Had been talking to a T girl for a few weeks. Nearly met up when we first started chatting but it fell through. Had another chance yesterday so made sure it happened. Was really excited. Went to her hotel room, she answered the door and was just not what I had in mind at all. Tbf the pics weren't very clear on the profile, but still, I just couldnt go through with it. I went into the room and said hello, before saying I had left something in my car. I left and then blocked them. I feel pretty bad about it, and a bit of a coward. I'm trying to make myself feel better by remembering this is just a hook up site, and I imagine she got the message. Was I a bit too harsh? |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Agreed that these things can happen but I guess you need to think how it left them feeling. Particularly as they may have their own insecurities/feelings/body hang ups.
I've previously just politely made my reasons to leave, not feeling it today for example.. |
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It sometimes happens that people aren't what they look like, and you can't fake attraction. But surely being honest and saying look I don't think this is what to was expecting is better than disappearing and leaving them wondering. Even if they knew you were making an excuse it's still horrible.
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I think this is why a pre-meet/ drink/ coffee is always a good thing beforehand.
Allows both parties to suss whether their online expectations have been met, and also allows an opportunity to set parameters.
Appreciate this can take away from the exciting immediacy of a hook-up but can make things more pleasant and relaxed come the fun. |
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Yes it was harsh in my opinion and she probably won't feel great about what's happened.
This is why I'd only meet socially first, that way if there's no mutual attraction, you can walk away without all that awkwardness.
I think people forget, hook up site or not, that others are people with feelings. |
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Nothing is guaranteed and consent can be withdrawn at any point.
It's normal to learn from our experience, so - if you can improve anything, then implement that before your next encounter.
It's probably better to be honest about your intent and plans. Issues and changes to plans can happen with any type of person/gender. |
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By *oxy jWoman 10 weeks ago
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"Sorry you treat someone like shit and now you want to be told it’s ok?
When someone does this to you don’t come on here whining about it. "
agree with this ...
the correct way to go would have been to say sorry and that youve changed your mind ...everyone has the rights to change their mind at any point...
if some one turns up to a meet and dont match the pics they sent then im upfront blunt n honest and call the meet off their are far to many on here using photo filters / apps old holiday pics old old pics thinking that they will get away with its nope its a instant deal breaker for me i alaway tell them to send up to date pics if not dont bother |
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why I always have a video call before even meeting ... I want to see what someone looks like visually and if I like them and them me ...
fot me it just cuts out the time wasting
yes it was spineless OP and weak .. do better next time with just saying to someone ., sorry changed my mind ..
I have walked out of meets with couples before as I didn't like the vibe after a few minutes of meeting them in person ... better to just be blunt |
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So OP you went purely on the fact they didn’t match your expectations looking wise? Surely you had chatted previously and got on hence why you arranged to meet but when you did you didn’t even give them a chance to show you their personality?
As the post above says they left because the vibe wasn’t right which is understandable and correct but they still excused themselves and that wasn’t based on how they looked it was the situation and attitude of the people.
How do you think they feel? They might have been the nicest person you have ever met for all you know.
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