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I'd say the examples you've given sit more within Exhibitionism which can be like a "sub genre" of Swing if you like.
Swing in itself though, is atleast 1 party of the couple having sexual encounters with someone outside of the partnership. There's lots of variations such as Stag & Vixen, cuckolds/cuckqueens and their Hotwives/Hothusbands, classic swing including soft swap/full swap/seperate play etc. |
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"Does it matter? No one is judging who is classed as what, it’s not exactly a badge to earn or entry your CV you need to prove, just be what you want to be and enjoy the journey. "
Love this answer.
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"Does it matter? No one is judging who is classed as what, it’s not exactly a badge to earn or entry your CV you need to prove, just be what you want to be and enjoy the journey. "
Oh I think that we ought to have an official certificate from University Of Fab. You need to study Swinging Theory for a full year and pass the written exam, before being allowed to proceed to Swinging Practice 24 month course. Final certification involves both an oral test and a hands on demonstration of skills... |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here"
Tell them to do one, if none swingers shouldn't be here then every single thsy doesn't participate in group sex/sex with couples should not be here either.
People are here for lots of reasons, you do you and ignore anyone else.
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"Does it matter? No one is judging who is classed as what, it’s not exactly a badge to earn or entry your CV you need to prove, just be what you want to be and enjoy the journey. "
*removes it from CV. 
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here"
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here  |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here "
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x"
Sorry, my error.
From your verifications you do meet and fully partake in the sexual side of meets.
I'm confused. |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x"
Lots of single people are on fab to find hook ups and FWBs. I wouldn't necessarily assume they are all swingers as in would want a non monogamous relationship if they were in one, as that's different to looking for casual sex as a single person. Fab would be empty if it was only made up of couples who swing. |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x"
I don't class myself as a swinger either, also don't advertise who and when if I meet anyone as it nothing to do with anyone else. That doesn't mean I can't be here. There's loads of people here who don't class themselves as swingers. |
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x
I don't class myself as a swinger either, also don't advertise who and when if I meet anyone as it nothing to do with anyone else. That doesn't mean I can't be here. There's loads of people here who don't class themselves as swingers. "
Yes, I do understand but it's surprising what people consider swinging.
For me, it's recreational sex.
I always find difficult to understand how if swinging friends become longer term friends how on earth you introduce them to vanilla friends.
I'd be a jibbering wreck at each meet, especially if booze was involved, should anyone spill the beans.
It was a piece of advice given to us when we started "for Christ sake never, ever, tell your real friends".
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here
Anyone can be here for any reason.
For me, as long as your profile/ messages are open and honest about what you’re here for- crack on.
I’m not a swinger. Don’t class myself as one as per my definition. Can still be here
With the greatest of respect, can I ask why you are on a swingers site when you have no intention of swinging.
I'm just fascinated why someone would join any group when they have no intention of meeting.
If its just to chat, why not one of the millions of groups out there that may take your fancy or do you chat on multiple sites and platforms.
I've absolutely no problem if you are just here to chat and get lots of single men sending you messages but it does bother me when the chatters cross over into those who meet and / or play and make arrangements that never come to fruition, it's a waste of everyone's time.
Please don't think I'm saying you are a timewaster.
Whatever you are seeking, I wish you the best of luck.
Liz x
Lots of single people are on fab to find hook ups and FWBs. I wouldn't necessarily assume they are all swingers as in would want a non monogamous relationship if they were in one, as that's different to looking for casual sex as a single person. Fab would be empty if it was only made up of couples who swing. "
I wonder how many people would be on here if you excluded the time wasters.
I personally don't think the number of members on a site has any bearing.
FAB is brilliant for information on club meets, holidays, parties, see who's near but find other sites with far less members better for 121 meets, but that's just from our experience, I'm sure others see it different.
I'm delighted that folks take different things from swinging but the timewasters really piss us off.
We lead busy working and social lives and don't really have the time to sort through timewasters, dreamers, delusional and just plain nutters.
But, as always, each to their own.
Have fun.
Liz. X |
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There's no activities that you need to perform to get a badge as a swinger, regardless of the insistence of others that their preferred fun is the only real one!
If you are experiencing things that involve another or others, playing out a fantasy, in a club, at home, a hotel, in your car.
We are all swingers.
The only ones that get it all wrong are the people that think that cheating and deceiving is swinging I think |
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"I'd say the examples you've given sit more within Exhibitionism which can be like a "sub genre" of Swing if you like.
Swing in itself though, is atleast 1 party of the couple having sexual encounters with someone outside of the partnership. There's lots of variations such as Stag & Vixen, cuckolds/cuckqueens and their Hotwives/Hothusbands, classic swing including soft swap/full swap/seperate play etc. "
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"The reason for the post was had a message from a couple asking why we are here as we arent swingers so shouldnt be on here"
It's none of their business! Plenty of people are here that "aren't swingers". It's not for anyone else to decide if you're swingers, if you aren't and the same for anyone else.
As I stated above, there absolutely can be "labels", you don't have to follow them, lots of people don't, infact tbh, I've seen more people just pick a label they like to vaguely explain their dynamic on their profile than actually follow what that label entails in its full form be arsed people change, evolve and push boundaries. It's a fluid lifestyle choice I think.
Stay and continue enjoying yourself. Tell them politely to fuck off! |
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