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I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense. |
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense."
This and some single guys like to have the feeling of oh yeah I am fucking his wife/partner not the same if just a buddy as the relationship is not the same. |
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
This and some single guys like to have the feeling of oh yeah I am fucking his wife/partner not the same if just a buddy as the relationship is not the same."
I know you referred to couples in the OP but that is my opinion re single guys meeting fb couples. |
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People will state that th couples care less for each other which for me is rubbish. Whenever I swung with fb's I cared very much for the other person. If I didn't I wouldn't have picked them to swing with.
The solid relationship argument is a bit rubbish in my eyes too. How many times have we seen threads where an established couple have gone into meltdown during a meet?
Personally I just see this demand as a way of filtering out mail. The more filters they have the less mail they have to deal with. Then they come on here moaning they can't get a meet  |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense."
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging.... |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"How many times have we seen threads where an established couple have gone into meltdown during a meet?
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Errr... None that I can think of!
I have explained our reasons for no FB couples and it is nothing to do with filtering mail! We hardly get any mail from any couples and if we met FB couples we would have many more meets!! |
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"How many times have we seen threads where an established couple have gone into meltdown during a meet?
Errr... None that I can think of!
I have explained our reasons for no FB couples and it is nothing to do with filtering mail! We hardly get any mail from any couples and if we met FB couples we would have many more meets!!"
We'll I have seen a fair few. |
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Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm.  |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm. "
How do you know that the same couples who reject FB's play with singles??
There are a lot of couples only looking for couples.... |
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"People will state that th couples care less for each other which for me is rubbish. Whenever I swung with fb's I cared very much for the other person. If I didn't I wouldn't have picked them to swing with.
The solid relationship argument is a bit rubbish in my eyes too. How many times have we seen threads where an established couple have gone into meltdown during a meet?
Personally I just see this demand as a way of filtering out mail. The more filters they have the less mail they have to deal with. Then they come on here moaning they can't get a meet "
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging.... "
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for  |
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm. "
Ironic isn't it?? |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging....
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for "
The only couple to comment so far, they give their reasons and get accused of this!!!
Thats uncalled for!! |
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To be honest we met on another site some 2 years ago and do have strong feelings for each other and have been through a few personal issues together that have made us stronger. Due to location and circumstances this works perfect for us |
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us  "
If I were you, I would not worry about what others do or do not do...it is your decision who you wish to meet...You look very sexy and I am sure you will have a lot of fun!  |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"To be honest we met on another site some 2 years ago and do have strong feelings for each other and have been through a few personal issues together that have made us stronger. Due to location and circumstances this works perfect for us "
Simple solution.....
Dont call yourselves a "Buddy Couple" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us "
We are in a secure relationship last thing we both want is someone trying to worm their way between us xx
A least with happily marrieds you know they want to stay that way
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
+1 on that
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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people have there own reasons & preferences.though alot of clubs have loads of fb couples in them aswell.its not like you walk round with a badge on advertising it hey.your there to socialise & swing,crack on.!  |
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we've met a couple of FB'S in the past and don't rule out meeting others in the future but the trouble is they don't seam to stay together for long for whatever reason so it makes it difficult to meet them again and again like you can with married couples if that makes sence |
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"we've met a couple of FB'S in the past and don't rule out meeting others in the future but the trouble is they don't seam to stay together for long for whatever reason so it makes it difficult to meet them again and again like you can with married couples if that makes sence"
Best reason I've read so far... |
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"To be honest we met on another site some 2 years ago and do have strong feelings for each other and have been through a few personal issues together that have made us stronger. Due to location and circumstances this works perfect for us
Simple solution.....
Dont call yourselves a "Buddy Couple" "
Or friends with benefits |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest we met on another site some 2 years ago and do have strong feelings for each other and have been through a few personal issues together that have made us stronger. Due to location and circumstances this works perfect for us
Simple solution.....
Dont call yourselves a "Buddy Couple" "
Then that could be seen as lying which we won't do but seeing as we only really see each other to play I would say we're buddies in the swinging sense. Can't do right for doing wrong  |
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging.... "
I'm not a couple and I get that, just as I get some couples have certain acts they only do with each other, or only do same room swaps. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Simple solution.....
Dont call yourselves a "Buddy Couple"
Then that could be seen as lying which we won't do but seeing as we only really see each other to play I would say we're buddies in the swinging sense. Can't do right for doing wrong "
You only see each other when meeting/playing with other couples? |
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging....
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for "
Aren't they allowed to express THEIR opinion?!!  |
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I have friends that Ive met, and people have classed us as FB's...furthest thing from the truth, we just happen to be singles that like to party.
Unfortunately, like the 'justforinandoutsex' single males we have on the site, we also get the same from playing away FB's... they can meet during the daytimes then go back to their prospective at home partners
I sorta class moreso a 'swinger' because I can basically attend any given event..it doesnt have to be behind closed doors, thats a preference of an open lifestyle
As for FB's who are genuinely are single, some would say its just the male half increasing his meets to get to meet cpls.
I really hate the FB terminolgy, especially via a profile, and there appears to be a rise in the male half being free and the female isnt...then still being verified as having met being a cpl, instead of being verified as the single male he is (on his own profile)
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We don't meet FB couples, the main reason for us is stayed on our profile, we get scarcely any playtime as it is & it had to be well planned. In our experience they normally have problems synchronising their diaries & when they do something comes up last minute so one can't make it.
A sweeping generalisation I know but its just not a chance we are willing to take. |
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm.
Ironic isn't it?? "
We won't meet fb couples but will meet couples in a relationship and also singles. We don't meet fb because we feel they wouldn't have the same respect as a couple who are in a loving relationship. The emotions involved between two people who meet up just for sex is totally different to 2 people in a living relationship. |
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"We don't meet FB couples, the main reason for us is stayed on our profile, we get scarcely any playtime as it is & it had to be well planned. In our experience they normally have problems synchronising their diaries & when they do something comes up last minute so one can't make it.
A sweeping generalisation I know but its just not a chance we are willing to take."
my blowupwife is avail 24/7..as long as I get my hole tho |
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm.
Ironic isn't it??
We won't meet fb couples but will meet couples in a relationship and also singles. We don't meet fb because we feel they wouldn't have the same respect as a couple who are in a loving relationship. The emotions involved between two people who meet up just for sex is totally different to 2 people in a living relationship. "
what about 2 singles(male and female) that arent fuckbuddies though?..there is a difference lol |
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have to aslo say it though..there are lots of cpls looking for monogamous relationships with other cpls..I'd just like to know how far into eachothers lives they get and of course..the jealousy if the other decides it wasnt supposed to turn into a 'relationship' |
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm.
Ironic isn't it??
We won't meet fb couples but will meet couples in a relationship and also singles. We don't meet fb because we feel they wouldn't have the same respect as a couple who are in a loving relationship. The emotions involved between two people who meet up just for sex is totally different to 2 people in a living relationship.
what about 2 singles(male and female) that arent fuckbuddies though?..there is a difference lol"
We wouldn't meet 2 singles at the same time |
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"Ok.... So..... A couple will play with several singles, but, if two of those singles coupled up as afb couple too.... the marrieds would refuse play with them.... despite playing with the single girl/guy before......
Hmmmmmm.
Ironic isn't it??
We won't meet fb couples but will meet couples in a relationship and also singles. We don't meet fb because we feel they wouldn't have the same respect as a couple who are in a loving relationship. The emotions involved between two people who meet up just for sex is totally different to 2 people in a living relationship.
what about 2 singles(male and female) that arent fuckbuddies though?..there is a difference lol
We wouldn't meet 2 singles at the same time"
but its great for pics |
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We have met fuck buddy couples in the past.
But we would never meet with another one.
They don't look out for each other,there only interested in what they can get out of it for themselves.
Single men half see it as a way of gaining access to a couples only venue,the am mount of times we have seen the guy wander off once inside is unreal.
You end up with a single bloke wandering around trying to join in with couples..while his "fuck buddy" is at the bar.
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on the two occasions we have met FB's we had great times with both couples and would have liked to have seen them again but, when they split from their partners months later they were honest enough to change their profiles to singles. We have always blocked messages from singles, saves time explaining we don't meet singles, so maybe there should be another classification for FB's on site |
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"on the two occasions we have met FB's we had great times with both couples and would have liked to have seen them again but, when they split from their partners months later they were honest enough to change their profiles to singles. We have always blocked messages from singles, saves time explaining we don't meet singles, so maybe there should be another classification for FB's on site"
Surely any couple can break up?? |
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We state in our profile that we only meet real couples, not fuckbuddies. Our reasons are pretty similar to what others have said, we are sharing something very special as a couple and wish to share it with others who are in the same situation. Two people meeting just for sex is not the same in our _iew.
Oh, and before people get confused as to why we would meet singles but not fuck buddies, WE DONT! |
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"on the two occasions we have met FB's we had great times with both couples and would have liked to have seen them again but, when they split from their partners months later they were honest enough to change their profiles to singles. We have always blocked messages from singles, saves time explaining we don't meet singles, so maybe there should be another classification for FB's on site"
erm....'couples' thatd be lol |
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By *win PeaksCouple
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"I think it's the "sharing" dynamic, if that makes sense. If I was sharing the person I loved the most I'd like to think the other couple were doing the same.
Not two fuck buddies that go their separate ways...again, if that makes sense.
Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging.... "
Same here.
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us
Happy to meet either
But you're not a couple! "
I know I read it wrong long day |
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I'm married, Mr Nobody doesnt play. I take subs. And like to play as a switch sometimes. All long term situations.
I guess my sub is my "couples" partner.
We have close bonds, a firm, erotic and caring relationship, we aren't likely to argue in company, if at all, and if he left me to go to the bar, he wouldnt be making eyes with any one else but us.
Ive had some thrilling times through bdsm sites in this way. I do kind of understand what is being said by the couples who dont play with singles/fbs.
I can kind of see both sides. I just prefer the _iew from mine. Haha |
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us "
The reason we don't knowingly meet fuck buddies is because one or both may be cheating on their partners. Z |
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"I think there is a difference between fbs too...some people have been seeing there fb longer than some proper couples on here."
fuckbuddy is only a friendship its not a committing relationship in my opinion its designed to say 'I'm single'
what is a proper couple???:-
boyfriend and girlfriend(possibly engaged/engaging).
married
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us
The reason we don't knowingly meet fuck buddies is because one or both may be cheating on their partners. Z"
By the same token though, married couples have affairs behind each others backs, and the other wouldnt know - and this occurs even in marriages between swingers and swappers.
I get that you dont trust a couple that have no special bond, however. But anyone can cheat on anyone. :/ |
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us
The reason we don't knowingly meet fuck buddies is because one or both may be cheating on their partners. Z
By the same token though, married couples have affairs behind each others backs, and the other wouldnt know - and this occurs even in marriages between swingers and swappers.
I get that you dont trust a couple that have no special bond, however. But anyone can cheat on anyone. :/"
Of course any one can cheat - thats why we meet couples - of course in a club you aren't to know so............................................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Z |
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Just like to say..
Sue and I have been FB,s or fwb,s for 5 years now....
We only play together...but we live one floor apart from each other .....
No were not married... But ....I'd say in its own way..our relationship is as strong as most marrieds...
If that excludes us from anyone's list....hey ho...
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yet to meet a cpl where ive asked to see their marriage cert/rings...
there is only so much u can do without becoming offensively privacy invading isnt there? |
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"Just like to say..
Sue and I have been FB,s or fwb,s for 5 years now....
We only play together...but we live one floor apart from each other .....
No were not married... But ....I'd say in its own way..our relationship is as strong as most marrieds...
If that excludes us from anyone's list....hey ho...
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Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday). |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday)."
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday)."
This!!
I've had FB's in the past - not as a means of meeting couples, getting into clubs cheaply - or for any particular reason at all. Other than that we got on, socially and sexually, but didn't want a relationship. With FB's I've been to clubs and parties, met singles, couples and groups - or on the odd occasion - just each other! (I know - kinky eh!!!)
I'm sure there are those that hook up for the wrong reasons - but there are plenty out there that are doing it just to enhance their fun, be that as 'club dates' where they may just play together - or split up once inside (as many a 'real' couple do!), or yes - to meet other couples.
I'm presently seeing someone semi-regularly on here who now wants to look at meeting couples together. She's not currently seeing others - I, as I always have and always will - am meeting solo. So am I having my cake and eating it? Or just enjoying fun by myself with others - as well as enjoying fun by myself with others, but with a regular friend joining in sometimes too?
My preferences don't come in a 'one size fits all' box. And if my manner of meeting, either solo, or with a FB doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine. But as with all the threads about couples, single guys/bi fems, and every other 'category' - It may be worth bearing in mind that we are all individuals with differing attitudes - and looking at people on a 'case by case' basis rather than stereotyping may just occasionally be a good idea!! |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday)."
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And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
looking at people on a 'case by case' basis rather than stereotyping may just occasionally be a good idea!! "
I'm here for my hedonistic pleasure so I'm 100% with you on the first sentence of your post I've "chopped" up.
The second sentence doesn't support your first sentence and I personally will not compromise my fun to give anyone an even break!
I'm here for fun, I don't want to hear the minutiae of someone's life. My requests are simple: are you sub, straight, white, local, accommodate, free to play how I like. Yes to all of the above is all I want to hear!
As you rightly said: And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
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And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
looking at people on a 'case by case' basis rather than stereotyping may just occasionally be a good idea!!
I'm here for my hedonistic pleasure so I'm 100% with you on the first sentence of your post I've "chopped" up.
The second sentence doesn't support your first sentence and I personally will not compromise my fun to give anyone an even break!
I'm here for fun, I don't want to hear the minutiae of someone's life. My requests are simple: are you sub, straight, white, local, accommodate, free to play how I like. Yes to all of the above is all I want to hear!
As you rightly said: And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
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Sorry - the second sentence wasn't meant in relation to preferences - merely comments made regarding the reasons people choose to have FB's.
It's often the case than a particular group/gender is regarded in a stereotypical way in forum threads - was just indicating that people have different reasons for such 'arrangements'.
Hope that's clearer!
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Im part of a fb and I know my partner would never put me at risk in any form or way I met him on a differernt site to this ..... my sex life since meeting him has been opend up to a whole new world and I love it for him pickin me to be his fb I dnt do relarionships this is more fun friends with benefits u be suprised the amount of maaried men that are lookin for extra benefits is unbelivable to |
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"Obi....Did you set up couples profile with any of your "FB's"?
Nope - never have - never will!
To me, that makes all the difference...."
In which way? Positive or negative?
I'd never claim to be in a 'couple' when i'm not - but if someone decides that meeting me and a friend will be fun for all involved that's fine with me.
I'd rather be open about my situation than give the wrong impression and appear as a couple when not. |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday)."
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Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging....
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for
The only couple to comment so far, they give their reasons and get accused of this!!!
Thats uncalled for!!"
Just noticed this and I had commented before and I am a couple just to say. |
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"Obi....Did you set up couples profile with any of your "FB's"?
Nope - never have - never will! "
you can't predict the future .we had good and bad experiences with fbs as well as couples.think some fbs are great .some are there for the wrong reasons.had some jealousy issues with them when their man is giving me a really good licking and they don't get it.but true fbs .i think are positive relationships like some couples .all relationships are positive and negative aspects to them.even normal couples.poppyxx   |
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Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging....
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for
The only couple to comment so far, they give their reasons and get accused of this!!!
Thats uncalled for!!
Just noticed this and I had commented before and I am a couple just to say."
Didnt include myself either.....Was interesting though that she only had a dig at the (couple)... |
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Sums it up for us! We like to meet other couples that have what we have. Strangely it is more erotic knowing as far as is possible that they feel the same about each other as we do. It is nice to be "trusted" to look after someone else's best friend/lover.
Fuck Buddy couples don't have that dynamic! Most FB couples are not in the slightest interested in what is happening, they just get together to make it easier to meet people and when they can't, they can fuck each other. I know, just my opinion, but one founded on meeting FB couples in the 15 years we have been swinging....
Your opinion indeed and a sweeping, easy punch...uncalled for
The only couple to comment so far, they give their reasons and get accused of this!!!
Thats uncalled for!!
Just noticed this and I had commented before and I am a couple just to say.
Didnt include myself either.....Was interesting though that she only had a dig at the (couple)..."
Personally not something I have to think or worry about and hey people get so personal on here! |
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"I was wondering why alot of couples on here state they won't meet buddy couples, enlighten us "
I'm approaching this from the 'other side' of the fence - as a single female with one or two close men friends through swinging (anyone who calls me his "fuck buddy" gets my fecking boot up his fecking arse!)
My close men friends were/are guys who I feel very affectionately about. And we didn't want to give up swinging (fantasies still to be lived out!). And I wish them every joy of meeting other ladies/couples.
But the only time we tried 'swapping' (i.e. with a 'real' couple), I felt very uncomfortable, as though I was intruding into their relationship, just for my own sexual pleasure.
As Miss Tress says, it's about the 'sharing' the person who you love the most. The guy I was 'sharing' was very dear to me, but we had met through swinging, and we hadn't made a lifetime commitment to each other.
I therefore felt that we 'short-changed' the couple we swapped with. Sure, we had enjoyable sex, but I felt that they gave us more than we gave them So I won't be doing that again  |
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And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
looking at people on a 'case by case' basis rather than stereotyping may just occasionally be a good idea!!
I'm here for my hedonistic pleasure so I'm 100% with you on the first sentence of your post I've "chopped" up.
The second sentence doesn't support your first sentence and I personally will not compromise my fun to give anyone an even break!
I'm here for fun, I don't want to hear the minutiae of someone's life. My requests are simple: are you sub, straight, white, local, accommodate, free to play how I like. Yes to all of the above is all I want to hear!
As you rightly said: And if my manner of meeting doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine.
Sorry - the second sentence wasn't meant in relation to preferences - merely comments made regarding the reasons people choose to have FB's.
It's often the case than a particular group/gender is regarded in a stereotypical way in forum threads - was just indicating that people have different reasons for such 'arrangements'.
Hope that's clearer!
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It is, thank you. |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday)."
Agree wholeheartedly. Since when did things become so petty. Live and let live, phew!
God, am I glad am single!! Just the head fuck you have to go through just to meet and have fun with a couple (as part of a couple) is enough to wanna be single. Too many restrictions to deal with... |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married
couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday).
Agree wholeheartedly. Since when did things become so petty. Live and let live, phew!
God, am I glad am single!! Just the head fuck you
have to go through just to meet and have fun with a couple (as part of a couple) is enough to wanna be single. Too many restrictions to deal with..."
i used to think couples were harder to deal with than men .wooooooo where do i start the right single guy is magical.the right group meet is magical the right couple is magica, the right party is magical.the thing about this site is we all here to have fun.supposed to init.if not why you here? The more peop,e you put into a party or ameet the more complications you going to get.we all have different reasons or wants or dont wants or who find people attractive or not.you can't predict chemistry .i have seen people's profiles on here and had more excitement on meeting people that their pics ain't as good as they are in the flesh.yummy. I think not everyone is a model or has good pics. I try to put honest pics up that is why you see updated pics .not always my best but they are honest of what I look like.i think personality goes a long way though.thats why I love socials now .personality is tops if you ask me and joe.poppyxx |
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"Why do sensible questions in forums, like the one posted by the OP turn into a list of 'we are right, you are wrong' arguments.
We are all different, i dont mind if a couple are married or fwb's or have met ten minutes before as long as they enjoy my company and we have fun.
Some couples may enjoy meeting married couples or ones in long term relationships; i suspect their reasons for that will be as varied as the people involved.
It doesnt mean they are wrong, or they are right...
This site is supposed to be about fun and the pleasure of diversity... not bitching !!!
(Sorry rant over and i know its not yet Thursday).
This!!
I've had FB's in the past - not as a means of meeting couples, getting into clubs cheaply - or for any particular reason at all. Other than that we got on, socially and sexually, but didn't want a relationship. With FB's I've been to clubs and parties, met singles, couples and groups - or on the odd occasion - just each other! (I know - kinky eh!!!)
I'm sure there are those that hook up for the wrong reasons - but there are plenty out there that are doing it just to enhance their fun, be that as 'club dates' where they may just play together - or split up once inside (as many a 'real' couple do!), or yes - to meet other couples.
I'm presently seeing someone semi-regularly on here who now wants to look at meeting couples together. She's not currently seeing others - I, as I always have and always will - am meeting solo. So am I having my cake and eating it? Or just enjoying fun by myself with others - as well as enjoying fun by myself with others, but with a regular friend joining in sometimes too?
My preferences don't come in a 'one size fits all' box. And if my manner of meeting, either solo, or with a FB doesn't fit others preferences then that's fine. But as with all the threads about couples, single guys/bi fems, and every other 'category' - It may be worth bearing in mind that we are all individuals with differing attitudes - and looking at people on a 'case by case' basis rather than stereotyping may just occasionally be a good idea!! "
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Wife and I have both individual FBs and other FBs we swing with as a separate couple. We are always upfront about the latter before we meet other couples and so far have not had a problem getting meets. |
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we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x |
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x"
Not a great experience for anyone - but would you have stopped meeting couples had this been an occurrence with a 'proper married couple' ? |
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x"
That was nothing to do with them being FB's that was because he was a twat ! (sorry about the term, but he clearly was).
I have heard of men from married couples trying similar things. |
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Amazing how many couples think they are happily married, see so many profiles say was on here before with my ex but now I'm back on my own!!!! But hey as I keep saying its upto each individual who they meet and if that's their choice, I bet there are as many who will meet fuck buddy couples!! I've met 3 or 4 couples now and not once have I tried to run off with the fem, I believe there is a paranoia about this idea that all single men (and ones in a FB relationship) are after the wives of "happily married" couples |
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x
That was nothing to do with them being FB's that was because he was a twat ! (sorry about the term, but he clearly was).
I have heard of men from married couples trying similar things."
as i said on my post!!!
what I quantified was that we meet couples in long term secure relationships who "may" be more secure (rightly so as its turned out) and less likely to act like that than someone who has less emotional attachment and more to lose. in my opinion. this lifestyle is a choice and people need to understand that, this is our choice. xx |
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x
Not a great experience for anyone - but would you have stopped meeting couples had this been an occurrence with a 'proper married couple' ?"
think our answer above also stands for this. I said "minimise risk" not eliminate. If it had been a long term married couple we may have then re thought how we meet them also, however experience has shown that we have met lots of trustworthy couples we count as friends. The times we have been burned were with this FB couple and single men who have tried texting mrs behind mr back, but we dont stop meeting single men we are just super careful to again minimise risk and tend to meet socially first- again just our choice |
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x
That was nothing to do with them being FB's that was because he was a twat ! (sorry about the term, but he clearly was).
I have heard of men from married couples trying similar things.
as i said on my post!!!
what I quantified was that we meet couples in long term secure relationships who "may" be more secure (rightly so as its turned out) and less likely to act like that than someone who has less emotional attachment and more to lose. in my opinion. this lifestyle is a choice and people need to understand that, this is our choice. xx"
I wasnt getting at you or making the assupmtion that you were suggesting that all FB couples were bad, or married ones good...
I am a great believer in choices, we all have them and the diversity of choice is a strength of swinging and Fab !
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"we once met a FB couple, after we all swapped same room and "finished up" we all went to leave the bedroom. Male (our) went first followed by the FB female , as we left the male FB grabbed the female (our) and tried to get her back in the room alone. Trust was gone, now we only meet people we trust to respect us. I know this could happen with anyone but its just our choice to minimise risk x
That was nothing to do with them being FB's that was because he was a twat ! (sorry about the term, but he clearly was).
I have heard of men from married couples trying similar things.
as i said on my post!!!
what I quantified was that we meet couples in long term secure relationships who "may" be more secure (rightly so as its turned out) and less likely to act like that than someone who has less emotional attachment and more to lose. in my opinion. this lifestyle is a choice and people need to understand that, this is our choice. xx
I wasnt getting at you or making the assupmtion that you were suggesting that all FB couples were bad, or married ones good...
I am a great believer in choices, we all have them and the diversity of choice is a strength of swinging and Fab !
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Here's the curve ball, I'm the male half of the "couple" and this is my profile. We just decided to have a couple profile to add to our already amazing sex life together. It is all about choices and wouldn't make out we were married or a girlfriend/boyfriend just to get a meet. We are both respectful and some of the reasons put on here NOT to meet a buddy couple is absolutely ridiculas as that could happen from any couple, buddies or otherwise. It's all about individual couples and the way they behave and I can asure everyone we treat all couples as we would like to be treated and nothing less. Time to take cover!!!!!! |
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I have a fb and as fbs we have a couple profile. The only reason we have this is to share the fun between us. No jealousy, no hidden agendas...just fun. He has his own profile too. We are also best mates socially. We have great fun together socially and sexually and the couples profile only adds to that fun. We are upfront and honest with those that we meet from our couples profile in terms of being fbs and it has made one or two change their minds...we don't take offence at it, each to their own. Like others have said, its personal choice if someone doesn't want to meet a fb couple thats up to them. We have as much fun as an actual couple so I can't see the difference myself but I know not everyone thinks same way as me lol. |
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"I have a fb and as fbs we have a couple profile. The only reason we have this is to share the fun between us. No jealousy, no hidden agendas...just fun. He has his own profile too. We are also best mates socially. We have great fun together socially and sexually and the couples profile only adds to that fun. We are upfront and honest with those that we meet from our couples profile in terms of being fbs and it has made one or two change their minds...we don't take offence at it, each to their own. Like others have said, its personal choice if someone doesn't want to meet a fb couple thats up to them. We have as much fun as an actual couple so I can't see the difference myself but I know not everyone thinks same way as me lol."
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