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Our last experience (i.e. the last time we played) was three years ago.
Is anyone else on here finding it hard to make connections?
We have been to clubs and had a couple of socials etc. but nothing has worked out. Conversations gone cold online, being ghosted or being blanked in clubs etc.
It could be us. Who knows? We aren’t ignorant or stand-offish. It just seemed easier a few years back to organise meets and spark up chats in clubs.
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"We are too old so thats us out...lol "
Nice bum in the pic though haha.
We can be picky which doesn’t help but then we are open minded about who we would meet.
We won’t meet single men but we aren’t the kind of couple we bang on about being gym fit and elite etc. because we aren’t. We will actively avoid couples like that. It’s all in our bio.
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We are finding it difficult to meet, but that is a combination of no sitters and lack of compatibility with those in our area! Even tried arranging about 5 1to1's with the Mrs and they were all no shows.
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It is honestly more har work than we thought.
Some our fault. Fussy about who we engage with, time poor, specific in what we want
Some not our fault- chats drop off, grass may be greener on the other side, lots of choice (especially for single ladies)
Its why the best attitude for this site is a combination of thick skin, patience and its a bonus if anything comes to fruition
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I think one of the frustrating things for us is being blanked in clubs as we are chatty and sociable people.
We tend not to approach in clubs, more so if they’re already with people as we don’t want to interfere. But then we will sometimes get messages the day after asking was it us at the club and wanting to chat etc. |
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"It is honestly more har work than we thought.
Some our fault. Fussy about who we engage with, time poor, specific in what we want
Some not our fault- chats drop off, grass may be greener on the other side, lots of choice (especially for single ladies)
Its why the best attitude for this site is a combination of thick skin, patience and its a bonus if anything comes to fruition
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Can’t disagree there.
Ps noticed you winked us ages ago. We didn’t deliberately ignore it. Sorry. Must have missed it. X |
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When we started about 10 years ago we would have a social or meet at least twice a month. Now we are older it does seem to have changed a lot and there are less people around (in our area). Plus being older we are not in the prime age range anymore so that has an effect as well.
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By *ounmacCouple 24 weeks ago
Market Harborough |
"I think one of the frustrating things for us is being blanked in clubs as we are chatty and sociable people.
We tend not to approach in clubs, more so if they’re already with people as we don’t want to interfere. But then we will sometimes get messages the day after asking was it us at the club and wanting to chat etc. "
We have just been to our first club night we found it great they had a telegram chat group before to get to know everyone and see what the dynamics were with people |
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I think this chat post was written for us.
We chat to so many couples on here, a lot are like yeah we def need to meet etc etc. when it comes to talking about dates everyone disappears. Or we’ve had it when we’ve set a date, then closer to the time ghosted.
And even our share of no shows.
It’s frustrating.
It’s also hard in the club scene as there are a lot of groups already clicky with each other.
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"Our last experience (i.e. the last time we played) was three years ago.
Is anyone else on here finding it hard to make connections?
We have been to clubs and had a couple of socials etc. but nothing has worked out. Conversations gone cold online, being ghosted or being blanked in clubs etc.
It could be us. Who knows? We aren’t ignorant or stand-offish. It just seemed easier a few years back to organise meets and spark up chats in clubs.
Note, we aren’t looking for single men before you inbox us. "
We’re finding similar, plenty of people start off chatting on here, then goes cold as we can’t meet straight away. That seems to be the hardest part for us, planning in advance doesn’t seem to happen. Will get out to a club in a few weeks see how that goes for us
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With the couples only type threads I would of thought a lot more of you couples would of been making contacts,
Couples only send a private pic/vid.
Couples only pm a message of what you'd like to do.
Couples only ask a question reply in the thread.
Although most of the people who regular meet up probably don't even use the forums, They just make contact and fuck |
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"Our last experience (i.e. the last time we played) was three years ago.
Is anyone else on here finding it hard to make connections?
We have been to clubs and had a couple of socials etc. but nothing has worked out. Conversations gone cold online, being ghosted or being blanked in clubs etc.
It could be us. Who knows? We aren’t ignorant or stand-offish. It just seemed easier a few years back to organise meets and spark up chats in clubs.
Note, we aren’t looking for single men before you inbox us.
We’re finding similar, plenty of people start off chatting on here, then goes cold as we can’t meet straight away. That seems to be the hardest part for us, planning in advance doesn’t seem to happen. Will get out to a club in a few weeks see how that goes for us
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With a peach like that on Mrs, sure you won’t struggle to much. |
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Surprising to read this as from your pics we would imagine you’d get plenty of attention. As a bigger couple we often get side lined in clubs even for a social chat we appreciate we’re not everyone’s type though and don’t let it get to us. We’ve been lucky to make some really good friends through here but compared to views/interaction it’s a low percentage. |
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"With the couples only type threads I would of thought a lot more of you couples would of been making contacts,
Couples only send a private pic/vid.
Couples only pm a message of what you'd like to do.
Couples only ask a question reply in the thread.
Although most of the people who regular meet up probably don't even use the forums, They just make contact and fuck "
I've joined in on those and had maybe one message us and they were from Scotland so no chance of ever meeting up.
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"Surprising to read this as from your pics we would imagine you’d get plenty of attention. As a bigger couple we often get side lined in clubs even for a social chat we appreciate we’re not everyone’s type though and don’t let it get to us. We’ve been lucky to make some really good friends through here but compared to views/interaction it’s a low percentage. "
Thank you for the kindness.
Mrs N lost 6 stone over the last couple of years. We had more meets when she was a bit more chubby haha.
Size doesn’t matter too much to us. We love a good face and personality.
Think pics say a lot to us so if they’re all explicit and the chat is a bit “how r u? And what you up to?” It’s not for us but in clubs all those pleasantries are done quicker. |
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"Our last experience (i.e. the last time we played) was three years ago.
Is anyone else on here finding it hard to make connections?
We have been to clubs and had a couple of socials etc. but nothing has worked out. Conversations gone cold online, being ghosted or being blanked in clubs etc.
It could be us. Who knows? We aren’t ignorant or stand-offish. It just seemed easier a few years back to organise meets and spark up chats in clubs.
Note, we aren’t looking for single men before you inbox us.
We’re finding similar, plenty of people start off chatting on here, then goes cold as we can’t meet straight away. That seems to be the hardest part for us, planning in advance doesn’t seem to happen. Will get out to a club in a few weeks see how that goes for us
With a peach like that on Mrs, sure you won’t struggle to much. "
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Yes OP, we are very similar. If you have particular preferences then it’s difficult. It would be easier to meet if we did not have a list of wants; non smokers, full swap, willing to play straight, in reasonable shape, in our/their age range, close enough to meet. It’s tough .
Also interesting to see people in their 40s saying they’re too old. That means were definitely too old |
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"Yes OP, we are very similar. If you have particular preferences then it’s difficult. It would be easier to meet if we did not have a list of wants; non smokers, full swap, willing to play straight, in reasonable shape, in our/their age range, close enough to meet. It’s tough .
Also interesting to see people in their 40s saying they’re too old. That means were definitely too old "
We are both in our 40s. It’s how you look and carry yourself for your age. Some people are in their 30s and can look and act 69 haha. |
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"Our last experience (i.e. the last time we played) was three years ago.
Is anyone else on here finding it hard to make connections?
We have been to clubs and had a couple of socials etc. but nothing has worked out. Conversations gone cold online, being ghosted or being blanked in clubs etc.
It could be us. Who knows? We aren’t ignorant or stand-offish. It just seemed easier a few years back to organise meets and spark up chats in clubs.
Note, we aren’t looking for single men before you inbox us.
We’re finding similar, plenty of people start off chatting on here, then goes cold as we can’t meet straight away. That seems to be the hardest part for us, planning in advance doesn’t seem to happen. Will get out to a club in a few weeks see how that goes for us
With a peach like that on Mrs, sure you won’t struggle to much.
Would have thought the same with you guys! "
Nope. Still looking for that first “meet” in years haha. X |
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We have been struggling to get a meet lately, we start chatting with other couples and then they go cold on us, we have to plan our meets/socials as we are carers for family so can’t just drop everything as much as we would like to, it’s so frustrating.x |
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Think we're all in same situation we get very limited free time for fun with others. Due to busy lives and teenagers always around so almost impossible to plan meets . Not played for long time now so confidence is lacking to xx |
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"I think one of the frustrating things for us is being blanked in clubs as we are chatty and sociable people.
We tend not to approach in clubs, more so if they’re already with people as we don’t want to interfere. But then we will sometimes get messages the day after asking was it us at the club and wanting to chat etc. "
This doesn’t sound like blanking, it sounds like lack of confidence. Typically, we approach, but also get approached in clubs. We come straight out with who we are and that we’re a straigh swap couple, are they looking for the same. If not, it’s a simple no worries we hope you have a wonderful evening. There’s no point wasting time chatting with people who aren’t after what we are. We’re DTF!
If they are what looking for what we are, within about 15-20 minutes of chatting if we feel it’s on, we say we’re going to find a room to play/would they like to join us, if not. Again, no worries it’s been a great chat and we move on. We are by no means blanking people, just finding what we are looking for. We love having two waves of play in a club and want to make the most of our time there. Yes we strike out sometimes, and that’s okay. But, if all else fails we can play with each other (we’ve never been in this situation though).
Perhaps, make a game of it and do an approach/ask/yes night challenge of it. Head to a couples or newbies night at clubs IMO.
Sometimes you’ll strike out but you’ll grow your confidence and skills and have a lot of fun on the way! Best off all, you two are rock solid and will have fun with each other in a horny situation, no pressure, but also all the opportunity for fun with others. |
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By *WANDTGCouple 24 weeks ago
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We've had chats with the intentions to meet in a few weeks time, again life gets in the way . Next thing you look and that chat was a month or 2 ago, so it's a little difficult to pick up the pieces. |
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I've not been to many clubs but what I've observed is its the Women who do the talking, Either to each other or with couples, Get yourself a drink and let your partners do the mingling, They should know your type and either bring a couple back to you or come back saying come and meet this couple I've been chatting with |
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"Yes OP, we are very similar. If you have particular preferences then it’s difficult. It would be easier to meet if we did not have a list of wants; non smokers, full swap, willing to play straight, in reasonable shape, in our/their age range, close enough to meet. It’s tough .
Also interesting to see people in their 40s saying they’re too old. That means were definitely too old "
Please, don’t worry about your ages! It’s often an easy way for people to exclude when they’re not confident enough to say that they’re not a match. Some people use height. Most of our circle
Is in their 40/50 and even some some smoking hot 60s!
Online is hard as it is the rational human in charge of messaging and screening. Getting out to clubs and socials where you can see people, click with personalities, cheeky smiles, sexy bums but also see the full picture, is in our opinion, more effective and less time consuming. We hope that you’re not put off by age, it’s absolutely not you, it’s them.
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"I've not been to many clubs but what I've observed is its the Women who do the talking, Either to each other or with couples, Get yourself a drink and let your partners do the mingling, They should know your type and either bring a couple back to you or come back saying come and meet this couple I've been chatting with "
This is absolutely the case. Completely agree. This is good advice. |
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Some good points on here.
As already mentioned, it’s hard to plan meets amongst our many other interests and then actually finding a couple both of us like is a challenge but then we do know after 25 years together what we want and tastes etc. as we have that connection.
We aren’t desparate to meet or anything so sure we will sort something soon.
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"Yes OP, we are very similar. If you have particular preferences then it’s difficult. It would be easier to meet if we did not have a list of wants; non smokers, full swap, willing to play straight, in reasonable shape, in our/their age range, close enough to meet. It’s tough .
Also interesting to see people in their 40s saying they’re too old. That means were definitely too old
Please, don’t worry about your ages! It’s often an easy way for people to exclude when they’re not confident enough to say that they’re not a match. Some people use height. Most of our circle
Is in their 40/50 and even some some smoking hot 60s!
Online is hard as it is the rational human in charge of messaging and screening. Getting out to clubs and socials where you can see people, click with personalities, cheeky smiles, sexy bums but also see the full picture, is in our opinion, more effective and less time consuming. We hope that you’re not put off by age, it’s absolutely not you, it’s them.
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Think we need to travel more for other clubs. One club up here is too close to home and the other seemed to have a younger crowd or in impenetrable groups who seem to meet each other each weekend. Apparently some English clubs might be more diverse in the distance people travel and the age groups. Plus if we went to England we can woo people with our accent (see other thread). lol |
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It's hard to get a 3/4 way attraction online especially when you cant even see anyone in the profiles.....
I find the social events better for meeting people especially on my couples profile.
As a single women looking at couples profules trying to find the invisible man is difficult - I understand why most couples messages get left unread. |
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"Understood.
Mr won’t put pics public due to very distinctive features and a very public facing career.
We always share privately of course. X"
You may wish to hide the one with your face showing too? A picture of you both together with him in a suit or such will stop any defining features being shown. It is aimed at showing that you are indeed a couple and are together. There are a lot of fake couple profiles on here. Many of us have very public facing and senior roles but take steps to show credibility and put viewers at ease that we’re authentic.
As long as you understand and accept how the factors those are mentioning are limiting your options, and like you say, you’re in no hurry to meet then all is well. Clubs and socials seem the most appropriate way for you to find what you’re looking for, and the person with the most criteria to meet leading the search will also help. I hope you find what you are looking for! It’s tonnes of fun when you do! Xx |
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"Understood.
Mr won’t put pics public due to very distinctive features and a very public facing career.
We always share privately of course. X
You may wish to hide the one with your face showing too? A picture of you both together with him in a suit or such will stop any defining features being shown. It is aimed at showing that you are indeed a couple and are together. There are a lot of fake couple profiles on here. Many of us have very public facing and senior roles but take steps to show credibility and put viewers at ease that we’re authentic.
As long as you understand and accept how the factors those are mentioning are limiting your options, and like you say, you’re in no hurry to meet then all is well. Clubs and socials seem the most appropriate way for you to find what you’re looking for, and the person with the most criteria to meet leading the search will also help. I hope you find what you are looking for! It’s tonnes of fun when you do! Xx"
Thanks and good advice.
Will be hiding that picture of the better half now.
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An interesting read with some great points.
We had some real success with private meet pre pandemic mostly single guys but that suites our dynamic. We've socialised with couples but like others struggle with that 3/4 way attraction and organising something around other commitments.
Post Pandemic we really struggled with Fab meets. No shows and time wasters mostly. We're spoilt with some great clubs in the South West so have been making the most of them but as someone said, we either get blanked or people don't approach us despite making the invite in Telegram groups and on here. Likewise we don't like to but in when we see people mid conversation. We've still had some great fun in the clubs but struggle to make the conversion to private meets or further meets. |
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