We went from full swap to soft for various reasons.
Do exactly what you're happy to do. If you never go to full swap it doesn't matter in the least. All that matters is that you're all in agreement and all have fun. I think if swinging causes stress, doubt or worry the whole point of it is lost.
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"We are still new to the lifestyle and working out our ground rules.
How long did it take you as a couple to feel comfortable with full swap. Were there any hurdles you had to work through?"
To start with invite a male around to give you massage whilst your partner is present too, then gradually from there you can get comfortable.
I'm more than happy to come give you a massage if you want. DM me |
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I suppose first of all for context soft swap to us is everything bar penetrative sex with the others partners (people sometimes have slightly different definitions).
We started with soft swap in mind but our boundaries have definitely moved over time. Now we don't really think about soft swap or full swap anymore. It all depends on the people we're with and what we feel to how things play out. And obviously the boundaries of others. We're good at communicating how we feel in the moment (a skill sharpened through experience) and just go where feels natural. I would say the majority of the time it tends to be soft swap but with the right people and vibes it's full swap. Just to add we've had really hot times doing both and full swap doesn't always equal a hotter time. Like I say we don't so much think in terms of soft or full, just in terms of going with what feels right and natural.
So we are very happy with soft swappers and with full swappers as long as full swap is not expected or demanded. Because full swap for us very much dependant on the individuals, vibe and circumstances. Full swap is not a must have requirement for us to share an awesome hot time with a couple. We just go with what mutually feels natural and good. |
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By *hipdaleCouple 35 weeks ago
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Full swap ,we did meet a couple once first time , other guys Mrs freaked when the guy started to fuck T so we stopped went had a drink and a chat tried again but she just couldn't go through with it , |
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We were full swap right from the start.
Not the least bit interested in soft swap. Personally I don't see the point of having someone elses do the warm up(kisses, oral, etc) to then change partners for sex. |
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"We are still new to the lifestyle and working out our ground rules.
How long did it take you as a couple to feel comfortable with full swap. Were there any hurdles you had to work through?
To start with invite a male around to give you massage whilst your partner is present too, then gradually from there you can get comfortable.
I'm more than happy to come give you a massage if you want. DM me"
Would be a terrible idea as it clearly states they aren't looking for single males. What happened to reading and understanding what they are looking for before jumping in bellend first?! |
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I'm half a couple and we did full swap the first meet we had, after a social and chatting about what we were all happy with.
Only do what you're both happy with and when you're ready for full swap. |
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"We are still new to the lifestyle and working out our ground rules.
How long did it take you as a couple to feel comfortable with full swap. Were there any hurdles you had to work through?"
We were a soft swap couple for a very short time when we started but realised the implications it can cause during play with so many things to consider so just went for it and never looked back, our only rules now appart from the usual 3ps are no kissing of opposite sexes and no anal on meets x |
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I don't think it necessarily follows that full swap needs to be the ultimate destination. We've been doing this for about ten years and are happy with soft play and exhibitionism We've talked about full swap but it's not something we want to pursue. |
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We met via swinging so full swap wasn’t an issue for us from the start. Often the worry about how you might feel is different to the reality of actually doing it, it’s important to feel comfortable so don’t push your boundaries too soon if you don’t feel ready. |
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