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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do they.?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

actually i think you'll find for the most part they are...

actually maybe the difference between them is that for the most part married women dont come on the forums and moaning they don't get meets because of said circumstance...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same as a guy.. If ppl are happy to play away from home without their partner knowing' then that's entirely up to them. Myself i don't agree, and i wouldn't knowingly meet someone attached.

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take it you mean on the sly rather than with the partners blessing.?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!"

Agree totally, but the problem is that many end up getting judged simply because they seek validation of their actions. Cheating is probably one of the most emotive subjects that can get brought up on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think when it comes to single women most don't care if they are married or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!

I agree.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think the main difference is, women including myself, do not want to help or are not willing to help a guy cheat on his wife (some will, and that is up to them) where as men, do not seem to have the same moral compass, and will happily help the woman cheat on her husband/partner, so long as he gets what he want's, it's simple really, we just have a different thought process

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I play with the guy I'm seeing's blessing - but will only meet other ladies - thats what I am comfortable with.

I wouldn't knowingly play with a married guy without his partners blessing, and I do know a few couples that play solo, with each other being happy about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was going to add my comments to this, then realised I had failed to put in my profile the fact that im married, giving people the choice of messaging me or not. Have rectified that now, so guess as my husband doesnt know that puts me in the cheating section of women?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I think the main difference is, women including myself, do not want to help or are not willing to help a guy cheat on his wife (some will, and that is up to them) where as men, do not seem to have the same moral compass, and will happily help the woman cheat on her husband/partner, so long as he gets what he want's, it's simple really, we just have a different thought process

a lot of it i agree is this... and i think there is a lot of bluster and bravado from guys...

see... in there minds what i think they think they would do if confronted by an angry husband would be to "style it out" so to speak.. I think the reality of it is most of them would run or try to lie their way out of the situation..

and i think most women think of the reality.. and can in a way empathise with the other party, where as the blokes don't.....

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"I think when it comes to single women most don't care if they are married or not "

This!

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

And some people like playing Judge & Jury.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!

I agree.

same...

as it always sounds like the partner has some kind of fault..I'd rather they just admit being always horny and greedy..I dont really want to know about anyones home life situations that 'make' them decide to meet folks behind their partners backs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry but I think that is a huge generalsation. Plenty of men on here have morals.

The main reason married women still get plenty of meets is purely numbers. If even just 5 or 10% of singlemen on here don't care about a woman's marital status then every married woman on here would still easily get meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was going to add my comments to this, then realised I had failed to put in my profile the fact that im married, giving people the choice of messaging me or not. Have rectified that now, so guess as my husband doesnt know that puts me in the cheating section of women?

er...is that a trick question?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry but I think that is a huge generalsation. Plenty of men on here have morals.

I'm sorry, I will stand by what I said! I'm not tarring every man, but MOST men just want to fuck and go, so if a woman is married? Does he care? No he doesn't! So whilst you may think numbers play a huge part of it, and I am sure it does play some part, a married woman will always get a meet because the guilt factor is not there in the men she has picked to play with, may be harsh but in the real world it is true!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple over a year ago

Brigadoon

I think one of the reasons women get emotive about the subject is because they have personal experience of a partner cheating on them, I know that's the case for myself anyway.

I just wouldn't want to be a party to somebodies deception of their partner.

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If I was a married woman playing alone on here, I would only meet married men....

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

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By *lanwoodMan over a year ago

Alton

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!

Understatement of the year!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

I agree, men come in for a lot more grief than women. Some of this could be because you don't see many married women starting threads justifying themselves or telling everyone that their marital status should be of no consequence to anyone else. But I do think that married women are treated differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hang em I say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

quite agree,though as a single guy of forty thats NEVER been married.every woman i contact or chat with on fab seems to have the attitude ive something to hide or married anyway.?!

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

Probably because they dont come in constantly complaining about not getting a meet!

Have seen women treated just as badly as the men...

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

quite agree,though as a single guy of forty thats NEVER been married.every woman i contact or chat with on fab seems to have the attitude ive something to hide or married anyway.?!"

Why would they think that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?"

My poor sucker doesnt know I play away sometimes because I take great care not to get him suspicious. I have a good friend who is my alibi and he wouldnt check to see where I am anyway. Poor sap trusts me I guess but I dont get any physical contact at home so do you blame me for going elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some people need to get over themselves

It's not for anyone to judge

I'm attached & on here cheating - I don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone or get any validation

If people don't like it & don't want to meet me because of it, it's completely understandable. Swinging site or not we are all here for the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't

quite agree,though as a single guy of forty thats NEVER been married.every woman i contact or chat with on fab seems to have the attitude ive something to hide or married anyway.?!

Why would they think that?"

You tell me.?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think some people need to get over themselves

It's not for anyone to judge

I'm attached & on here cheating - I don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone or get any validation

If people don't like it & don't want to meet me because of it, it's completely understandable. Swinging site or not we are all here for the same thing"

you have a couple profile.???

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By *nly-AliceWoman over a year ago

Chester / North Wales

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Do they? Best hang me then..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stone em. They be witches!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a couple now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Best hang & stone me to death

I was going to hell long before I ever cheated

Each to their own

I don't judge others on what they do & I won't be justifying myself to anyone on a website

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If any married ladies want to cheat with us, please feel free!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Best hang & stone me to death

I was going to hell long before I ever cheated

Each to their own

I don't judge others on what they do & I won't be justifying myself to anyone on a website "

good for you.maybe your profile needs updating then hey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't know how to change the couple part

Only reason it's not updated

It's all on the profile though

I'm very up front & honest from the beginning

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Don't know how to change the couple part

Only reason it's not updated

It's all on the profile though

I'm very up front & honest from the beginning"

Contact Admin....they will change it for you...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If any cheating wives want to use and abuse me then feel free.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses"

He would have been facing a lynch mob....

But its quiet tonight....If others see that tomorrow she will get it also...

Personally, if men were that honest, id probably applaud them.

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By *andomname1Man over a year ago

manchester

I contacted a woman recently who clearly hadnt read my profile. We arranged to meet and all was good. a day or two before the meet i re read her post and notice one single line that stated she wouldnt meet married men. Now i could have said nothing and met her anyway. I messaged her and said she should read my post compleatly. strange i havnt heard from her since. But hey thats just me being honest i guess

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses"

will you sush.. I was trying to give it the distain it deserved....

you are right, if it had not been so late i think it gets a few more barrels...

i like to think that i am equal ops on this kinda thing... so let me say what I am thinking..

that was cold!!! and i think that is the best way for me to put it without getting myself 48 on the naughty step

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses

will you sush.. I was trying to give it the distain it deserved....

you are right, if it had not been so late i think it gets a few more barrels...

i like to think that i am equal ops on this kinda thing... so let me say what I am thinking..

that was cold!!! and i think that is the best way for me to put it without getting myself 48 on the naughty step"

give it all the fucking barrels you like. I dont think my husband is a poor sucker, as he doesnt know he cant be, just my opinion. If he knew and was letting me do it without saying anything, well that is a poor sucker to me. so if a married guy had said the same about his wife would you have treated him the same? I was being sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses

He would have been facing a lynch mob....

But its quiet tonight....If others see that tomorrow she will get it also...

Personally, if men were that honest, id probably applaud them.

As I just said in another post just now, let me have it I dont care, I was being honest. My husband isnt a poor sucker just unaware because I take care he isnt. My other post elaborates more so shoot me down dont care

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses

He would have been facing a lynch mob....

But its quiet tonight....If others see that tomorrow she will get it also...

Personally, if men were that honest, id probably applaud them.

Thread would have been blocked by fab & he would of been banned for twentyfour hours probably

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

He would have been facing a lynch mob....

But its quiet tonight....If others see that tomorrow she will get it also...

Personally, if men were that honest, id probably applaud them.

IF I was going to shoot you down, I would have done it by now!!!!

I really dont give a toss about married men/women playing alone on this site...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i never understand the whole judging thing..

they are cheating and a cheater, what is there to judge? their reasons for cheating? its a selfish act, thats a fact not a judgement.

so cos people dont want to meet married people they are judging them? just dont get that notion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh and before anyone goes off on one about its judging by saying its a selfish act.. please enlighten me into a reason why it would be for the good of the one you love to cheat on them?

im yet to see a selfless reason stated..

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Each to their own i guess, but i agree, it's not for others to judge!

I agree.

same...

Nothing further to add to these: spot on!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Don't remember seeing too many married, ladies playing away, being judged on here.....married men, on the other hand

You've summed up my view too. I confess to bristling when men blame their wives and start threads about not getting meets. You look at the profile and nearly all have the opening line, bored married man...or variations of!

Women simply state married, husband doesn't know.

Both doing the "wrong" thing but one comes across "better!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So a mixed view on this topic. But in general I guess we could all quite easily slide into the live and let live category. If attached married ladies / men are carrying on and the person. . . Persons involved are fully compliant, then all involved should be adult enough to respect the decisions a person has made

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"i never understand the whole judging thing..

they are cheating and a cheater, what is there to judge? their reasons for cheating? its a selfish act, thats a fact not a judgement.

so cos people dont want to meet married people they are judging them? just dont get that notion

Neither do I.

That said, if you're selfishly cheating on the "one you love" it figures they then see "do not meet attached" as a judgment. They are used to having their cake and eating it, how dare you deprive them of their entitlement!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

" all involved should be adult enough to respect the decisions a person has made

Oh please, if only! I have on my profile "no married men". I also have no bi, white only. Guess which excluded group gives me grief?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" all involved should be adult enough to respect the decisions a person has made

Oh please, if only! I have on my profile "no married men". I also have no bi, white only. Guess which excluded group gives me grief?

The non-white group, Ive had messages from a certain culture and had to say no and been asked why, Ive just said read my profile, they still come back and ask why, im not prepared to say why because it is obvious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i never understand the whole judging thing..

they are cheating and a cheater, what is there to judge? their reasons for cheating? its a selfish act, thats a fact not a judgement.

so cos people dont want to meet married people they are judging them? just dont get that notion

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I didnt want to meet married men purely because I thought it would be too difficult to arrange because of both marriages but have met one married guy but only because he travels with his job doesnt live round my way. Am also wanting to meet another but because of stuff going on his life at the moment, havent managed it yet, havent even spoken to him for 4 days. So im not all one-sided and I dont judge people either

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

I'm married, and I'm here by my choice, just as it's your choice to meet me or not meet me xx

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

" all involved should be adult enough to respect the decisions a person has made

Oh please, if only! I have on my profile "no married men". I also have no bi, white only. Guess which excluded group gives me grief?

No! Married men! I daresay there are married, bi non-white guys on Fab but they've never written to me asking why I won't meet them, it's NSA sex after all and hotels offer discretion etc.

As I said: sense of entitlement!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its ok for married ladies to be on here though ....... Just the men that are scum on earth

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I'm married, and I'm here by my choice, just as it's your choice to meet me or not meet me xx"

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its fine by me if married men are on here. Im here and dont recall married men slagging me off on this thread? We all want the same thing in the end. If I found my husband on here purely by chance, id be a little surprised because he doesnt seem the type but then never thought I was

. But it would be his choice cos he aint getting it from me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

Agree. It's vile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree. It's vile. "

IN YOUR OPINION

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Its ok for married ladies to be on here though ....... Just the men that are scum on earth

They are if they contact me demanding to know why I won't meet them!

It would never cross my mind to contact someone not wanting to meet bbws say, asking them why not as it's just NSA!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site isn't for cheats nor just for sex. It's a swingers site.

Yes people will use this site as they will, but coming onto the forums and saying I'm a cheat, not a swinger... and they expect.... a round of applause or instashag responses

Just as someone decides to cheat, others decide not to assist. That for me has no gender assigned to it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its ok for married ladies to be on here though ....... Just the men that are scum on earth

They are if they contact me demanding to know why I won't meet them!

It would never cross my mind to contact someone not wanting to meet bbws say, asking them why not as it's just NSA! "

Just block those kind of people, I've had messages like that from couples and ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must be getting old as I know longer judge people, there are reasons for everything we do in life. What's the point in letting it wind you up ?

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

"Its fine by me if married men are on here. Im here and dont recall married men slagging me off on this thread? We all want the same thing in the end. If I found my husband on here purely by chance, id be a little surprised because he doesnt seem the type but then never thought I was

. But it would be his choice cos he aint getting it from me lol"

lol....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree. It's vile.

IN YOUR OPINION"

Which everyone is entitled to and can air

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must be getting old as I know longer judge people, there are reasons for everything we do in life. What's the point in letting it wind you up ?"

Pls explain why it is judging someone to not want to meet married people?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't know how to change the couple part

Only reason it's not updated

It's all on the profile though

I'm very up front & honest from the beginning"

But your profile doesn't mention it at all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must be getting old as I know longer judge people, there are reasons for everything we do in life. What's the point in letting it wind you up ?

Pls explain why it is judging someone to not want to meet married people?"

Not explaining anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I contacted a woman recently who clearly hadnt read my profile. We arranged to meet and all was good. a day or two before the meet i re read her post and notice one single line that stated she wouldnt meet married men. Now i could have said nothing and met her anyway. I messaged her and said she should read my post compleatly. strange i havnt heard from her since. But hey thats just me being honest i guess"

Is this where we all applaud your honesty and integrity?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this is a swinging website, there is no place in swinging for cheating its 2 totally different things, therefore its quite simple, if you are cheating then your not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry but I think that is a huge generalsation. Plenty of men on here have morals.

I'm sorry but the suggestion that the vast majority of men will fuck anything and have no morals and lack guilt is as laughable as any other generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses"

A truly vile post. I'm actually to gobsmacked to respond.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must be getting old as I know longer judge people, there are reasons for everything we do in life. What's the point in letting it wind you up ?

Pls explain why it is judging someone to not want to meet married people?

Not explaining anything "

Then don't suggest others are being judgemental when they have a preference as they don't have to justify their preference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why is it given the site we frequent, it's still a common occurrence to see a married lady who clearly states she is not single, judged by others for her choice in lifestyle?

Er, because some poor sucker is left at home while she's out fucking around?

fuck...i wish a man had said that...just to see a difference, in responses..in fact...responses

A truly vile post. I'm actually to gobsmacked to respond."

Is it really any wonder there is no physical contact in the marriage when there is no respect left

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Surprised this lasted 12 hours but time to call it a day now

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