Hoping for some critical discussion here -
“It’s not cheating if your not meeting their sexual needs”
Agree or disagree?
(Context - you can’t accuse a partner of cheating if your A) not meeting their sexual needs B) aware your not meeting their sexual needs yet not doing anything about it) |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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Controversially agree - 90% of the attached guys I speak to admit they wouldn’t be on here, if they were getting some at home.
Kids, houses etc make it unreasonable for them to leave the relationship so that’s not always the answer |
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Disagree.
Someone you're in a relationship with doesn't know they're not meeting your needs? Communicate.
Someone you're in a relationship with knows they're not meeting your needs and isn't willing to do anything about it? Break up.
Cheating on and lying to your partner is a shit move. Whatever justification you think you have. |
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It is cheating as the example provided regarding meeting sexual needs assumes there is a contractual right to sex.
The other person is not failing to fulfill a negotiation/obligation if sex stops.
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If you're not having your needs met, you need to communicate with your partner and if it's a dealbreaker in the relationship, then you need to communicate that you want out of the relationship and go your separate ways as amicably as possible.
This really isn't that hard, just be a normal, grown up person and not cheat. |
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C) You're unable to meet their sexual needs.
So, people that many have poor physical health that prevents them from having sex. Or people that are having to work away from home alot to provide for their family. Are they then just supposed to suck it up because their partner played away from the relationship? Doesn't seem very fair, or reasonable... Sounds more like a cop out excuse |
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Cheating is cheating is cheating regardless of the reason.
I know people have their reasons and feel able to justify their actions and that sometimes one or both partners won't have *the* conversation. But it's cheating. |
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This insinuates cheating is only sex.
I don’t agree with that.
Justifying your cheating doesn’t make it any less cheating. Just something to tell yourself to blame someone else imo.
It’s the same as someone saying all other aspects of relationship are great except sex… so cheat. The rest is only great cos they don’t know your cheating haha.
(Generic you not you personally!) |
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Disagree.
It's still cheating if you meet others behind their back, even if you feel your needs aren't being met.
Have you asked your partner if they will compromise and let you seek sex elsewhere?. |
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"Interested to know which part of my profile makes you think I’m attached and not getting any 
The thread was actually inspired by something that popped up on my socials"
I think we all thought you were and looking for approval from strangers, so many threads go along those lines here.
What's your view on it op? |
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Cheating is the act of lying and following through, regardless of whether its physical and/or emotional. There's always a choice and while you can't control someone else's actions, you can always control your own - even if the choice is shitty, even if you don't like the outcome.
It's also a personal boundary that unique between couples. What one couple agrees as cheating may differ from anothers; but what stays the same, at the core is the dishonesty. |
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It’s a difficult one. I don’t advocate cheating when it’s going to obviously lead to people getting hurt.
But at what point in our evolution did we decide that we would suppress our innate desire to breed in order to please a partner? I know there are some birds that mate for life out there
It’s the nature v nurture debate all over again for me  |
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"Disagree.
Someone you're in a relationship with doesn't know they're not meeting your needs? Communicate.
Someone you're in a relationship with knows they're not meeting your needs and isn't willing to do anything about it? Break up.
Cheating on and lying to your partner is a shit move. Whatever justification you think you have."
This |
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By *io--Man 19 weeks ago
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"Hoping for some critical discussion here -
“It’s not cheating if your not meeting their sexual needs”
Agree or disagree?
(Context - you can’t accuse a partner of cheating if your A) not meeting their sexual needs B) aware your not meeting their sexual needs yet not doing anything about it) "
100% disagree. |
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