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By *ooct OP Man 19 weeks ago
redhill |
Hey people! I’m a single guy been in this scene about a year now, but struggle to have any connections or even get a reply! I wanna experience everything, go to clubs, naturist spas, dogging, everything, anyone give me any tips on getting replies haha ? |
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"Just go to a club on your own first. Or attend some organised socials. You can find some on the forums.
A real good night for a first timer is to attend remix at touch sauna in Swindon  "
What he said go yourself go socials be kind curious and just be friendly expect nothing and if yiu come out with verifications it's a start remember no pressure and that Rome isn't built in a day |
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By *ailor75Man 19 weeks ago
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It's hard as a single man , I found once you have a connection with a couple ( does not have to sexual ) it will help , and like the couple I met they took me clubs and parties , ( still good friends with them after 8 yrs ) hope this helps |
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Have you tried just going to clubs, naturist spas, or dogging?
There's a massive oversupply of single males on here. Out at actual things where you're there in person it's a lot easier to make those connections. |
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By *ooct OP Man 19 weeks ago
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"Have you tried just going to clubs, naturist spas, or dogging?
There's a massive oversupply of single males on here. Out at actual things where you're there in person it's a lot easier to make those connections."
No tbh I have never ever gone, I never thought single guys could go to these places, so as much as I love the swinging scene, I never have experienced much due to never getting a reply! 😂 but thanks for the info! Will have to see how I get on! |
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Personally I found engaging in the real world plays far more to my personal strengths than online. As a naturist and a swinger who enjoys the club/party scene I'd simply say the best way to do a thing is to do it. Not saying it's easy in the real world as a single guy but if you're like me it's far easier to shine as a person and communicate in real life interaction.
I went to my first club as a single about 7 years. I'd been contemplating it's for ages. One Saturday I just decided I will go, what's the worse that can happen? So before I could talk myself out of it I booked a hotel room and got on a train. It was a fun and successful night and I never looked back. These day I rarely go alone as its normally Me and My Girl. But occasionally I still do and although the experience is different as a single guy it's still the safe, fun and relaxed place I'd prefer to be attending solo. And if you stick at it you become more at home on the scene and maybe make a few freinds. So just find a club that suits you and go, try it, what's holding you back?
As for naturism I assume that's something you wish to try from a vanilla aspect too? Again that's something I wished I had have experience from a social aspect alone time ago. I hates clothes and I love freedom to just be unadulterated human. I love the social experience because everyone meets for the first time as equal naked vulnerable humans. No clothes to be judged on or your status in society assumed. Just 100% base human like everyone else it's a great leveller and something I find that really aid people to socialise and get alone. My advise again is look out for something and try it. Maybe a stay at a naturist campsite or try Clover Spa or look on the British Naturism site for events.
As for Naturism and Swinging well all know they are different things. But in certain spaces they do collide. For example me and My Girl had a lovely stay at a nude swingers resort in Gran Canaria once. And over the years I found a lot of swingers in naturist spaces. Which isn't really surprising because naturist and swingers tend to a fairly liberated body positive lot. I would say the key to navigating the naturist world as a swinger is exactly the same as navigating the textile world as a swinger. Because naturism is just the same world and rules but without clothing. So any behaviour or activity that would not be OK in a textile space is not OK in a naturist space. So as a naturist who is a swinger don't do anything you wouldn't in the textile world. Simple as that.
Anyway get out there, try these things. Life is too short not to. |
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"Hey people! I’m a single guy been in this scene about a year now, but struggle to have any connections or even get a reply! I wanna experience everything, go to clubs, naturist spas, dogging, everything, anyone give me any tips on getting replies haha ? "
As you’ve been here over a year now, an update to your profile text would be good, as you’re no longer “new to this site” now….. 
I’ve been using Fab for over 11 years now, and have updated/re-worded my profile text many times. It’s good to keep it fresh, as well as post new pics too 
If you think the swinger clubs are full of single ladies, you’re going to be disappointed. I’ve been to 9 clubs in total, and can tell you honestly; the clubs are basically Fab condensed in to one building for the evening. So you’ll likely find the same ratios of 60% couples, 35% single guys, and 5% single ladies, regardless of HOW MANY people are in on the night. Unfortunately though, you find the cliques in the clubs, along with the fact most clubs only ‘allow’ single guys in for the Penis Pound…… 
Be patient with Fab, and keep your profile up to date. Only message those profiles you feel a genuine potential match with, and treat each person individually with your messaging. Never copy and paste a blanket message, you will be seen through!
All the best fella  |
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Having been in this wonderful game for a very long and enjoyable time both as a part of a couple and solo I see the single guy Hong from both sides.
What most solo guys don't seem to realise is that their messages arrive in their dozens by the hour.
The slightest hint and they pester. Several of my contacts on giving a verification were inundated by messages to the extent that they asked me to hide them.
They are often unreliable. The common shout is that they don't get invited. Well, a couple wanted her first M+F gangbang. Duly all invited, one turned up.
Come on guys. Get a well presented profile, good pictures, say clearly what you have to offer and wait. They verifications, a social mery at a club and be patient.
If someone shows interest show
that you are enthusiastic but don't pester and don't let people down. |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"Just go to a club on your own first. Or attend some organised socials. You can find some on the forums.
A real good night for a first timer is to attend remix at touch sauna in Swindon "
Hey do you know any in Cheltenham? I haven’t found anything. Or even Gloucester
Thanks |
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