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Time wasters!!!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP 43 weeks ago
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As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though  |
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It's one of the reasons we are playing exclusively nowadays as mrs N in particular got fed up of the faffing around that goes on. We seem to have a lot less time wthan we used to as well as both always very busy so suits us best nowadays to just meet our best naughty FWBs |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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As a newbie to FS I feel it's a mix of things too. It's hard for us to get let down too. I had an invited to join a couple last weekend a very spontaneous meet . I agreed and made my way to a area which they lived. I was 5 mins away and got a message telling "As it was my first ever meet they fell I could not handle them "so it was cancelled. I have no beef with their opinion as it was my first meet and I was a little worried about stage fright but never suffered with it in the past (when younger ) Being new this will always be the case till actually meeting and verified. I will still endeavour to achieve golden verification and pursue health alround sexy fun  |
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By *oxy jWoman 43 weeks ago
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they are on ever other swinging site too in fact they seem easier to spot on here i only meets guys via fab i really cannot remember the last time i got let down ...if it keeps happening to you then id suggest changing the way you select people for meets why are you attracting time wasters ...
as for the ''they ruin it for us good guys'' nope sorry they ruin it for themselves it just seems that sold called good guys like to hide behind other excuse's for getting nowhere other than the real reason ie nobody is interested ...yet |
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By *awty_TwoCouple 43 weeks ago
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Too many dreamers on here these days, but it’s not just men, too many couples now also. They like to be on this site, swap messages and photos, then when it comes to a meet, they suddenly go quiet. |
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By *NV14INVCouple 43 weeks ago
Inverness |
As a couple looking for a MFM encounter we have decided that a club is only the real opportunity. V is straight and that would possibly cause an issue with another MF couple straight or not. We would never want anyone to feel left out at all. |
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I thought it was always blokes who were the ones doing the letting down, that was until I started getting stood up and messed about. I’m understanding of course but some people not having the decency to communicate cancelling or doing it multiple times is so annoying. |
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Clubs are far more reliable, I’ve had a many a hotel meet cancel for a host of reasons by couples but on the other hand life does sometimes genuinely get in the way 
It’s all part of the fabswingers roundabout lol
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
Unfortunately there’s plenty of them on this site. Give us genuine guys a bad rap on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Unfortunately there is a chance that the person or persons that you were chatting to weren’t who they say they were. Even verifications can’t always be trusted as some people like to give fake verifications, either to make it look like they are getting meets or on the promise of getting a meet. As long as you allow for this you’ll be better prepared for life on fab  |
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It's not just men, I've literally organised a spontaneous meet tonight only for the lady to go off line just before sharing an address.
I've 3 times driven to meets only to get no response/replys when I get to the postcode... Some people just like the attention....  |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
A lot of fantasists unfortunately |
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Yeah we have serious trust issues with single guys now lol..
We will only really consider men with verifications from well known couples profiles now..
I wish there was a solution for this problem. Anyone got any ideas? |
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By *insBadMan 43 weeks ago
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
Just means even more fun for the trusted and reliable single guys |
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We invite multiple guys over all at once, preferably bisexual, but not necessary. If someone backs out we’ve got backups. Our sex life is fantastic to start with. Bi couples are harder to invite as you’re mainly chatting to the guy who’s partner has no knowledge about the exchange and usually says no. You need broad shoulders in this game. |
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I’ve been using Fab for over 11 years now, and never let anyone down for a meet. I have however, been cancelled on/stood up several times, by solo females and couples.
I’ve even been subjected to the insult of having a meet arranged with a woman, all going well leading up to the night, then silence all that day, my messages read but no reply etc, to then see a veri posted the following day from meeting someone else….. |
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"Yeah we have serious trust issues with single guys now lol..
We will only really consider men with verifications from well known couples profiles now..
I wish there was a solution for this problem. Anyone got any ideas? "
Arrange to meet me  |
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
Nerves? |
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All those saying "this gives the genuine a bad name"... I don't believe they affect me, I control my destiny on fab, my actions speak for me
Those who say its happening to us a lot.. you're the common denominator change something
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It is what it is. You will always have someone somewhere having issues.
We see others complaining that there seems to be a lot of people (men, women and couples, all are as bad) who seem to enjoy the fantasy of something happening but when it actually comes to it get cold feet. They're in love with the idea but not the reality.
Maybe this is the case for a few no shows?.... some will be genuine time wasters and there will always be the odd absolutely genuine excuse/reason which can't be helped. |
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"they are on ever other swinging site too in fact they seem easier to spot on here i only meets guys via fab i really cannot remember the last time i got let down ...if it keeps happening to you then id suggest changing the way you select people for meets why are you attracting time wasters ...
as for the ''they ruin it for us good guys'' nope sorry they ruin it for themselves it just seems that sold called good guys like to hide behind other excuse's for getting nowhere other than the real reason ie nobody is interested ...yet"
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
Not just men OP believe me  |
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By *ugby 123Couple 43 weeks ago
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I think it could be nerves a lot of the time, especially if it is the first time....the thought maybe horny but when offered the reality they can't go through with it.
Sadly a lot of people would call them a timewaster if they told the truth and said why they are pulling out...when really they should be applauding them for being honest. Maybe that's why they just say nothing. |
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though
Not just men OP believe me "
Yep. I have had verified couples and women arranging meets and then going offline with no explanation or apology later. I could give them the benefit of the doubt if they apologised or explained why, but if they ghost me I am just going to assume they are timewasters. |
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"This gonna put the cat amongst the pigeons as we find men more likely to turn and not to ghost us than couples !"
Only putting it from my perspective, as a guy who doesn’t meet men, just arranges meets with women and couples. I was also commenting on the fact that the people who wasted my time were verified. Even verified people can’t be trusted.
I think the OP was commenting on timewasters in general not just men. |
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
Maybe it’s your approach…
We’ve never experienced this with anyone in all the years we’ve been meeting here.
We treat everyone equally, men are just as important as women to us and we make sure they feel completely comfortable through our chats before we all feel confident to meet up.
It’s the same with couples, if we don’t feel like they’re invested we just move on.
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Oh the time waster....the blocked when 5 mins away after travelling....
I've come to expect from a percentage of guys ...think they get cold feet to be honest or just get off on the thought ...
Bit of honesty would be nice ... |
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It happens to everyone I think we had a few let us down at last minute and we know others that have been let down we try never to let anyone down unless it's a real emergency and only ever done that twice |
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We’ve had one recently- plenty of messages and things seemed to be clicking nicely.
He had fantastic verifications so was all looking good.
Arranged a meet and he messaged the day before saying he had to work.
We let that one go, benefit of doubt.
Rearranged and messaged most of the day before then on the day complete silence.
Couple of days later got an apology saying he’d gone out and got d*unk and lost his phone.
Also lost his chance now! |
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"As a couple we try to share the love equally with men and women, but whenever we arrange for a man to come and join us they seem to let us down more often than not. What’s going on?? Never have this issue with the women though "
I really don't understand these people. I think there serial copy and pasters and then if something comes off they pick and choose what they want or just bottle it cos they want to speak to the lady of the couple only. If I message someone it's to find out more about them, see if we click, move to WhatsApp/telegram/Kik and then get a meet sorted were all happy with
Straaaaange people on here... Be carful out there. |
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