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I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? |
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Maybe it is because she looks so hot you want to share her and she likes to be shared maybe too, also may think if you did not share she may let’s say wander and this way you can both have fun and keep really tight together ? |
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By *701Man 36 weeks ago
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I think it's more when they look that amazing and you stand back and see them reaching them orgasms and really getting what they want it turns you on cause when your with them sometimes yous just can't always come at the same time |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
To some in the world they probably wouldn’t understand that one minute you are at the altar in church taking sacred vows and the next you are watching your wife ride another guys cock enjoying herself.
At the end of the day I think most wives enjoy being wanted by other guys and enjoy the thrill of riding other guys cocks.
We are a cuckold couple so the idea of her being attractive to other guys has always been a massive thing for me and makes me proud and watching her get fucked is like your own personal porn movie !
Don’t worry about it and just enjoy the ride, or rather let her enjoy the ride lol
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"Will also say you need to have a very strong and trusting relationship."
That is so true, and essential!
Just love to watch her enjoy herself with a guy, a girl or a couple. Best not to over analyse. xxxx |
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I love sharing my wife and being cuckolded but at the same time doubt myself as its not the normal. As a man I should be jealous and not sexually turned on by her being used by others haha its a moral dilemma at times lol |
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"I love sharing my wife and being cuckolded but at the same time doubt myself as its not the normal. As a man I should be jealous and not sexually turned on by her being used by others haha its a moral dilemma at times lol"
It's what we have been programmed to think is normal, so us swingers, wife swappers etc are seen as not normal. |
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True, it doesn't phase my wife as to her, it's just sex. Obviously itssomething i would never dream of telling my friends haha.
"I love sharing my wife and being cuckolded but at the same time doubt myself as its not the normal. As a man I should be jealous and not sexually turned on by her being used by others haha its a moral dilemma at times lol
It's what we have been programmed to think is normal, so us swingers, wife swappers etc are seen as not normal."
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I think this is part of the dynamic for us. As the guy. I love it when my wife is letting her hair down and being "naughty" by breaking her marriage vows.
Its something we use in dirty talk after she has played.
Yes it's not something we would tell all our friends we do. But that feeling that we shouldn't be doing it is something we use and both enjoy that feeling. It's certainly a turn on for her too. She feels naughty before if messaging other guys. During and after the experience.
I will often say "should a married woman be messaging other guys" if she's on her phone with a guy. and she will say no. Then we end up having great sex |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
It might be symptoms like Postcoital Dysphoria? A kind of come down after sex. I get it sometimes. The thrill and sometimes risk of the act once done you get a massive guilt/low. |
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Yes it’s not for all and unless comfortable doing I would not recommend. I have been swinging with and without my wife for very long time. It works well for us both. There is a thrill in taking a guys wife in front of them. In some cases they do feel guilty so best to be sure what want and like |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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I'd guess it's a hang up from growing up in a vanilla society. For most here there's probably a distinct line between love and sex. One that can be happily blurred between a loving couple, but also the ability to enjoy sex for just that, sex. It's a recreational activity that can be enjoyed without the necessity for love. Only you'll know if the feeling you feel are more trouble than it's worth. Keep talking to each in the honest way you have been and you should be fine. I'd guess it's a perfectly normal way of thinking tbh. |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ?
To some in the world they probably wouldn’t understand that one minute you are at the altar in church taking sacred vows and the next you are watching your wife ride another guys cock enjoying herself.
At the end of the day I think most wives enjoy being wanted by other guys and enjoy the thrill of riding other guys cocks.
We are a cuckold couple so the idea of her being attractive to other guys has always been a massive thing for me and makes me proud and watching her get fucked is like your own personal porn movie !
Don’t worry about it and just enjoy the ride, or rather let her enjoy the ride lol
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This is such an intelligent perspective and having shared my wife for 7 years I echo these conflicted emotions that go against the so called norm and our vows. Thank OP for asking this in the forum.
The replies will be divided into the thoughtful cerebrally connected couples camp and the male bulls who may have a more simplistic view. |
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A brilliant topic. Yes I am ambivalent about watching her with other guys. Seeing her being undressed by strangers knowing what they are about to do with her has me both rock hard and at the same time, dare I say it, sick in my stomach.
And at the end as I look at her lying naked and sated, covered in sweat and cum dripping from her it is overwhelming. Taking her back in the taxi with her still naked under her coat knowing her pussy is still full of cum is a very strange feeling indeed. So hard to explain.
We usually collapse immediately into bed without even showering off the body fluids. Cuddling, kissing gently and whispering quietly to each other.
In the immediate days after we don’t talk much about what happened. Particularly as I’m used to seeing her totally ignoring pre agreed limits. It’s just a case of absorbing the mental images. However we feel noticeably more loving and sensitive to each other. |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ?
To some in the world they probably wouldn’t understand that one minute you are at the altar in church taking sacred vows and the next you are watching your wife ride another guys cock enjoying herself.
At the end of the day I think most wives enjoy being wanted by other guys and enjoy the thrill of riding other guys cocks.
We are a cuckold couple so the idea of her being attractive to other guys has always been a massive thing for me and makes me proud and watching her get fucked is like your own personal porn movie !
Don’t worry about it and just enjoy the ride, or rather let her enjoy the ride lol
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Have to agree as have also loved the experiences of other men screwing my wife but it does involve experiencing mixed emotions at times. Sometimes because of who was getting to ride her. |
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By *r_LickCouple 21 weeks ago
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Yes you’re right Mrs Lick felt the same, although she really enjoyed herself and had fun but the guilt set in as though she shouldn’t have enjoyed it as much and I think that holds her back a bit tbh  |
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Love the various views on this and basically have to say I still had various pangs of emotions whether actually watching or just knowing another guy had his cock in my wife. I did no matter the feelings enjoy having them as part of the excitement and turn on of this for me. |
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By *eyeYCouple 15 weeks ago
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D enjoys watching me with another man or woman, but think I enjoy watching him even more! Mostly when he does what he does to me I'm almost out of it.. But when I get to witness another recipient of his attentions it's fucking hot!! 😈🥰 |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
I want to see wife with another guy and believe the emotions will be like this.  |
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Never had a problem with it n all the totally straight lads I’ve done group stuff with are not bothered either a mate of mine said it perfectly that hell we all love watching porn where we watch men naked n hard n fuck so why not in real life…. |
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OP, it sounds to me as though you are worrying about societal norms. Its normal to feel a little taboo about these things as we've been bought up believing monogamy is right but, the way I see it as long as you are both happy and enjoying yourself, go for it!. No one is getting hurt x
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"I love sharing my wife and being cuckolded but at the same time doubt myself as its not the normal. As a man I should be jealous and not sexually turned on by her being used by others haha its a moral dilemma at times lol
It's what we have been programmed to think is normal, so us swingers, wife swappers etc are seen as not normal."
That’s true. So what if we think differently from the rest? Letting your wife fuck other men isn’t hurting anyone and it’s bringing you 2 and the guys lots of pleasure. Carry on I say |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
Exactly the same tbh...
Absolutely love it, can't live without it! Lol
But yes sometimes feel it's wrong with strange other feelings, not quite jealousy tho... just not sure.
Still best thing i ever get to see!  |
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I remember the first time we had a threesome in a club with a guy, and I remember seeing him fucking her and her pleasuring me at the same time, it was incredibly hot.
The next morning I was questioning myself over and over, why I enjoyed it so much and why I didn’t have an issue with it.
So I figured out, if I didn’t have an issue, there is no issue. |
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By *asha86Couple 15 weeks ago
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We love the act but not when the person we've shared with oversteps with constant messages. We like to make friends that we would meet over and over not constantly inviting new people in which has worked as they get to know what the crack is |
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Love the idea, never made it happen yet but it's a conversation EVERY night lately and she's game now I think. Or at least says she is because she knows how hard it gets me... staying in HX1 tomorrow night so hoping she finally asks me to sort it - she did say she's been checking guys out most days so she definitely down with the concept. Maybe a random guy should chat her up in the bar tomorrow? Kind of secretly arranged opportunity to see who can pull her? If it seems spontaneous and 'by chance' it might go down easier. Worst that can happen is she says she's not interested... maybe dm me for contact details - hung guys ideally.. |
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Same with us. It's been a long term fantasy which started with me mentioning it and Mrs has now wants to do it as much as I do. We've had a couple of 'close calls' where weve been let down last minute by single men but we do have mfmf lined up in a couple of weeks! Will be the first time I'll have seen her with another man - very horney thought but scary too lol! |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
I feel exactly the same mate..
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
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By *hornleeMan 15 weeks ago
Stockton on Tees |
I use to share my wive a lot when she was healthy, I can honestly say the emotions although not jealousy, use to fry my brain sometimes. The sheer anticipation of her telling me everything they did, to my cuckold duties of cleaning her up and I mean everything up. It is very hard to put into words. So yes I'm with you. |
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Im the only guy my wife has been intimate with. I couldn't handle seeing her with another man although we do fantasise alot about other men whilst we're having sex, especially black men. It's not happened yet but if she was going to be intimate with anyone else... Then it would have to be another woman |
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Very interesting thread.
As a society, we are brought up into believing that once together, we should not have sex with anyone else and to do so is wrong or immoral. We then are conditioned to feel guilt once the marital vows are broken.
Sex can be a means to strengthen the emotional bond between a couple. Sex can also be recreational enjoyment with no underlying emotional attachment. However, we are conditioned to believe the former and not the latter, which leads to feelings of guilt and betrayal.
If you enjoy watching your wife having sex with other men and she also enjoys it, you should think of it as a beautiful shared pass-time like playing a sport. Couples should focus on what works for them and not what society dictates. As long as you have good communication with each other and agree mutual boundaries, there is no harm. |
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Like many, we’ve been on the ups and downs of this rollercoaster.
Resistance from L at first, then thorough hotwife enjoyment for a good year or two, followed by guilt once we took a long-term break. Not sure where that came from on her part, but it took her a while to get over it.
My struggles were around what the hell was wrong with me for liking this? What if someone found out? How do I stop it?
Eventually I just accepted that I’m a bit of a deviant - and acknowledged that I’m one of many. |
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By *iliciousCouple 15 weeks ago
Sussex/Surrey |
"Im the only guy my wife has been intimate with. I couldn't handle seeing her with another man although we do fantasise alot about other men whilst we're having sex, especially black men. It's not happened yet but if she was going to be intimate with anyone else... Then it would have to be another woman"
Out of interest, what does she think of you being on here looking for couples and women? |
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No jealousy at all with me or we both wouldn't agree to do it.i just love knowing she is happy and being satisfied off another guy other than me.you have to have a strong and trusting relationship to do it though which we have luckily. |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
perhaps it’s just the cuck in you & only now you realised maybe explore more in this scenario |
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"I absolutely love watching my wife fuck other men, not sure why but nothing turns me on more I’m completely s8 but sometimes I can’t help but feel it’s a bit wrong of me to like it , she loves it but also sometimes feels that she should not enjoy it .
It’s not jealousy just some times feel like I should not have such deviant thought about my wife lol We been doing it on and of for years so it’s not like it’s a new emotion does anyone else experience these emotions, ? "
I don’t think you should feel bad for it everyone has there own kinks there’s no wrong or right if it’s all above board and you both enjoy it then just enjoy the moment don’t over think it you obviously have a strong relationship |
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By *Xtriple7Couple 14 weeks ago
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You're not alone feeling that way and must admit it's good to know I'm not the only one either.
I do feel bad sometimes, as though I'm a pest for arranging meets, even though she agrees and definitely enjoys meeting guys.
I think about packing it all in and being a 'normal'couple. But then life's short and if we're both having fun while relatively young and in good health then why not indulge?
I think as well some settings can change how I perceive swinging. A mfm meet where the guy isn't feeling great and taking one for the team can feel like we're being daft and taken advantage of. Yet a 2 woman all day gangbang where at least 30 guys attend was one of our best ever meets and we didn't feel bad at all about it after. Ymmv. |
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Watched Mrs for the first time tonight in an mfmf. No jealousy. Just a really horney experience. Watching her get fucked and wank him off till he came was amazing. If you love your partner, do it! |
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For me. It's my biggest fantasy and turn on. It always has been. For her to have sex with other men.
That being said. I see sex and love making differently. We do things as a couple that the other men don't do. Intimate things that are just between us.
Her fucking other men for our pleasure has made us an extremely strong couple. But if I had a hint of jealousy I'd ask her to stop. |
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"It’s not an easy feeling to deal with afterwards. That’s why Vixen only plays with guys we’re both comfortable with. They must be respectful, else it goes nowhere."
Definitely, has to be right for both, and understood by all |
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