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When did choking become the norm?
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By *as1098 OP Man 17 weeks ago
Sevenoaks |
I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me
Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me. |
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By *oxy jWoman 17 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
its not the norm ..nowhere near ...
its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..
ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over |
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"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...
its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..
ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over"
My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.
It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.
As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too |
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By *oxy jWoman 17 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...
its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..
ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over
My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.
It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.
As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too"
not sure why you quoted me ?? |
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"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...
its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..
ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over
My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.
It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.
As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too
not sure why you quoted me ??"
Yes sorry that was a mistake. What I said was not directed at you personally
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Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.
I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....
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"I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me
Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me."
Totally agree with you.
As you say each to their own, but it's a definite no from me too. |
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"Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.
I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....
Mrs x"
I agree and what you are talking about is not consented. If someone did that its actually assault. You would possibly take this to the police, or you could do if you wanted to.
Consent is key. People do choose to play this way responsibly.
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"Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.
I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....
Mrs x
I agree and what you are talking about is not consented. If someone did that its actually assault. You would possibly take this to the police, or you could do if you wanted to.
Consent is key. People do choose to play this way responsibly.
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People like Steven Milligan and Michael Hutchenson? Mrs x |
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“Porn has a lot to answer for, conditioning people in sexual behaviour!”
Yes, it does. It’s not something I’m into, but if all the participants are genuinely into it and consenting, I don’t have a problem with others being into it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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Remember the first girl that asked me to donit her I panicked thinking what if I do it to hard and she reports me or I leave a mark ha ha
But since then more have asked to be than I thought would |
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It's thankfully not the norm, though you'd be forgiven for thinking so - it's something that has grown out of online porn addiction, especially among more immature young men who no longer find "regular" sex stimulating enough. It is never ok to do this to someone who hasn't explicitly agreed to it, and even then it needs care and constant attention to the other person. In other words, it needs trust and time to develop, which tends not to appeal to the "instant gratification" crowd. |
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"I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me
Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me."
Blame porn, and the "acceptable" portrayal of this kind of thing as the "norm"...
It's a no from me for sure ! |
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Choking is really good if boundaries are agreed, this is an area where experience counts, unfortunately some people see it in porn and try and recreate it in real life.
It takes care and attention and also aftercare is so important. |
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I've know a few women who like it, one I didn't do it enough so she tried choking me in that moment lmao, does trying to gag on my dick count? To be honest it's not something that turns me on but what they like I will try give |
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