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Definition of a "time waster"?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This phrase is used on here a lot, it's plastered on the forums, on profiles, in messages and even though I choose not to use them I would imagine its also used in the chatrooms...but what is a time waster?

Is it someone only on the site to talk to people and use the forums & not meet? Doubtful.

What about someone that arranges a meet & real life throws up a problem meaning the meets is cancelled? Again no, this isn't one in my opinion.

I'm sat in a little chef having a break on my long drive home, I'm on here killing my own time till my toad in the hole arrives, I'm wasting time, but am I currently a time waster?

I'm really interested to understand what people class as a time waster? Even if someone arranges a meet, doesn't turn up with no message, I question if they were genuine, but still wouldn't call them a time waster.

Anyway the Yorkshire pudding clad sausages have arrived

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This phrase is used on here a lot, it's plastered on the forums, on profiles, in messages and even though I choose not to use them I would imagine its also used in the chatrooms...but what is a time waster?

Is it someone only on the site to talk to people and use the forums & not meet? Doubtful.

What about someone that arranges a meet & real life throws up a problem meaning the meets is cancelled? Again no, this isn't one in my opinion.

I'm sat in a little chef having a break on my long drive home, I'm on here killing my own time till my toad in the hole arrives, I'm wasting time, but am I currently a time waster?

Anyway the Yorkshire pudding clad sausages have arrived

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!"

uve 20mins to get here or am reporting!

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!"

My definition too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!"

So if someone chatted to you and then decided they didn't click and didn't want to meet, would that have been wasting your time or just how things work on here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here goes...No doubt we will get shot down for this, but...

Joined the site over a year ago and no feedback! (time wasters to us)

OHH yes folks will say we only use the site to chat or forums....

But the clues in name of this site..it is not fabchat or fabforum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here goes...No doubt we will get shot down for this, but...

Joined the site over a year ago and no feedback! (time wasters to us)

OHH yes folks will say we only use the site to chat or forums....

But the clues in name of this site..it is not fabchat or fabforum."

your opinion is very valid, however misguided lol

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By *ustcutieWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

My definition too

And mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?"

But I don't "wait on them". If I arrange a meet I don't sit waiting for them, it's usually when I would be in watching TV, reading or even pursing FAB. So if they don't turn up my time isn't wasted, I've never cancelled something in real life for a fab meet, so I guess maybe thus phrase just doesn't apply yo how I use the site & why I'm not clear on what it means.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

See this would be different for me as I do not accom. So if I arrange a meet and go to a bar/hotel etc to meet and they aren't there my time had been wasted.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

uve 20mins to get here or am reporting!

But I'm 3 hours away!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!

So if someone chatted to you and then decided they didn't click and didn't want to meet, would that have been wasting your time or just how things work on here?"

we all have the right to change our minds... so if they is someone defination that would be harsh...

if I am sending someone an email.. the chances are I would have been on here browsing anyway, so I am not doing anything "out of my way" so to speak....

the only defination for me is if I have deliberately done something out of my way that I would not have done otherwise... so that is for me if someone didn't turn up....

people can change their mind even on the meet.... i don't think that should ever be taken away from someone for fear of having "timewaster" flung at them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it someone only on the site to talk to people and use the forums & not meet? Doubtful.

What about someone that arranges a meet & real life throws up a problem meaning the meets is cancelled? Again no, this isn't one in my opinion.

I'm sat in a little chef having a break on my long drive home, I'm on here killing my own time till my toad in the hole arrives, I'm wasting time, but am I currently a time waster?

Anyway the Yorkshire pudding clad sausages have arrived

They are probably not timewasters hp just dreamers

Whichever way if every timewasters was banned off this site there would only be. 5 members

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

My definition too

And mine

"
..and us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!

So if someone chatted to you and then decided they didn't click and didn't want to meet, would that have been wasting your time or just how things work on here?"

Dont really mind people who chat away through here or anywhere else tbh but when they have set up a meet for a time and a place and you have gone to the trouble of arranging sitters or any money for travel and a room etc then when you try to contact them they have either blocked you or just dont bother answering messages/ txts then they become a timewaster

Have given some people the benefit of the doubt at times as they have said they are a single parent etc so you can allow for such things coming up with kids.

Now people only get 1 chance and should they not show up or have one of the many feeble excuses then they dont get a second chance and are blocked with timewaster and the date on their profile xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!

So if someone chatted to you and then decided they didn't click and didn't want to meet, would that have been wasting your time or just how things work on here?

we all have the right to change our minds... so if they is someone defination that would be harsh...

if I am sending someone an email.. the chances are I would have been on here browsing anyway, so I am not doing anything "out of my way" so to speak....

the only defination for me is if I have deliberately done something out of my way that I would not have done otherwise... so that is for me if someone didn't turn up....

people can change their mind even on the meet.... i don't think that should ever be taken away from someone for fear of having "timewaster" flung at them..."

Ffs this is a site for casual sex, if we arrange to meet someone it's going o happen as long as they know what soap is and how a shower works .

If you think your having cold feet go and do some knitting and leave it to those that hate knitting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

I know what u mean..but isnt the same case for many I'd say..and besides..when ppl start thinking they are the only person that u planned to meet, I prefer them to get perspective..lets just say I turn down two ppl that offer meets at the weekend, their only time to play, I say i cant, as I have a organized meet..then my meet doesnt show.. my times been wasted and possibly a crap weekend for me that I planned having laughs n shags

*have to say its not really happened to me in years..but it happens to a few on the site

when u commit to a meet it should be that, and when reallife gets in the way..its only courteous to explain whats happening

I remember sitting waiting on a girl..on her way, late at nite traveling by bus..texting her as she traveled..

never arrived..she stopped responding and yeahh, I was worried..she still never responded lol

it was ok though as she went online later..and in the next week wanted to leave the site due to timewasters..

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

So, even by your definition, you've arranged to meet them at yours, you do the housework, all spick and span, you changed the bedding, you shower, shave and doll yourself up to look your best and your sitting waiting on them and no one turns up or even lets you know they are not coming? And they're not a time waster? Wow must just be me then!

(Disclaimer, non of the above has happened to me, I filter out the dodgy one's as I hardly ever meet)

Not for the want of trying mind you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

uve 20mins to get here or am reporting!

But I'm 3 hours away!

was only kidding darling..I'll wait forever for U!..damn...that can be turned on me..er..em...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

See this would be different for me as I do not accom. So if I arrange a meet and go to a bar/hotel etc to meet and they aren't there my time had been wasted. "

Yes I understand this definition, still a bit woolly on the others, but guess we all use the site slightly differently.

i was curious what others called time wasters x

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By *andACouple over a year ago

glasgow

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

Dont you spend a lot of time getting ready for a meet, looking your best etc? I know I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

(Disclaimer, non of the above has happened to me, I filter out the dodgy one's as I hardly ever meet)

Not for the want of trying mind you!"

I don't accomm at home, I either meet in my hotel room (I live in a hotel 4 to 5 nights a week) or at a club (Chams), I shower morning & bath in the evening anyway meet it no meet, I don't "doll myself up" as I don't wear make up. I will put on sexy undies and stockings but that's it really, so no your scenario doesn't apply to how I use the site or arrange meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

My definition too

And mine

..and us.

If I had to define it, then I'm with Lynz,

although someone that just cancels over and over and over is a waste of time in my pov

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do agree OP itsa term thrown about by angry types, when they are even at the pre-meet possibility stages

but definitely not when its supposed to be on ur doorstep,theirs, or the hotel rooms

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Dont you spend a lot of time getting ready for a meet, looking your best etc? I know I do"

5 to 10 mins, so no not really and I've never had any complaints with how I'm presented

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

uve 20mins to get here or am reporting!

But I'm 3 hours away!

was only kidding darling..I'll wait forever for U!..damn...that can be turned on me..er..em..."

I've copied and pasted that message into my own personal gain inbox

Where it will survive forever! Mwahh!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

(Disclaimer, non of the above has happened to me, I filter out the dodgy one's as I hardly ever meet)

Not for the want of trying mind you!

Obviously it's just me who goes to a lot of effort then... Oh well, each to their own as they say!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

My definition too

And mine

..and us.

If I had to define it, then I'm with Lynz,

although someone that just cancels over and over and over is a waste of time in my pov "

No, That's not a time waster, that's you being a mug!

(luv's ya really!) x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Obviously it's just me who goes to a lot of effort then... Oh well, each to their own as they say!

I think what I've said has been misunderstood, I class myself as well presented normally, I keep on top of waxing & shaving (not just for FAB meets), my hair is washed daily, my nails are done every 3 weeks (gotta love acrylics), I have a professional job so I have up be reasonably well presented anyway. So I may not go to a special effort for a meet, I am always freshly bathed, smelling nice and suitably presented. I think I made out or its be construed I'm a slob which I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My definition would be someone who wastes my time!!!!!"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we tend to meet at home and if someone doesn't turn up they haven't really wasted our time.we still end up shagging,sometimes the anticipation does the trick on it's own.It's no skin off our nose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!

My definition too

And mine

..and us.

If I had to define it, then I'm with Lynz,

although someone that just cancels over and over and over is a waste of time in my pov

No, That's not a time waster, that's you being a mug!

(luv's ya really!) x"

Luv's ya too

ooousted on the forums ooooerrr

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Obviously it's just me who goes to a lot of effort then... Oh well, each to their own as they say!

I stand corrected and yes I did misconstrue you

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By *amdenfunMan over a year ago

London

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

(Disclaimer, non of the above has happened to me, I filter out the dodgy one's as I hardly ever meet)

Not for the want of trying mind you!

But you must do some things other than use fab or watch TV? Are you never in the middle of a something, say a good book playing solitaire, when you've had to leave for Chams or wherever?

And you say you've never cancelled something in "real life" for a meet - but surely you've had to turn down such plans for a meet. A good friend asks you for a drink, but you've made arrangements to meet someone from here, then they don't show. That would be frustrating, and waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I stand corrected and yes I did misconstrue you

No harm done, I can see how you read it like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so u wait on them, they dont turn up..what have u done?

(Disclaimer, non of the above has happened to me, I filter out the dodgy one's as I hardly ever meet)

Not for the want of trying mind you!

I don't accomm at home, I either meet in my hotel room (I live in a hotel 4 to 5 nights a week) or at a club (Chams), I shower morning & bath in

But you must do some things other than use fab or watch TV? Are you never in the middle of a something, say a good book playing solitaire, when you've had to leave for Chams or wherever?

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

"A real time waster is someone, who arranges a meet and doesn't turn up with no communication! Simple really!"

This!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But you must do some things other than use fab or watch TV? Are you never in the middle of a something, say a good book playing solitaire, when you've had to leave for Chams or wherever?

I work 10 to 14 hours a day and have a very active social life, so you are correct in thinking that I don't just watch TV & come in FAB, however I am the only singleton in my circle of friends, so most "drinks" have to be planned in advance with friends needing baby sitters etc, I honestly can't remember if I've ever had a clash.

If I arrange a meet at Chams it wound be at a time I would be going anyway, so no it wouldn't interrupt anything I was doing or had planned. I don't do last min meets and my life doesn't revolve around meeting people off here.

With that in mind, what you've said doesn't apply to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't believe there are any "timewasters"...only people who allow their time to be wasted, or people who are unable to find anything positive about an encounter...however small or brief it may have been!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't believe there are any "timewasters"...only people who allow their time to be wasted, or people who are unable to find anything positive about an encounter...however small or brief it may have been!

Thank you, I was beginning to think if honestly was only me that wax thinking like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you, I was beginning to think if honestly was only me that wax thinking like that

You're welcome, I've always found that even if it turns out the sex wasn't that great..its still gives me the horn meeting someone new...and just because the sex wasn't great for me doesn't mean that it won't be awesome for someone else!

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