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Whats the view on cheating
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There will be those that don't care so long as they're not directly involved.
Those who will very much care and not want to be involved.
Those who are lied to and will then be unimpressed as a result.
Oh, and those who get caught out and find themselves in a lot of trouble |
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I won’t entertain or be part of it.
That’s not swinging to me.
Personally think it’s vile. But each to their own. I don’t go out my way to slate people doing it.
I’m sure cheaters don’t care for our opinion if they can do that to someone haha |
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"If they'll lie to their spouse, they'll lie to me.
So I'll pass "
This. Even if they tell us, they're still lying to someone who is supposed to be important to them - what's the incentive to believe them at all when it comes to other things they may say, promise or whatever.
You can't pick and choose honesty. |
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When I started looking for someone to spend time with, the first woman I met told me her husband had a stroke and needed 24hr care. She loved him but he was a vegetable. She needed a companion and affection and he couldn't give it anymore.
I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.
I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.
My wife and I are together for the kids. She has a foreign passport and I'm her sponsor. If we divorce she leaves the country and the kids lose either their mother, or they lose decent education and healthcare.
Myself and the women I mention have nothing to offer a single person. We all come with unavoidable baggage. But none of us should live the time we have left sad and/or lonely. So we try to find people in similar situations on sites like this.
The line isn't always well defined. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Personally I dont really care, everyone is looking for something. Just curious how others into the fab world consider cheating. "
Absolutely….
If they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you… |
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I wouldn't knowingly have sex with someone who is cheating.
If your marriage isn't working, in my opinion, you should get out. If you genuinely love your partner, you wouldn't be on Fab actively looking to cheat.
Sex with others that you partner knows about and is happy with, is fine and part of swinging. |
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There's never justifiable reasons to cheat, even though people make all sorts of excuses.
Just be open/honest. Give your partner/husband/wife the option to get out if they want to, instead of all the lies and betrayal and deceit |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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If you’re swinging and still feel the need to cheat then as I’ve said before, no one will ever be enough.
I’m talking from experience. Thought I had an amazing relationship and we enjoyed this lifestyle together with few boundaries.
Sadly even they were too much for him and lines were crossed. |
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"When I started looking for someone to spend time with, the first woman I met told me her husband had a stroke and needed 24hr care. She loved him but he was a vegetable. She needed a companion and affection and he couldn't give it anymore.
I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.
I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.
My wife and I are together for the kids. She has a foreign passport and I'm her sponsor. If we divorce she leaves the country and the kids lose either their mother, or they lose decent education and healthcare.
Myself and the women I mention have nothing to offer a single person. We all come with unavoidable baggage. But none of us should live the time we have left sad and/or lonely. So we try to find people in similar situations on sites like this.
The line isn't always well defined."
Well said. This really isn't always a black and white situation. I don't have a stock answer to this for that reason. I really don't feel like it's my place to judge on this. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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As expected, the reaction you will get is mostly from those who are strongly against it.
Whilst those who are not will remain silent for fear of being called a cunt and suffer the wrath of those with a different moral compass.
Therefore not exactly a true reflection of what happens in the real world. |
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We certainly don't judge - we've both cheated on past partners (when we were very young but still)...
But as for meeting cheaters here, we're much the same as many of the people on this thread. How and why should we trust what they say to us?
On the other hand, we genuinely feel bad for some who feel "trapped" and wish to explore fantasies and kinks that they feel they could never communicate to their partner. Not everyone cheats because they love the thrill of infidelity. We don't meet attached people without consent but can still sympathize with some.
We wish everyone could have the freedom to discuss and explore what they wish to. If they can't, that's a good indicator they may be in the wrong relationship |
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"Personally I dont really care, everyone is looking for something. Just curious how others into the fab world consider cheating.
Absolutely….
If they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you…"
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I don't want a relationship with anyone I meet through this lifestyle, so they'll never be in a position where they can cheat on me. I don't ask anyone about their previous encounters or expect any exclusivity to me. |
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"We are humans therfore we are biologically chances and predisposed to cheating it's in our DNA, each to ther own I don't judge, enjoy have fun your a long time dear life is short enjoy"
Wanting and having multiple sexual partners does not have to involve lying to and cheating on someone you supposedly care about |
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I personally don't , I've been cheated on and while it's not cool it didn't bother me. My situation ATM is a complicated one but not really. I have a FB it's purely a fab thing, she stopped playing with others so I've done the same out of respect, but we aren't a couple we're both on fab and while it's deeper than a fab thing it's not a relationship as neither of us want that, but because she's not playing with anyone else I don't feel right about it either. |
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I’ll freely admit that I find the idea of having sex with a cheating wife a turn on.
Everyone has their reasons for being here, I try not to judge. But everyone also have their opinions, so if it’s not for them, that’s fine too. We’re all different… |
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Unless it's with full consent, then someone is going to get hurt. So, it's not really a road we want to be going down.
Being caught up in someone else's "domestic" is a massive turn-off, for us anyway.
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By *hipdaleCouple 33 weeks ago
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Can read a married man like a book on here and there are so many who sat they are single but are married some are up front majority are not , we don't play with married men or couples who are playing away from there partners not for us but each to there own |
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If the individual does not respect their partner enough to have honest conversations how can we trust they will have respect for us, our relationship and Marriage?
People will do what they want but we would not become engaged with that “dynamic”. Swinging for us is about honesty and communication being the fundamentals. And yes that goes for any or all not just males.
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"When I started looking for someone to spend time with, the first woman I met told me her husband had a stroke and needed 24hr care. She loved him but he was a vegetable. She needed a companion and affection and he couldn't give it anymore.
I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.
I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.
My wife and I are together for the kids. She has a foreign passport and I'm her sponsor. If we divorce she leaves the country and the kids lose either their mother, or they lose decent education and healthcare.
Myself and the women I mention have nothing to offer a single person. We all come with unavoidable baggage. But none of us should live the time we have left sad and/or lonely. So we try to find people in similar situations on sites like this.
The line isn't always well defined."
Lets number those examples 1-4. In both 2 and 4 the discussion has already happened that you are together for practical terms only so why lie. Example 3 how does meeting a single man help someone who thinks they are a lesbian?
At the end of the day the line is well defined. The reasons for crossing it might be multiple and complicated and not for someone to judge til they walk a mile in the shoes or whatever.
but convincing yourself that the line is fluid is delusion |
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"Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives"
Sadly too true. Wives/husbands will always be second best when it comes to sex with cheaters. Having been on the receiving end it’s really demoralising and confidence shattering when they won’t touch you or make any form of sexual contact because they’ve fucked someone else on the way home from work than make the effort with someone they supposedly love
Tell tale signs always there, the cum filled pants, locations switched off and always defensive or dismissive |
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"Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives
Sadly too true. Wives/husbands will always be second best when it comes to sex with cheaters. Having been on the receiving end it’s really demoralising and confidence shattering when they won’t touch you or make any form of sexual contact because they’ve fucked someone else on the way home from work than make the effort with someone they supposedly love
Tell tale signs always there, the cum filled pants, locations switched off and always defensive or dismissive "
Exactly this, it can be devastatingly soul destroying, and the bonus of feeling like such a fool for seeing the signs, suspecting, but convincing yourself othrrwise, that they wouldn't cheat and you should have trust and faith your partner |
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