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Why so hard to make contact on here
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I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be |
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"I dont get
what everyone rises fault means??? Ive explained some reasons I see that make it hard...thats easy enough to get isn't it??"
Instead of attributing the problem to everyone else you would be better off asking what you’re doing they maybe isn’t working. And the ratio of M/F on here is heavily against single men anyway. This get it is. It’s not that men are ruining it, or women getting a big ego (which is what you said in your post). Too many single men chasing too few single women, and this women have choices and preferences. That’s all it is. No one is causing a problem, it’s just how it is. |
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No I dont think thats wholly true. I see it all the time when women put posts up saying theyre innundated with crass emails and also seen attitude shown on here as well. The original fun of beong on here seems to be gone |
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" No I dont think thats wholly true. I see it all the time when women put posts up saying theyre innundated with crass emails and also seen attitude shown on here as well. The original fun of beong on here seems to be gone"
I’m only citing what you said. |
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be"
My advice is to go to clubs or socials and meet people …. Clubs being my preference- just do it |
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By *lan157Man 6 weeks ago
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It's a mistake to rely on fab messaging to meet people OP . You may get lucky ( I have in the past when you meet some one local ) but ultimately you will probably be disappointed . Go to local socials and find someone to go to a club with. You will chat to people whom don't need to use fab .Fab is useful for finding out about socials and events and the forum of course . |
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I have to stand up for women on here they get messed about as much as men do, my wife is one that's advertised on here and she lost count how many were time wasters, I am on here as a bi male and I get messed about with guys just messing around unfortunately to some people this is just a place for games and have no intentions of meeting anyone, its a shame because some of us seriously want to meet up for some fun and this site should be somewhere to find what you are after, it's a shame they cant out the time wasters. |
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By *ojo2joWoman 5 weeks ago
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be"
The key as a single guy is standing out from the others - both when ladies are browsing and in their inboxes.
Yes, other mens’ poor behaviour has an influence but in a sea of guys those ladies need to see something more.
Maybe you could ask this forum whether the ladies think your profile stands out or look from their viewpoint and browse other guys profiles and see which ones you would click on. |
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Yes i agree its harder to make contact with people here myself id love to meet with a couple for some clean discreat fun but get blocked or dont get back sure if we dont chat its hard to get to know if we are compatable |
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I wouldn’t rely on getting meetings from the site , being single or married , unfortunately over the years we have found this ourselfs , If only they could get rid together the time wasters and fantasists it could be more reliable , use site to find out best socials and clubs to go to , we arrange most of our meets for club as if no shows , at least you know you can still find fun , we have had some successful meets from here but few and far between |
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Couldn’t agree more
There’s been many times where ive posted about topics in the forum and gets zero traction, then you see a post which is very similar which gets responses. Am I putting 2 and 2 together and coming up with 5? |
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We will always reply to a good profile and message.but we do have our own preferences,so sometimes it's a no thanks. Equally if we are interested we will say so.
Totally agree with bad profiles and messages make the good ones stand out more.
Also agree that socials are a great way to meet people.
Maybe fill your glass half full rather than half empty.
That's not an insult by the way,just take the positives out of the site and lifestyle. |
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"I don't have this problem OP.
No one is making it harder. Guys with crap profiles, no profile picture, no public photos just make it easier for the rest of us.  "
Great profile and pics.
Couldn't agree more. |
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be"
Absolutely correct I don’t take this site serious it’s all a bit of fun. Just use it as wank material as you’re unlikely to get a meet with a female. If your BI no problem you can meet men all day long. If women had the same sex drive as men then there wouldn’t be a problem as the ratios would be equal. Women hold the golden ticket always have and always will because us men generally will fuck anyone women need a connection mentally then they have to be attracted and then your cock has to be the perfect size and then there is probably another 100men on here just like you. Don’t waste your time spend your energy in a club or at your local pub easier to meet someone face to face. Good luck |
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Some men do really well because they make an effort, their profiles are good, their pics are good and they generally sound like decent humans.
Some blokes do crap because they have zero pics or just a cock, they have negative profiles or absolutely no profile at all & put zero effort in & then come to the forums to winge about it.
I wouldn't reply to a profile with no photos and negative status.
You get out what you put in OP - no effort in = no effort out. |
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"Some men do really well because they make an effort, their profiles are good, their pics are good and they generally sound like decent humans.
Some blokes do crap because they have zero pics or just a cock, they have negative profiles or absolutely no profile at all & put zero effort in & then come to the forums to winge about it.
I wouldn't reply to a profile with no photos and negative status.
You get out what you put in OP - no effort in = no effort out."
I do ok without photos. Understand it means miss out on some though. I do put the effort in on chat. Used to have photos but had people using them sadly |
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be
Absolutely correct I don’t take this site serious it’s all a bit of fun. Just use it as wank material as you’re unlikely to get a meet with a female. If your BI no problem you can meet men all day long. If women had the same sex drive as men then there wouldn’t be a problem as the ratios would be equal. Women hold the golden ticket always have and always will because us men generally will fuck anyone women need a connection mentally then they have to be attracted and then your cock has to be the perfect size and then there is probably another 100men on here just like you. Don’t waste your time spend your energy in a club or at your local pub easier to meet someone face to face. Good luck"
A lot of men on fab will fuck anyone but that's not true for everyone. I decline more offers than I accept.
Some guys know what they want and go after that. |
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be
Absolutely correct I don’t take this site serious it’s all a bit of fun. Just use it as wank material as you’re unlikely to get a meet with a female. If your BI no problem you can meet men all day long. If women had the same sex drive as men then there wouldn’t be a problem as the ratios would be equal. Women hold the golden ticket always have and always will because us men generally will fuck anyone women need a connection mentally then they have to be attracted and then your cock has to be the perfect size and then there is probably another 100men on here just like you. Don’t waste your time spend your energy in a club or at your local pub easier to meet someone face to face. Good luck
A lot of men on fab will fuck anyone but that's not true for everyone. I decline more offers than I accept.
Some guys know what they want and go after that."
Agree. Yeah has to be some chemistry as much better fun. On occasion bang and go ok when in need but much better nice connection to person meet |
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Absolutely correct I don’t take this site serious it’s all a bit of fun. Just use it as wank material as you’re unlikely to get a meet with a female. If your BI no problem you can meet men all day long. If women had the same sex drive as men then there wouldn’t be a problem as the ratios would be equal. Women hold the golden ticket always have and always will because us men generally will fuck anyone women need a connection mentally then they have to be attracted and then your cock has to be the perfect size and then there is probably another 100men on here just like you. Don’t waste your time spend your energy in a club or at your local pub easier to meet someone face to face. Good luck"
"Unlikely to get a meet..." Nonsense.
I'm the living proof - if a blankety-blank old blank like me is getting regular playtimes, anyone can. |
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"I think it can be really hard making contact on here. There is a lack of genuine people, I hate to say it but I think a lot of men ruin it for genuine people with their attitudes. I do think some women get a really self-inflated ego trip because of the number of msgs they get. Its not as fun as it used to be"
You’ve had 2 meets in 10 months, that’s not bad OP some been on here years and no meets.
Of course there is always the guys beating them away with a shitty stick !
There just isn’t enough hot wives for us all  |
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I agree with you totally but it’s the old statement .supply and demand !! We tend to live in hope on here .mainly because it’s a free site !I have yet to find another like it .such is life .keep trying |
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"It’s incredibly easy.
Message someone and they message back if they like your profile and what you say - or am I missing something? "
Yes you've totally missed the part where you leave your profile pic as a silhouette and then come onto the forums to moan that women aren't falling at your feet and it's all the other silhouettes fault |
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You've got no public photos, a very negative status and the shite about Fabswingers now being a publicly traded entity, whilst at the same time you're in the majority looking for the minority. Your probably an easy left swipe for most, so not surprised that you're struggling fella. Hope that helps and good luck. |
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