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By (user no longer on site) OP 10 weeks ago
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A club is something I would love to try, but yet a couple of things worry me, firstly going by myself and secondly not knowing what to expect or the correct Etiquette.
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Most clubs have the rules etc on their website.
Just go expecting nothing, talk to people normally - don't be the wanking dead.
I've recently been the 1st time alone and yes I was extremely nervous but met some great people and will go back, just go for it.
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It can be difficult for Men in clubs. The chatty one's are more likely to have fun, many go home disappointed. The etiquette that should go without saying is never touch or attempt to join in without permission. Do have a walk around and say hello to people, but don't follow people. Some people will be happy to chat (you never know where it might lead), some not. We've had Men chat to us towards the end of the evening but it was to late, if they'd chatted earlier we could have ended up in a room together. |
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You're in Durham so your nearest will be Club F (my local club) so I'll use that as a baseline. Whatever I say though, it's pretty similar for other clubs in the region (we only have 4 in the whole of the north east) so depends a lot how far you want to travel to get to one.
So as for going solo, plenty of people go on their own. Friday nights are aimed towards single folks (though couples do attend) and Saturdays are aimed towards couples with a few single guys allowed, usually member's in good standing. there are other nights as well all aimed at different things but those two nights are what I usually do. sometimes do Fridays on my own and Saturdays with my wife.
I will stress though, it is impossible to know before hand how many will be there or what the balance will be like. I've been when there was just 18 people and I've been when they where at capacity (160 ish people). It's also impossible to know what the balance will be like as well.
You may also need to contact the club ahead of time to ensure you can get in. Theme / party nights can end up as a guest list only situation so just turning up may be a wasted journey.
You'll be given a club tour by the staff and told the rules on your first visit. The staff will look after you and answer any questions you have. Most of them are friends of mine so I'd be biased in any praise I throw their way but they are that good at what they do.
What to expect. For lack of a better description, it's a very friendly pub. The clubs very social. Pretty much the clothes stay on on the main floor (bar and social areas) till dress down time (about 10.30) when people start to change down to underwear and then start heading off to play areas.
If you want to go to the play areas then you will have to dress down.
Etiquette. Understand you're guaranteed nothing but entry to the club. It's a swingers club, not a brothel. Sadly a few individuals think because they paid a entry fee, they are entitled to something. They're not. It's simply a club to meet like minded folk. Cross a line and you'll be kicked out. Rare it happens but now and again it does and the club deals with it swiftly.
So if you go, just be a polite decent person, be willing to talk to others, join in the conversations happening etc. Treat is as a chance to network and make friends with like minded people and not a guaranteed shag and you'll have a great time.
club rules are pretty simply, no means no, do not touch without consent, be on your best behaviour etc etc.
There's nothing to worry about really and you have to go to see for yourself. You just need to go on the right night for you.
Good luck.
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