. But I do OK. Sure, I might do better if I showed them and if I'm asked, then of course I happily give verifications (usually send them a 'draft' before I post it so they know what to expect), so I get what you're saying, OP. It's an etiquette thing following a meeting, especially a first meeting and if I was specifically asked to leave a verification and didn't bother that makes it a respect thing, a basic manners thing. You want to show your swinger stripes and you can't because of somebody else's selfishness / disorganisation. That's not fair and difficult to swallow, so please take some consolation in the fact a lot of people disregard verifications anyway, preferring to make their own decisions, as we did. They really are not the be all and end all that some make them out to be. |
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We aren’t veried as yet as circumstances prevented us getting into this scene as we first talked about.
We will now be joining a club so know from past experiences as a solo male that this is the best way of getting yourselves veried. |
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It's a pain in the arse isn't it.
Go to a club....socialise with people and ask if they will verify you.
We've all been there, and we all understand how frustrating it is.
I will say however, just because someone isn't verified, doesn't mean they're fake.
Good luck with your journey. X |
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Why not organise a coffee social and make sure that at least 1 person who attends is verified and they are verify others the Ireland forum has a help a fabber thread with the exact intent in helping people get there first veri and it may only be a social but it's a good start |
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