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What's your average to looking to messaging?
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We find we send very few messages, compared to how many profiles we look at. Maybe one in fifty.
Probably as how we play isn't for all, so finding the right people is hard.
Be interested to see how people approach this; send a few selectively or go for the law of averages  |
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i get waaaaaay more messages because of forum posts (but only replying to them) than i do any 'meaningful ones'. i don't send all that many because as a bloke they mostly get read and ignored or simply deleted. |
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Oooo my ratio is got to be 1 message to every 100 profiles I look at and that’s probably a low estimate
Maybe it’s a subconscious thing that rejection is crap ha
I’d only send a message if I genuinely think something could come of it , or the other way to look at it I that I look at way too many profiles 😆 |
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"We never send a first message, and reply to less than 10% of those we receive due to different reasons. Very rarely do they lead to anything. We go to club's and have occasional fun with others."
Oooh makes sense now why I’ve not had a message from you been waiting here patiently 😁
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Probably quite low. I do message first if I see someone I like but compared to how many profiles I look at, taking in active searching and looking at forum posters, we're talking low numbers.
I only message people who look as if they have a good level of compatibility with outlook and approach. |
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We are on the send very few list too, we don't get the time to play that often, probably only a handful of times a year so we don't want to lead anyone on and build something up just for us not to be able to see them for 3 months.
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"Probably quite low. I do message first if I see someone I like but compared to how many profiles I look at, taking in active searching and looking at forum posters, we're talking low numbers.
I only message people who look as if they have a good level of compatibility with outlook and approach. "
Pretty much our take. Much nicer to get a message from someone you MAY be compatible with than a generic or speculative one in our book  |
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"Probably quite low. I do message first if I see someone I like but compared to how many profiles I look at, taking in active searching and looking at forum posters, we're talking low numbers.
I only message people who look as if they have a good level of compatibility with outlook and approach.
Pretty much our take. Much nicer to get a message from someone you MAY be compatible with than a generic or speculative one in our book "
Yep agree with this although I have sent winks to some profiles.
I do look at profiles where there are some fabulous photos that I enjoy looking at but if I feel a message is unlikely to go anywhere then I don't bother - not for any negative reason usually cos I know I'm not what they're looking for.
Yours is actually a good example of this!
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Again, I'll repeat 'ad nauseam' as I often do on these types of threads... aside from reciprocal messages between forum-dwellers on here - mostly women I'll admit - I've only sent a handful of 'first contact' messages in the last 3 years. All of my socials and trysts have been on the back of women sending the first message.
This year, however, I've sent four introductory messages. They were, let's say, too good to miss.
I've probably looked at hundreds this year, in one way or another. |
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Like Nero the last first contact message I sent was in January 2020 and every conversation since had been initiated by women getting in touch either in relation to something I've said in the forums or because my profile has caught their eye.
I'm not currently meeting for personal reasons but I reply to every message I receive in the same tone as it was sent.
If it's a lazy one or two word message, my response will be similar.
If they are just blowing smoke up my arse I'll ignore it but I've been here too long to play silly games or carry the weight of the conversation.
I rarely look at profiles these days unless it's someone I don't recognise in the forums and I don't use any other part of the site.
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Used to be quite socially interactive on messaging and had some good laughs with fairly articulate people, but as times have evolved, response rates have dropped, so very rarely message now.
Social events or clubs or the forums are easier. |
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"We find we send very few messages, compared to how many profiles we look at. Maybe one in fifty.
Probably as how we play isn't for all, so finding the right people is hard.
Be interested to see how people approach this; send a few selectively or go for the law of averages "
We also have very strict specifics on what we are looking for and not for most people.. That said we don't message meany but find we get so many messages from guys stating that they are exactly what we need.. And boundaries are there to be broken.. And the biggest one.. When they do visit, they think that if they come again we will let them do more next time around, therefore stretching the boundaries... |
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We send a few messages but only to profiles that appeal to us or we are paying a compliment on a profile or pic we’ve enjoyed.
We do view quite a lot as looking for a single guy at present but it’s much harder than finding a lady.
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