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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What's with all the couples who turn out to be married men with there side pieces.we had a couple of meets at clubs and lounges and it turns out when my queen talks to the lady of the group she's a side piece.were r the real couples  |
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"What's with all the couples who turn out to be married men with there side pieces.we had a couple of meets at clubs and lounges and it turns out when my queen talks to the lady of the group she's a side piece.were r the real couples "
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well I suppose they are real couples in that there are two of them.
we wont meet married people playing alone (knowingly) but there are many reasons why people are on here and we wont judge and hopefully they won't justify.
If they are honest about who and what they are at least you are able to make an informed desicion about whether you play with them or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we talked on phone and met up at club.they said they were a mrried couple and it turns out.its a married man with his mistress.guess we need to do more screening |
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"we talked on phone and met up at club.they said they were a mrried couple and it turns out.its a married man with his mistress.guess we need to do more screening"
 bad luck there. I don't know hpow you screen people like that out because you have to take some things at face value |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no it has been 2 out of three meets.one went really well"
Where is the problem if the meet is for casual sex? Is it the hope of a long term friendship that is inhibited by the lack of a proper relationship between them?
I have heard of men taking escorts to swingers clubs and introducing them as their partner; is that worse?
[Disclaimer - The writer does not support or condone the practice of married men and their mistresses posing as a married couple.] |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I see it as a married man leaving his wfe home thinking there all good in there married.and going out to cheating.that's just wrong casual or not
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maybe shes glad to get rid of him for the night so she can go have her fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't knowingly play with married men on fab, I've been in a relationship where the ex played away and it really distroys your life, I can't be a part of Doing that to someone else, if others don't worry about this, that's their choice I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it really matter????
Er yes to a lot of people who don't wanna get involved with others relationship problems"
I can't see how you would get involved in "someone's relationship problems" if its just a shag,
People's lives are rarely uncomplicated, I think it's morally wrong to judge why or if someone wants to indulge in swinging whether they are married, single, living in sin or carnally involved with a giraffe!
Each to their own I say, sex should be enjoyed with other liberated people regardless of what brings them to this liberated lifestyle. |
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"Does it really matter????"
It does matter to some people. Why.does it matter that it does?
Most married people men and women, involved in this lifestyle without their partners consent will ask you not to judge them and we try not to. However not judging means that we won't differentiate between married peoples reasons for being here alone. We have however had plenty of messages from married people judging us because we won't meet them along with the many who respect our choice.
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"Does it really matter????
Er yes to a lot of people who don't wanna get involved with others relationship problems
I can't see how you would get involved in "someone's relationship problems" if its just a shag,
People's lives are rarely uncomplicated, I think it's morally wrong to judge why or if someone wants to indulge in swinging whether they are married, single, living in sin or carnally involved with a giraffe!
Each to their own I say, sex should be enjoyed with other liberated people regardless of what brings them to this liberated lifestyle. "
But it's morally right to judge people for exercising a choice about who they have sex with? This don't judge me argument wears thin when it comes with judgements all of it's own. You can't argue that married people should have the freedom to do as they wish while saying that other people shouldn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with two people playing as a couple, I do this and technically my swing partner is married but it's a very long & complicated story. I also don't have an issue meeting attached people, I don't see it as getting involved in there relationship problems, who is to say they even have any. Each to there own on here, married or single as long as people are honest I'm to worried. |
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"Does it really matter????
Er yes to a lot of people who don't wanna get involved with others relationship problems
I can't see how you would get involved in "someone's relationship problems" if its just a shag,
People's lives are rarely uncomplicated, I think it's morally wrong to judge why or if someone wants to indulge in swinging whether they are married, single, living in sin or carnally involved with a giraffe!
Each to their own I say, sex should be enjoyed with other liberated people regardless of what brings them to this liberated lifestyle. "
Yet you are judging others for judging! 
I don't play with married men simply because of the way I play! As I've said before, hard to explain to your wife where your pubes went and the temporary "property of Miss Vee" tattoo on their arse!
So I play with "like minded, liberated, single" men! |
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We are a married couple to each other for 22 years we sometimes play solo due to work commitments,but mainly as a couple,we play with couples or singles ,as far as we are concerned what goes on in club stays in club,,,this is swinging not a confession box,,,once we have left club life goes back to normal ,we are not into swinging so we can judge people we are in it for fun,if people want to cheat and get caught out its up to them ,we keep our real details private  |
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" had plenty of messages from married people judging us because we won't meet them
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Now this is what pisses me of, the sense of entitlement. It would NEVER cross my mind and write to someone say who didn't meet bbws demanding they meet me, yet some married men have done that citing it's only NSA sex, what's my problem?!!
THAT'S when I get up in their business!  |
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"Does it really matter????
Er yes to a lot of people who don't wanna get involved with others relationship problems
I can't see how you would get involved in "someone's relationship problems" if its just a shag,
People's lives are rarely uncomplicated, I think it's morally wrong to judge why or if someone wants to indulge in swinging whether they are married, single, living in sin or carnally involved with a giraffe!
Each to their own I say, sex should be enjoyed with other liberated people regardless of what brings them to this liberated lifestyle.
But it's morally right to judge people for exercising a choice about who they have sex with? This don't judge me argument wears thin when it comes with judgements all of it's own. You can't argue that married people should have the freedom to do as they wish while saying that other people shouldn't."
Could not have put it better myself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it really matter????
Er yes to a lot of people who don't wanna get involved with others relationship problems
I can't see how you would get involved in "someone's relationship problems" if its just a shag,
People's lives are rarely uncomplicated, I think it's morally wrong to judge why or if someone wants to indulge in swinging whether they are married, single, living in sin or carnally involved with a giraffe!
Each to their own I say, sex should be enjoyed with other liberated people regardless of what brings them to this liberated lifestyle.
But it's morally right to judge people for exercising a choice about who they have sex with? This don't judge me argument wears thin when it comes with judgements all of it's own. You can't argue that married people should have the freedom to do as they wish while saying that other people shouldn't."
You think too much. Just enjoy lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we talked on phone and met up at club.they said they were a mrried couple and it turns out.its a married man with his mistress.guess we need to do more screening"
why would it matter!
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"No I see it as a married man leaving his wfe home thinking there all good in there married.and going out to cheating.that's just wrong casual or not
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So you don't ever think "oh the poor husband, how must he be feeling thinking his marriage is perfect, yet this woman is here with another man"?
Or do you just judge the man? |
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"No I see it as a married man leaving his wfe home thinking there all good in there married.and going out to cheating.that's just wrong casual or not
So you don't ever think "oh the poor husband, how must he be feeling thinking his marriage is perfect, yet this woman is here with another man"?
Or do you just judge the man?"
I agree with you there FunkyFox. While it might suit the OP's agenda to blame the "married" man and the "innocent" woman, the reality is that in and out of swinging there are plenty of women who have sexual relationships whether it be a one night stand to a full blown affair and leave hubby sat peacefully at home not knowing whats going on. Most ladies involved in relationships with a married man do so in the full knowledge that the man is married, and that is equally true the opposite way round.
Personally, I tend to take people at face value, but the world of clubs is very different to sites like Fab when choosing whom to play with. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Tell you why i wouldnt meet a married man with his bit on the side....
Nothing to do with his relationship....
He has a wife, a GF he swings with and he wants me???
No!! Thats just greed and I woulnt give him the satisfaction.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now I will get abuse for this but...
Swingers are not the norm in society and as such lots of people who aren't swingers get all high and moral about it? I thought fab would be a little less judgemental in the fun side of sex but hey that's my _iew and luckily I have thick skin for the abusive messages back!!
Swinging has no rules as far as I'm aware, if people are swinging as a couple married or not surely its good that they are actually consenting adults?? And I guess some folks want proper friendships out of their swinging, and again that's their choice but there are as many who don't |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Now I will get abuse for this but...
Swingers are not the norm in society and as such lots of people who aren't swingers get all high and moral about it? I thought fab would be a little less judgemental in the fun side of sex but hey that's my _iew and luckily I have thick skin for the abusive messages back!!
Swinging has no rules as far as I'm aware, if people are swinging as a couple married or not surely its good that they are actually consenting adults?? And I guess some folks want proper friendships out of their swinging, and again that's their choice but there are as many who don't "
Dont see why you would get abuse for that....
Swinging may not have rules but "Swingers" do....
Again, its all down to preference...
I dont agree with the "All high and mighty" that fill these forums, but we are all different and people have to accept that..... |
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There are loads of cases where partners may be away with ,work .in the forces on oil rigs in prison,who is to judge people when they need that bit of sexual pleasures,there are so. Many other reasons, dissability ,illness ,we don't judge people ,but saying that if we knew,a male or fem were openly cheating then we would stay clear, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I see it as a married man leaving his wife at home thinking it is all good in their marriage and going out cheating. That's just wrong, casual or not "
I feel there is a definite divide here between men and woman. This is wholly understandable and I believe reflects the way each see the world and life.
It is quite possible for the average male to go out, fuck another woman, and return home still deeply in love with his wife and caring nothing about the other woman. The shag consequently makes no difference to how he feels about his wife and may even enhance his feeling for her because he is chilled out. It is unlikely to damage the relationship although I will admit there are times it may; even without discovery.
I will not try and propose a woman's point of _iew on this as, despite my age, they are still a delicious mystery to me.
Perhaps a lady can say how she feels other than to say it is "wrong"?  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
I am seeing a guy I met on here, and have his full blessing to play with other ladies while he's away working - he's been gone since january, and the ladies I have met have all been attached/married as well, some with partners blessing, some without.
For all you know, the married man's wife may know about the mistress and be ok with the situation. I am friends with a married couple who both have extramarital relationships - but stay together for the children (they are very discreet)
Its not for us to judge what goes on in anyone else's life, but you are entitled to choose who you play with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the american forces have a ''dont ask dont tell policy'' surely that should be as good for marrieds, women and men, as it is for homosexuals.
just a thought lol
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Its not for us to judge what goes on in anyone else's life, but you are entitled to choose who you play with."
^^^This!!! However, in my experience it's always the married men telling me its NSA so what's my problem: not me acting like a Relate counsellor or a ranking officer in the moral police! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own but For some of us its a question of trust and respect. we trust and respect each other and even though when swinging its a sexual thing we like to feel we are getting that respect and trust from the people we swing with.
For some people its only about the sexual encounter so what doe's it matter the person your with is being dishonest to someones else
For us we want to be friends with that person and if they cant be honest with their partner how can they be honest with us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can i just say that the OP's profile does say "married people not wanted" therefore the guy has lied about being married in order to meet them......I agree with the OP on this one I am afraid!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Faux couples'
When I was married and swinging I hated them, now single I still don't really fancy them.
It always makes me smile when the advice for 'nervous single guys' is partner up and go as a couple, nice and honest
I hope the op finds what they are looking for and can sift the diamonds from the rocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am an equal opportunities type of swinger. I would like the opportunity to sleep with loads. I am married but my wife does not know I'm on here. If she did I would be in the singles category. We are all on here for sex I presume so people need to read others profiles and take note. If it says won't meet singles I never get in touch.
If you are after other married couples people should say so on profile.
If you are not a married couple people should say so at message stage and save a load of hassle. |
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By *eendeeCouple
over a year ago
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We have been together 26 yrs and married 23 this year but mr dee meets alone with mrs dees permission and me dee as actually given mrs dee permission to meet alone but she as only done so on the one occasion at end of day aslong as all parties are honest and up front it's NSA consensual sex can in a way understand the op reasoning specially if they wasn't honest and upfront at the start xx have fun and enjoy your swinging time x  |
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Married men / Married women....When is the WITCH hunt going to stop...? Enough is enough...
Shall I remind you of the definition of swinging?
Swinging or (RARELY)partner swapping - I wish I could put this in Bold, Italic and Underlined - is a non-monogamous behavior, in which SINGLES or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with LIKE-MINDED people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
NOWEHERE does it say that swinging is reserved to sanctimonous 'True' couples.
This is a good site where everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it stays within the rules...this is my opinion. I am married, I have my own reasons to be on this site but of course none of you 'true' couples would even want to know what they are, if you were able to contact me of course...you'd just dismiss me as soon as you saw I am married...OMG a cheater..god forbids...Shame really I am a women and I am bi and could have contacted you...I thought that's what you all wanted...a bi female to play with!
I really do not care for anyone's comments, I am moving one to another post!
Happy swinging to all. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
In a crisp poke on the A814 |
Amazes me how touchy people get just because others have a preference that doesnt include them.....
Swinging may not have RULES...
But swingers do!!! And people should accept and abide by them at all times.... |
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"No I see it as a married man leaving his wife at home thinking it is all good in their marriage and going out cheating. That's just wrong, casual or not
I feel there is a definite divide here between men and woman. This is wholly understandable and I believe reflects the way each see the world and life.
It is quite possible for the average male to go out, fuck another woman, and return home still deeply in love with his wife and caring nothing about the other woman. The shag consequently makes no difference to how he feels about his wife and may even enhance his feeling for her because he is chilled out. It is unlikely to damage the relationship although I will admit there are times it may; even without discovery.
I will not try and propose a woman's point of _iew on this as, despite my age, they are still a delicious mystery to me.
Perhaps a lady can say how she feels other than to say it is "wrong"? "
very true. Mr fun wouldnt really be bothered if we met a married man to be honest. its Mrs fun that has a real problem with it. this is because she can't help but feel for the wife being cheated on. if prople gave no problem with it do it.. but she cant and wont.
Sometimes the married man would be ideal meet probably esp if deeply in love with his wife as he would be deffinately up for nsa and would not get clingy and stroppy. Mrs fun even considered it once but thoughts of the out of sight wife meant it couldnt happen.
She's been the one cheated on in a past relationship many many years ago and knows how it feels. |
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"Married men / Married women....When is the WITCH hunt going to stop...? Enough is enough...
Shall I remind you of the definition of swinging?
Swinging or (RARELY)partner swapping - I wish I could put this in Bold, Italic and Underlined - is a non-monogamous behavior, in which SINGLES or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with LIKE-MINDED people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
NOWEHERE does it say that swinging is reserved to sanctimonous 'True' couples.
This is a good site where everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it stays within the rules...this is my opinion. I am married, I have my own reasons to be on this site but of course none of you 'true' couples would even want to know what they are, if you were able to contact me of course...you'd just dismiss me as soon as you saw I am married...OMG a cheater..god forbids...Shame really I am a women and I am bi and could have contacted you...I thought that's what you all wanted...a bi female to play with!
I really do not care for anyone's comments, I am moving one to another post!
Happy swinging to all."
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"Married men / Married women....When is the WITCH hunt going to stop...? Enough is enough...
Shall I remind you of the definition of swinging?
Swinging or (RARELY)partner swapping - I wish I could put this in Bold, Italic and Underlined - is a non-monogamous behavior, in which SINGLES or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with LIKE-MINDED people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
NOWEHERE does it say that swinging is reserved to sanctimonous 'True' couples.
This is a good site where everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it stays within the rules...this is my opinion. I am married, I have my own reasons to be on this site but of course none of you 'true' couples would even want to know what they are, if you were able to contact me of course...you'd just dismiss me as soon as you saw I am married...OMG a cheater..god forbids...Shame really I am a women and I am bi and could have contacted you...I thought that's what you all wanted...a bi female to play with!
I really do not care for anyone's comments, I am moving one to another post!
Happy swinging to all."
That's possibly the best message I've read on here. Especially as its from a married woman. I agree with it wholeheartedly. Personally I couldn't give a monkey's whether the people I meet are married or not. If they weren't shagging me they'd be doing it to someone else.
And yes everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I despair at the continuous witch hunt style posts about married people. If you're that paranoid maybe you should be on a dating website  |
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"Amazes me how touchy people get just because others have a preference that doesnt include them.....
Swinging may not have RULES...
But swingers do!!! And people should accept and abide by them at all times...."
It's amusing watching them get their panties in a bunch that's for sure! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Amazes me how touchy people get just because others have a preference that doesnt include them.....
Swinging may not have RULES...
But swingers do!!! And people should accept and abide by them at all times....
It's amusing watching them get their panties in a bunch that's for sure! "
mmmmmmm panties! in a bunch! the best kind.....sorry where were we? oh yeah. married peolple....hang em lol. |
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"Married men / Married women....When is the WITCH hunt going to stop...? Enough is enough...
Shall I remind you of the definition of swinging?
Swinging or (RARELY)partner swapping - I wish I could put this in Bold, Italic and Underlined - is a non-monogamous behavior, in which SINGLES or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging fromm spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with LIKE-MINDED people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
NOWEHERE does it say that swinging is reserved to sanctimonous 'True' couples.
This is a good site where everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it stays within the rules...this is my opinion. I am married, I have my own reasons to be on this site but of course none of you 'true' couples would even want to know what they are, if you were able to contact me of course...you'd just dismiss me as soon as you saw I am married...OMG a cheater..god forbids...Shame really I am a women and I am bi and could have contacted you...I thought that's what you all wanted...a bi female to play with!
I really do not care for anyone's comments, I am moving one to another post!
Happy swinging to all."
What she said!!!!!! |
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"Tell you why i wouldnt meet a married man with his bit on the side....
Nothing to do with his relationship....
He has a wife, a GF he swings with and he wants me???
No!! Thats just greed and I woulnt give him the satisfaction...."
This actually made me laugh! Seriously, from swingers who enjoy swinging clubs and group sex to call a man greedy for wanting 3 women to sleep with?! Isn't that the norm on here? Is there anyone who sets up an account on a swingers site doing it to fuck one person and that's it because anymore would be greedy?!
Personally, I'm not here to find a husband, so it is none of my business what someone's marital status is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The tone of the Op that I don't like is that it is all stacked against married males as opposed to just married people of either sex.
As others have said, because of that, it does look more like a witch hunt than someone merely exercising a preference on who they meet. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Tell you why i wouldnt meet a married man with his bit on the side....
Nothing to do with his relationship....
He has a wife, a GF he swings with and he wants me???
No!! Thats just greed and I woulnt give him the satisfaction....
This actually made me laugh! Seriously, from swingers who enjoy swinging clubs and group sex to call a man greedy for wanting 3 women to sleep with?! Isn't that the norm on here? Is there anyone who sets up an account on a swingers site doing it to fuck one person and that's it because anymore would be greedy?!
Personally, I'm not here to find a husband, so it is none of my business what someone's marital status is. "
I have no objection to men wanting group sex, nor do I care how many he sleeps with...And I certainly dont care if he is married....
What I do object to is him getting himself a "buddy" to meet couples....when he already has a partner!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't care who the cheat is male or female, they will get found out and that is when you have problems at your door as they have found your no/details and no matter what they will blame you for said cheating wife/husbands behaviour and that is not NSA fun, that is dealing with a hurt person's emotions where it is to them not just a shag.
So no I am not interested in meeting an attached person whether they are attached to their bit on the side as well as their partner as far too much of a headache |
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"Now I will get abuse for this but...
Swingers are not the norm in society and as such lots of people who aren't swingers get all high and moral about it? I thought fab would be a little less judgemental in the fun side of sex but hey that's my _iew and luckily I have thick skin for the abusive messages back!!
Swinging has no rules as far as I'm aware, if people are swinging as a couple married or not surely its good that they are actually consenting adults?? And I guess some folks want proper friendships out of their swinging, and again that's their choice but there are as many who don't "
Ditto!! Couldn't have said it better myself, good man!
Swinging should have little or no rules but the amount of rules one finds is unbelievable and that's cos it's now inundated with too many mediocre ppl! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well said...
what if the 'cheater' loves his kids and wouldn't give up his marriage to be around them always, even if the 'cheater' and the partner are not 100% happy and not satisfying each other's needs... 'swinging' gives you the option to build relationships and fulfill desires to keep you sane. Instead of giving up on your family I feel that in a weird way it makes it easier... I think along as you make your intentions clear and find people who are fine with the situation then what's the problem? |
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well done the creator of this post !!!
as a 'married' women soon to be divorced thanks to this exact reason fair play to actually seeing a discussion about it
before anyone thinks im an angry uneducated swinging virgin im certainly not wet behind the ears with over ten years swinging enjoyment under my belt or more aptly notched on me bed post!
the actual swinging isnt a problem or wouldnt have been i would have loved the chance but its the lie that causes the issues when there is no trust or truth in a relationship you have no relationship simple as that in my opinion hence a speedy divorce and free single and swinging before the stamps been sealed
appearing single or as a fake couple shouldnt be the issue its the false impression you leave on ppl and the lies if you cant be honest with yourself whats the point of swinging ?? yes im all for creating personas and role play but when its your whole existance and when it leaves the question who are you convincing the swinger or ya self then its an issue xx |
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"well said...
what if the 'cheater' loves his kids and wouldn't give up his marriage to be around them always, even if the 'cheater' and the partner are not 100% happy and not satisfying each other's needs... 'swinging' gives you the option to build relationships and fulfill desires to keep you sane. Instead of giving up on your family I feel that in a weird way it makes it easier... I think along as you make your intentions clear and find people who are fine with the situation then what's the problem? "
I don't understand how anyone can claim to cheat cos they love their kids so much when cheating is risking pulling their lives apart if found out!
As a single mum my kids needs always come first and I would go celibute if I had to for him! Exactly why my profile says I'm not meeting atm as it goes..
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"Now I will get abuse for this but...
Swingers are not the norm in society and as such lots of people who aren't swingers get all high and moral about it? I thought fab would be a little less judgemental in the fun side of sex but hey that's my _iew and luckily I have thick skin for the abusive messages back!!
Swinging has no rules as far as I'm aware, if people are swinging as a couple married or not surely its good that they are actually consenting adults?? And I guess some folks want proper friendships out of their swinging, and again that's their choice but there are as many who don't
Ditto!! Couldn't have said it better myself, good man!
Swinging should have little or no rules but the amount of rules one finds is unbelievable and that's cos it's now inundated with too many mediocre ppl! "
No rules? So people should just shag anyone or anything?
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"Married men / Married women....When is the WITCH hunt going to stop...? Enough is enough...
Shall I remind you of the definition of swinging?
Swinging or (RARELY)partner swapping - I wish I could put this in Bold, Italic and Underlined - is a non-monogamous behavior, in which SINGLES or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with LIKE-MINDED people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
NOWEHERE does it say that swinging is reserved to sanctimonous 'True' couples.
This is a good site where everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it stays within the rules...this is my opinion. I am married, I have my own reasons to be on this site but of course none of you 'true' couples would even want to know what they are, if you were able to contact me of course...you'd just dismiss me as soon as you saw I am married...OMG a cheater..god forbids...Shame really I am a women and I am bi and could have contacted you...I thought that's what you all wanted...a bi female to play with!
I really do not care for anyone's comments, I am moving one to another post!
Happy swinging to all."
Yes swinging is for married people to engage in activities with others.. But that doesn't mean just one half a married couple without the others consent. People don't come into swinging to encounter complications or to upset others.
Swinging is about nsa uncomplicated mutual fun.
Not about resolving problems for people who are in bad relationships, its not marriage guidance!
As for asking why your cheating.. I'm yet to see a reason that isn't completely selfish as to why people cheat.. I don't care how elusive u r as a bi single fem.. I'm not in this game to hurt others or cause problems thanks
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As ever it's down to Honesty & Transparency and there are a number of things with this lifestyle have to be taken on trust.
It's a bit like the Horsemeat scandal. If it say's 100% Beef then unless you have DNA testing & MI5 resources your not gonna know!!
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