My wife and I first started exploring hotwifing in 2020 after a late night stumble upon the /hotwife subreddit gave me a quite unexpected rush of horny adrenaline. I had previously (obviously wrongly) assumed that men having sex with your wife *always* was an inherently humiliating act. The negative stigma of being a cuck (in the non-consensually degrading sense) had been deeply ingrained in me was always a turn-off.
I'm personally not interested in the humiliation side of cuckolding but have since learned all about the varyious ways people engage in and explore this and related kinks. I genuinely think it's a beautiful arrangement when everyone involved consents, is respectful of each other, and of the desired dynamic. It takes an incredible amount of trust, comfort, self-confidence, and love between partners. It's simply brilliant.
In past years, I struggled with low self-esteem and jealousy (largely stemming from my poor self-image). I would have never believed that sharing my wife sexually with other men would have such a profound effect on my own confidence and sexuality.
Coupled with the encouraging horniness that the kink provides me, I've been forced to confront feelings of inadequacy, envy, loss of control, body confidence, sexual comfort...
All of our meets, both together and solo, have helped the both of us grow and have helped me continually practice shaping myself into a person I'm proud of and comfortable being. I love the man that our kink has helped form and I love how much stronger our already unbreakable bond has become.
I've felt the desire to express these thoughts publicly for some time- it helped me to read about others' positive experiences alomg our journey so I hope this finds other people just as well.
For all its faults, thank you Fab and the beautiful people we've met and have yet to meet x  |
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By *AYENCouple 24 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
What a brilliant post.
I can't say that sharing my wife with other men has changed me at all, but it has Niki. She's now a lot more open and happy to ask for what she wants, and it has certainly enhanced our already fantastic relationship.
I wish you all the best, K  |
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I am on the other side of the “fence” but I do recognise a lot of what you say in couples - whatever their reason for doing it, I do know that fab makes their relationship stronger and I think that’s a great thing.
Great post |
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By *enatton2Couple 24 weeks ago
West Midlands |
Great post! We’ve been on this scene for a long time but only looked at couples, in the last three or four years we’ve been more single male focused with a hot wife vibe.
Our relationship has just grown stronger since we did this. Tani seems more confident in herself physically and comfortable in play and I just love helping her indulge, plus I find it an incredible turn on.
I always thought we were a close couple but now we’ve just become so much more focused on each other, not just in play but in life in general. |
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