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By *RST OP   Couple 19 weeks ago

S. Northants

We re-write our profile as a Q&A for our dynamic, but thought we'd share it here too as it seems quite a rare dynamic in the lifestyle. Feel free to add to the Questions and we will answer them when we can...

So what's different about us?

Well it seems our dynamic is still quite rare in the 'lifestyle'. Although, having said that we have found a few couples who also like to play as we do.

Essentially, the wife enjoys watching her Hubby with other women. That's it in basic terms! She was taught to share and enjoy others being happy.

For us, this works as a reversal of a Hot Wife relationship, and similar to cuckold but without the humiliation aspects. She's what we refer to as a 'bi-voyeur'... She enjoys a beautiful woman, but enjoys to watch her with Hubby more these days. We refer to our dynamic as Cuckquean and HotHubby. It's a twist on the more traditional versions.

So how does it work?

We love to build a connection with a beautiful woman and Hubby gets to enjoy plenty of playtime with her. This is usually done separately from the wife to start with and sometimes remains that way. The wife does have her voyeur side though, and sometimes enjoys to watch first hand. When she's not able to do so, photos and videos sent to her work just as well.

Sometimes meets without the wife's prior knowledge turn out the hottest for her. Either way, the wife will always know about them one way or the other.

What are the problems?

This dynamic seems to attract a lot of fantasists, who very quickly turn to ghosts. Others jump to conclusions and assume it's actually a cheating husband behind our account. Get to know us and you will quickly know this is not the case. We have often been on the receiving end of abuse on here for our we like to play. These are two of the most common frustrations we'd like to get passed.

What are we looking for?

Beautiful single ladies, Hot Wives and traditional Cuckold couples are our ideal picks. But we will consider others outside these as long as they respect our dynamic.

We'd like to meet those in the age range of 25-50 (these are not set in stone).

Of you need social drugs to play, then please pass us by

Does the Wife play too?

She has previously, and for the right couple all doors are open. These connections are rare, due to everyone needing to have a connection and attraction, we're only human. This would usually evolve from our preferred dynamic.

This is it in a nut shell, but happy to share more.

Happy Fabbing. X

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By *tlanshiaWoman 19 weeks ago

Chatham

Unfortunately cuckquean is still a small pool.

I write erotica as have been into it for years. Keep trying you'll get there eventually

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 19 weeks ago

Essex

There’s actually quite few women on fab who would love a hot husband to “borrow/play with/enjoy” (pick which term works for you).

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By *RST OP   Couple 19 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Unfortunately cuckquean is still a small pool.

I write erotica as have been into it for years. Keep trying you'll get there eventually "

It's a very small pool unfortunately... More like a puddle.

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By *RST OP   Couple 19 weeks ago

S. Northants


"There’s actually quite few women on fab who would love a hot husband to “borrow/play with/enjoy” (pick which term works for you)."

We've not been lucky enough to find the real ones unfortunately. Of all our meets with single ladies only one has come from Fab! We've met a few couples, but fewer that have progressed.

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By *aughtyTwosomeCouple 19 weeks ago

Kent

We have recently been getting more and more into this ourselves, Mrs absolutely loves watching me with others. Normally while using her Doxy 🥵💦

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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago


"We re-write our profile as a Q&A for our dynamic, but thought we'd share it here too as it seems quite a rare dynamic in the lifestyle. Feel free to add to the Questions and we will answer them when we can...

So what's different about us?

Well it seems our dynamic is still quite rare in the 'lifestyle'. Although, having said that we have found a few couples who also like to play as we do.

Essentially, the wife enjoys watching her Hubby with other women. That's it in basic terms! She was taught to share and enjoy others being happy.

For us, this works as a reversal of a Hot Wife relationship, and similar to cuckold but without the humiliation aspects. She's what we refer to as a 'bi-voyeur'... She enjoys a beautiful woman, but enjoys to watch her with Hubby more these days. We refer to our dynamic as Cuckquean and HotHubby. It's a twist on the more traditional versions.

So how does it work?

We love to build a connection with a beautiful woman and Hubby gets to enjoy plenty of playtime with her. This is usually done separately from the wife to start with and sometimes remains that way. The wife does have her voyeur side though, and sometimes enjoys to watch first hand. When she's not able to do so, photos and videos sent to her work just as well.

Sometimes meets without the wife's prior knowledge turn out the hottest for her. Either way, the wife will always know about them one way or the other.

What are the problems?

This dynamic seems to attract a lot of fantasists, who very quickly turn to ghosts. Others jump to conclusions and assume it's actually a cheating husband behind our account. Get to know us and you will quickly know this is not the case. We have often been on the receiving end of abuse on here for our we like to play. These are two of the most common frustrations we'd like to get passed.

What are we looking for?

Beautiful single ladies, Hot Wives and traditional Cuckold couples are our ideal picks. But we will consider others outside these as long as they respect our dynamic.

We'd like to meet those in the age range of 25-50 (these are not set in stone).

Of you need social drugs to play, then please pass us by

Does the Wife play too?

She has previously, and for the right couple all doors are open. These connections are rare, due to everyone needing to have a connection and attraction, we're only human. This would usually evolve from our preferred dynamic.

This is it in a nut shell, but happy to share more.

Happy Fabbing. X

"

This is us too! Unfortunately as has been mentioned… the puddle doesn’t have any life in it!

Which is a shame because I love sitting at home and reading a book in peace whilst another woman steals hubby for a day/night and sends him home all relaxed and content!

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By *aughtyTwosomeCouple 19 weeks ago

Kent

We're always open to offers for this kind of play 🥵😈

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By *oxy jWoman 19 weeks ago

taunton somerset

hot husband is the same as hot wife were you just enjoy watching your other half having fun whiles watch its not rare as thats how alot of swingers play ful; stop...

cuckquean is the same as cuckolding the cuck is cuck for a reason ie small cock/pre jac/ cant satisfy wife so cuck quean is that in return some with humiliation some not but theres always a reason so to be cuckquean there a reason why the husband fucks other women and enjoys them more than partner other wise its hot husband where you just enjoy watching or hearing about ...these lines do get blurred quite alot ...

the thing i see on here is with cuckquean couples is no reason other than they just enjoy watching or knowing ? so they must be missing some details as is sound like its just hot husband ... so cuckquean couples genuine question if your cuckquean then why does your hubby prefer other women to make it cuckquean and why are you cuckquean as it has to be a lot more than just watching there has to be a reason why otherwise as said in my opinion its just hot husband ..

#just my opinion

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By *RST OP   Couple 18 weeks ago

S. Northants


"hot husband is the same as hot wife were you just enjoy watching your other half having fun whiles watch its not rare as thats how alot of swingers play ful; stop...

cuckquean is the same as cuckolding the cuck is cuck for a reason ie small cock/pre jac/ cant satisfy wife so cuck quean is that in return some with humiliation some not but theres always a reason so to be cuckquean there a reason why the husband fucks other women and enjoys them more than partner other wise its hot husband where you just enjoy watching or hearing about ...these lines do get blurred quite alot ...

the thing i see on here is with cuckquean couples is no reason other than they just enjoy watching or knowing ? so they must be missing some details as is sound like its just hot husband ... so cuckquean couples genuine question if your cuckquean then why does your hubby prefer other women to make it cuckquean and why are you cuckquean as it has to be a lot more than just watching there has to be a reason why otherwise as said in my opinion its just hot husband ..

#just my opinion"

From our understanding it is slightly different. The Hot Wife can go out and play for her pleasure, it's not so much for her man, although he may encourage the behaviour. With the Cuckquean she genuinely gets off on the knowledge of her man with someone else.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple 18 weeks ago

Sheffield


"hot husband is the same as hot wife were you just enjoy watching your other half having fun whiles watch its not rare as thats how alot of swingers play ful; stop...

cuckquean is the same as cuckolding the cuck is cuck for a reason ie small cock/pre jac/ cant satisfy wife so cuck quean is that in return some with humiliation some not but theres always a reason so to be cuckquean there a reason why the husband fucks other women and enjoys them more than partner other wise its hot husband where you just enjoy watching or hearing about ...these lines do get blurred quite alot ...

the thing i see on here is with cuckquean couples is no reason other than they just enjoy watching or knowing ? so they must be missing some details as is sound like its just hot husband ... so cuckquean couples genuine question if your cuckquean then why does your hubby prefer other women to make it cuckquean and why are you cuckquean as it has to be a lot more than just watching there has to be a reason why otherwise as said in my opinion its just hot husband ..

#just my opinion"

There really really does not have to be a reason at all, with us she just like the humiliation and degradation. Same for cuck men, there doesn't have to be a reason other than that. One of the cuck couples I played with as a single man was hung more than most, had no problems with getting it up, he just liked to be talked down too.

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By *oublethefun123Couple 18 weeks ago

Glossop

We have the same, or similar at least, dynamic. But like you say, not so common. The interest generated on our profile is HEAVILY skewed towards interest in Jen. Whereas she would much prefer to send me out on my own, then get gradually more turned on through the evening with ‘progress pics’ ready to pounce to reclaim when I come home.

It’s not the only dynamic we enjoy, but it’s definitely the one that is most difficult to achieve.

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By *RST OP   Couple 18 weeks ago

S. Northants


"We have the same, or similar at least, dynamic. But like you say, not so common. The interest generated on our profile is HEAVILY skewed towards interest in Jen. Whereas she would much prefer to send me out on my own, then get gradually more turned on through the evening with ‘progress pics’ ready to pounce to reclaim when I come home.

It’s not the only dynamic we enjoy, but it’s definitely the one that is most difficult to achieve. "

This is the same as us. She loves to get the photos and videos.

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By *neeyedwillieMan 18 weeks ago

Darlington

This is my wifes and I dynamic (couples account named in profile if anyone wishes to to go look).

For my wife, it's all about other women wanting me and then reclaiming me when I come home...unless she's involved then it's really more a threesome where the lady in question becomes the centre of attention. We enjoy other things as well (as my wifes bi) but that's the main focus.

As others have said, it's a rare dydnamic. Rarely get anywhere on Fab with it. Not a large amount of single ladies in our area for a start and it's not unusual for people to assume the worst (I'm cheating basically).

We moved over to clubs and social events a long time ago and that works for us. But even there as far as I know, we are the only couple with that dynamic at our club and we've had a few discussions over the years where it's met with confusion.

It is certainly one of the hardest to accomplish as well.

If we go on say a singles night, well there's usually a lot of single men and not that many single women.

I have to find someone I fancy, chat them up (in front of my wife), compete with the other guys (and it's always guy heavy on single nights) AND when things start moving in the right direction, deal with the other guys if things stay in a public play space etc etc. In short my wife will get way more attention from men (which isn't her thing)then I will ever get from women.

Women for the most part dont tend to walk around, stare and then ask "can I join" for the most part when you're in the middle of things so to speak.

If however we go on a couples night, well again, focus is on my wife and at our local club, there's not a large amount of single women who attend on the couples night.

If I go on my own, well, I'm just a single guy at the club in effect.

But then my preference's kick in as well. I'm perfectly ok in clubs BUT I'm rather old school. I rather take a woman out on a date. Dinner, drinks, a lot of flirty chat, getting to know each other a little then back to a hotel room for an all night passion session. And I'd rather it something regular than ones offs. We're fine with Poly as well and I have dated other women but nothing that lasted sadly for whatever reason.

But I do ok. I know I'll never get the attention the average hot wife on here on in clubs gets but I do get attention in the right places and am lucky enough to have a group of friends in and out of our local club who know exactly what my wife and I are about and don't care if we are there together or if I'm on my own.

Plus one of the most fun nights I've ever had was being the barman on a "ladies only night" whilst my wife looked on but thats all I'm going to say about that.

Either way, if any couples have a similar dynamic and struggle on fab....clubs and social events are the way to go!

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By *imandher2Couple 18 weeks ago

Liverpool

My Kirsty loves watching or hearing about me with other women

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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago


"We re-write our profile as a Q&A for our dynamic, but thought we'd share it here too as it seems quite a rare dynamic in the lifestyle. Feel free to add to the Questions and we will answer them when we can...

So what's different about us?

Well it seems our dynamic is still quite rare in the 'lifestyle'. Although, having said that we have found a few couples who also like to play as we do.

Essentially, the wife enjoys watching her Hubby with other women. That's it in basic terms! She was taught to share and enjoy others being happy.

For us, this works as a reversal of a Hot Wife relationship, and similar to cuckold but without the humiliation aspects. She's what we refer to as a 'bi-voyeur'... She enjoys a beautiful woman, but enjoys to watch her with Hubby more these days. We refer to our dynamic as Cuckquean and HotHubby. It's a twist on the more traditional versions.

So how does it work?

We love to build a connection with a beautiful woman and Hubby gets to enjoy plenty of playtime with her. This is usually done separately from the wife to start with and sometimes remains that way. The wife does have her voyeur side though, and sometimes enjoys to watch first hand. When she's not able to do so, photos and videos sent to her work just as well.

Sometimes meets without the wife's prior knowledge turn out the hottest for her. Either way, the wife will always know about them one way or the other.

What are the problems?

This dynamic seems to attract a lot of fantasists, who very quickly turn to ghosts. Others jump to conclusions and assume it's actually a cheating husband behind our account. Get to know us and you will quickly know this is not the case. We have often been on the receiving end of abuse on here for our we like to play. These are two of the most common frustrations we'd like to get passed.

What are we looking for?

Beautiful single ladies, Hot Wives and traditional Cuckold couples are our ideal picks. But we will consider others outside these as long as they respect our dynamic.

We'd like to meet those in the age range of 25-50 (these are not set in stone).

Of you need social drugs to play, then please pass us by

Does the Wife play too?

She has previously, and for the right couple all doors are open. These connections are rare, due to everyone needing to have a connection and attraction, we're only human. This would usually evolve from our preferred dynamic.

This is it in a nut shell, but happy to share more.

Happy Fabbing. X

"

Sounds perfect

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By *oxy jWoman 18 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"hot husband is the same as hot wife were you just enjoy watching your other half having fun whiles watch its not rare as thats how alot of swingers play ful; stop...

cuckquean is the same as cuckolding the cuck is cuck for a reason ie small cock/pre jac/ cant satisfy wife so cuck quean is that in return some with humiliation some not but theres always a reason so to be cuckquean there a reason why the husband fucks other women and enjoys them more than partner other wise its hot husband where you just enjoy watching or hearing about ...these lines do get blurred quite alot ...

the thing i see on here is with cuckquean couples is no reason other than they just enjoy watching or knowing ? so they must be missing some details as is sound like its just hot husband ... so cuckquean couples genuine question if your cuckquean then why does your hubby prefer other women to make it cuckquean and why are you cuckquean as it has to be a lot more than just watching there has to be a reason why otherwise as said in my opinion its just hot husband ..

#just my opinion

From our understanding it is slightly different. The Hot Wife can go out and play for her pleasure, it's not so much for her man, although he may encourage the behaviour. With the Cuckquean she genuinely gets off on the knowledge of her man with someone else. "

thanks

if you look at hotwife its generally a husband being proud of his wife he tell everyone shes hot and bu this he gets joy knowing others want her and indeed get her ...thats my understanding of hot wife thats how i see it so hence how i put it down it text ....

#justmyopinion

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By *oxy jWoman 18 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"hot husband is the same as hot wife were you just enjoy watching your other half having fun whiles watch its not rare as thats how alot of swingers play ful; stop...

cuckquean is the same as cuckolding the cuck is cuck for a reason ie small cock/pre jac/ cant satisfy wife so cuck quean is that in return some with humiliation some not but theres always a reason so to be cuckquean there a reason why the husband fucks other women and enjoys them more than partner other wise its hot husband where you just enjoy watching or hearing about ...these lines do get blurred quite alot ...

the thing i see on here is with cuckquean couples is no reason other than they just enjoy watching or knowing ? so they must be missing some details as is sound like its just hot husband ... so cuckquean couples genuine question if your cuckquean then why does your hubby prefer other women to make it cuckquean and why are you cuckquean as it has to be a lot more than just watching there has to be a reason why otherwise as said in my opinion its just hot husband ..

#just my opinion

There really really does not have to be a reason at all, with us she just like the humiliation and degradation. Same for cuck men, there doesn't have to be a reason other than that. One of the cuck couples I played with as a single man was hung more than most, had no problems with getting it up, he just liked to be talked down too. "

and thats fine but thats fantasy / roleplay so hes fitting into a role thats not real ie roleplay ...

#justmyopinion

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By *oxy jWoman 18 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"This is my wifes and I dynamic (couples account named in profile if anyone wishes to to go look).

For my wife, it's all about other women wanting me and then reclaiming me when I come home...unless she's involved then it's really more a threesome where the lady in question becomes the centre of attention. We enjoy other things as well (as my wifes bi) but that's the main focus.

As others have said, it's a rare dydnamic. Rarely get anywhere on Fab with it. Not a large amount of single ladies in our area for a start and it's not unusual for people to assume the worst (I'm cheating basically).

We moved over to clubs and social events a long time ago and that works for us. But even there as far as I know, we are the only couple with that dynamic at our club and we've had a few discussions over the years where it's met with confusion.

It is certainly one of the hardest to accomplish as well.

If we go on say a singles night, well there's usually a lot of single men and not that many single women.

I have to find someone I fancy, chat them up (in front of my wife), compete with the other guys (and it's always guy heavy on single nights) AND when things start moving in the right direction, deal with the other guys if things stay in a public play space etc etc. In short my wife will get way more attention from men (which isn't her thing)then I will ever get from women.

Women for the most part dont tend to walk around, stare and then ask "can I join" for the most part when you're in the middle of things so to speak.

If however we go on a couples night, well again, focus is on my wife and at our local club, there's not a large amount of single women who attend on the couples night.

If I go on my own, well, I'm just a single guy at the club in effect.

But then my preference's kick in as well. I'm perfectly ok in clubs BUT I'm rather old school. I rather take a woman out on a date. Dinner, drinks, a lot of flirty chat, getting to know each other a little then back to a hotel room for an all night passion session. And I'd rather it something regular than ones offs. We're fine with Poly as well and I have dated other women but nothing that lasted sadly for whatever reason.

But I do ok. I know I'll never get the attention the average hot wife on here on in clubs gets but I do get attention in the right places and am lucky enough to have a group of friends in and out of our local club who know exactly what my wife and I are about and don't care if we are there together or if I'm on my own.

Plus one of the most fun nights I've ever had was being the barman on a "ladies only night" whilst my wife looked on but thats all I'm going to say about that.

Either way, if any couples have a similar dynamic and struggle on fab....clubs and social events are the way to go!

"

thanks

ok so thats hot husband as i struggle to see how your wife is a cuckquean unless theres a reason ie you fucking other women is better ... im not trying to pick a fight im just trying to understand why its cuckquean when its clearly hot husband (to me) unless its some kind of roleplay / fantasy ...

nice to see debate rather than the usual rubbish .... i dont claim to be right or wrong i just have a view my view

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By *oxy jWoman 18 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i must add i know a few lifestle cuckquean couples from our scene they are very different the men cuck the wives because quite simply the sex is better elsewhere those wives get of on the humiliation side of knowing there husbands go with others to get what they cant give them all within a nice strong loving relationship thats how i see cuckquean ... just so people can see where im coming from ...

take away the reason then it just becomes hot husband as the wife is still pleasing hubby and allowing him other women thats hot husband..

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By *neeyedwillieMan 18 weeks ago

Darlington


"This is my wifes and I dynamic (couples account named in profile if anyone wishes to to go look).

For my wife, it's all about other women wanting me and then reclaiming me when I come home...unless she's involved then it's really more a threesome where the lady in question becomes the centre of attention. We enjoy other things as well (as my wifes bi) but that's the main focus.

As others have said, it's a rare dydnamic. Rarely get anywhere on Fab with it. Not a large amount of single ladies in our area for a start and it's not unusual for people to assume the worst (I'm cheating basically).

We moved over to clubs and social events a long time ago and that works for us. But even there as far as I know, we are the only couple with that dynamic at our club and we've had a few discussions over the years where it's met with confusion.

It is certainly one of the hardest to accomplish as well.

If we go on say a singles night, well there's usually a lot of single men and not that many single women.

I have to find someone I fancy, chat them up (in front of my wife), compete with the other guys (and it's always guy heavy on single nights) AND when things start moving in the right direction, deal with the other guys if things stay in a public play space etc etc. In short my wife will get way more attention from men (which isn't her thing)then I will ever get from women.

Women for the most part dont tend to walk around, stare and then ask "can I join" for the most part when you're in the middle of things so to speak.

If however we go on a couples night, well again, focus is on my wife and at our local club, there's not a large amount of single women who attend on the couples night.

If I go on my own, well, I'm just a single guy at the club in effect.

But then my preference's kick in as well. I'm perfectly ok in clubs BUT I'm rather old school. I rather take a woman out on a date. Dinner, drinks, a lot of flirty chat, getting to know each other a little then back to a hotel room for an all night passion session. And I'd rather it something regular than ones offs. We're fine with Poly as well and I have dated other women but nothing that lasted sadly for whatever reason.

But I do ok. I know I'll never get the attention the average hot wife on here on in clubs gets but I do get attention in the right places and am lucky enough to have a group of friends in and out of our local club who know exactly what my wife and I are about and don't care if we are there together or if I'm on my own.

Plus one of the most fun nights I've ever had was being the barman on a "ladies only night" whilst my wife looked on but thats all I'm going to say about that.

Either way, if any couples have a similar dynamic and struggle on fab....clubs and social events are the way to go!

thanks

ok so thats hot husband as i struggle to see how your wife is a cuckquean unless theres a reason ie you fucking other women is better ... im not trying to pick a fight im just trying to understand why its cuckquean when its clearly hot husband (to me) unless its some kind of roleplay / fantasy ...

nice to see debate rather than the usual rubbish .... i dont claim to be right or wrong i just have a view my view

"

A cuckquean is the wife of an adulterous husband, and the gender-opposite of a cuckold.

Now im not adulterous, my wife knows and encourages it. I simply do what I want, when I want and fool about with whoever I want. I don't need permission nor do I have to tell her i just choose to tell her on occasions.

With my last girlfreind for example I'd spend days with her then return home. Told my wife i was off out with X and id be back 3 days later. All was good. Some find that odd but it worked for all of us....for a while anyway. No drama or anything between my wife and I. Just outside factors.

Furthermore, my wife does not have nor want that same autonomy. I have full control over her in that regard.

If I wanted her to join myself and whomever she will. If it tell her to stay home, then she will. If i tell her to sit and watch, she will. No argument.

Some would say that's a control thing. It's not it's exactly how she likes it and how she wants it to be (And everyone we know, knows it).

As far as she's concerned, it's my pleasure and happiness before all else. I come.home to her and that is all she cares about.

She knows I love her and it would all stop in a heartbeat if it hurt her in anyway but she's not wired that way and loves it. Been enjoying it for 28 years now so ...works for us and we're both happy.

If you want to lable it as hot husbanding then ok. We are who we are. I'd say it's.a bit of both but at the end of the day it's not the naming that matters and I'm a very lucky and very happy man.

Do need to get myself back out there and find a lady I click properly with though. Been a few months because the break up with my ex knocked me back a bit and made me re evaluate a few things. Plus it was weird to have my wife consoling me through a break up.

...but such is life and mines a strange one.

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By *neeyedwillieMan 18 weeks ago

Darlington

Oh and I forgot to mention, I like to Dom and enjoy a bit of BDSM with a consenting partner now and again. Not always but i loke a more submissive woman. That is something my wife isn't into (at least the bdsm stuff)...so that's something I don't get from.my wife since you talk about what I am or am not getting at home.

But again....it is what it is. There's no one name fits all for me.

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By *oxy jWoman 18 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"This is my wifes and I dynamic (couples account named in profile if anyone wishes to to go look).

For my wife, it's all about other women wanting me and then reclaiming me when I come home...unless she's involved then it's really more a threesome where the lady in question becomes the centre of attention. We enjoy other things as well (as my wifes bi) but that's the main focus.

As others have said, it's a rare dydnamic. Rarely get anywhere on Fab with it. Not a large amount of single ladies in our area for a start and it's not unusual for people to assume the worst (I'm cheating basically).

We moved over to clubs and social events a long time ago and that works for us. But even there as far as I know, we are the only couple with that dynamic at our club and we've had a few discussions over the years where it's met with confusion.

It is certainly one of the hardest to accomplish as well.

If we go on say a singles night, well there's usually a lot of single men and not that many single women.

I have to find someone I fancy, chat them up (in front of my wife), compete with the other guys (and it's always guy heavy on single nights) AND when things start moving in the right direction, deal with the other guys if things stay in a public play space etc etc. In short my wife will get way more attention from men (which isn't her thing)then I will ever get from women.

Women for the most part dont tend to walk around, stare and then ask "can I join" for the most part when you're in the middle of things so to speak.

If however we go on a couples night, well again, focus is on my wife and at our local club, there's not a large amount of single women who attend on the couples night.

If I go on my own, well, I'm just a single guy at the club in effect.

But then my preference's kick in as well. I'm perfectly ok in clubs BUT I'm rather old school. I rather take a woman out on a date. Dinner, drinks, a lot of flirty chat, getting to know each other a little then back to a hotel room for an all night passion session. And I'd rather it something regular than ones offs. We're fine with Poly as well and I have dated other women but nothing that lasted sadly for whatever reason.

But I do ok. I know I'll never get the attention the average hot wife on here on in clubs gets but I do get attention in the right places and am lucky enough to have a group of friends in and out of our local club who know exactly what my wife and I are about and don't care if we are there together or if I'm on my own.

Plus one of the most fun nights I've ever had was being the barman on a "ladies only night" whilst my wife looked on but thats all I'm going to say about that.

Either way, if any couples have a similar dynamic and struggle on fab....clubs and social events are the way to go!

thanks

ok so thats hot husband as i struggle to see how your wife is a cuckquean unless theres a reason ie you fucking other women is better ... im not trying to pick a fight im just trying to understand why its cuckquean when its clearly hot husband (to me) unless its some kind of roleplay / fantasy ...

nice to see debate rather than the usual rubbish .... i dont claim to be right or wrong i just have a view my view

A cuckquean is the wife of an adulterous husband, and the gender-opposite of a cuckold.

Now im not adulterous, my wife knows and encourages it. I simply do what I want, when I want and fool about with whoever I want. I don't need permission nor do I have to tell her i just choose to tell her on occasions.

With my last girlfreind for example I'd spend days with her then return home. Told my wife i was off out with X and id be back 3 days later. All was good. Some find that odd but it worked for all of us....for a while anyway. No drama or anything between my wife and I. Just outside factors.

Furthermore, my wife does not have nor want that same autonomy. I have full control over her in that regard.

If I wanted her to join myself and whomever she will. If it tell her to stay home, then she will. If i tell her to sit and watch, she will. No argument.

Some would say that's a control thing. It's not it's exactly how she likes it and how she wants it to be (And everyone we know, knows it).

As far as she's concerned, it's my pleasure and happiness before all else. I come.home to her and that is all she cares about.

She knows I love her and it would all stop in a heartbeat if it hurt her in anyway but she's not wired that way and loves it. Been enjoying it for 28 years now so ...works for us and we're both happy.

If you want to lable it as hot husbanding then ok. We are who we are. I'd say it's.a bit of both but at the end of the day it's not the naming that matters and I'm a very lucky and very happy man.

Do need to get myself back out there and find a lady I click properly with though. Been a few months because the break up with my ex knocked me back a bit and made me re evaluate a few things. Plus it was weird to have my wife consoling me through a break up.

...but such is life and mines a strange one.

"

and thats ok be you and do what makes you both happy ... but id maybe drop the label altogether then as you said your not one or the other ... i know some people dont like or do labels and i totally get that but alot do and when it comes to sex / kinks / lifestyles then labels count ...

lots of normal swinging couples allow each other to play with others thats just normal swinging if its one then its hot wife/hubs ... i know im to anal lol i dont need others to tell me that just like i wont shut down and nor should anyone for that matter we all have opinions and thats great ...

heres your mash potato .... but i asked for chips ... yeah sorry i dont do labels .... (joke of sorts)

nice to chat/debate tho than just put someone down opinions count happy shaggin

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By *neeyedwillieMan 18 weeks ago

Darlington


"This is my wifes and I dynamic (couples account named in profile if anyone wishes to to go look).

For my wife, it's all about other women wanting me and then reclaiming me when I come home...unless she's involved then it's really more a threesome where the lady in question becomes the centre of attention. We enjoy other things as well (as my wifes bi) but that's the main focus.

As others have said, it's a rare dydnamic. Rarely get anywhere on Fab with it. Not a large amount of single ladies in our area for a start and it's not unusual for people to assume the worst (I'm cheating basically).

We moved over to clubs and social events a long time ago and that works for us. But even there as far as I know, we are the only couple with that dynamic at our club and we've had a few discussions over the years where it's met with confusion.

It is certainly one of the hardest to accomplish as well.

If we go on say a singles night, well there's usually a lot of single men and not that many single women.

I have to find someone I fancy, chat them up (in front of my wife), compete with the other guys (and it's always guy heavy on single nights) AND when things start moving in the right direction, deal with the other guys if things stay in a public play space etc etc. In short my wife will get way more attention from men (which isn't her thing)then I will ever get from women.

Women for the most part dont tend to walk around, stare and then ask "can I join" for the most part when you're in the middle of things so to speak.

If however we go on a couples night, well again, focus is on my wife and at our local club, there's not a large amount of single women who attend on the couples night.

If I go on my own, well, I'm just a single guy at the club in effect.

But then my preference's kick in as well. I'm perfectly ok in clubs BUT I'm rather old school. I rather take a woman out on a date. Dinner, drinks, a lot of flirty chat, getting to know each other a little then back to a hotel room for an all night passion session. And I'd rather it something regular than ones offs. We're fine with Poly as well and I have dated other women but nothing that lasted sadly for whatever reason.

But I do ok. I know I'll never get the attention the average hot wife on here on in clubs gets but I do get attention in the right places and am lucky enough to have a group of friends in and out of our local club who know exactly what my wife and I are about and don't care if we are there together or if I'm on my own.

Plus one of the most fun nights I've ever had was being the barman on a "ladies only night" whilst my wife looked on but thats all I'm going to say about that.

Either way, if any couples have a similar dynamic and struggle on fab....clubs and social events are the way to go!

thanks

ok so thats hot husband as i struggle to see how your wife is a cuckquean unless theres a reason ie you fucking other women is better ... im not trying to pick a fight im just trying to understand why its cuckquean when its clearly hot husband (to me) unless its some kind of roleplay / fantasy ...

nice to see debate rather than the usual rubbish .... i dont claim to be right or wrong i just have a view my view

A cuckquean is the wife of an adulterous husband, and the gender-opposite of a cuckold.

Now im not adulterous, my wife knows and encourages it. I simply do what I want, when I want and fool about with whoever I want. I don't need permission nor do I have to tell her i just choose to tell her on occasions.

With my last girlfreind for example I'd spend days with her then return home. Told my wife i was off out with X and id be back 3 days later. All was good. Some find that odd but it worked for all of us....for a while anyway. No drama or anything between my wife and I. Just outside factors.

Furthermore, my wife does not have nor want that same autonomy. I have full control over her in that regard.

If I wanted her to join myself and whomever she will. If it tell her to stay home, then she will. If i tell her to sit and watch, she will. No argument.

Some would say that's a control thing. It's not it's exactly how she likes it and how she wants it to be (And everyone we know, knows it).

As far as she's concerned, it's my pleasure and happiness before all else. I come.home to her and that is all she cares about.

She knows I love her and it would all stop in a heartbeat if it hurt her in anyway but she's not wired that way and loves it. Been enjoying it for 28 years now so ...works for us and we're both happy.

If you want to lable it as hot husbanding then ok. We are who we are. I'd say it's.a bit of both but at the end of the day it's not the naming that matters and I'm a very lucky and very happy man.

Do need to get myself back out there and find a lady I click properly with though. Been a few months because the break up with my ex knocked me back a bit and made me re evaluate a few things. Plus it was weird to have my wife consoling me through a break up.

...but such is life and mines a strange one.

and thats ok be you and do what makes you both happy ... but id maybe drop the label altogether then as you said your not one or the other ... i know some people dont like or do labels and i totally get that but alot do and when it comes to sex / kinks / lifestyles then labels count ...

lots of normal swinging couples allow each other to play with others thats just normal swinging if its one then its hot wife/hubs ... i know im to anal lol i dont need others to tell me that just like i wont shut down and nor should anyone for that matter we all have opinions and thats great ...

heres your mash potato .... but i asked for chips ... yeah sorry i dont do labels .... (joke of sorts)

nice to chat/debate tho than just put someone down opinions count happy shaggin "

Nah, I'll be leaving it as is. It's close enough and there's already enough word salads about.

If its not for someone else or they don't agree....c'est la vie! (No offence).

The label only really matters on here and I get no interest from.women on here anyway so why worry? When I'm.doing my.thing at the club or a social event, different ball game. It's all about getting her attention and once I have that, not really an issue (or hasn't been yet).

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants

Can we move on from the naming debate now please?

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By *istressSubCuckMan 17 weeks ago

Winchester

Cuck queaning is seriously hot. U wish OP every success in finding suitable playmates

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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago


"There’s actually quite few women on fab who would love a hot husband to “borrow/play with/enjoy” (pick which term works for you)."

Feel free to "borrow" my husband any time you wish. I'm definitely a cuck queen xx

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Cuck queaning is seriously hot. U wish OP every success in finding suitable playmates"

Thank you!

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By *hillenCouple 17 weeks ago

Borehamwood

We both find watching each other having sex incredibly erotic. One thing we've yet to do is to have a cuckquean scenario where both the wife/gf and I watch get to watch our partners play together.

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By *zlakMan 17 weeks ago

Lowestoft

Would love to be a hot husband or hot BF for a woman, especially if she let me play bi.

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Would love to be a hot husband or hot BF for a woman, especially if she let me play bi. "

My wife let's me enjoy my bi side. But that's almost separate from the cuckquean fun as she doesn't get a lot from it.

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By *et and WillingCouple 17 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Im really into watching Mr W&W with other women. Ive been tied up before and only allowed to watch till he and the lady release me an let me join in. Love it

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Im really into watching Mr W&W with other women. Ive been tied up before and only allowed to watch till he and the lady release me an let me join in. Love it "

That's topnof the to do list. Tie her to a chair and make her watch. She'd be sliding all over the seat. X

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By *et and WillingCouple 17 weeks ago

Nuneaton


"Im really into watching Mr W&W with other women. Ive been tied up before and only allowed to watch till he and the lady release me an let me join in. Love it

That's topnof the to do list. Tie her to a chair and make her watch. She'd be sliding all over the seat. X"

Haha. Do it l, i get so horny watching its such a turn on gets me wet through

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants

Just found this definition. Doesn't mention anything about humiliation, although this is a common theme for some couples (not us).

"According to the Oxford English Dictionary (OED), the word cuckquean is a noun that is now obsolete and was last recorded around the 1920s. The earliest known use of the word is in the mid-1500s, in the writing of John Heywood, playwright and epigrammatist.

The word cuckquean is a combination of the words cuck and quean. It means the wife of an unfaithful husband or partner for unmarried companions. The gender-opposite of a cuckquean is a cuckold, which is a man whose wife or partner is sexually unfaithful."

We argue that this is very much not obsolete.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 17 weeks ago

Essex

Definitely not obsolete.

I think the definition (like most) gets moulded to fit the individual. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s down to the individuals involved to discuss their ground rules & desires.

Like anything else on fab - it is abused far too often, so genuine folk like you find your struggles. I turned looking for couples off my profile for ages due to this. 99% of the time - there was no woman within miles of the alleged “couples” profile.

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Definitely not obsolete.

I think the definition (like most) gets moulded to fit the individual. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s down to the individuals involved to discuss their ground rules & desires.

Like anything else on fab - it is abused far too often, so genuine folk like you find your struggles. I turned looking for couples off my profile for ages due to this. 99% of the time - there was no woman within miles of the alleged “couples” profile. "

We get accused of this so much. We've left fab a few times because of it.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 17 weeks ago

Essex


"Definitely not obsolete.

I think the definition (like most) gets moulded to fit the individual. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s down to the individuals involved to discuss their ground rules & desires.

Like anything else on fab - it is abused far too often, so genuine folk like you find your struggles. I turned looking for couples off my profile for ages due to this. 99% of the time - there was no woman within miles of the alleged “couples” profile.

We get accused of this so much. We've left fab a few times because of it. "

It’s so unfair. As single women we get a little paranoid possibly. Although not fair on genuine couples like yourselves. As much as I hate video calls they are helpful on occasion.

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By *RST OP   Couple 17 weeks ago

S. Northants


"Definitely not obsolete.

I think the definition (like most) gets moulded to fit the individual. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s down to the individuals involved to discuss their ground rules & desires.

Like anything else on fab - it is abused far too often, so genuine folk like you find your struggles. I turned looking for couples off my profile for ages due to this. 99% of the time - there was no woman within miles of the alleged “couples” profile.

We get accused of this so much. We've left fab a few times because of it.

It’s so unfair. As single women we get a little paranoid possibly. Although not fair on genuine couples like yourselves. As much as I hate video calls they are helpful on occasion.

"

Unfortunately we don't even get that far to prove ourselves (not that we should have to) before getting abuse.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 17 weeks ago

Essex


"Definitely not obsolete.

I think the definition (like most) gets moulded to fit the individual. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s down to the individuals involved to discuss their ground rules & desires.

Like anything else on fab - it is abused far too often, so genuine folk like you find your struggles. I turned looking for couples off my profile for ages due to this. 99% of the time - there was no woman within miles of the alleged “couples” profile.

We get accused of this so much. We've left fab a few times because of it.

It’s so unfair. As single women we get a little paranoid possibly. Although not fair on genuine couples like yourselves. As much as I hate video calls they are helpful on occasion.

Unfortunately we don't even get that far to prove ourselves (not that we should have to) before getting abuse. "

I’m so sorry to hear that

There is just no reason to give people abuse. A simple no thanks will suffice .

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By *andT2023Couple 17 weeks ago

in the middle

I dont think its as unusual as it is seems. It matches our dynamic . There have been quite a few recent forum posts on it too.

I have a solo profile too and get quite a few messages (apparently from females but who knows ) asking if i would be up for fun with a hot husband.

This doesnt really entice me ..if i want that i would prefer to find my own playmate and i wouldnt respond positively to it. I wouldnt mail out to pimp my other half either ..he is free to choose for himself. I know its hard for blokes on here ..i take that onboard but i dont think me mailing helps .

Its always going to be harder for the hothusbands due to volume on here.

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By *amescoupleCouple 17 weeks ago

north walsham

Its kind of our dynamic though we have had very few chances to explore it in any way other than foursomes over the last few years.

M would also deny being anything like a 'hot hubby'.

Its a shame that it is so rare to get the chance to fulfill the fantasy.

We did manage it once in a way about 10 years ago but that was more of a ffm than the cuckcake/queen type of situation. It was still hot as hell watching M witb the other woman though.

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By *exy_mixed_coupleCouple 16 weeks ago

Hinckley

We’ve been very much getting into this recently and had one experience which was incredible. Looking to try this some more but as others have said it’s difficult to find a lady into it.

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