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Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee |
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No.
Because each party could still be meeting in between.
They may not have waited over 2 weeks to test and therefore irrelevant….
Not unless in a “real” relationship.
But i am known to be very over the top with STI safety ha |
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Really depends on the situation and people, but generally we only play with protection and insist on seeing recent full panel STI test results as a minimum.
To play bare we would want to verify those we are playing with are trustworthy and have a detailed knowledge of STIs and the risk awareness, amongst other things. |
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"No.
Because each party could still be meeting in between.
They may not have waited over 2 weeks to test and therefore irrelevant….
Not unless in a “real” relationship.
But i am known to be very over the top with STI safety ha "
Yes for the same reasons! |
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"Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee"
Your profile is great btw! |
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"No.
Because each party could still be meeting in between.
They may not have waited over 2 weeks to test and therefore irrelevant….
Not unless in a “real” relationship.
But i am known to be very over the top with STI safety ha "
I think that’s fair enough and you’re right. I wish STIs weren’t a thing! |
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"No.
Because each party could still be meeting in between.
They may not have waited over 2 weeks to test and therefore irrelevant….
Not unless in a “real” relationship.
But i am known to be very over the top with STI safety ha "
I think I this is I poetant. The relationship and reliability of the test.
You don't sound over the top you sound cautious and there nothing wrong with that. |
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I have previously. Depends on who, the circumstances around it, and all that jazz. If it's someone I know fairly well then I've no issue with it. If it's someone new unless I've built up a decent trust with them then it's probably less likely...
However! All of that said. I have tested regularly, and consistently over the past decade since venturing on to Fab. Prior to that I had tested before, but it was way less often. And I'm my 20s/early 30s I'll be honest and say I gave it minimal thought. Often safe sex, sometimes not! |
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"Really depends on the situation and people, but generally we only play with protection and insist on seeing recent full panel STI test results as a minimum.
To play bare we would want to verify those we are playing with are trustworthy and have a detailed knowledge of STIs and the risk awareness, amongst other things."
I can understand that. No one has ever asked to see my STI results despite the fact my profile says I’m happy to share them. It’s nice to hear about people testing and sharing their results. |
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"Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee
Your profile is great btw! "
Thank you! I was looking at yours the other day  You’ve very welcome to drop us a line if you’d like to. X |
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STD tests aren't 100% accurate. False-negatives can occur, especially if you don't wait long enough after your most recent sexual encounter before testing. Pregnancy is also an issue.
Screenshots/photocopies of STD test results can also very easily be faked, so you'd need a reliable way of knowing that the results you've seen are genuine.
For first meets, I think it's an unwise decision. But once you've met someone a few times socially or otherwise you would have had enough time to gauge their trustworthiness. Then you can trust that their test results are genuine. |
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"Really depends on the situation and people, but generally we only play with protection and insist on seeing recent full panel STI test results as a minimum.
To play bare we would want to verify those we are playing with are trustworthy and have a detailed knowledge of STIs and the risk awareness, amongst other things.
I can understand that. No one has ever asked to see my STI results despite the fact my profile says I’m happy to share them. It’s nice to hear about people testing and sharing their results. "
We think sharing results should be a required thing before any play, even with protection, but we're quite strict with how we do it. |
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We are all about safe sex ourselves and test regularly, however 5 months ago we met our unicorn and since then all come to an agreement we would test and then only play unprotected between ourselves. None of us play with others, and if we do would be all together and safe 
So yes guess in the right situation with the right person, with proper boundaries set we would play un protected |
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Personally I feel the real risk is more that when people do test (which of course they should!). That it's not an accurate reflection really. Someone could test every 6,4,2wks. But until it hits 12wks it's not necessarily going to pick up say Syphilis which tests should be done at 12wks. Then there's the limitations of tests themselves, as only the core 4 are tested for generally, unless you ask at a GUM clinic for more. Then there's the issue of things they cannot test for, herpes is a good example of this.
Add into that that tests can (although rarely) give false pos/neg results. Or folk balls up on their home tests (normally inconclusive then tho). And some tests you can buy off the Internet such as the non lab ones, aren't recommended...
It's a minefield!
But then condoms can break, don't cover all skin surfaces, some sti's are transmitted via skin contact alone...
If you live in a constant state of fear you'd just never have sex again  |
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"STD tests aren't 100% accurate. False-negatives can occur, especially if you don't wait long enough after your most recent sexual encounter before testing. Pregnancy is also an issue.
Screenshots/photocopies of STD test results can also very easily be faked, so you'd need a reliable way of knowing that the results you've seen are genuine.
For first meets, I think it's an unwise decision. But once you've met someone a few times socially or otherwise you would have had enough time to gauge their trustworthiness. Then you can trust that their test results are genuine."
Very much agreed with all these points, a lot of people also don't understand that STIs can be transmitted even when protection is used (condoms, dental dams etc). Also a fair amount of people don't seem to understand incubation periods either.
Plus things can still slip through even with those who follow all possible precautions and test regularly. |
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Ironically my last GUM clinic trip was due to someone I knew well, we'd both exchanged test results. All that great stuff, and then said they were showing symptoms a week later after we had sex 
So, as I'm up in the stirrups with the nurse having a good rummage, waffling on about my last smear being HPV neg within the past 6mths, the tests I had took, how often I test blah blah. She's all 'Oh, you sound really clued up, are you are nurse?'... I'm all I'm clearly not that bloody clued up as I'm here 
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Being totally honest I have played unprotected but only when me and the play mate have been tested and not played since the test. But also their partner - almost exclusively play with couples. Also that they are not playing unprotected with anyone else. But I have been lucky to be playing long term as the couples only play mate and them mine. That isn’t compatible with others quantity over quality aim.
For years now I have been tested every 4 months and played safe in between.
No issues so far |
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"Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee
Your profile is great btw!
Thank you! I was looking at yours the other day You’ve very welcome to drop us a line if you’d like to. X "
Is that to me?
If so, I can't because I don't have a profile pic - but would be happy to send you one! Also, if this wasn't for me - I'm blushing lol! |
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And following from the above my tests are not at home I go to a private fertility clinic and it is part of the service so in their interest to test throughly and by a nurse with a doctor follow up. |
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"Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee
Your profile is great btw!
Thank you! I was looking at yours the other day You’ve very welcome to drop us a line if you’d like to. X
Is that to me?
If so, I can't because I don't have a profile pic - but would be happy to send you one! Also, if this wasn't for me - I'm blushing lol! "
Hahahha. It was to you! I’ll message you and then you’ll be able to message back. |
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Yes but following a few criteria
1. We've met before and comfortable be honest.
2. Not playing with others
3. 2-4 week pause between other partners and testing
4. Regular testing prior to this
I have been been lucky to meet two couples I've had this relationship with. |
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"Hi all
Would you be willing to do STI tests, share the results and then fuck bare?
I’d love to say I’m asking for a friend but… I’m asking for me!
Yes, 100% if you'd be willing to genuinely prove the tests xx
I’m interested in people’s opinions and where people draw their own boundaries.
Dee"
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