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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad.  |
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over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid."
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman |
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman"
I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yes if it was to work.but most of them .if not all have been on the site for over a year and still no meets.AND donot start me on the people asking to be friends .with out as much of an email.that is so fucking sad .
SAYS A LOT ABOUT THEM.if someone come up to you on a night out and first thing out of them was can I be your friend.I WOULD LMFUCKINX ASS OFF.
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman"
I have |
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"yes if it was to work.but most of them .if not all have been on the site for over a year and still no meets.AND donot start me on the people asking to be friends .with out as much of an email.that is so fucking sad .
SAYS A LOT ABOUT THEM.if someone come up to you on a night out and first thing out of them was can I be your friend.I WOULD LMFUCKINX ASS OFF.
SAD REALLY SAD "
You aren't unique to the situation. There are robust site tools to help improve your experience. I suggest using them better.
As for idiots, we've all been there, done that and got multiple t-shirts. |
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
It's actually couples that I get more messages like that from than single guys..
And I'll bet there's females around who send messages like that out too lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman
I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that....."
But are you sure they were really women?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman"
I have had them from everyone like I said single guys send the majority but don't think it doesnt happen to us as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad.
It's actually couples that I get more messages like that from than single guys..
And I'll bet there's females around who send messages like that out too lol"
still cant believe that msg u sent asking for a cracklick..I was like, steady on ffs..I dont even know u  |
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman
I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that.....
But are you sure they were really women? "
Well, i'm 100% sure one of them was anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman
I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that.....
But are you sure they were really women?
Well, i'm 100% sure one of them was anyway "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes if it was to work.but most of them .if not all have been on the site for over a year and still no meets.AND donot start me on the people asking to be friends .with out as much of an email.that is so fucking sad .
SAYS A LOT ABOUT THEM.if someone come up to you on a night out and first thing out of them was can I be your friend.I WOULD LMFUCKINX ASS OFF.
SAD REALLY SAD
You aren't unique to the situation. There are robust site tools to help improve your experience. I suggest using them better.
As for idiots, we've all been there, done that and got multiple t-shirts."
its like they think we are 16 and never had sex .And Not swingers and seen and done more things they could only come up with in there best wanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not just single guys who send those messages but I will except they send the majority of them.
Its part of being the site im afraid.
I've never had that sort of message from a female.. Male half of a couple maybe.. But never a woman
I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that....."
Maybe its cos ur a male?
Or maybe its there is a difference in the way your profile comes across to mine?
But can honestly say in 3 years never had that from a female.. So yh stastics  |
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I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that.....
Maybe its cos ur a male?
Or maybe its there is a difference in the way your profile comes across to mine?
But can honestly say in 3 years never had that from a female.. So yh stastics "
My being male should have nothing to do with it. Users from every available group on here send shitty messages, my post was to point out that us single males get one liners and "wanna fuck" type messages from women too.
And couples.
Some in those groups send them regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the receipient. Like we said....statistics. |
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad.
It's actually couples that I get more messages like that from than single guys..
And I'll bet there's females around who send messages like that out too lol
still cant believe that msg u sent asking for a cracklick..I was like, steady on ffs..I dont even know u "
I don't have time to answer you just now... I'm awaiting replies to the mountain of "wanna fuk" messages I sent out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had it from 2 women this week and one couple. So statistics and all that.....
Maybe its cos ur a male?
Or maybe its there is a difference in the way your profile comes across to mine?
But can honestly say in 3 years never had that from a female.. So yh stastics
My being male should have nothing to do with it. Users from every available group on here send shitty messages, my post was to point out that us single males get one liners and "wanna fuck" type messages from women too.
And couples.
Some in those groups send them regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the receipient. Like we said....statistics."
The fact ur male and I'm female has a lot to do with it.. Exactly how many messages have u received from men and overall compared to a female on here
Also people naturally treat a male differently to a woman.. |
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The fact ur male and I'm female has a lot to do with it.. Exactly how many messages have u received from men and overall compared to a female on here
Also people naturally treat a male differently to a woman.. "
I've had way more messages from women on here than i have had from men. And a good number of them have been simply "wanna fuck" or "nice cock, can i suck it?"
Doesn't mean i paint every female on here with the same brush. The majority of those messages come from a place of laziness. Either in the knowledge that they don't need to try (due to numbers) or because that is truly their site M.O.
The point i was making earlier was twofold:
1) There doesn't need to be a new thread everytime someone gets a shitty message. It happens to all of us at some point. The OP isn't the first, nor will they be the last to get a message from a lazy site user. Moaning threads like this one almost always end up the same way.
2) Following on from point 1, the sweeping generalisations help no one. SOME men send crappy messages. SOME women do the same. SOME couples lie. SOME TVs can't read profiles. etc etc.
3) If the distinction can be made using point 2, then less of these encounters on the forums would devolve into single male bashing threads that happen so often now, you can set your clocks to them. If i had made a thread for both the crappy messages i got this week from women, moaning about single women sending crappy messages, i'd have a forum mob convince me that i should be grateful i even get messages at all.
C'est la vie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can imagine that is frustrating BUT I find it also very frustrating when I take the time to read, yes actually read a girl or couples profile, seem to be everything they are looking for, attach face pics, verified, site supporter etc etc write a polite informative email just to have it deleted straight away with no repky. Even if it were to say thanks but no thanks! Literally happened to me thousands of times! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can imagine that is frustrating BUT I find it also very frustrating when I take the time to read, yes actually read a girl or couples profile, seem to be everything they are looking for, attach face pics, verified, site supporter etc etc write a polite informative email just to have it deleted straight away with no repky. Even if it were to say thanks but no thanks! Literally happened to me thousands of times! "
 but your profile says you have met 5 people so .that is my poin .a good email that stands out from all the shit ones and you get the meets good luck.BUT THINK YOU ARE NOT GOING TO NEED IT. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact ur male and I'm female has a lot to do with it.. Exactly how many messages have u received from men and overall compared to a female on here
Also people naturally treat a male differently to a woman..
I've had way more messages from women on here than i have had from men. And a good number of them have been simply "wanna fuck" or "nice cock, can i suck it?"
Doesn't mean i paint every female on here with the same brush. The majority of those messages come from a place of laziness. Either in the knowledge that they don't need to try (due to numbers) or because that is truly their site M.O.
The point i was making earlier was twofold:
1) There doesn't need to be a new thread everytime someone gets a shitty message. It happens to all of us at some point. The OP isn't the first, nor will they be the last to get a message from a lazy site user. Moaning threads like this one almost always end up the same way.
2) Following on from point 1, the sweeping generalisations help no one. SOME men send crappy messages. SOME women do the same. SOME couples lie. SOME TVs can't read profiles. etc etc.
3) If the distinction can be made using point 2, then less of these encounters on the forums would devolve into single male bashing threads that happen so often now, you can set your clocks to them. If i had made a thread for both the crappy messages i got this week from women, moaning about single women sending crappy messages, i'd have a forum mob convince me that i should be grateful i even get messages at all.
C'est la vie."
I don't understand why just cos someone starts a thread with 'why do single males' some people take as the person meaning all males..
It just means the males who do it.. Not the ones who don't
Also maybe the op only has mails from men and therefore can't comment or have experience on other groups
Don't take it so personally.. I don't when men say about woman do this or that, mainly cos I don't care if they don't like it |
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"I can imagine that is frustrating BUT I find it also very frustrating when I take the time to read, yes actually read a girl or couples profile, seem to be everything they are looking for, attach face pics, verified, site supporter etc etc write a polite informative email just to have it deleted straight away with no repky. Even if it were to say thanks but no thanks! Literally happened to me thousands of times! "
I've not had one from you, I'd remember mind you, you might get the thanks but no thanks reply :-! |
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@blackshadow - let's be honest - you are not "the average" man - and I bet not many guys get "wanna fuck" one liners from ladies.
Sadly - I remember your penis from a big dick thread a few months ago. In fact - I've been wondering how you got my share and can I have it back!
Sadly we would love to have your problems of females wanting to "spend time" with us - and the bi fem part of us is very sexy and very bi!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a simple policy - shite message = delete, and if I feel the need, block.
Makes no odds if it's from a female, couple or - if I'm looking for an extra guy to join me and a female friend, a single guy.
Takes 2 seconds and doesn't stress me out, frustrate me or lead me to assume any one gender is less capable of a decent interaction.
Everyone who messages me is an individual (or individual couple!) and I'll treat them as such. A crap message just tells me they can't be arsed to put effort in and that they've not read my profile and are therefore highly unlikely to be of interest to me.
As a guy I probably get half a dozen a day to deal with, so way less than women and couples. But if the numbers were far greater it wouldn't worry me - as it would enablement to discount even more incompatible people far quicker!
So to me - a crap message is as useful as a well thought out one. It points me in exactly the right direction as to my next actions! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never ever ever sent a message like that and never would , just rude. WE ARE NOT ALL LIKE THAT, men that send messages like that know they have no chance of meeting you that's why they do it, giving us all a bad name |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"giving us all a bad name"
Not me! I'm grateful to them as it makes it easier for others to differentiate between lazy fucktards and those capable of intelligent interaction!
I never buy the argument that anyone else's actions affect others just because we share a gender! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't do that what is the point in disrespecting anyone never mind a woman I will send someone a message if I liked there profile or pics but doesn't mean I wanted to meet them . I have a lot of respect for woman without a woman I would not have my son . They can do amazing things . So men please respect them don't be twats all your life . I ain't perfect just before someone thinks I am trying to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm thinking back to a recent thread on men who 'fuck and go'....a good number of female and couples responses indicated this was how they like it which is fair enough, everyone has their choice however, think it might be a tad confusing for some single guys when they read things like that then get blasted for basically offering a 'fuck and go'. Just an alternative viewpoint. |
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@Brenda
You are right, i guess my frustration at seeing the 1875th thread about site users sending shitty messages caused my need to make that post.
I revert back to my original reply to the OP in this thread and leave it at that. Thanks for the responses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
If its a problem block all single males then go search for the ones you like and message them thats if you have the confidence to do so but don't expect all to take you up on your hi love your profile would love to fuck you message some are selective lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Singel men on here get a shit rep but were not all dickheads . I allways send a polite msg if i dont get a replie then oh well its not the end of the world. And crap like , u look nice wanna fuck is just as bad as being in a pub and saying , hears a qwid love , call ur house and tell them ur not comming home . Uve pulled. It just dont work  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly a lot of the single guys on here think us women will fuck anything with a pulse!!
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What is even sader is a lot of the other groups on the site think the same thing about single guys and they are right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad.
If its a problem block all single males then go search for the ones you like and message them thats if you have the confidence to do so but don't expect all to take you up on your hi love your profile would love to fuck you message some are selective lol."
LOL Look at it like this after two years of shit one liners and maybe 1%ok
why would I take the time to look for them .
I am no having a go at all the single men JUST 99% OF THE ONES THATemail us.
if your not that type of man .you should be thinking why would any one do that .if not you must be like them. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking back to a recent thread on men who 'fuck and go'....a good number of female and couples responses indicated this was how they like it which is fair enough, everyone has their choice however, think it might be a tad confusing for some single guys when they read things like that then get blasted for basically offering a 'fuck and go'. Just an alternative viewpoint."
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
Take control, do not allow them access to your inbox and only contact those you want to...I do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of single women and couples profiles on here are written in quite an intimidating way. Lists of requirements, size of cock, etc.. so i'm not surprised some blokes don't send a full reply! When you do put the time and effort in to send a messsage, 9 times out of 10 its's read and ignored or just deleted straight away. So i'm not surprised blokes don't send lengthy replys! Obviously one liners such as fancy a fuck aren't gona go down to well with everyone, but women shouldnt expect war and peace in a reply, as most blokes just expect it to be deleted anyway!! A quick message can be a useful way of showing an interest in someone, but unfortunately due to females being inundated with messages, it's not always taken that way!! |
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"I can imagine that is frustrating BUT I find it also very frustrating when I take the time to read, yes actually read a girl or couples profile, seem to be everything they are looking for, attach face pics, verified, site supporter etc etc write a polite informative email just to have it deleted straight away with no repky. Even if it were to say thanks but no thanks! Literally happened to me thousands of times! "
Yes, it happens to me, but at times some peeps reply, and others would contact me out of the blue. We have to accept that this is the nature of the 'game' we are in. I still insist that the best way to get meets is to attend socials, etc, then you become 'real' so much faster to potential meets. |
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Before I start, I haven't bothered to read the whole tread so apologies if this has already been done to death.
As a single man, I usually read (yes, all of it) a profile before writing a polite message that I hope will attract attention of the recipient. I also usually attach a face pic. Given that I probably get a response from a fraction of those I send out, and a meet from even fewer, I can understand the temptation to go for the scattergun "fancy a f*ck" approach. |
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"still getting about 10 a day sad wankers"
What do you expect? Your profile pic is a fully nude shot. The blood has rushed, caveman biology has taken over and The men are not typing with their fingers, or minds, but with their dicks...
If you market yourself in this way you cannot complain about the responses you get. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"still getting about 10 a day sad wankers
What do you expect? Your profile pic is a fully nude shot. The blood has rushed, caveman biology has taken over and The men are not typing with their fingers, or minds, but with their dicks...
If you market yourself in this way you cannot complain about the responses you get."
LOL but on the site to meet people not just get emails .like how are you today.
should we put a none sexy pic as a profile is that what you are say.your right we would get less emails |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yet again this is why genuine single lads struggle on here, shame isn't a better way of selecting the genuine guys from the time wasters and abusive blokes, I know there is verifications but look at it this way if a high percentage of women are not willing to give single blokes a chance how do we get verifications up???. Must admit is disheartening at times seeing your messages deleted at times but come on fella's no need to send another message abusing the women. Right rant over lol, all have good day |
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"LOL but on the site to meet people not just get emails .like how are you today.
should we put a none sexy pic as a profile is that what you are say.your right we would get less emails"
You're right! I'm also on this site to meet people, and get my fair share of rubbish one liners.
However, I maintain that there is a huge difference between classy, clothed pics, which can still be sexy and seductive to overtly sexual/ naked which are more likely to titilate and appeal to the not so nice/eloquent element on here. It's just my theory.... |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
It's not just some single guys that send messages like that.
We get similar from couples and it's usually the ones that state on their profiles that they don't want those type of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
So Fab invented the delete button; and it was good! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"LOL but on the site to meet people not just get emails .like how are you today.
should we put a none sexy pic as a profile is that what you are say.your right we would get less emails
You're right! I'm also on this site to meet people, and get my fair share of rubbish one liners.
However, I maintain that there is a huge difference between classy, clothed pics, which can still be sexy and seductive to overtly sexual/ naked which are more likely to titilate and appeal to the not so nice/eloquent element on here. It's just my theory...."
will give it a try and change it now
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its ok some women going on about guys using one liners but if you read the content of what some ppl put in their profile and the pics they have its like some are saying come and Fuck me guys look at my Pussy. Who needs to see all the goods on display and sometimes more is less but that said everybody is different and we take the not so nice guys who contact us to either ignore politely reply no Ty or can be blocked if offensive. I don't have an explicit profile pic up and nor have I got all my verifications on display as I have nothing to prove. I know I am ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"LOL but on the site to meet people not just get emails .like how are you today.
should we put a none sexy pic as a profile is that what you are say.your right we would get less emails
You're right! I'm also on this site to meet people, and get my fair share of rubbish one liners.
However, I maintain that there is a huge difference between classy, clothed pics, which can still be sexy and seductive to overtly sexual/ naked which are more likely to titilate and appeal to the not so nice/eloquent element on here. It's just my theory...."
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad. "
Not just single men.... I get messages like that almost daily from couples too |
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"do single men think if they send an message like .hi love your profile would love to fuck you.
ITS GOING to work if you was to do that in a night club or pub . you would have a drink over you.
I can only think that must be why they are single. sad really sad.
It's not just some single guys that send messages like that.
We get similar from couples and it's usually the ones that state on their profiles that they don't want those type of messages. "
Ditto. Couldn't have put it better myself. I do get one line messages like "what size is your cock?" etc. from single women and couples. So it's not restricted to single men. It's funny how the same couples that say they don't respond to friend invites without knowing you, then go on to send a friend invite without knowing you cos they want to perv on my pics! Bottom line is there are a lot of people who do the same things they hate or accuse others of doing. But like it has been previously said, there's not much you can do about it but delete delete delete. It's part of this site now so try not take it too serious.. |
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