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By *orl1971 OP Couple 27 weeks ago
Glasgow |
Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? |
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? "
When I have been approached by couples it has started with them winking me and then us exchanging messages to explore compatibility |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? "
We find them and contact them, then we know they’re what we’re after. |
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By *oxy jWoman 27 weeks ago
somerset |
if i like someone them i would message first and on top i get lots of guys just messaging me too .. im only on fab for guys but its getting harder and harder as so many are porn obsessed or come acxross entitized that its rare now i find guys on fab its hard enough to find sexual attraction in the first place ... and then via messaging to realize just how childish or entitized they can be ... but its good in another way as it becomes very clear to avoid and block ...
it doesnt bother me because most of my meets come from other ways now days and i meet often |
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? "
If I was local to you I'd be very happy to receive a message from you guys.
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Go for it.  |
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile."
A bit of both tbh.
Like most couples, we get plenty of approaches, but for all the usual reasons we don't follow them all up.
Our success rate when we make the first move has been extremely low, guess we are just unlucky in that respect or aiming too high.
Don't be afraid to make the first move, what's the worst that could happen? |
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By *vaRose43Woman 27 weeks ago
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Bit of both
If a profile catches my eye I’ll wink or fab some of the pics. I don’t often send a first message as the few times I have I was accused of being fake as apparently “women don’t do that here”   |
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? "
Nothings ever a certainty. Don’t see why you wouldn’t dm someone. If the chemistry is right then alls good. If it’s not guys should be grown up enough to take a tanks but no thanks for what it is. |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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There comes a point on some profiles where you don't get much choice but to filter single guys out - so unless you are going message them first you will be lacking in communication abilities with that genre |
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"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.
We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.
What do you do ? "
We get where your coming from. Mrs likes to be the one desired so making the first move feels weird to her.. Also most Guys take it as a sure thing like yiubsay and get a little cocky. That's off-putting, They then wonder why you went all quiet and its rude to say you look good but your a bit of a dickhead. It's quite the conundrum, lol
We tend to send a wink. If they respond great if not then hopefully someone else comes along. For every knobend there's a few decent guys too.
Ps it's worse when you go out your way to get childcare and arrange a meet for them so mysteriously vanish for a few days then message you back with the most random reason why they went quiet. |
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