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I don’t judge anyone. I cheat on my wife and have tried to stop but I have needs which aren’t for filled at home. I would love it if my wife was kinky and shared a profile but she’s not.
So my account always explains my situation.
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Oooh I have a question… if your partner found out and actively encouraged you to go out and cheat on them, would it have the same effect on you? Would it be as much of a turn on? Or is it the secrecy that’s hot? |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Oooh I have a question… if your partner found out and actively encouraged you to go out and cheat on them, would it have the same effect on you? Would it be as much of a turn on? Or is it the secrecy that’s hot? "
Exactly this! Although I think that is more of an open marriage |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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I think I’m a cuckquean… I’d love my partner to go out and have fun and then I can ‘reclaim’ them when they get home!
But yeah that’s not the same as cheating. I’d be gutted if I found out my partner was cheating - especially as I’m so open |
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"Oooh I have a question… if your partner found out and actively encouraged you to go out and cheat on them, would it have the same effect on you? Would it be as much of a turn on? Or is it the secrecy that’s hot? "
Secrecy is very hot but I also hate the side of lying. There are always pros and cons. To openly meet people would relieve a lot of stress xx |
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"I think I’m a cuckquean… I’d love my partner to go out and have fun and then I can ‘reclaim’ them when they get home!
But yeah that’s not the same as cheating. I’d be gutted if I found out my partner was cheating - especially as I’m so open "
If you were open there would be no need to cheat. I’m finding with age that I’m constantly looking for more edge xx |
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OP Just for one moment assume you actually loved your girlfriend and didn't cheat on her. How would you feel if you found out it was all a sham and that she'd had been having sex with other men behind your back? |
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"Gotta love a Green Arrow 
It is the way
Think we all ran to the green arrow
Everything makes more sense with the green arrow
What’s a green arrow? "
Green arrow next to the name it shows their most recent posts |
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"Gotta love a Green Arrow
It is the way
Think we all ran to the green arrow
Everything makes more sense with the green arrow
What’s a green arrow?
Green arrow next to the name it shows their most recent posts "
Doh! How could I miss that! - Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP. |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP."
Hypocrisy and double standards. It's rife on here  |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP."
I was trying to remember the thread title before saying this sane thing. |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP."
It's always the same. I really don't know wht |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP."
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies....  |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP.
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies.... "
There are miles more men on here than women so guys, in general, aren't going to criticise a woman as they are less numerically. If it was the choice of a lady who was cheating or not seeing anyone well what are they more likely to choose?
But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman. As they saying goes on here cheating is NOT swinging. |
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The same cheaters are usually the ones that don’t test either, usually end up in risky dogging areas, they say they are straight but fuck mens asses in dark in woods, then the poor partner ends up with a nasty sti….  |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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My 1st ex husband cheated .... First when I was 8 months pregnant ... I stupidly forgave him his excuse was he wasn't getting any.... WTAF
.... he of course cheated again ... I threw him out.
Married again ... and I went 7 yrs not getting any ... I ended the marriage rather than cheat.
I get everyone's circumstances are different ... I get marriage can be lonely... OP if you have that little respect for your wife do the kinder thing and leave her and let her find happiness.
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"My 1st ex husband cheated .... First when I was 8 months pregnant ... I stupidly forgave him his excuse was he wasn't getting any.... WTAF
.... he of course cheated again ... I threw him out.
Married again ... and I went 7 yrs not getting any ... I ended the marriage rather than cheat.
I get everyone's circumstances are different ... I get marriage can be lonely... OP if you have that little respect for your wife do the kinder thing and leave her and let her find happiness.
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couldn’t agree with you more, we have both been cheated on by our ex partners, it’s disgusting and spineless.. |
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"Least I'm honest which can't be said for a lot of others on here "
Honest with strangers on a swingers website, not honest with your wife who you’re meant to love and care for. She deserves better.
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"We wouldn’t entertain anyone that is cheating, it’s horrible! "
Exactly this! As a couple navigating all of this requires immense trust and communication and honesty which so the absolute opposite of cheating.
C x |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP.
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies....
There are miles more men on here than women so guys, in general, aren't going to criticise a woman as they are less numerically. If it was the choice of a lady who was cheating or not seeing anyone well what are they more likely to choose?
But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman. As they saying goes on here cheating is NOT swinging."
Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up… |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up… "
Neither is acceptable. Cheating is cheating regardless of who does it. |
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Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up…
Neither is acceptable. Cheating is cheating regardless of who does it. "
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Humans aren’t sexually monogamous
they are socially monogamous.
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I would agree ... there just needs to be honesty and agreement between couples... and with others you want to play with. |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP.
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies....
There are miles more men on here than women so guys, in general, aren't going to criticise a woman as they are less numerically. If it was the choice of a lady who was cheating or not seeing anyone well what are they more likely to choose?
But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman. As they saying goes on here cheating is NOT swinging.
Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up… "
That’s not what was said. What they said is that the replies to a woman going to a club behind her husbands back are far more likely to be positive because men will have less of a problem with that given they may see it as increasing their chances of scoring. Given the site is mostly men, more replies to a post by a woman will be positive. Replies to a man will likely be negative as less men will reply and the couples and women who reply are more likely to frown upon cheating.
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP.
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies....
There are miles more men on here than women so guys, in general, aren't going to criticise a woman as they are less numerically. If it was the choice of a lady who was cheating or not seeing anyone well what are they more likely to choose?
But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman. As they saying goes on here cheating is NOT swinging.
Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up…
That’s not what was said. What they said is that the replies to a woman going to a club behind her husbands back are far more likely to be positive because men will have less of a problem with that given they may see it as increasing their chances of scoring. Given the site is mostly men, more replies to a post by a woman will be positive. Replies to a man will likely be negative as less men will reply and the couples and women who reply are more likely to frown upon cheating.
C x"
Double standards, are double standards, but hey; clubs need more solo women in them, so let's just agree to differ  x |
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"I'm not defending OP. Cheating is quite clearly wrong, but the replies to this thread compared to the replies to a previous thread earlier today about a woman who has been going to swinging clubs behind her husbands back for years are like chalk and cheese. Why weren't you all condemning her earlier today like you are with OP? And I'll reiterate, I'm most definitely not defending OP.
Welcome to Fab; any excuse to have a pop at a bloke, but never upset the ladies....
There are miles more men on here than women so guys, in general, aren't going to criticise a woman as they are less numerically. If it was the choice of a lady who was cheating or not seeing anyone well what are they more likely to choose?
But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman. As they saying goes on here cheating is NOT swinging.
Cheating is cheating; nobody in a stable relationship should feel the need to have their bread buttered on both sides. But if there’s nothing in the larder at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to forage for food….
As for your response; it’s perfectly acceptable for this married woman to visit clubs for years behind her husband’s back, simply because of a lack of females playing on the scene? Ok……glad you cleared that up… "
You are obviously deliberately ignoring what I said.
The first part was a possible reason why women may not be treated so harshly as men when it comes to cheating.
It was an explanation not an excuse. I further clarified this in the second part of my answer; did you forget to read the part "...But certainly the same goes for a man or a woman". |
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"Humans aren’t sexually monogamous
they are socially monogamous.
I would agree ... there just needs to be honesty and agreement between couples... and with others you want to play with. "
Shame too many prefer to just cheat instead of having that honest, or any form, of communication  |
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"Humans aren’t sexually monogamous
they are socially monogamous.
I would agree ... there just needs to be honesty and agreement between couples... and with others you want to play with.
Shame too many prefer to just cheat instead of having that honest, or any form, of communication "
Yep xx |
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"Wonder Op and those that are quite comfortable cheating… how would you feel if it was other way round? "
That's been asked many times and strangely enough the OP or those that support such posts as this never have an answer. |
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"Wonder Op and those that are quite comfortable cheating… how would you feel if it was other way round? "
I think some wish their partners would cheat for various reasons.
Some truly believe they have good reason to cheat but their partner doesn't.
Others simply don't care.
The odd one or two would be genuinely hurt and confused, unable to understand why. |
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