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A new way for couples to contact single women???
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Ok, before you start biting my head off, please read my post, then you can have a go  . I am in no way, shape or form putting all couples in the same basket, nor am I making a generalisation. This is based on 1 single instance....so far!
I received a mail from a woman, no problem so far as women are the only ones that can contact me...An intro of 'I've decided to try a woman to myself...' was definitely not a good start  but then...she goes on to say “i would like to do this infront of my hubby but he cant touch”.. 
So I am now wondering whether this is a new way for couples to contact single women i.e. get the F to create a single's profile that will give them access to messaging women like me that have blocked them? If so, it shows resources and imagination but won't get you anywhere with me - I am nobody's entertainment!!
Any other ladies have had a similar thing happen to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a couple contact me and they had never swung before. I was happy to meet for a drink but chatted on the phone first to the hubbie , I could hear her in the background saying "can we get her for my birthday?" to which has made me think women on here can be just as emotionless as men about sex on here. |
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"Have seen this a lot, some couples have single profiles each to circumvent various blocks or restrictions.
Good on you for sticking to your guns  "
I am extremely stubborn...its all that Italian and French blood in me  |
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"Have seen this a lot, some couples have single profiles each to circumvent various blocks or restrictions.
Good on you for sticking to your guns
I am extremely stubborn...its all that Italian and French blood in me "
Exotic mix
But yeah, it is a known "tactic" employed by some couples. It is the same on other sites too.
Admittedly, some couples play alone and have individual profiles to facilitate such. However some use it just like you described. |
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"I had a couple contact me and they had never swung before. I was happy to meet for a drink but chatted on the phone first to the hubbie , I could hear her in the background saying "can we get her for my birthday?" to which has made me think women on here can be just as emotionless as men about sex on here."
The cheak of some people!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have seen this before on single f profiles where they say they are looking for other females but the last line will say they have a partner etc...
Don't understand it very misleading just create a couples profile.
MissD |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Or the one's I get are the female of the couple, asking if I would fuck her man....looks at profile, wording tends to sound as if written by the male half and the only verifications on show are where the male has met other females, all a bit suspicious |
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"I've had it a few times.. I'm not a performer and now make it very clear I like to play equally with both, not be there to just put on a girl on girl show for husband with an inexperienced wife! "
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There are times when i am glad i am a man, and this is one of those times.
I think most of the dishonesty and attempts at manipulating people on Fab are by men (yes i have to concede that one) and couples; directed towards single ladies.
I am glad therefore that i am male, and not desirable to manipulate for anyones amusement ! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I have had similar messages, purporting to be written by the female but the choice of words and style of langauge made me think that it was the male part writing.
And as somebody else pointed out... people are getting ever more innovative in pursuing their goals to get what they want...;-) |
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Jayne has a "single" fems profile, but she doesnt do this.
For one, her profile clearly links her to our Cpls profile...
and two, Our cpls profile clearly states we play as a cpl.
We love to play with single bi-fems, but prefer that they know that if Jayne contacts them, there is a "BOGOF" deal going lol! We don't contact ladies who state they are only looking for single fems.
no matter what you do, some unscrupilous people will do something to try to circumvent the filters you put in place unfortunately.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had one recently from a bi female half of a couple
When I pointed out that they couldn't have read me profile she responded 'no one reads that crap' lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any "sensible" couple wouldn't waste their time contacting people who clearly aren't looking to meet couples - same as single men - why do they bother wasting their time asking to meet with female half of a couples when profiles clearly state not looking for single guys - a waste of time and effort - just find profiles who want to meet with what you have to offer, much better chance of getting a real meet that way  x |
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I have met a number of create couples in clubs, which is why I did not want to generalise...I have not been on Fabs for very long so still a bit 'naive' in what goes on 'on or behind the scene' but I learn something everyday.  . Thank you to all for sharing and responding! |
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I have this profile, a single which I use mainly for the forums and for keeping in touch with friends, mainly female now. This states that I do not play alone with couples and asking them not to send winks, messages or friends invites as I am not playing as a single woman. I still get all three, I now state that I will block. Hate sounding ranty.
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"I have this profile, a single which I use mainly for the forums and for keeping in touch with friends, mainly female now. This states that I do not play alone with couples and asking them not to send winks, messages or friends invites as I am not playing as a single woman. I still get all three, I now state that I will block. Hate sounding ranty.
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Its ok to rant at 4pm on a Sunday...Monday's just a few hours away after all |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Yes had it a few times now, even though my very brief profile states I'm only looking for ladies (I do have a guy in my life but he works abroad)
There have also been a few couples who chat away saying the lady plays alone, until we come to arranging a coffee, and then all of a sudden - shes shy and hubby needs to come along too!
Although there have also been some lovely ladies who are great to chat to, and lots of fun - but too damn far away (you know exactly who you are ) |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
In a crisp poke on the A814 |
"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?  "
Just dont mention your OH...
Too many so called "single" women wanting their male halves involved.... |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong? "
no, that wouldn't be wrong at all, as long as you are upfront and only meet as a single fem from it - not expect your partner to be involved. or maybe just make it clear on your couple profile that you do play solo with the right lady? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jayne has a "single" fems profile, but she doesnt do this.
For one, her profile clearly links her to our Cpls profile...
and two, Our cpls profile clearly states we play as a cpl.
We love to play with single bi-fems, but prefer that they know that if Jayne contacts them, there is a "BOGOF" deal going lol! We don't contact ladies who state they are only looking for single fems.
no matter what you do, some unscrupilous people will do something to try to circumvent the filters you put in place unfortunately.
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why bother with a single female prof is she is NOT willing to meet as a single female ? |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
no, that wouldn't be wrong at all, as long as you are upfront and only meet as a single fem from it - not expect your partner to be involved. or maybe just make it clear on your couple profile that you do play solo with the right lady?"
You took the words out of my mouth! |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
no, that wouldn't be wrong at all, as long as you are upfront and only meet as a single fem from it - not expect your partner to be involved. or maybe just make it clear on your couple profile that you do play solo with the right lady?"
think I will just put that on our profile thanks guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say nine out of ten times a woman gets in touch for girls only fun it turns out to be 'with partner watching' and I'd say 8 of those are actually the man getting in touch. Not just on this site either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong? "
Tried that - made no difference ie. pretty much all bullshitters that get in touch. |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
Tried that - made no difference ie. pretty much all bullshitters that get in touch."
I am sorry but is it just me or is a couple useing a single girls prof to meet single girls but only if the guy can be there , just as bad as a couples prof were the female half will not be there for the meet as she's ' working' |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
Tried that - made no difference ie. pretty much all bullshitters that get in touch.
I am sorry but is it just me or is a couple useing a single girls prof to meet single girls but only if the guy can be there , just as bad as a couples prof were the female half will not be there for the meet as she's ' working' "
Probably, but what the hell has that got to do with me?! |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
Tried that - made no difference ie. pretty much all bullshitters that get in touch.
I am sorry but is it just me or is a couple useing a single girls prof to meet single girls but only if the guy can be there , just as bad as a couples prof were the female half will not be there for the meet as she's ' working'
Probably, but what the hell has that got to do with me?!"
sorry didn't mean to quote your bit first lol xxx |
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"I have been thinking about making a single fem profile for the sole purpose of meeting other women on my own, I'm now thinking would it be wrong?
Tried that - made no difference ie. pretty much all bullshitters that get in touch.
I am sorry but is it just me or is a couple useing a single girls prof to meet single girls but only if the guy can be there , just as bad as a couples prof were the female half will not be there for the meet as she's ' working'
Probably, but what the hell has that got to do with me?! sorry didn't mean to quote your bit first lol xxx "
OK Had to go and reread our profile then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We set up our couples profile originally as I wanted to, as they say, explore my bi-side, which we did as a couple with a couple. And we arrange to meet couples, or single females together with that. I (try!) to arrange to meet single females alone using the single female profile and my other half will certainly not be involved in that. My single profile clearly states I'm married and he's happy for me to play alone with other women only, which is what we are both happy with. |
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"We set up our couples profile originally as I wanted to, as they say, explore my bi-side, which we did as a couple with a couple. And we arrange to meet couples, or single females together with that. I (try!) to arrange to meet single females alone using the single female profile and my other half will certainly not be involved in that. My single profile clearly states I'm married and he's happy for me to play alone with other women only, which is what we are both happy with. "
You are a decent couple! But put yourself in my/our shoes..after so many lies and wasted time ! I hope you find a lady to have some fun with. Bi means likes both sides so, you never know after gaining their trust... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I've not managed it yet! I do think just going to a club is probably going to be easier, but difficult for us both to do due to childcare and I wouldn't want to do a club alone. We enjoyed it together loads though
Maybe people are put off as I state in my profile texts that I'm in a relationship?? Either that or my photos are rubbish or not enough information? Who knows! |
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"Well I've not managed it yet! I do think just going to a club is probably going to be easier, but difficult for us both to do due to childcare and I wouldn't want to do a club alone. We enjoyed it together loads though
Maybe people are put off as I state in my profile texts that I'm in a relationship?? Either that or my photos are rubbish or not enough information? Who knows! "
I think you will find that your pics are very enticing, but you have no verificatons. I know how much 'trust' most of us put on them but it would help! Even if it is just social meets! I can't see anything wrong with your profile! Clubs are a good place to make yourself known and gain trust.
Patience! Good things come to those who wait! You are unfortunately too far away and I am out of your age range!! And as for being married, well some will be put off and others won't. My opinion is be up front and honest...but you can't be everybody's cup of tea!
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Cherry, its just a case of being patient.
Sadly you are too far away for me.
The married thing does put some people off as they may think that means hubby will be involved at some point. But its good to be upfront.
Wishing you luck in meeting some lovely lady |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Oh and just to add... it reads a wee bit like you've never been with a lady... so perhaps make more of the fact that you've played in a couples situation but would love a solo experience - I tend not to meet first time ladies - my meet time is limited, and I'm not a very good teacher, but I would meet with a lady who has experiences as part of a couple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, yes, I have also had this type of message. Some people will try anything to meet a woman. Its sooo sad! I get offers of dinner etc. If I'm hungry I can afford to buy my own dinner! lol.
xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cherry, its just a case of being patient.
Sadly you are too far away for me.
The married thing does put some people off as they may think that means hubby will be involved at some point. But its good to be upfront.
Wishing you luck in meeting some lovely lady "
Agree with this - the irony is that for every suspect enquiry I get there are others that probably suspect the same of me.
A girls only orgy was suggested a while back - that might help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had one recently from a bi female half of a couple
When I pointed out that they couldn't have read me profile she responded 'no one reads that crap' lol"
I had someone say the same to me. My response? Instant block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wander if anyone male has had a message from another single male asking to play but only if their gf can watch?
yep
And? As a straight male, how did you respond? "
after pointing that fact out politely said no thankyou |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
Nr Chester |
We see regularly the giveaway signs where they clearly cannot get a riding solo bi female so will contact couples and put forward what they want. They even allow the males to sit in another room with a beer and talk about football. We were very tempted. |
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"I wander if anyone male has had a message from another single male asking to play but only if their gf can watch?
yep
And? As a straight male, how did you respond?
after pointing that fact out politely said no thankyou"
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"Cherry, its just a case of being patient.
Sadly you are too far away for me.
The married thing does put some people off as they may think that means hubby will be involved at some point. But its good to be upfront.
Wishing you luck in meeting some lovely lady
Agree with this - the irony is that for every suspect enquiry I get there are others that probably suspect the same of me.
A girls only orgy was suggested a while back - that might help "
There are one or two small groups of ladies down here who get together successfully fairly regularly for this, I'm trying to wangle an invite, purely for research purposes you understand! |
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By *nly-AliceWoman
over a year ago
Chester / North Wales |
"I've had it a few times.. I'm not a performer and now make it very clear I like to play equally with both, not be there to just put on a girl on girl show for husband with an inexperienced wife! "
But if I am meeting alone why would I want to use a couples profile?? |
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