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The truth for a lot of male profiles
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"I'll be completely honest, in the several months I've been here I've got to of messaged 200 girls, 3 have written back, none followed thou. Now I know the girls here get a lot of messages, I've always tried to very respectful, always accepted a non reply, never hounded them, never rude. Even dropped the dick pics as so many of them hate them (hilarious thou when a lady says no dick pics then has 10 pics of her spam fritter from different angles, like I know what a donor kebab looks like) What's the key to success? Am I that unappealing? Or isit that women jus looking for that ripped bbc? Curious to get people's opinions before I close the account " I'm totally stealing "spam fritter". Got me laughing out loud. | |||
"Just had a look at your profile and I honestly don’t know! Turn-offs for us are people who come across as too cocky or too pushy, or people who haven’t read our profile (or they have, and choose to ignore it and just message anyway - they just get a block!). Your photos look good, bio is clear. If you were up north, you’d be more or less what we were looking for! Genuinely can’t see what’s wrong, unless it’s your opening message to them? E" Thanks for looking, I try to make the effort with the opening message, I'm not one of those "hey your sexy wanna meet" types, usally I will try to make it personal to them compliment them on their looks invite them to a coffee social first etc it's usally about 3 sentences worth | |||
"No one is owed or entitled to anything." I haven't said I'm owed anything I'm just pointing out the 200 to 3 ratio isn't working for me and wondered if I'm doing something wrong | |||
"I'll be completely honest, in the several months I've been here I've got to of messaged 200 girls, 3 have written back, none followed thou. Now I know the girls here get a lot of messages, I've always tried to very respectful, always accepted a non reply, never hounded them, never rude. Even dropped the dick pics as so many of them hate them (hilarious thou when a lady says no dick pics then has 10 pics of her spam fritter from different angles, like I know what a donor kebab looks like) What's the key to success? Am I that unappealing? Or isit that women jus looking for that ripped bbc? Curious to get people's opinions before I close the account I'm totally stealing "spam fritter". Got me laughing out loud." Haha use it wisely | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile and I honestly don’t know! Turn-offs for us are people who come across as too cocky or too pushy, or people who haven’t read our profile (or they have, and choose to ignore it and just message anyway - they just get a block!). Your photos look good, bio is clear. If you were up north, you’d be more or less what we were looking for! Genuinely can’t see what’s wrong, unless it’s your opening message to them? E Thanks for looking, I try to make the effort with the opening message, I'm not one of those "hey your sexy wanna meet" types, usally I will try to make it personal to them compliment them on their looks invite them to a coffee social first etc it's usally about 3 sentences worth " Then I honestly can’t help - that would definitely get a reply from us! E | |||
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"I'll be completely honest, in the several months I've been here I've got to of messaged 200 girls, 3 have written back, none followed thou. Now I know the girls here get a lot of messages, I've always tried to very respectful, always accepted a non reply, never hounded them, never rude. Even dropped the dick pics as so many of them hate them (hilarious thou when a lady says no dick pics then has 10 pics of her spam fritter from different angles, like I know what a donor kebab looks like) What's the key to success? Am I that unappealing? Or isit that women jus looking for that ripped bbc? Curious to get people's opinions before I close the account " Heya! I'm very new, only been here for 3 weeks, and have already had the same thoughts, but... (a few observations) -It's a brutal numbers game. Same as dating apps, women:men ratio is 1:700000000, they literally get swarmed by messages, so you really need to stand out, and/or be lucky and message them at the right time -The verification Catch 22 is really punishing but that's the house rules, so there's little to do about it other than join any events that might be happening near you (unless, like me, you're in Suffolk and there's f.all going on XD ), or be patient and hope someone will meet you at some point -My interactions really improved since I started being active on the forum (lounge/swinging/advice): in a single day two spontaneous conversations have been struck up on the side (sparked from some forum interaction) and there's a meeting in the air already. There ARE some nice people out there, buddy. -I don't know what your openers are like or whom you are sending them to, but I tend to filter a lot before getting in touch: eg, if their profile says something that would "exclude" me, I won't just "try my luck". I only did it once, but made a strong case and sent a hell of a first message (it was like a 1500 words essay :D) and it did go well, but it's a rarity. In general, be genuine, don't try hard. -Get that thick skin on: lots of rude people, lots of entitled people, lots of time-wasters, lots of "fakes", like everywhere in life. Learn not to let those get to you, move on quick and don't waste any more time on them than you already have. To the very few people who actually took their time to turn me down via message, you're absolute stars and I wish everyone had your manners. Not sure this will help, I just felt like sharing. | |||
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"‘Cannot accommodate’ screams ‘have a partner’ to me. If there’s a genuine reason I’d add that to your bio " 100%  | |||
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"Youve messages 200odd girls Do you think this maybe tells you that you are more interested in getting your dick wet than making a connection with any of them" You've literally got desperate in your profile name | |||
"‘Cannot accommodate’ screams ‘have a partner’ to me. If there’s a genuine reason I’d add that to your bio " I do have a genuine reason, I been talking to another member about it in my dms, it's not something I wanna put on my main bio but it's maybe something I can address in any messages I send in the future | |||
"Youve messages 200odd girls Do you think this maybe tells you that you are more interested in getting your dick wet than making a connection with any of them You've literally got desperate in your profile name " *desparate  | |||
"‘Cannot accommodate’ screams ‘have a partner’ to me. If there’s a genuine reason I’d add that to your bio " So we can all come to the same conclusion from your profile then? | |||
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"I'll be completely honest, in the several months I've been here I've got to of messaged 200 girls, 3 have written back, none followed thou. Now I know the girls here get a lot of messages, I've always tried to very respectful, always accepted a non reply, never hounded them, never rude. Even dropped the dick pics as so many of them hate them (hilarious thou when a lady says no dick pics then has 10 pics of her spam fritter from different angles, like I know what a donor kebab looks like) What's the key to success? Am I that unappealing? Or isit that women jus looking for that ripped bbc? Curious to get people's opinions before I close the account " Im not trying to be rude or up myself, but we receive more messages than that in a day. The inbox is just overwhelming and it’s impossible to stay on top of. Don’t take the lack of response to heart, it’s not a you problem it’s a supply and demand problem. | |||
"Clearly your messages must be lacking that certain something. Have you tried fifty near-identical cock-shots, ideally over an uncleaned toilet, with the message "fancy a nosh love"? Sixty percent of the time, it works every time 😎" That is hilarious, made me lol.🥰 | |||
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"Having looked at your profile it seems ok to me, I wouldn't pass it by if you were local to me. A few more pictures maybe. Try something more artistic, monochrome maybe... " I’m a really good painter do you think adding a nice scenic country meadow would do wonders? | |||
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"200 is a lot. In my years on here I doubt I've found that many profiles attractive, even with the male to female ratio being what it is meaning technically I have very many more to choose from. For me, if someone's profile just states what they think they are, like nice, professional, great banter, whatever. These are show not tell things to me. No-one I consider an actually nice person has had to say the words "I am a nice person" to me, the only people who do that are the people who fail to demonstrate the behaviours that make that true. If someone's pictures are all basically the same and don't actually show anything notably attractive to me, it shows a lack of imagination and openness as well. Everyone likes different things. There's no point in making a profile that appeals to the masses if it doesn't show who you actually are, it just wastes more people's time. If you're over 200 attempts already, embrace that you're just looking for any old shag. Focus on the profiles that want similar and get yourself down to clubs on greedy girl nights. You'll get sorted soon enough." | |||
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"You’ve messaged 200 women…so have you really fancied all of them. That seems a lot over a few months. Your pics aren’t selling you - you’ve just took 3 point and shoot pics. All 3 showing the same thing - you in a pair of boxers. If you are going to take an intriguing boxer pic then they should show off the outline of your cock or them showing off your bum. A bit of your profile blurb is that you are a Dom but your pics don’t reflect that. There isn’t much in your profile that sells you - you know you, is this the best of you? Thats what your profile should be doing - ensuring that you’ve sold yourself and appealing to your audience. There are thousands of other guys to choose from. Good luck 😊" Absolutely agree! | |||
Lots will advise you to go to a club and get a few verifications from other in the club & the club itself  | |||
"Just had a look at your profile and I honestly don’t know! Turn-offs for us are people who come across as too cocky or too pushy, or people who haven’t read our profile (or they have, and choose to ignore it and just message anyway - they just get a block!). Your photos look good, bio is clear. If you were up north, you’d be more or less what we were looking for! Genuinely can’t see what’s wrong, unless it’s your opening message to them? E Thanks for looking, I try to make the effort with the opening message, I'm not one of those "hey your sexy wanna meet" types, usally I will try to make it personal to them compliment them on their looks invite them to a coffee social first etc it's usally about 3 sentences worth " If you ask to meet first message op, that would put me off and I assume others too. Maybe chat and establish there is mutual interest before offering to meet for a coffee. | |||
"I’m confused op. Why are you messaging women when your profile says you bisexual??? If you messaged me I’d ignore you as well simply because you’re gay so why message me. I don’t see the point!!!!" Bisexual isn’t the same as homosexual… Mr TMN | |||
"No one is owed or entitled to anything. I haven't said I'm owed anything I'm just pointing out the 200 to 3 ratio isn't working for me and wondered if I'm doing something wrong " I’d say that you’re doing quite well with that ratio. I reckon that mine is somewhere around 200 to 1. It’s not working for me on here either anymore…it was far better around two years ago (and earlier), but I’m now getting to the point where I think I’m about to bin it. | |||
