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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive?  "
Yes. But I think it applies to some women and couples also, not just guys. |
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i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves  |
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves "
So what your saying is that men who shag 'ugly' or 'easy'women have no self respect???  |
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves "
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect? |
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
So what your saying is that men who shag 'ugly' or 'easy'women have no self respect??? "
shows no respect and what morals they have etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
So what your saying is that men who shag 'ugly' or 'easy'women have no self respect???
shows no respect and what morals they have etc etc"
Ah right, but us it the men who have no self respect, or the women or couples they meet?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?"
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol"
How?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
So what your saying is that men who shag 'ugly' or 'easy'women have no self respect???
shows no respect and what morals they have etc etc
Ah right, but us it the men who have no self respect, or the women or couples they meet??"
the question was about men wasnt it..so i gave my _iew on some men..not all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive?
Yes. But I think it applies to some women and couples also, not just guys."
i wanna blow raspberries on ur bumcheeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves "
the same thing applies to women also though, anyway it is only sex you know.
something to do when theres nowt on the telly.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How??"
thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with |
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol"
Oh I totally get what you are implying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
the same thing applies to women also though, anyway it is only sex you know.
something to do when theres nowt on the telly. "
i have no doubt that it does, but i dont meet women and the question was about men |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How?? thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with "
Nope, like I said do you mean men who shag I attractive and 'easy' women lack respect?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How?? thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with
Nope, like I said do you mean men who shag I attractive and 'easy' women lack respect?? "
u lost me now..thread was about men...i gave my _iew which made sense! again i did state not all men! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive?
Yes. But I think it applies to some women and couples also, not just guys.
i wanna blow raspberries on ur bumcheeks "
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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In swinging, some have come into this world with little or none, sadly that may have come at the hands of a partner/s stripping it away from them..
this will help some, others it just deepens it.
even the 'nice' people allow it to happen when it is directed at them, a nice person would whisper and say 'you are now looking foolish'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How?? thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with
Nope, like I said do you mean men who shag I attractive and 'easy' women lack respect??
u lost me now..thread was about men...i gave my _iew which made sense! again i did state not all men! "
I know, and I am being pedantic , but if some men meet a certain 'type' of person I don't see how that shows a lack of self respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wish i can end it now!
Only joking mate, it was a valid point "
However had he explained what he meant in his post, maybe it would have turned out differently so he got what he asked for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!"
or their being polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!"
they probably have more fun than a lot of others though. |
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!
they probably have more fun than a lot of others though. "
They probably do lol but I would feel like I was just another 'hole' to them  |
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!
they probably have more fun than a lot of others though.
They probably do lol but I would feel like I was just another 'hole' to them "
You're more than just another hole.... you're forgetting about your mouth and arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!
they probably have more fun than a lot of others though.
They probably do lol but I would feel like I was just another 'hole' to them
You're more than just another hole.... you're forgetting about your mouth and arse."
a collection of holes then |
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"I won't even entertain talking to men who have 'looks, size, age unimportant' or their age preference is still set to 99yrs! To me that means they'll shag anyone they can, so I would say they are obviously that desperate that their self respect goes out the window!"
totally agree..that was my point |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How?? thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with
Nope, like I said do you mean men who shag I attractive and 'easy' women lack respect??
u lost me now..thread was about men...i gave my _iew which made sense! again i did state not all men!
I know, and I am being pedantic , but if some men meet a certain 'type' of person I don't see how that shows a lack of self respect. "
i never mentioned a type..but i know many guys on here who shag anything and everything...and just how they messege.chat etc shows they no self respect. cause u wouldnt know this as u dont have guys messege u or meet them lol all i have to say as what i have makes complete sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah, the amount of guys that send a first message asking u for a meet with out seeing a face pic/reading reading profile, without getting to know u at all far outweighs the guys with more standards. These type of guys are just desperate and probably more suited top hiring an escort as no attraction is required |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah, the amount of guys that send a first message asking u for a meet with out seeing a face pic/reading reading profile, without getting to know u at all far outweighs the guys with more standards. These type of guys are just desperate and probably more suited top hiring an escort as no attraction is required"
I'd agree but I would also be interested in how many single women or couples would meet guys without seeing a face pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive? "
watching people on cam the last few days we have noticed some* men will do anything to get a meet and its a complete turn off.
if you cant respect yourself how the hell can you meet others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, the amount of guys that send a first message asking u for a meet with out seeing a face pic/reading reading profile, without getting to know u at all far outweighs the guys with more standards. These type of guys are just desperate and probably more suited top hiring an escort as no attraction is required
I'd agree but I would also be interested in how many single women or couples would meet guys without seeing a face pic."
i wouldnt meet anyone without a face pic or camming to verifiy them 1st
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"i find guys less fussy than women are... as in they meet anyone if means gets a shag!
but have noticed for many guys its because of whos available at the time and quick n easy option..many dont have self respect or standards in my oppinion.
not all guys though...some are choosey and have respect for themselves
Wow... since when did minimal preferences mean lack of self respect?
u dont get what i mean at all...and i didnt say every guy..but can tell definately when a guy dont from profile and meets lol
How?? thought that was obvious from what i said to begin with
Nope, like I said do you mean men who shag I attractive and 'easy' women lack respect??
u lost me now..thread was about men...i gave my _iew which made sense! again i did state not all men!
I know, and I am being pedantic , but if some men meet a certain 'type' of person I don't see how that shows a lack of self respect.
i never mentioned a type..but i know many guys on here who shag anything and everything...and just how they messege.chat etc shows they no self respect. cause u wouldnt know this as u dont have guys messege u or meet them lol all i have to say as what i have makes complete sense "
I'd even be worried about leaving my dog in the company of men like that lol |
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Wouldnt meet without seeing face first. Hear stories of both men and women sending pic 10 years out of date, definately wouldnthave that. Was arranging a meet with a guy that insistedhe didn't have a cam so asked him to take and send me a pic with a cheese grater on his head so I could be sure (which he did) |
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"Wouldn't meet without seeing face first. Hear stories of both men and women sending pic 10 years out of date, definately wouldn't have that. Was arranging a meet with a guy that insisted he didn't have a cam so asked him to take and send me a pic with a cheese grater on his head so I could be sure (which he did) "
From my experience it 'swings both ways' with both sexes but lets be honest most people use common sense!
Nobody should meet anyone without some sort of verification; pictures (hopefully recent!), cam, phone and or general chat, hopefully all these things but as with all things - each to their own!
There are plenty of chancers, fakes and just general idiots - best to cover your bets plus keep yourself safe and discreet.
I've never used the 'cheese grater factor' but it's got me thinking!!
I hope its not a pain pleasure thing - eeew best not to think about that one too much!!
Enjoy |
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive? "
Not a nice look on guys but then neithers desperation!
Instant turn off for me!  |
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There are certain group situations where I don’t give a fuck about who has their head between my legs… sometimes I look, sometimes I don’t. I feel free in these situations…. free to enjoy the pure physical pleasure of sex without any of the usual hang-ups. Free to experience techniques and talents I would normally miss out on because of judging the aesthetics of a person too much.
Does this mean I have no self-respect?
Does it make me desperate because I do something I enjoy?
If you understand what self-respect is… you’ll find that freedom from being evaluative of yourself and not being concerned with what others think is a pretty big part of having self-respect.
I admire people who can look beyond the brainwashing of what we should and shouldn’t find attractive. I envy those who genuinely place no importance on the age, size, shape and looks of a person and can just see the sexual being. This is not desperation… this is liberation.
Self-respect is about liking ourselves - we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do…. and does not rely on anyone else’s approval. When we conform for fear of what others may think, we are not respecting ourselves.
After reading some of the comments people have written in this thread and many others like it, I wonder who is really showing their lack of self-respect?
With regards to the OP's question.... I believe more women on here demonstrate lack of self-respect than men do... and openly post about it in their rants, self-deprecating comments, status updates, tales of regret... and so on.
Lucky for them some guys don't see a lack of self-respect as a turn-off. |
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"There are certain group situations where I don’t give a fuck about who has their head between my legs… sometimes I look, sometimes I don’t. I feel free in these situations…. free to enjoy the pure physical pleasure of sex without any of the usual hang-ups. Free to experience techniques and talents I would normally miss out on because of judging the aesthetics of a person too much.
Does this mean I have no self-respect?
Does it make me desperate because I do something I enjoy?
If you understand what self-respect is… you’ll find that freedom from being evaluative of yourself and not being concerned with what others think is a pretty big part of having self-respect.
I admire people who can look beyond the brainwashing of what we should and shouldn’t find attractive. I envy those who genuinely place no importance on the age, size, shape and looks of a person and can just see the sexual being. This is not desperation… this is liberation.
Self-respect is about liking ourselves - we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do…. and does not rely on anyone else’s approval. When we conform for fear of what others may think, we are not respecting ourselves.
After reading some of the comments people have written in this thread and many others like it, I wonder who is really showing their lack of self-respect?
With regards to the OP's question.... I believe more women on here demonstrate lack of self-respect than men do... and openly post about it in their rants, self-deprecating comments, status updates, tales of regret... and so on.
Lucky for them some guys don't see a lack of self-respect as a turn-off."
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"There are certain group situations where I don’t give a fuck about who has their head between my legs… sometimes I look, sometimes I don’t. I feel free in these situations…. free to enjoy the pure physical pleasure of sex without any of the usual hang-ups. Free to experience techniques and talents I would normally miss out on because of judging the aesthetics of a person too much.
Does this mean I have no self-respect?
Does it make me desperate because I do something I enjoy?"
BOOM!
"If you understand what self-respect is… you’ll find that freedom from being evaluative of yourself and not being concerned with what others think is a pretty big part of having self-respect.
After reading some of the comments people have written in this thread and many others like it, I wonder who is really showing their lack of self-respect?"
And again!
"With regards to the OP's question.... I believe more women on here demonstrate lack of self-respect than men do... and openly post about it in their rants, self-deprecating comments, status updates, tales of regret... and so on.
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Contender for post of the year so far? I think so. Many would do well to pay attention to this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lol...age, size, looks...are always going to matter, not all of them matter, but there's always one...there's always gotta be something for that initial connection to be made... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldnt meet someone with seeing a facepic first" does not mean that looks is the only factor on deciding on a meet. Turned down hot model looking types because of the type of attitude that comes across in his message/profile. Attraction is something personal, no one can tell you who makes your panties wet/dic twitch and who doesnt.
I enjoy liberating casual sex, at the same time as self respecting, an 'ethical slut'. My gripe is that alot of guys (I get messages from) dont seem to understand this and speak asif we're just a free fuck to satisfy their needs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There appears to be an undertone of judgemental intollerence here?
Is it being implied that some men lose their self respect simply because they meet with women (or man etc) that some people consider to be unworthy?
Are the unworthy ones old, fat, uneducated, disabled or what?
So what sort of person is so abhorent that anyone meeting them loses their self respect?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quite a few guys on here dont have self respect.. Do women find this un-attractive?
I have a lot of self-abuse as well as self-respect. I like me. "
. Hahaha well said!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol...age, size, looks...are always going to matter, not all of them matter, but there's always one...there's always gotta be something for that initial connection to be made... "
. Couldn't off said it better myself lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Meaning of phrase "self Respect":
"dignity: the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect; "it was beneath his dignity to cheat"; "showed his true self" etc
In true meaning of the phrase in the masculine it looks like us men are fuxked which ever way we turn lol
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"There are certain group situations where I don’t give a fuck about who has their head between my legs… sometimes I look, sometimes I don’t. I feel free in these situations…. free to enjoy the pure physical pleasure of sex without any of the usual hang-ups. Free to experience techniques and talents I would normally miss out on because of judging the aesthetics of a person too much.
Does this mean I have no self-respect?
Does it make me desperate because I do something I enjoy?
If you understand what self-respect is… you’ll find that freedom from being evaluative of yourself and not being concerned with what others think is a pretty big part of having self-respect.
I admire people who can look beyond the brainwashing of what we should and shouldn’t find attractive. I envy those who genuinely place no importance on the age, size, shape and looks of a person and can just see the sexual being. This is not desperation… this is liberation.
Self-respect is about liking ourselves - we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do…. and does not rely on anyone else’s approval. When we conform for fear of what others may think, we are not respecting ourselves.
After reading some of the comments people have written in this thread and many others like it, I wonder who is really showing their lack of self-respect?
With regards to the OP's question.... I believe more women on here demonstrate lack of self-respect than men do... and openly post about it in their rants, self-deprecating comments, status updates, tales of regret... and so on.
Lucky for them some guys don't see a lack of self-respect as a turn-off."
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