I have a long term connection with a woman 20 years older than me, we’ve never met but for the last 5 years we’ve sexted almost every day, sharing our deepest and sometimes darkest fantasies role playing scenarios and sometimes even calling each other to cum together from afar.
We’ve never discussed meeting up and live on two very different time zones.
Is that healthy or should I focus on something that can actually lead to a real life meet? |
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I wouldn't say it's a problem unless it starts to get in the way of real life relationships. You'd have to consider does it stop you finding someone in real life, and if you did would you be prepared to stop everything if your new partner wasn't comfortable with it?
Alternatively if you have this great connection what's stopping you meeting up and seeing if it's more?
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All genuinely really good points and questions I’ve asked myself previously.
I think at this stage it’s been healthy in that it’s allowed me to comfortably explore new corners of myself I hadn’t previously been introduced to or wouldn’t have considered without influence, however that said it has somewhat convoluted my expectations when trying to find a long term partner as they just don’t seem to have the confidence or self understanding of what they want yet.
What stops us is the distance itself, I’m here in the UK and they’re 8 hours behind in the US. It would mean one of us uprooting our lives and with the age difference it means I’d have to give up the idea of having my own family etc |
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In my opinion good sex and connection over electronic media is perfectly vaid, healthy and legitimate.
The first time me and Mrs Misfit chatted online (on here) ended up turning to an 8hr long phone call. Its turned into phone sex. Not something I'd really done before. But it was so real and intense that it felt like we were together even though we were miles apart. It was an eye opener for me.
I think what you share is share together is a great thing and as long as it continues to work for you enjoy it, celebrate it. Don't judge what you have by its format, judge it on how it enhances your life.
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