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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I block people who are rude, don't meet my requirements or I don't meet theirs. Mostly to local people around me though, it frees up my updates page so I don't have to look at things I don't need to. |
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Slightly off topic but in the same vein.
Does this strike you as a fake profile. Arranged a meet, they didn't want to chat on the phone before even though I suggested it but all seemed normal. Went to message on the day of, to say looking forward to meeting. I was blocked. Doesn't this seems suspicious? |
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"Slightly off topic but in the same vein.
Does this strike you as a fake profile. Arranged a meet, they didn't want to chat on the phone before even though I suggested it but all seemed normal. Went to message on the day of, to say looking forward to meeting. I was blocked. Doesn't this seems suspicious?"
It means they changed their mind but didn't want to say |
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"Slightly off topic but in the same vein.
Does this strike you as a fake profile. Arranged a meet, they didn't want to chat on the phone before even though I suggested it but all seemed normal. Went to message on the day of, to say looking forward to meeting. I was blocked. Doesn't this seems suspicious?
It means they changed their mind but didn't want to say"
Fair comment. I wish people were transparent, but we're all very different I guess. |
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By *oxy jWoman 24 weeks ago
somerset |
the block button it the tool that make your fab journey easier ... i block for many reasons mainly because im not interested in that person/persons ..
im on fab to find guys to meet and just guys as i meet women and couples via different ways... so its easy for me just to block guys ive zero interest in along with those who bully , abuse , sexist racist and on and on ... i block those who pm me because of forum post ... i block those who are a zillion miles away or ask for phone / cam sex ...
pre block those who my many swinging friends have found undesirable ...word of mouth amongst swinging friends helps add to the block list
its the button that means i rarely ever get let down messed about and rare to get abuse ...
my block list must run into the 1000s for sure
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I block local people I now we don't want to meet who continually post graphic pictures and videos so they don't flood our feed with gaping fanny shots...it enhances my experience no end...so I see it as a positive  |
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"Slightly off topic but in the same vein.
Does this strike you as a fake profile. Arranged a meet, they didn't want to chat on the phone before even though I suggested it but all seemed normal. Went to message on the day of, to say looking forward to meeting. I was blocked. Doesn't this seems suspicious?"
I personally would never speak on the phone and I blocked too many during on going conversations, mainly because they did or said something triggering that put me off. I doesn’t make me fake, I just won’t put myself in position to be possibly abused in message or my time wasted on someone I wouldn’t want to meet. I am perfectly aware it works both ways and I’ve been also blocked mid conversation. Not a big deal. |
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"I block men that cant understand that straight doesnt mean open to possibly engaged with other men or transexuals! Straight means only will play with the opposite sex!"
Oh !!! So men are the same a transexuals.....PMSL, give me strength....this country, even in the supposedly open swinging world, is so far behind...... |
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By *4bimMan 24 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
I block if I know them outside of this.
I block if they have deleted a message without reply as this means no.
I also block anyone who has an eye as their profile pic. It's creepy and an indicator of behaviour |
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Its not rocket science to understand that a straight male is looking for a female. If I said other men or transexuals it doesnt mean all transexuals as theres trans men and trans women however its self explanatory to understand that I refer to trans woman as a straight person would not engage with a trans woman! If you get offended about that, thats your problem not everyone elses. Theres a reason we all have preferences and free will to have fun with whomever we want. |
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Our block list isn't that big, and most come from the forums where our values just don't align, that or someone has made a stupid racist/misogynist/ignorant comment and we know from that they just aren't our type to hang out with. Oh and those who just message us with graphic details of what they want, no thanks. |
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We block when people are rude after being told that they are not for us. We always do it politely and wish them luck but some of them get rude in replies which just secures that we made the right choice not meeting them |
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We block for a variety of reasons including:
- Clearly not read our profile
- Stated desires don't align
- Using derogatory language or being overly pushy in first message
- Comments on forum posts which show that our values do not align
- Repeated friend requests sent without any messages etc
To name but a few 😂
C x |
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"Most seem, in our opinion, to see blocking as a negative action.. Thoughts?
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I have a single account, not couples. And when men ( usually fat and unattractive to us )start pushing to fuck my darling wife, that's when the block happens. Each to their own |
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I block :
Pests
People who are too nosy or pushy when we've never spoken.
People with pics or status updates I don't like.
Those who I've seen be unsavoury on the forums more than once.
Anyone who sends dick pics or a graphic lengthy message about what they'd do if we met. Ewww.
I agree many tend to get so offended, but it's a good tool, to make your life on fab easier and lead you to people you're more likely to want to chat to. |
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Repeated messengers when we have said no thanks
Anything grim (and sadly we get a fair few)
Friends requests without messages- we ask not to, so if they do its likely just a wanking pic collector. So they can jog on. |
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Outside of our preferences, age, height etc.
We have well in excess of 20,000 in our block list and it grows on a daily basis.
We find it just saves all of the wasted time replying to random messages etc. |
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I block women who aren't interested, only because I can't be expected to memorize thousands of women who arent interested 😆 saves me wasting their and my time when I forget they aren't interested and mail them again. I |
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I don't know how many people I have on my block list, I have only a few on my friends list as i keep that maintained if we haven't actually maintained à connection for a while. I'd guess my block list was much bigger |
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Loads of reasons;
Too local.
Don't like profile pic.
Repeated messagers.
Anyone who sends a friends request without chatting.
Unsolicited cock sender's.
Just don't like them.
Random status updates I don't wanna see in my feed.
Said/done something in the forum I didn't like.
Gyne dripping close up pics 🤮.
Anyone I think is fake.
I think that's about it.
Mrs
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"I just block people at random for no reason. I’ve even blocked a couple of people from this thread for no reason "
I’ve actually just blocked someone who was on my hotlist for posting a status asking for “hung daddies” I am neither so goodbye 👋🏻 |
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"I just block people at random for no reason. I’ve even blocked a couple of people from this thread for no reason
That’s the spirit.
You are safe for now 
Save the best for last they say."
I can only decide that once we have met |
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If someone is rude or messes me about, tells me they’ve been showing my profile to non site members or they’re persistent in messaging.
A small handful of profiles I’ve blocked because they show in my local updates and their content really isn’t to my taste at all. |
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We only block people who don’t take no and keep going.
Sometimes when we go to look at a profile and they’ve blocked us, I wonder why but don’t dwell on it - it’s already shown we aren’t going to be compatible so all is good.
We should just block people who are a complete no - maybe we’ll start doing that. We wonder if we’ll stop getting people still messaging but there’s hundreds of new profiles every day so I think we won’t complete FAB by blocking people 😛
K |
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By *rispyDuckMan 24 weeks ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
Few reasons I block people:
1) Been on here more than 6months & not even a photo verification 🚨
2) They didn’t read my profile b4 messaging , yet on their profile they say ‘read our profile b4 messaging) 🤪
3) Manipulative folks who use phrases like i need a ‘Real man/woman’  . Just cause someone ain’t simping for you does make them a ‘real man or woman’ lol
4) Grumpy/ Entitled/ Bratty/ Angry profiles 😂
I’m here for a fun, social goodtime 🥳 let’s laugh and get merry 🎉. No time for drama 😉 |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I block for the me reason only. I’d never meet that person and so there’s no reason for them to either come up in my searches in the future nor I in theirs.
As to the how I come to that conclusion however, there could be many many reasons but it’s always ends up as “I would never want to meet you” |
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People (it's only been men to date) who message repeatedly despite me not messaging back or after I've told them I'm not interested. I wouldn't block after one or two messages unless the person was abusive, to date nobody has been with me though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Ones that write any of the following messages get blocked:
Hey
U horny?
What are you doing right now?
Want to fuck, I'm free
Those that we're not interested in or have repeatedly told them no but keep trying.
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"I block anyone who's messaged who clearly hadn't read our profile.
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This! I know my bio pretty empty but previously I had it listed with everything and I’d block!
I hate and I mean HATE people who repeat message if you haven’t been online to reply? I won’t reply I’ll block |
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Of the 40 something on my block list, more than half are there so I don't see their inane daily updates.
The rest are a mixture of people I've nothing in common with and quite a few belligerent forum posters. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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It gives people a sense of worth and a feeling that they somehow have the moral high ground in a sex swinging site!!!! Useless pointless and no one really cares if you get blocked!!!! |
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Time wasters is basically all we block. You do get the odd pest now and again that needs blocked.
The abusive messages are my favourites lol always wondered what would make you send a shitty message to someone you don't know or have not even spoken too. |
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People who send a friend request without even messaging first
People who straight away give us mobile numbers or other contact details
People who are rude
Truckers just passing by
People who chat but the chat only involves scenarios with just the wife when we are a couple
People just do not like look of, and other reasons
We have a huge block list  |
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"Thank you all!!! We feel far less callous now 😁
Hand's up if your block list outnumbers your friend and hotlist multiple times over 🙋🤣"
🙋♂️🙋♂️🙋♂️
I figured out how to use the block list on day 1.
The hotlist I only realised existed a month ago or so 😅 |
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Last week I was chatting with someone who asked for a face pic, and then blocked me as soon as they'd seen it.
It was a bit of a kick in the balls, but at the same time I get it - if it's a hard pass, why risk getting a load of abuse as a result? (I mean, I definitely wouldn't have go abusive or arsey, but they don't know that. Risk management innit.) |
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Same as most others have said....
Rude/crude/distasteful/demanding first messages
Unsolicited cock pics
"Couples" but is actually a single guy
People on the forums who are nasty/abusive
Long time user but no pics or veris or obviously fake ones
There's more but can't think right now
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By *eyeY OP Couple 24 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"People who send a friend request without even messaging first
People who straight away give us mobile numbers or other contact details
People who are rude
Truckers just passing by
People who chat but the chat only involves scenarios with just the wife when we are a couple
People just do not like look of, and other reasons
We have a huge block list "
Sounds familiar... We love messages where D's presence is evidently superfluous by their profile, but chance it 🤣 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 24 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Last week I was chatting with someone who asked for a face pic, and then blocked me as soon as they'd seen it.
It was a bit of a kick in the balls, but at the same time I get it - if it's a hard pass, why risk getting a load of abuse as a result? (I mean, I definitely wouldn't have go abusive or arsey, but they don't know that. Risk management innit.)"
Suppose, but unpolite.. 🤷 |
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By *for77Man 24 weeks ago
Adlington |
I’m generally a positive person so I generally block profiles who have taking the time to reply as not interested so I don’t bother them for a second time. Other reasons include the usual. People who just don’t read profiles. I don’t send message to people who are not looking for some of my age but I get messages of single males even that I expressly state that I do not want to meet single males!! |
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I always block couples and single women that do not meet smokers. I also block people that won't meet someone my age. I also block profiles that come and go on a weekly basis, but they are too stupid to put something different in their profile from the last 20 times they have joined and left. |
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I block those that I'm not going to meet. For example, on my couples account with my wife, the odd profile that messages at 2am with "r u up, fancy a meet now" types or someone who's completely the opposite of what I (or we) is (or are) looking for.
Block is needed and is a good last resort for when filters fail.
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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We block people that do not bother to read our profile, people who are rude, people who are vulgar, people who send friend requests without any other communication. Blocking is good because it means you can filter out the ones you are not interested in. |
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By *RWoodyCouple 24 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
I used the block feature for the first time last night after some uncomfortable messages. I asked him politely to stop messaging us which he continually chose to ignore so felt it was the only option.
If I'm honest I didn't like how it made me feel (not the blocking, but the messages) but I guess that it's sometimes what happens? I'll be happy if that's the last time I'm sure of that 
J x |
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By *orny PTMan 24 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"Loads of reasons;
Too local.
Don't like profile pic.
Repeated messagers.
Anyone who sends a friends request without chatting.
Unsolicited cock sender's.
Just don't like them.
Random status updates I don't wanna see in my feed.
Said/done something in the forum I didn't like.
Gyne dripping close up pics 🤮.
Anyone I think is fake.
I think that's about it.
Mrs
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How many miles is too local and how many is too far for you? |
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By *host63Man 24 weeks ago
Bedfont Feltham |
I block anyone who deletes me.
Same as goes who look at.my profile even though they must see my age a d yet I am over their limit.
We are all entitled to preference but why easte each others time? |
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By *ednTed24Man 24 weeks ago
Ashton-under-Lyne |
I'm a single guy - so inevitably I send a lot of messages to singles and couples. I use blocking in a positive way. If my message is deleted or there is no response after being read and left for say a few days..then I make the assumption, that for whatever reason, those people aren't interested in me. I therefore block them. This means if they do come up in my searches, thier profiles will be hidden to me and any mistakes or unwanted attention is avoided. Everybody wins.
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By *iseekingbiCouple 24 weeks ago
N ireland and West Midlands |
Just wasters and losers, substance abusers
Bullies and soul thieves, religious control freaks
Mumblin' yes men who'd sleep with your best friend
liars, COVID deniers
Daily Mail readers,EDL supporters, Reform voters,
Chin-less wonders with no moral compass who can't even remember your name
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By *ornLordMan 24 weeks ago
Wiltshire and London |
"I block local people I now we don't want to meet who continually post graphic pictures and videos so they don't flood our feed with gaping fanny shots...it enhances my experience no end...so I see it as a positive "
I've begun to block anybody whose profile shows gaping shots of anything. Definitely a positive move! |
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"I block local people I now we don't want to meet who continually post graphic pictures and videos so they don't flood our feed with gaping fanny shots...it enhances my experience no end...so I see it as a positive
I've begun to block anybody whose profile shows gaping shots of anything. Definitely a positive move!"
Can't argue with any of that.  |
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when you kindly reply no thanks we are not interested, then they ask you why you are not interested and you reply you are not our type I'm sorry, then they ask you in what sense I am not your type? then the block is triggered |
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I only block people who are persistent despite no replies or interest. I dont block people.just for messaging nice comments. Graphic pics or rude or inappropriate questions. And profiles that appear to be fake.
We haven't blocked that many. We are too tolerant I think. |
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Blocking is a positive thing. It also helps to add a note to their profile so we can remember why they were blocked.
For fab reasons
Unsolicited dick pics - it's a crime, don't do it
Not reading our profile
Unsolicited friends requests
Multiple messages
Then for general reasons
Racists, homophobes, transphobes, misogynists, misanthropes, conspiracy peddlars, pro-disease vaccine weirdos - basically Daily Mail readers as was mentioned above
Life is too short to have to deal with these people twice. |
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I block people who are abusive, can’t take no for answer, pay zero attention to my profile blurb or what I write to them, take drugs, engage in illegal or dangerous behaviour.
Apparently they often just close that profile and create a new one, usually with no pics and a description that says “will fill in later”. And then message me all over again.
Whack-a-mole. |
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I block for everything. There must be thousands on there over the years.
Anyone I’m not interested in. Anyone posting things I disagree with. Anyone I find rude…. Literally everything.
I don’t see it as a bad thing. I’m just not interested in you for whatever reason so block. |
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Guy looked at our profile. His profile picture was him grinning as he either pretended to kick a Ferrari or rest his foot on it.
We could be wrong but 99.9% sure it wasn’t his car so we blocked him for disrespect if it was someone else’s car or for showing off on the remote chance it was his.
Sometimes pictures give you an insight into personality and you block because you don’t want contacted by them. |
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We only block very ugly people.
Well only people uglier than us.
Shit, we never blocked anyone.
Never had anyone be rude or unpleasant to us, wonder why? loads seem to complain about rudeness.
Go on, dare you.
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We block if someone is persistent after an initial polite no,we always reply to everyone even though our profile says not looking for singles, but sometimes people will still try to persuade you . Then we block |
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I block hundreds and hundreds of people that don’t match what I’m looking for, or that I’ve said no thanks to. Saves wasting anyone’s time, and refines searches.
There is no longer anyone ever in my ‘Who’s Near’ that is outside my age preferences, or type I’m looking for… and it stops me from coming up in theirs x |
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By *he SmithsCouple 22 weeks ago
East Devon & London |
Anyone who has been on Fab a while will know there are an awful lot of time wasters on here.
To avoid them wasting both their time and ours we are very clear in our profile who and what we are looking for and how we will respond to a message.
We are nice people who do like to play but have no hesitation in acting on what we’ve said. We delete one liners & dick shots without reply and block those that send unsolicited friend requests or are persistent in thinking they are an exception to the rule.
Our admin is therefore usually quick and often ruthless. We have busy normal lives and unfortunately don’t have time or energy to pander to those that can’t read or can’t be bothered to.
We’re sure other long term members know exactly how we feel!
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By *eyeY OP Couple 22 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Anyone who has been on Fab a while will know there are an awful lot of time wasters on here.
To avoid them wasting both their time and ours we are very clear in our profile who and what we are looking for and how we will respond to a message.
We are nice people who do like to play but have no hesitation in acting on what we’ve said. We delete one liners & dick shots without reply and block those that send unsolicited friend requests or are persistent in thinking they are an exception to the rule.
Our admin is therefore usually quick and often ruthless. We have busy normal lives and unfortunately don’t have time or energy to pander to those that can’t read or can’t be bothered to.
We’re sure other long term members know exactly how we feel!
X"
Sounds familiar! 😉 |
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