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Struggling to get a meet!
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OP you've only been on here 8 weeks.
I would suggest adjusting your expectations and writing more on your profile.
Women will usually look at a profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. Yours says very little, and you need to sell yourself.
Honestly, clubs and socials are often a better option than relying on Fab. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 23 weeks ago
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"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!
Any tips?!"
Do you think it's actually down to the amount of other blokes on here.....or something else?
Otherwise logic says every guy would be in the same boat as you and none of them would get a meet. |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!
Any tips?!
Do you think it's actually down to the amount of other blokes on here.....or something else?
Otherwise logic says every guy would be in the same boat as you and none of them would get a meet. "
Good question! I guess I’m trying to see if others are struggling, but searching the forums, they don’t seem to be.
Feedback taken on profile, so I’ve updated. We’ll see!
Hopefully I’ll start to stand out more  |
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"OP you've only been on here 8 weeks.
I would suggest adjusting your expectations and writing more on your profile.
Women will usually look at a profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. Yours says very little, and you need to sell yourself.
Honestly, clubs and socials are often a better option than relying on Fab."
Agree with the last sentence. Get yourself along to socials and clubs in your area. I wish I had done that when I first joined Fab.
Socials are fun and you can get to know the people there and if you share interests. |
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By *ucka39Man 23 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Hiya op
Amount of guys on here compared to women and couples it's not a ratio thing
Effort, creating the profile
Decent smartly dressed photos
Information within the bio that is going to grasp someone attention
Use as much as possible from the site, don't just rely on messages
Use the forum |
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I think the word is - perseverance!
As a single guy on here you need to somehow make yourself interesting and also come across as worth meeting
It can be done - I am an old guy but I manage to meet and enjoy good times on fab
But I chat to people a lot on here and make myself available for meets etc
You need to work at it  |
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Townhouse isn't too far and has a phenomenal reputation. But research clubs to find those for your budget and service requirements.
It's not being a man that stops you, that's just a challenge to overcome. Read posts giving profile and strategy tips |
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"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!
Any tips?!"
get yourself to a social it will help you get to know more people |
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Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink 
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Been and came back on here a couple times detail profile loads of pics cam verified and I still got turned down more times then a thermostat so came back and kept it brief makes no difference |
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By *ucka39Man 23 weeks ago
Newcastle |
"Been and came back on here a couple times detail profile loads of pics cam verified and I still got turned down more times then a thermostat so came back and kept it brief makes no difference "
Hiya
Maybe add loads of photos over a period of time. Spreading this out when the site is more active |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x"
I saw. You massive winker  |
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"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x
I saw. You massive winker "
Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."? |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x
I saw. You massive winker
Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."? "
Was meant to point out your perviness |
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"Come on. No one actually meets from fab. We meet people through recommendations, clubs and socials. Then we keep in touch via fab. Very very few people have come into our lives from fab alone x"
We've met loads of people just through Fab. Just takes a little effort. |
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Go to clubs, socials and parties.
Don't expect to immediately have a lot of sex as that isn't the only aspect of swinging.
Once you start to get recognised socially, you may find opportunities arise. |
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"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!
Any tips?!"
Three main issues
1) Yes your're a bloke competing with thousands of others all vying for the same attention of couples and females which is a much smaller pool
2) Most couples do not want to meet single men, and women are often overloaded with messages as per point one so standing out from the crowd is imperative.
3) We've discovered there's loads on here who say one thing on their profile and then don't back it up. Seems a lot on here love the idea of swinging, sharing pictures etc but don't want to physically do it. |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!
Any tips?!
Three main issues
1) Yes your're a bloke competing with thousands of others all vying for the same attention of couples and females which is a much smaller pool
2) Most couples do not want to meet single men, and women are often overloaded with messages as per point one so standing out from the crowd is imperative.
3) We've discovered there's loads on here who say one thing on their profile and then don't back it up. Seems a lot on here love the idea of swinging, sharing pictures etc but don't want to physically do it."
Thanks for the tips x |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Go to clubs, socials and parties.
Don't expect to immediately have a lot of sex as that isn't the only aspect of swinging.
Once you start to get recognised socially, you may find opportunities arise."
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You have to establish what do you expect from here.
Lifestyle is not ( for most) ons on short notice.
I'm a woman, and I rarely met, it takes months to finesse the expierience, agree to all important things find suitable date and time etc. Find suitable people, in the end I want the expierience to be absolute best, to add to my great espieriences and not to be a fuck and forgotten within a week.
If it is a hook up you are after, you might generally struggle. |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"You have to establish what do you expect from here.
Lifestyle is not ( for most) ons on short notice.
I'm a woman, and I rarely met, it takes months to finesse the expierience, agree to all important things find suitable date and time etc. Find suitable people, in the end I want the expierience to be absolute best, to add to my great espieriences and not to be a fuck and forgotten within a week.
If it is a hook up you are after, you might generally struggle. "
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"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x
I saw. You massive winker
Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?
Was meant to point out your perviness "
I know 
Perviness directly correlates with mass in this instance  |
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By *_welsh OP Man 23 weeks ago
Speke / Chester |
"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink
Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...
Sorry. Got nothing else to add.
Good luck x
I saw. You massive winker
Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?
Was meant to point out your perviness
I know
Perviness directly correlates with mass in this instance "
Good to know |
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