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What are we doing wrong ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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We are looking for that rare unicorn to join us for some club meets and FFM kinky fun BUT can't seem to get a message back .... are we wasting our time on FAB ? |
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Hey OP, hope you're both well.
Some honest advice,
Firstly - Think you're being a little unrealistic in expecting a meet withinf 3 weeks of going fab, connections take time to build.
Secondly - you only have one pic on your profile and your bio is just about what you want, not what you can offer - get more on there, have a profile you'd want to engage with
Thirdly- you come across a little superficial in my opinion due to a few comments made in your bio - maybe have a rethink
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"OK thanks ?? will have a rethink and maybe make a more personal Bio "
Ace 
Just try to be yourselves whilst also thinking what profile would interest you guys.
We treat fab as secondary to socials, clubs and events - better getting out there and actually meeting people.
Our best meets with single women have been when we've met them naturally at clubs and socials.
All the best to you both
S xx |
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"Hey OP, hope you're both well.
Some honest advice,
Firstly - Think you're being a little unrealistic in expecting a meet withinf 3 weeks of going fab, connections take time to build.
Secondly - you only have one pic on your profile and your bio is just about what you want, not what you can offer - get more on there, have a profile you'd want to engage with
Thirdly- you come across a little superficial in my opinion due to a few comments made in your bio - maybe have a rethink
S xx"
All of this and you also have Mrs as straight on profile but then say she's Bi bit of a mixed message.
Personally we've found single women easier to meet for play then couples are and never had an issue not sure why they called unicorns.
One thing to remember it's not easy for another women to join in with a couple can be a little nerve racking for her, one thing we've always has said is us being relaxed and laid back and totally non expecting of fun and both clearly very much in love with eachother, that we made others feel very comfortable in joining us 
What would your first message consist of ? Would you like to show an example ? |
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Think of this the other way around. Single woman have the pick of whatever they fancy, what do you offer as a pair? What do you bring that other MF couples do not?
Our advice would echo others; go to clubs, get known for good reasons, see if you take the fancy of single woman.
Failing that, there are loads of couples looking for single woman, swap the F in your couple to make their 3some and vice versa . |
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"Single females are very hard to find. Slim, gym fit girls are almost impossible of FAB. You are more likely to find girls like this at clubs x"
Don't think I agree with this.
Single females are not hard to find if you have the right approach, personality, respect and understanding.
Slim, gym fit girls are also on fab and looking to meet.
So fab is still a good place to have a profile and search. But maybe be a little more realistic in expectations especially if narrowing down on things.
S xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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Thanks everyone I appreciate the kind messages, I think we will change our bio , we've added some more pics and honestly I like to think we are really approachable and defo up for a laugh at socials etc. Agreed on the time scale thing ( we don't want nor expect anyone to just meet . I like to think we can make some good friends at the same time |
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It's a lottery. We have (we think) a decent profile
We explain what we want.
Neither of us are supermodels, but we are in decent shape for our age and demographic.
We are polite, prepared to invest some time into getting to know people and reliable
Yet our door isn't getting battered down by single ladies. A steady trickle, yes.
They hold all the power. They can be as choosy as a choosy thing that's choosy. So getting meets takes patience and perseverance.  |
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I'm not the body shape demographic you're looking for. But as a single woman who does meet with couples. I'd say you need to decide if the lady in your pair is straight, or bi? It's confusing reading it. If she's bi-cu you can state that. Also, I like to read a bio that states a bit about the cpl, but also what they're offering? You mention meeting in a club? I'd not arrange to visit a club just to meet a cpl. If I was there anyway, and I clicked with them it's a different story. Meeting for a coffee is a low risk event for a first social, and if I'm heading to town already. I lose nothing but maybe a half hour of my time of I don't click with someone. Just some food for thought |
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"I'm not the body shape demographic you're looking for. But as a single woman who does meet with couples. I'd say you need to decide if the lady in your pair is straight, or bi? It's confusing reading it. If she's bi-cu you can state that. Also, I like to read a bio that states a bit about the cpl, but also what they're offering? You mention meeting in a club? I'd not arrange to visit a club just to meet a cpl. If I was there anyway, and I clicked with them it's a different story. Meeting for a coffee is a low risk event for a first social, and if I'm heading to town already. I lose nothing but maybe a half hour of my time of I don't click with someone. Just some food for thought "
Good advice that |
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By *atnayCouple 28 weeks ago
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"OK thanks ?? will have a rethink and maybe make a more personal Bio
Ace
Just try to be yourselves whilst also thinking what profile would interest you guys.
We treat fab as secondary to socials, clubs and events - better getting out there and actually meeting people.
Our best meets with single women have been when we've met them naturally at clubs and socials.
All the best to you both
S xx "
This is gold advice.. |
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We’ve both been singles on here and I think that helps as we’ve been in that position of when couples have approached us. We know how they feel.
I would also say that having quite a few pics of you both will help. You’ve gone down the classic route of a lot of couples profile pics - ladies pics tasteful, guys pics have to show genitals and this may hamper you.
Single ladies are being chased by everyone so I think you need to stand out more.
Your profile takes time to evolve - it’s your opportunity to sell you both so use it.
K
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