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Hey fab people!
We’re a reasonably new couple on here but have both been pretty active individually in the past. We’re finding it very different as a couple, especially as we’re trying to communicate and arrange things with couples. I guess it makes sense that you’re trying to please more people, and have more diaries to coordinate! But is that generally everyone’s experience? Any advice on how to progress things easier?
Is it also generally the theme that couples want a social first?
We’re open to meeting everyone, but thought we’d focus initially on couples as it’s a dynamic neither of us had experience with, as a couple too, but it’s proving hard work  |
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Sorry hit send a bit quick.
I don't know about it being a general theme. We have met both couples who want a social and others that did not.
In terms of making it easier. For us, club nights work the best for us. People already have the night arranged. Your schedules are already aligned as such.
I appreciate that is not for everyone though. |
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"Sorry hit send a bit quick.
I don't know about it being a general theme. We have met both couples who want a social and others that did not.
In terms of making it easier. For us, club nights work the best for us. People already have the night arranged. Your schedules are already aligned as such.
I appreciate that is not for everyone though. "
Yes, we said just yesterday we’ll probably be best at a club. Thank you for replying |
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I'm half a couple and it's v tough to meet other couples, who want the same and where there's attraction for all.
This is why we've kept our single profiles, generally if we want to meet as a couple, we find clubs and socials are much easier.
You can see all parties, chat & see if there's enough attraction between all to take it further. |
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This why we go to clubs pretty much exclusively.
We’re not going on a date so will arrange to meet multiple people. If we get along, great, if not, great.
Life, diaries, time invested in chats is too much faff for us.
Nothing against those that want to message for months, and then go for a coffee social and then go on a date. It’s just not our thing.
All that matters is that you are having fun on your Lifestyle journey
Xx |
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There is a real mixture on here. Some like socials, some like club meets etc etc. We've met couples from here in their homes, our home, club, naturist spas.
Just keep on going, the law of averages says that you'll meet and play and love it - don't give up. |
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We also would advise you go on some club nights, people are already there, there's no message ping pong, you get to see people for real how they behave and talk. Don't go with expectations that you'll meet people and play though. At least you can chat to people and have each other to play with, anything else is a bonus. |
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It can be difficult, you'll have a mix of time wasters, all talk couples to get through but when you get through to the decent couples that actually want to meet, hopefully you won't have an issue, try and opt to arrange a date for a month or so time incase they need to match their diaries/arrange for childcare.
Alternatively you could always try out some clubs if that tickles your fancy.
Miss S x |
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With married couples it's not so much about diaries being compatible as we come together and expect the same, it's more about a mutual attraction between all.
If time is scarce then we're less likely to opt for a social as we might want to play if the attraction is there. This is where clubs help for first meets as it's easy to say 'no' and then still have a potentially sexy evening. |
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We went to Penthouse Playrooms a few weeks ago and it was reasonably quiet apart from a large group of couples who knew each other. Got chatting to a really nice younger couple who also confirmed it was a quiet night and the other lot were there together. We did have amazing sex…..but alone
Thinking of trying VA’s in a few weeks.
I guess half the issue is that with what we saw at the club it was a lot of porn style banging, and we’re hoping for a bit more intimacy that might come from couple on couple on the same wavelength.
Perhaps we’re looking for a needle in a haystack! |
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We would always day a social first , but we do appreciate that time is in short supply
And pleasing 4 people is never easy to do
So think of it this way , if you can't manage to get together for a drink , then how are you ever gonna find the time to get it on ?
We like a social and if we go straight on to fun then we are happy with that , but again it's a 4 way connection that's needed , and that's never easy
X |
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I am not a couple (obviously!) but the vast majority of the couples I meet have said that getting a 4 way together is an absolute nightmare and that’s why they generally prefer an mfm or just a meet for her - its simply easier to set up. |
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"We went to Penthouse Playrooms a few weeks ago and it was reasonably quiet apart from a large group of couples who knew each other. Got chatting to a really nice younger couple who also confirmed it was a quiet night and the other lot were there together. We did have amazing sex…..but alone
Thinking of trying VA’s in a few weeks.
I guess half the issue is that with what we saw at the club it was a lot of porn style banging, and we’re hoping for a bit more intimacy that might come from couple on couple on the same wavelength.
Perhaps we’re looking for a needle in a haystack! "
I don't have experience of either of those clubs.
But I would hope that when you meet the right couple/s that you'd be able to get a private room together and get the more intimate experience you desire. Just having conversations with people and finding the right match.
I mean I've made it sound easy there and of course it isn't.
We've been to clubs plenty of times and only played with each other, but that's okay. I love the night out for what it is, whatever happens.
Also potentially you will make connections with couples that means you may be able to meet up in the future outside of the club too. |
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Meeting couples is hard, finding 1 on 1 attraction is hard enough never mind 4 way attraction.
We social 1st because we want to make sure we get on and have a connection with the other couple, im not an any holes a goal type person, I need a connection.
Maybe look at the organised socials I find them much easier meeting people, face to face is far better.
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We’ve found finding the couples is one thing, arranging a time when it fits everyone is a nightmare. For this reason we’ve decided club visits work out better for us at the minute |
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By *uysx2Couple (MM) 43 weeks ago
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"Doing it as couples is a fucking nightmare.....finding 4 people that actually all like each other is rare!!!
Very rewarding when it does work though. "
Which raises the question, would you ever take one for the team? |
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"Doing it as couples is a fucking nightmare.....finding 4 people that actually all like each other is rare!!!
Very rewarding when it does work though.
Which raises the question, would you ever take one for the team?"
Definitely not!!! That's something we said we'd never do |
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Our experience of pre arrange meets with new couples is limited.
Mainly because mutual chemistry is hard to find. Mix that with our own time limitations and that of others. Then add in addition the flakiness of people on line.
So logically just in theory it's an endeavor fraught with disappointment and frustration. And our very limited experience would back that up.
However we've always been club swingers and that has always worked well for us. First we can go to a club at a time that is good for us without working around someone else's calendar or having to change ours. We can meet new couples in a neutral no pressure environment. Which is great because you really can't judge chemistry until you meet in person. If the chemistry is there great, if not both parties can go explore new opportunities. No one has had risk a wasted night on a sole prospect. In addition to that you may even end up hooking up more than once. Plus if the desire is there you have the facilities to take things to the next level then and there. Likewise if you find a couple that works you can always exchange details and arrange something outside of the club in future. To be fair the couples who we freinds with outside of the club are all ones we've meet at clubs and parties.
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"Sorry hit send a bit quick.
I don't know about it being a general theme. We have met both couples who want a social and others that did not.
In terms of making it easier. For us, club nights work the best for us. People already have the night arranged. Your schedules are already aligned as such.
I appreciate that is not for everyone though. "
Same here. If there's no attraction, you can both easily move on. If there is, you find a room Lx |
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