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Keeping the Flame alight
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"That makes sense I guess. Sometimes it's good to have that space away from each other to allow you to be missed and miss. It's difficult not to fall into a rut though which leads to boredom and then taking advantage of each other  "If I find myself taking advantage of someone I care about I usually take a step back and try to work out what fucked up my headspace enough for me to be a dick to them 💜 | |||
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"I think in life we all end up taking advantage of ours partners in one way or another, for example household chores, I've ended up being the one to always do the housework be ause I started to doing it to help the Mrs as I WFH but now it's me that's always expected to do it whilst she treats the house like a hotel "So talk to her about it. Sometimes things that make logistical sense don't make emotional sense. And if someone doesn't know how it's affecting you how can they be expected to know they need to change the thing that makes logical sense? | |||
"I think in life we all end up taking advantage of ours partners in one way or another, for example household chores, I've ended up being the one to always do the housework be ause I started to doing it to help the Mrs as I WFH but now it's me that's always expected to do it whilst she treats the house like a hotel "We don't take advantage of each other, far from it. We were saying earlier how we appreciate each other and that's after many years being married. We keep our flame alight by making a bit of effort, that may be something vanilla or giving each other some attention in bed. Having the occasional fun with others adds to it too! | |||
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"Petrol " That would also work | |||
"For those of you in long term relationships, how do you keep the flame alight between you and your partner. Have any of you ever lost interest and gone though the motions, if so how have you managed to get out of it. " Goals! Have goals! What worked for me in the past is to have some goal, or objective, to both work towards to. These can be short, mid or long term, in fact I found it quite healthy to have a mix of all three. These goals can be anything, buying a new car, a holiday, moving cities, retiring young, having a threesome, trying a new restaurant, going away for a weekend, buying a larger house, having a child, getting a pet, both getting a diving instructor licence, starting/joining a D&D group, whatever. These must be shared goals, on top of whichever individual ones you also will be working towards. Also, I would say, communication. Bring this same subject up, what's going on with you two? What is she finding meh? What are you finding meh? What are you/is she missing from the relationship? Talk guys, talk to each other. It can suck a lot, and it's effort to even bring up certain topics, especially after a long day at work or when things are already meh, but it's really the key (of my three major relationship, I can -in hindsight- say that all three failed because of the lack of communication). | |||
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"For the use the goal is get through a day without an argument,it's horrible,I hate the life I'm currently living, there is no pleasure and no happiness " So your marriage is not fine, as it says in your profile. Time for an honest and open discussion at home I would say...Good luck with everything. | |||
"For the use the goal is get through a day without an argument,it's horrible,I hate the life I'm currently living, there is no pleasure and no happiness " I'm sorry to hear that, yet again your best option is to talk! | |||
"Being with the right person means we don't have those issues." Amen! We argue, complacent occasionally, but when it happens step back realise how lucky we are to have met and fuck like rabbits for the next few days 😈😂 | |||
