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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have had a spate of people messaging us that turned us down previously . Saying we weren't the right couple or similar
We are thinking if we were not good enough then why are we suddenly good enough now.
We already block people that do ping pong email with no sign of a meet , those that want to meet and then ignore upon receipt of phone number . Those that message asking us to meet in a car park or just come round at lunch.
What do couples expect when meeting another couple do you usually just want to meet for sex only or do you like to go out and party.
Of course we know our problem is that we can accommodate but can't travel
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being able to accommodate is a massive advantage, and not a disadvantage on here.
We all get rejected at sometime or other so don't let that put you off.
The longer you're here the more you will realise that everyones different and therefore looking for different things and they look for it in different ways.
That's life  |
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"My tastes are changing the longer I am on the site.
I for one turned down people that I was too intimidated by initially. But now, would jump at a second chance.
Maybe they are the same?"
True - We've found mood and circumstances play a big part in being interested in playing or not too so we never say never unless the differences come under our "set in stone" dislikes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have had a spate of people messaging us that turned us down previously . Saying we weren't the right couple or similar
We are thinking if we were not good enough then why are we suddenly good enough now.
We already block people that do ping pong email with no sign of a meet , those that want to meet and then ignore upon receipt of phone number . Those that message asking us to meet in a car park or just come round at lunch.
What do couples expect when meeting another couple do you usually just want to meet for sex only or do you like to go out and party.
Of course we know our problem is that we can accommodate but can't travel
Any ideas ?"
Righty ho, you won't be everyone's cup of tea on this site, as I won't be everyone's cup of tea either, please don't let it put you off as there are others that will want to meet you |
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I think the points about tastes changing are very valid so that probably explains some of the people who contact you after they've turned you down, another explanation is that they were busy before or they have forgotten.
I think all couples are different but for us we don't mind just going to sometimes house as long as we've met them socially before but we do like to make it about more than just the sex, a couple of drinks some food etc. |
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"I think the points about tastes changing are very valid so that probably explains some of the people who contact you after they've turned you down, another explanation is that they were busy before or they have forgotten.
I think all couples are different but for us we don't mind just going to sometimes house as long as we've met them socially before but we do like to make it about more than just the sex, a couple of drinks some food etc."
We try to make it less about sex suggesting a meet in a pub or a night out , and it even turns single blokes off
We tried the single guy thing and all they did was hassle to go somewhere quieter and never put their hand in their pocket or sit with one drink and watching the clock |
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"I think the points about tastes changing are very valid so that probably explains some of the people who contact you after they've turned you down, another explanation is that they were busy before or they have forgotten.
I think all couples are different but for us we don't mind just going to sometimes house as long as we've met them socially before but we do like to make it about more than just the sex, a couple of drinks some food etc.
We try to make it less about sex suggesting a meet in a pub or a night out , and it even turns single blokes off
We tried the single guy thing and all they did was hassle to go somewhere quieter and never put their hand in their pocket or sit with one drink and watching the clock "
Thats cos probably most of these 'single' guys arent single, they are playing away, thats why they are furtive and clock watch etc  |
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Thats cos probably most of these 'single' guys arent single, they are playing away, thats why they are furtive and clock watch etc "
I don't know why they would stay with someone like that Paula can't wait to get rid of me for an evening , especially when we are kiddy free
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"My tastes are changing the longer I am on the site.
I for one turned down people that I was too intimidated by initially. But now, would jump at a second chance.
Maybe they are the same?"
Totally with you in this, over the last year my tastes have dramatically changed, especially relating to age. So people I've previous said no thanks to, I may have recontacted and had do amazing meets.
I went through a very bad patch at the beginning of the year, I even hid my profile for a while & considered leaving. However I reassessed how I used the site & what I was really looking for. Maybe some if the people recontacting you have done similar?  |
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"I think the points about tastes changing are very valid so that probably explains some of the people who contact you after they've turned you down, another explanation is that they were busy before or they have forgotten.
I think all couples are different but for us we don't mind just going to sometimes house as long as we've met them socially before but we do like to make it about more than just the sex, a couple of drinks some food etc.
We try to make it less about sex suggesting a meet in a pub or a night out , and it even turns single blokes off
We tried the single guy thing and all they did was hassle to go somewhere quieter and never put their hand in their pocket or sit with one drink and watching the clock "
You must be meeting the wrong ones then cos I have no problem with them paying for drinks |
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