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"Mate it's definitely worth going to clubs, but go with the right attitude, treat it like going down the pub and having a social, don't get too pissed and don't have any expectations and you will have a great time,then if anything happens it's a bonus. " Thanks for the advice mate  | |||
"Yes, single guys are a welcome addition to clubs, as long as they are respectful and don't follow women/couples everywhere. Be near the social areas and talk to people. What Woman Want profile hold events for non members of vanilla alternative club, so this could be a good starting point for you OP. " I guess it's like being followed around by a zombie  Thanks for the advice with What women want profile, I'll look them up x | |||
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"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. " Crimson's advice is spot on | |||
"My wife always looks for guys looking nervous and sat of their own at a club We both vape and go into the smoking garden within 10 minutes she has invited single guys to come and sit with us I’ve even known her to invite two Within 20 minutes asking questions She’s invited them to play with us So don’t worry about going to a club alone! Someone will always find you It’s the cocky guys who just walk up and down pestering people we don’t like in a club " Thanks for this too, I'm so not cocky so hopefully I'll be accepted  I'm feeling much more confident about going now x | |||
"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. " I'm going to treat it like I was in a normal bar then, if I click with someone..great x | |||
"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. I'm going to treat it like I was in a normal bar then, if I click with someone..great x"That’s exactly the right approach. | |||
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"We go to clubs specifically for single guys - been days at VA where Char has had seven if them. Without single guys, we'd have no luck at clubs. (Bry)" She's amazing can't believe you don't get loads of offers  | |||
"Do your homework on the club and be a decent human being. Fab itself is inhabited by many transitional and badly behaved men. That being so it pretty much results in (almost) all single men being treated like scum on Fab. At a good club (not all by any means!) you'll be treated as you deserve to be based on your approach. Be friendly, patient and not pushy. Don't follow people around the building - even if others do. Stay close to the bar and not in a corner and stare. At the bar you'll have people come and go. Some will totally ignore you in case they 'catch single guy disease' and won't even give you as much as a smile or _ello. Others WILL give you a chance if you behave well, but worth bearing in mind that it takes time to build a good reputation and seconds to badly damage it. Behave as you would in the best of social situations and just be nice and interesting to know. NEVER wander around a playroom desperately - don't get too close to people without invite in there and NEVER help yourself in any way. Bear in mind you WILL be assumed to be bad news by a lot of people - couples in particular - no matter what you do, so you have to develop a somewhat thick skin. Don't let that damage your sensitivity to others body language and your perception of being unwelcome in any situation. Move away elsewhere if you sense negativity or hostility. Ending on a very positive note I've taken the time to build a good reputation by focusing on being myself in the few clubs I now go to. As a result I have the best time among those who know me, both socially and in terms of play. It's WAY more of a positive experience than you'll ever get on Fab and you'll get to feel like you're part of a community. On here you're going to be treated like dirt, by all but a tiny percentage. That's soul-destroying and can be damaging mentally, so go to a good club event where guys ARE genuinely welcome and you'll be taken on face value. Make an effort in the way you present yourself and you've every chance of acceptance. The odds are completely the opposite of those on Fab." Thanks for this excellent advice. Meeting people on FAB certainly is challenging!!! I was hoping that in a club people can see the real me and that I'm not fake. I will certainly use your sound advice from your experiences, be myself and if anyone wants to get to know me...bonus | |||
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"As a cuckold couple we do like to visit the odd club so Dee can play with single guys, perhaps two or three of them. We like to chat and get to know guys first, we hate the ‘meerkats’ that follow you around, very off putting. Our advice, just chat to couples or single ladies if there are any there and get involved that way rather than pestering people, which in our opinion doesn’t work." "Meeekats" is such an appropriate word. I've used it previously too, despite others' preference to call them the "walking zombies". BTW, the Mayor of London , I call him the "Mayorkat".He truly looks like a meerkat but if he wasn't so hated by so many, I wouldn't made fun of him. OP, very good advice here from couples and men with club experience. You look like a decent bloke , you'll be fine. Come back to tell us how it all went for you. Best of luck! | |||
"My wife always looks for guys looking nervous and sat of their own at a club We both vape and go into the smoking garden within 10 minutes she has invited single guys to come and sit with us I’ve even known her to invite two Within 20 minutes asking questions She’s invited them to play with us So don’t worry about going to a club alone! Someone will always find you It’s the cocky guys who just walk up and down pestering people we don’t like in a club " This really isn't the usual, as a single guy who is shy of approaching couple's. I wish it was more common | |||
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"Yes, single guys are a welcome addition to clubs, as long as they are respectful and don't follow women/couples everywhere. Be near the social areas and talk to people. What Woman Want profile hold events for non members of vanilla alternative club, so this could be a good starting point for you OP. " What Women want is the best event. Well, my fav anyway.. Great atmosphere, great ppl and perfect venue. Deffo worth getting in touch with the hosts. As others have said. Go with no expectation other than to mingle n chat with like minded ppl. Be yourself, be respectful and relax. I often say to single guys. Clubs are perfect for starting out and as long as you know how to behave, always welcome. You'll get to meet and make connections with others and if your lucky get invited to play. Or, if your feeling a vibe and connection, ask them if they would like to play. Just be respectful. And don't be put off if the 1st visit was a social. Keep visiting. I only have private meets with those I have met and spent time with in a club these days. Having already met them, I know the chemistry and connection is there means I know I'm not wasting any time and energy going through fab to try n find what I want. N | |||
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"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules. I assume not but thought I would check. " Depends on the club. Some will make you out phones away at reception (they take them off you), others allow you to have them but if they are used to take pictures in any public areas you would be ejected swiftly Personally I think most adults can be trusted and we often go to clubs that don’t ban phones so that we can take some pics of our scenes, but obviously we make sure no one else is in the shot or do it behind locked doors. That said I understand why some clubs do. As a small guide from our experience Not allowed to carry (hand in or keeping room). Xstasia Club F The Annex Allowed to carry: Penthouse Playrooms Attic Hellfire | |||
"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules. I assume not but thought I would check. " Abfabs you're not allowed the phones in the club but there is a little room in the women and couples changing/locker room where you allowed to use your phone , I guess there would also be one of these rooms in the male locker room too l, maybe | |||
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"It really all depends on your personality in clubs - if you’re the type that will proactively chat to people in pubs then you’ll be fine in clubs. If you stand there expecting someone to come over to you or you avoid eye contact then it’s least likely to happen. You don’t need to be the life and soul but you need to be able to chat to people. Also go with the intention of just making connections, even saying hi to people and coming across as friendly. If you don’t get asked to play this time, your actions may determine that you get considered next time. K" She's right! No two pubs are the same and neither are two nights at the same pub. Clubs are just like that. So try a club twice on different nights and see how the vibe is .... | |||
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Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining  | |||
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"I have signed up for www as my first experience of a club. Excited but also slightly unsure of protocol etc " Check out the club website for general etiquette. I think there’s a group chat for WWW before the event where you can pitch questions. Our advice is always the same; be a social butterfly, be remembered for good things, and don’t wank in the corner | |||
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"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? " Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend ! | |||
"Most are cattle markets where single men walk around like the living dead." ...carrying a stiffie in their hands. | |||
"Most are cattle markets where single men walk around like the living dead. ...carrying a stiffie in their hands." That’s optional | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? " Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend ! | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend !"But you have a financial interest in single guys attending your events? | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend !
But you have a financial interest in single guys attending your events?"Only respectful ones though. The type who touch without asking, silently follow people round or get too close put people off from attending - word soon gets round. | |||
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"I’ve heard single guys described as “the wanking dead” haha
Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining "It’s really easy to not be one. Not a fan of the “wanking dead” as a phrase as it does depend on the attitude and expectation of the wanker. There are those who stand close to you, having a wank from their scruffy boxers who think that because they have decided to get it out so close to you you will be only too pleased to give it a rub for them or let them join in. There are also the voyeurs, they are not the same, they are not actually looking for anything, they enjoy watching and having fun on their own. After our last visit to a club I (Mr) have decided that any guy who does the former will get a simple question from me…”do you want help with that”…if they say yes I am going to reach for their cock and see how quickly they back away.
PS my guess is clubs with membership and vetting of single guys are less likely to have single guys with bad reputations, thing is you are going to have to wait a while to make the membership for some of those clubs or the parties as they only let a certain number of guys pre book. | |||
I do say, if you’re looking to meet women, you’ll have more opportunities in your local Wetherspoons, and I stand by that, again, based on my experience of the clubs scene. That’s 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits btw….
The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.
Good luck if you do go fella  | |||
"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate. You can see from my verifications, that I am a well-thought of person in face to face meetings through Fab, and have built a nice group of friends I meet regularly with, from my years of being in Fab. I thought the club scene would be an interesting ‘extra’ to this fun side to life, and whilst I can say I’ve experienced an ‘alternative’ evening or two, I cannot honestly say I felt genuinely welcome as a guy on his own. On threads like these, it always makes me wonder how I managed to miss all those who comment how much they want to see single guys in clubs lol…..
I do say, if you’re looking to meet women, you’ll have more opportunities in your local Wetherspoons, and I stand by that, again, based on my experience of the clubs scene. That’s 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits btw….
The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.
Good luck if you do go fella "Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle! | |||
"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate. You can see from my verifications, that I am a well-thought of person in face to face meetings through Fab, and have built a nice group of friends I meet regularly with, from my years of being in Fab. I thought the club scene would be an interesting ‘extra’ to this fun side to life, and whilst I can say I’ve experienced an ‘alternative’ evening or two, I cannot honestly say I felt genuinely welcome as a guy on his own. On threads like these, it always makes me wonder how I managed to miss all those who comment how much they want to see single guys in clubs lol…..
I do say, if you’re looking to meet women, you’ll have more opportunities in your local Wetherspoons, and I stand by that, again, based on my experience of the clubs scene. That’s 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits btw….
The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.
Good luck if you do go fella
Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle!"Nobody can argue the ‘penis pound’ doesn’t subsidise these establishments, and the ‘wanking dead’ do exist mate, I have seen them, they are not difficult to spot, and therefore avoid. I just wish I could have made some genuine connections with all these ever so friendly, “we welcome single guys” clubs people. Fab is so much easier to find, and meet likeminded fun seekers, and I don’t have to travel miles, or pay gender-biased fees to do so | |||
"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate. You can see from my verifications, that I am a well-thought of person in face to face meetings through Fab, and have built a nice group of friends I meet regularly with, from my years of being in Fab. I thought the club scene would be an interesting ‘extra’ to this fun side to life, and whilst I can say I’ve experienced an ‘alternative’ evening or two, I cannot honestly say I felt genuinely welcome as a guy on his own. On threads like these, it always makes me wonder how I managed to miss all those who comment how much they want to see single guys in clubs lol…..
I do say, if you’re looking to meet women, you’ll have more opportunities in your local Wetherspoons, and I stand by that, again, based on my experience of the clubs scene. That’s 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits btw….
The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.
Good luck if you do go fella
Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle!
Nobody can argue the ‘penis pound’ doesn’t subsidise these establishments, and the ‘wanking dead’ do exist mate, I have seen them, they are not difficult to spot, and therefore avoid.
I just wish I could have made some genuine connections with all these ever so friendly, “we welcome single guys” clubs people. Fab is so much easier to find, and meet likeminded fun seekers, and I don’t have to travel miles, or pay gender-biased fees to do so "Until covid I was a regular club attendee as a single chap. Never quite joined the wanking dead fraternity but I understand where you are coming from or at least where the wanking dead were! The club scene has for me lost its appeal in so far as age has probably excluded me from the mix as there are lots of younger more buff models for others to choose to be invited into a private room at the top of the stairs! That said my experience suggests that most single chaps in clubs are polite respectful and reserved in their interactions. Am I looking through rosed coloured spectacles? | |||
"I’ve heard single guys described as “the wanking dead” haha
Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining
It’s really easy to not be one.
Not a fan of the “wanking dead” as a phrase as it does depend on the attitude and expectation of the wanker.
There are those who stand close to you, having a wank from their scruffy boxers who think that because they have decided to get it out so close to you you will be only too pleased to give it a rub for them or let them join in.
There are also the voyeurs, they are not the same, they are not actually looking for anything, they enjoy watching and having fun on their own.
After our last visit to a club I (Mr) have decided that any guy who does the former will get a simple question from me…”do you want help with that”…if they say yes I am going to reach for their cock and see how quickly they back away.
PS my guess is clubs with membership and vetting of single guys are less likely to have single guys with bad reputations, thing is you are going to have to wait a while to make the membership for some of those clubs or the parties as they only let a certain number of guys pre book."Cheers for in insightful feedback 
I really do fancy trying out a club 1 day but the mixed feedback I hear from friends & club reviews has been a turn off. And fact I do well meeting outside clubs  I’ve not really seen the massive appear of attending. But to tick off the bucket list I will take the plunge as proceed as advised by the masses | |||
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"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. " This is great advice, came on here to say the same thing. Going to a social first will take the pressure off as few opportunities for play. Mrs SW | |||
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"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. " Ooooh, brilliant idea I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!
Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when? | |||
"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules. I assume not but thought I would check. " Only if you want to phone a friend? | |||
"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. Ooooh, brilliant idea I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!
Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"Think they mean just social meets close to where the club is, in vanilla settings (pubs/bars etc). Normally a fair few advertised in meets/events. Doesn’t guarantee that those attending socials will be at clubs, we tend to travel out of area for clubs, but in places where they have a lot of clubs (midlands you lucky buggers) there will probably be a fair few in attendance at both. | |||
"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. Ooooh, brilliant idea I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!
Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"It is normally just Fab users who organise socials, not clubs. But saying that, as far as I'm aware, Penthouse Playrooms in Dunstable organises social events regularly, I think on a Thursday evening? Not every Thursday though. Also, there is a very well organised and attended Bedford Social organised by Holy Fuck Sticks Batman, next one in November. I'd suggest contacting them, if you're interested, to see if they still have any spaces left for single men (those go very fast). And there is an organised group visit to Vanilla Alternative afterwards, for those who wish to attend. | |||
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"I have signed up for www as my first experience of a club. Excited but also slightly unsure of protocol etc " Hi N here. If its your 1st time at WWW, you should have received an invite to a telegram chat for it. It's a great ice breaker and chance to get to make connections, so deffo worth joining. Just be warned, it gets busy and hard to keep up with lol. If you haven't been added, message hosts and they will add you on. There's also a social the night before. Message me and I'm happy to share details. As many have already said. Go with no expectations, be yourself, polite, respectful and approachable. Www loves single guys and welcome them. Lots of couples looking for you and single ladies too. | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend !"I attended your last Sheer Indulgence night a couple of weeks ago. I went without hubby and had a great evening. Met two lovely single guys who are a tag team.. Both very respectful, polite, non pushy and I had a great evening. We chatted in the bar for some time before play. And they were exactly how single guys should behave. They had the right attitude and respect to others. | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend !"All I’ve ever hoped for, when I’ve visited a swinger club, is to feel welcome, and potentially meet some friendly people genuinely interested in a new face to the club. Perhaps it’s time to look further afield, than the NW/NE…..  | |||
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"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. " Exactly that, we hated our only mixed club night visit, really put us off , we have stuck to couples and single fem nights only. Can be be very intimidating when they are in pack hunting mode. | |||
we want to attend a club but hearing stories like that is massively off putting and IS R.a.p.e, I know if that happened to me then my husband would soon be trying to take his head off his shoulders. Respect and common decency go a long way | |||
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"That is awful we want to attend a club but hearing stories like that is massively off putting and IS R.a.p.e, I know if that happened to me then my husband would soon be trying to take his head off his shoulders. Respect and common decency go a long way"The staff at clubs we have been to will always deal with the very minority of problem guys. Also all clubs make it very clear CONSENT is key. Think there are normally only a couple of rooms where you give up that right. The dark room, male glory holes and grope boxes. They are designed for those who want that. Female glory holes are generally different as your partner can stand on one side and control the crowd. Again if overwhelmed just stop whatever is happening and call for staff. Also most other guests will also be willing to help by getting staff for you. | |||
"Mate it's definitely worth going to clubs, but go with the right attitude, treat it like going down the pub and having a social, don't get too pissed and don't have any expectations and you will have a great time,then if anything happens it's a bonus. " Couldn't agree more. We like to see single guys at clubs.but as has been said don't have any expectations. Just go and chat to people normally,like you would in your local.the only difference is you will probably be semi naked and surrounded by people in lingerie or semi naked. But it's a great place to meet people with similar interests and make connections. | |||
"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. Exactly that, we hated our only mixed club night visit, really put us off , we have stuck to couples and single fem nights only. Can be be very intimidating when they are in pack hunting mode. " Agreed 100%. Despite being a single guy myself I've seen this in certain clubs in the past. As a result I no longer attend places where this happens. That being so the last time I witnessed it was at Xtasia, where the security guys (very friendly and professional) dealt with it immediately. Any guy worth his salt won't want anything to do with the kind of morons who are disrespectful and/or don't know how to behave in social situations. Far too many are tolerated in clubs. The clubs who do never see my money again. | |||
"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple. Don’t be a creep. You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere. And just remember a lot of us single ladies are friends, we look out for each other, we talk, we have WhatsApp groups where we share info about guys that are pushy,, arseholes, rude etc. piss one of us and you ruin your chances with the rest of us. " Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. | |||
"As a single guy, it’s always nice knowing we’re welcome. I stand by life morals which is born from respect. Respect privacy, be normal, don’t be a stalker, defo no touching without an invite. Generally not being a dick. " Love this - absolutely on the money! | |||
"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. Ooooh, brilliant idea I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!
Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"They may do but just look for socials in the general area | |||
" Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. " You think they don't? | |||
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"I'm keen to try the clubs too, its that initial hurdle of walking in that's daunting. Hoping to try when back from holidays " Choose a single guy friendly and club, then tell them that you are shy. Ask to be introduced to the regulars... | |||
" Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. You think they don't? " They don't share that with us blokes  | |||
"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!!" I tried there quite some time ago. I stayed by the bar and tried to be sociable in a relaxed kind of way and got pretty much ignored by what seemed like a very clicquey and insular group that were there. It was quite a while ago mind you. It felt really good to start with as the staff on the door were very welcoming, but that's where it ended. Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.
May need to give it another try. | |||
" Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. You think they don't? " I have no clue, but you only tend to hear the bad stories about single guys - never the good ones......and there are plenty of great guys among the badly behaved morons. I know quite a few from Libs. | |||
"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!! I tried there quite some time ago. I stayed by the bar and tried to be sociable in a relaxed kind of way and got pretty much ignored by what seemed like a very clicquey and insular group that were there. It was quite a while ago mind you. It felt really good to start with as the staff on the door were very welcoming, but that's where it ended. Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.
May need to give it another try. "Bar area at Jaydees is never the best place to socialise. The music is already playing and there isn't that much space there. Kitchen is much better, or the social room, or the massive hot tub . | |||
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"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!! I tried there quite some time ago. I stayed by the bar and tried to be sociable in a relaxed kind of way and got pretty much ignored by what seemed like a very clicquey and insular group that were there. It was quite a while ago mind you. It felt really good to start with as the staff on the door were very welcoming, but that's where it ended. Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.
May need to give it another try.
Bar area at Jaydees is never the best place to socialise. The music is already playing and there isn't that much space there. Kitchen is much better, or the social room, or the massive hot tub . "Thanks for that. Never easy on a first time visit as you're always an 'unknown', but it's the first time I've ever had the experience of being totally alone all night. Been reticent to return as a result. I know many will just think 'typical single bloke', but I'm a fairly regular visitor to Libs due to it being on my doorstep and have always felt welcome there. Appreciate it takes time to get known though. | |||
"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys. Last visit ended very positively. Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men” Guys your behaviour is up to you. H (m) " | |||
"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August. What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? " go jaydeees , its near you | |||
"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys. Last visit ended very positively. Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men” Guys your behaviour is up to you. H (m) "A simple “may I” goes a long way, respectful men are always welcome to say _ello. We don’t expect touching etc without asking, and certainly anyone who doesn’t understand no aught to be removed from the club. Otherwise our last review of hellfire complimented the single men for their respect. | |||
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"We love single guys, but it's off putting when some start to just stalk around the place without ever chatting to anyone x" The absolute worst, along with guys following, or going into a playroom and wanking, thinking that's a really good idea in order to impress! | |||
"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx" Great shout - I've made a good few male friends - some single, some part of a couple - this way. It's not just about getting laid. Some guys don't get that. | |||
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"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.." Do it - but don't go just because a place is on your doorstep. Go because you've done your homework and the place fits with the kind of environment you want to be in....everywhere's different. I've never looked back since starting to go to Libs. A good club is fantastic for single guys, IF you behave with class. It's also not the desert Fab can be. | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.." Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H" Sadly, the guys who really do need to know that and take that advice to heart don't read forum  | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H Sadly, the guys who really do need to know that and take that advice to heart don't read forum "Very true! | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H" Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go. That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour. | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go. That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour." Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here…. I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up. Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights. The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in. Clubs want single guys (and all guests) to behave themselves, and yes I know not all guys are alike but in our experience there are two types of issues that arise at clubs, couples arguing/falling out with each other and leaving early, and guys pestering or worse. If the price is set at a level where a guy won’t want to risk being thrown out then hopefully most (and the majority do) will behave not wanting to waste their hard earned cash on a half hour in a club where they couldn’t keep their hands to themselves and end up being thrown out. But I don’t think single guys subsidise clubs far from it as is seen by the amount of clubs that don’t allow single guys, or only on one night a week. If they were so desperate for the income they would charge less and have more of them in. | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go. That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour. Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here…. I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up. Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights. The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in. Clubs want single guys (and all guests) to behave themselves, and yes I know not all guys are alike but in our experience there are two types of issues that arise at clubs, couples arguing/falling out with each other and leaving early, and guys pestering or worse. If the price is set at a level where a guy won’t want to risk being thrown out then hopefully most (and the majority do) will behave not wanting to waste their hard earned cash on a half hour in a club where they couldn’t keep their hands to themselves and end up being thrown out. But I don’t think single guys subsidise clubs far from it as is seen by the amount of clubs that don’t allow single guys, or only on one night a week. If they were so desperate for the income they would charge less and have more of them in." How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club? | |||
" How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club?" Zero for the Attic (that’s same for everyone). Think the Blackpool clubs are similar. Others it depends, we don’t join them on first visit unless it’s reasonable. So only go to the nights where membership isn’t required or isn’t prohibitive to the cost of the night. So we joined Xstasia, and yes it’s a lifetime membership for £20 i think, maybe £30. And I know all clubs are different and some are annual for single guys. But again it’s their decision and they’ve made that decision for a reason not necessarily financial. | |||
" How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club? Zero for the Attic (that’s same for everyone). Think the Blackpool clubs are similar. Others it depends, we don’t join them on first visit unless it’s reasonable. So only go to the nights where membership isn’t required or isn’t prohibitive to the cost of the night. So we joined Xstasia, and yes it’s a lifetime membership for £20 i think, maybe £30. And I know all clubs are different and some are annual for single guys. But again it’s their decision and they’ve made that decision for a reason not necessarily financial." Let me tell you as a pretty seasoned club goer the membership charge got a single bloke is between £50 and £75 plus entrance fee. On subsequent visits that entrance fee is double the cost of a couple and treble that of a single lady if they are charged at all. Without single guys these clubs don’t stack up. With regards to etiquette and behaviour I refer you to my previous comments. | |||
"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.. Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely. If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread. H Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go. That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour. Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here…. I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up. Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights. The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in. Clubs want single guys (and all guests) to behave themselves, and yes I know not all guys are alike but in our experience there are two types of issues that arise at clubs, couples arguing/falling out with each other and leaving early, and guys pestering or worse. If the price is set at a level where a guy won’t want to risk being thrown out then hopefully most (and the majority do) will behave not wanting to waste their hard earned cash on a half hour in a club where they couldn’t keep their hands to themselves and end up being thrown out. But I don’t think single guys subsidise clubs far from it as is seen by the amount of clubs that don’t allow single guys, or only on one night a week. If they were so desperate for the income they would charge less and have more of them in." Sorry, but you're (almost) completely wrong. It's a common argument from couples who enjoy the benefits of clubs wanting/needing their demographic there more than any other. Almost every point in your argument, while in defence of the clubs benefits couples, so it naturally follows that many couples will want the status quo. I know many good guys who will no longer attend a club where they're disrespected from the get go. That leaves those clubs to replace them with less well-behaved/unknown men, who are only there to 'get laid', rather than those who buy into the lifestyle. Personally I've stopped attending six of the eight clubs I used to frequent. Those clubs will never see the colour of my money again - and they report more issues with single guys than others. This is largely due to entitlement of classless guys who believe they've 'paid for' more than just entry. I sincerely hope they continue to have those issues, unless they rethink their business plans. The club events I now regularly attend at the remaining clubs screen single guys well before a first visit, during their first few nights attending and ban those who misbehave - including single women and couples. Clubs who just want the money will never do this - and both they and those who are effectively subsidised will continue to get what they (don't) pay for. Ripping men off creates entitlement among those who aren't committed to the lifestyle and in turn make for bad nights at those clubs. Good guys won't want to be around that behaviour, so will go elsewhere. ......and the disparity in price IS huge. It makes no sense for two people to enter for way less than the price of one. Liberty Elite now have a Sunday event where everyone pays the same - i.e. couples pay twice as much as a single male/female and as a result people still go. It's also a beautifully chilled event. I bet many couples won't go to a club where THEY pay twice as much as a single guy - AND would be affronted at doing so. Entitlement exists in all demographics, just in different ways. In the end the bottom line is that you get what you deserve in a club. Screen guys better and you get quality re-attenders who's reputations are sound. Keep ripping us off and we'll vote with our feet, leaving you with unknowns/occasional or entitled, badly behaved single guys. To give final proof the places I go now have a lot more single ladies attending, because they know they're safe- and surrounded by gentlemen. | |||
"We find arranging to meet a guy at a club is a great filter in itself. If they don’t have the confidence to attend a club they aren’t going to have the confidence we are looking for as an addition to our fun. When we are at a club an engaging attitude at the bar and a respectful one in play areas usually leads to a lot of fun for all…" Totally agree. | |||
"We find arranging to meet a guy at a club is a great filter in itself. If they don’t have the confidence to attend a club they aren’t going to have the confidence we are looking for as an addition to our fun. When we are at a club an engaging attitude at the bar and a respectful one in play areas usually leads to a lot of fun for all… Totally agree." Seconded! | |||
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"W is fond of another gent joining us for a MFM. We prefer to find guys via their profile on Fabs first of all, but (as it says clearly on our profile the first meet is always at a club). This first filtering allows us to interface with a guy who most nearly meets Ws wants and preferences. However, no matter who we are conversing with we always give the same disclaimer "We neither give nor expect any promises of play". So we could meet up with a guy in a club after chatting on Fabs and something isn't quite right so it goes no further. Of course he could find us not what he wants either. So then we'd say thanks but no thanks politely and either leave the club or talk to others there in the hope of finding a more suitable partner." As a single guy who started off on Fab as part of a couple I'd absolutely endorse this. | |||
. I (Kaz) takes the lead if I see a guy that catches my eye and we make contact. The type of guys we like are around our own age group, looking like they have made an effort and smelling gorgeous. If they are in tracksuits or scruffy clothes thats an absolute no go..to be honest we would avoid any establishments that would allow this. I love male scents..an aphrodisac for me so great hygeine and a lovely male scent is a must to grab my attention. The guy needs to be friendly and not too pushy..it is a balance to get the right vibe for all of us. | |||
"When we go to clubs it is in the hope of meeting a couple or a single guy or a mixture . I (Kaz) takes the lead if I see a guy that catches my eye and we make contact. The type of guys we like are around our own age group, looking like they have made an effort and smelling gorgeous. If they are in tracksuits or scruffy clothes thats an absolute no go..to be honest we would avoid any establishments that would allow this. I love male scents..an aphrodisac for me so great hygeine and a lovely male scent is a must to grab my attention. The guy needs to be friendly and not too pushy..it is a balance to get the right vibe for all of us. "Sounds like the perfect approach. For me as a single guy I think we (men) need to make an effort to impress, which means making an effort. That's why I don't go to 'dress down' clubs. It's nice to be able to feel good, rather than stand there in a towel. | |||
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"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple. Don’t be a creep. You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere. And just remember a lot of us single ladies are friends, we look out for each other, we talk, we have WhatsApp groups where we share info about guys that are pushy,, arseholes, rude etc. piss one of us and you ruin your chances with the rest of us. Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. " Errr we do. I never said we didn’t. | |||
"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple. Don’t be a creep. You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere. And just remember a lot of us single ladies are friends, we look out for each other, we talk, we have WhatsApp groups where we share info about guys that are pushy,, arseholes, rude etc. piss one of us and you ruin your chances with the rest of us. Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. Errr we do. I never said we didn’t. " No you didn't. It was my assumption, based purely on 'feel'. | |||
"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx" Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..
Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..
What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place….. | |||
"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..
Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..
What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place….. "Think you may be onto something in some respects - it's been noticeable that less singles are going to the places I frequent over the last few months, both male and female. Wonder how the so-called friendly faces will react when their memberships and entrance fees go through the roof once they've frozen out the singles once and for all. It's my strongest opinion that very few of these 'friendly, welcoming faces' actually exist. It's delusional and an act. I've seen people who proclaim themselves to be so, ignore newbie faces all the time - never something as even looking in their direction, unless they want to pounce on them for their own ends. | |||
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"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..
Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..
What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place…..
Think you may be onto something in some respects - it's been noticeable that less singles are going to the places I frequent over the last few months, both male and female. Wonder how the so-called friendly faces will react when their memberships and entrance fees go through the roof once they've frozen out the singles once and for all.
It's my strongest opinion that very few of these 'friendly, welcoming faces' actually exist. It's delusional and an act. I've seen people who proclaim themselves to be so, ignore newbie faces all the time - never something as even looking in their direction, unless they want to pounce on them for their own ends. "Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club. We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat. My biggest thing with single males in clubs is the following around and not chatting. You’re more likely to get action by talking than following wanking. You lads pay top price on entrance (don’t agree with the differential between S/F and S/M but not my rules) I’d have thought chatting nicely is the better approach. Not my money but worth a thought. Mr | |||
"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..
Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..
What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place…..
Think you may be onto something in some respects - it's been noticeable that less singles are going to the places I frequent over the last few months, both male and female. Wonder how the so-called friendly faces will react when their memberships and entrance fees go through the roof once they've frozen out the singles once and for all.
It's my strongest opinion that very few of these 'friendly, welcoming faces' actually exist. It's delusional and an act. I've seen people who proclaim themselves to be so, ignore newbie faces all the time - never something as even looking in their direction, unless they want to pounce on them for their own ends.
Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club.
We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat.
My biggest thing with single males in clubs is the following around and not chatting. You’re more likely to get action by talking than following wanking. You lads pay top price on entrance (don’t agree with the differential between S/F and S/M but not my rules) I’d have thought chatting nicely is the better approach. Not my money but worth a thought.
Mr"I was very lucky when I first got into the lifestyle as I was part of a couple, with her being tall, blonde and gorgeous, so needless to say we weren't short of attention. When I rejoined as a single guy I got lucky again in that a group of fabulous ladies brought me into their group straight away - and I've never looked back. As a result I'm extremely aware if new people and absolutely make a beeline to make them welcome, then.leavethem to go their own way after introducing them to a few people. I also see many people act like new folks aren't there. Like you I'd agree that's not just single fellas, but couples and single ladies too. At the same time plenty of people say they make others welcome and/or are approachable, but it's just noise without action, with them literally ignoring newbies. It's my belief that we should ALL do our bit once we're established ourselves. We were all new once. | |||
Just remember that no two nights will be the same so see how your first one goes, get a vibe what's it like and if you enjoy yourself, book yourself another trip afters
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"We go to clubs specifically for single guys - been days at VA where Char has had seven if them. Without single guys, we'd have no luck at clubs. (Bry)" Your an amazing couple, anyone would be lucky to meet you both in my opinion. | |||
"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with. People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..
Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..
What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place…..
Think you may be onto something in some respects - it's been noticeable that less singles are going to the places I frequent over the last few months, both male and female. Wonder how the so-called friendly faces will react when their memberships and entrance fees go through the roof once they've frozen out the singles once and for all.
It's my strongest opinion that very few of these 'friendly, welcoming faces' actually exist. It's delusional and an act. I've seen people who proclaim themselves to be so, ignore newbie faces all the time - never something as even looking in their direction, unless they want to pounce on them for their own ends.
Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club.
We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat.
My biggest thing with single males in clubs is the following around and not chatting. You’re more likely to get action by talking than following wanking. You lads pay top price on entrance (don’t agree with the differential between S/F and S/M but not my rules) I’d have thought chatting nicely is the better approach. Not my money but worth a thought.
Mr"The difference with being ignored as a couple by the EGOF’s (they don’t like the term cliques) and regulars is; at least you have each other to chat with. The walls close in on you very quickly as a solo guy, when you can get any chat going. I’ve never been ignored when part of a couple, but often felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s cloak of invisibility when in by myself. I’m the same ‘me’ in either case though…..
I get the “no two nights are the same”, but if you went to a greengrocer, and they sold you rotten veg, would you go back for more……? | |||
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"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys. Last visit ended very positively. Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men” Guys your behaviour is up to you. H (m)
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"We were in Chams once and I had a nice play with the female half of a couple, that woman said to another couple, entering the room "Beware if he says, may I?", giggling with a very naughty-post-orgasm grin on her face. These two words are my go-to. Proof that word of mouth is a real thing in clubs | |||
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"I tend not to go to clubs now if I'm going as a single guy. I'm never sure whether I'm mithering if I approach a single lady or a couple. I am a single guy but if tne number of single guys in clubs is managed to a degree I don't that better. Still love a club visit but only if I'm going with someone now. Happy fabbing everyone " Very similar here mate, I doubt I will ever visit another club as a solo guy. I am revisiting a NW club soon, that I’ve been to before solo, but this time going as a couple, and will report back honestly, without bias, how I/we get on….. | |||
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"If you’re a single guy that is bi. Just to a gay sauna club indeed. Much easier and better recepted " Why would a bi guy need to go to a gay sauna? I’m straight, yet I get offers from bi/gay and ‘Fab straight’ guys daily in here. Bi guys must be having the best time in Fab…. | |||
"I tend not to go to clubs now if I'm going as a single guy. I'm never sure whether I'm mithering if I approach a single lady or a couple. I am a single guy but if tne number of single guys in clubs is managed to a degree I don't that better. Still love a club visit but only if I'm going with someone now. Happy fabbing everyone " Shame you say you won't be going back. We personally love being spoken to and approached by single guys. So many don't and just stay lurking or the opposite and hope following a couple around will work. For us... chat to us at the pool table, laugh and I think a clear yes or no is asking what they're looking for or even if they fancy a play now or later. K X | |||
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"As a cuckold couple we do like to visit the odd club so Dee can play with single guys, perhaps two or three of them. We like to chat and get to know guys first, we hate the ‘meerkats’ that follow you around, very off putting. Our advice, just chat to couples or single ladies if there are any there and get involved that way rather than pestering people, which in our opinion doesn’t work. "Meeekats" is such an appropriate word. I've used it previously too, despite others' preference to call them the "walking zombies". BTW, the Mayor of London , I call him the "Mayorkat".He truly looks like a meerkat but if he wasn't so hated by so many, I wouldn't made fun of him. OP, very good advice here from couples and men with club experience. You look like a decent bloke , you'll be fine. Come back to tell us how it all went for you. Best of luck!" Why on earth would you bring your Tommy Robinson politics on here? He is an elected Mayor, meaning majority of those who voted, voted for him so he is not hated by everyone! Next time please leave your Cult disciple politics out of this page | |||
