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Thoughts on too many verifications?
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"Good point .your probably right !especially when it comes to sti probability "
Yes.
Because people who have that much sex tend to be utterly unaware of their risk profile and just crack on as if they're probably fine  |
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"Good point .your probably right !especially when it comes to sti probability
Yes.
Because people who have that much sex tend to be utterly unaware of their risk profile and just crack on as if they're probably fine "
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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Depends if there are alot of social meets and how long they have been on fab. If someone goes to alot of clubs, socials and parties they will meet more people..... if they've been in here 10 years. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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Generally speaking most people that do so much of this get tested regularly. We only BB with people we know and are also tested regularly and test ourselves.
There are plenty of vanillas out there dropping chlamidyia all over the place |
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By *asy-tiger OP Man 32 weeks ago
Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole |
Very true - I’m tested every three months and play safe unless with trusted partners or if pre tested and arranged. Far too risky out there. But plenty of opportunities to have fun so I try and take opportunities when they arise and fit the right kind of filth x |
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By *asy-tiger OP Man 32 weeks ago
Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole |
Was that sarcasm lol as I would say that people who do play and swing regularly are pretty responsible with getting checked etc as they play a fair amount! I know I do regularly even if still playing safe x |
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By *asy-tiger OP Man 32 weeks ago
Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole |
"Too genuine? Like almost full circle into not genuine? I don’t get it. "
Haha true but yeh I meant as in everyone looks for genuine people that actually meet but if you meet too much it can count against you lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I got told I had too many veris. I told them I’d been on here over 7 years and at least half were club or social meets, so to do the math. There was about 60 in total. I’ve now hidden some, cause unfortunately some people don’t bother reading them and just judge. |
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"I got told I had too many veris. I told them I’d been on here over 7 years and at least half were club or social meets, so to do the math. There was about 60 in total. I’ve now hidden some, cause unfortunately some people don’t bother reading them and just judge. "
I’d say a three figure sum is a lot, |
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It depends on the nature of the veries and how close they are together.
If someone was meeting a different person for sex everyday, then yes it would put me off, as I'd feel like I'd be just another number.
I'd they had lots of veries, but many were over a space of time or social ones, then no it wouldn't. |
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By *unchalMan 31 weeks ago
Dartford |
"A friend of mine has over 300. People who are put off by that wouldn't be compatible with her anyway "
I love the idea that people have that many verifications. Almost makes me feel slightly virginal. |
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Is this the new slut shaming.....
So how many is to many?
Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.
I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy |
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By *unchalMan 31 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Too genuine? I do don't think that's possible really.
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I think you can be too genuine. I’ve spent a lifetime in pursuit of genuineness, in as much as I want to feel what I feel and relate to people with an honest consistency that is based on what I feel, and think, of course. It gets me in a lot of trouble!  |
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By *unchalMan 31 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Is this the new slut shaming.....
So how many is to many?
Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.
I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy "
It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot. |
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Depends on context and timeframe.
For us, if you have 300 but it's clear that a large number are social, accrued over a long time in the lifestyle, and are spaced in a way that doesn't arouse suspicion we aren't likely to consider it much of a merit or demerit really.
If you have 70 and have only been on the site 6 months, all are play and all are crude; we're probably going to suspect we wouldn't connect with you as you're probably looking for high throughput low investment which isn't our style.
But, neither of those are conclusive. Our pants have been charmed off unexpectedly by all kinds of people |
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By *oxy jWoman 31 weeks ago
somerset |
no such thing as to many or to little some off use have been on this scene for years ..me 30 years plus ... i have no clue how many men and women ive had fun with but its alot ...
its swinging its what it is if someone is not happy with how often others meet then they are on the wrong scene in the first place sex with other is what its all about if thats everyday then fill your boots with zero fucks of what other think   |
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"Is this the new slut shaming.....
So how many is to many?
Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.
I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy
It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot. "
Yes exactly
How many actually count?
I always reply when a guy asks about body count....
If they don't make me cum
Do I have to count them 
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"Is this the new slut shaming.....
So how many is to many?
Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.
I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy
It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot.
Yes exactly
How many actually count?
I always reply when a guy asks about body count....
If they don't make me cum
Do I have to count them
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If they make you cum 3 times then is that 3 veris? |
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So if you don’t display verifications are you a virgin or something? 
We have a friend who goes to clubs Friday and Saturday every week. Doesn’t show any veri’s.
The verification count means nothing and if people use it against you then they aren’t the right people for you.
K |
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Verifications don't necessarily equate to conquests.
Some people prefer to keep their activities private while some people get shitloads of verifications just from social or webcam activity.
There's a woman I know, who used to be on here, and had very few verifications, but her actual body count was way over 5000. : o |
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We have 37 but not many of them we have actually played with, most we've just met socially at a club
So lots of verifications don't have to mean lots of partners or increased sti risk.
For us it's loads of pictures of unprotected sex with loads of different people normally in a short space of time, that's what puts us off |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"We have 37 but not many of them we have actually played with, most we've just met socially at a club
So lots of verifications don't have to mean lots of partners or increased sti risk.
For us it's loads of pictures of unprotected sex with loads of different people normally in a short space of time, that's what puts us off "
I agree with you, most people on Fab take their sexual health seriously.
They use protection and get regular STI checks, you’re more likely to catch something from a random hook up in a club!!
If I see bareback threads or know certain people who do BB i will check their profile and verifications and block them.
I know some people do BB with people they know but that’s not for me and I don’t judge as it’s their choice.
Just like it’s my choice to use protection.
If there is more meet verifications than I can vet me personally would just block unless i know them from the forum or such. |
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"We really like the social aspect,so most of ours are from socials."
Here with you on socials, we have loads of veris. We do probably 6 socials a year and club. We also do PDI once a year and can rack up quite a few over the week.
We love to chat and socialise, bars, beach and clubs but don’t play with everyone.
We know people that are our most weekends playing but they only have 40ish veris but know it’s a lot more.
We like to see the veris summery as that shows the veris are genuine.
In the end it’s a number we can show 40 and hide the V/S and that makes us ok. I’d rather be genuine. |
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