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Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?
Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.
Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.
Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.
Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?
Overweight or normal weight ladies.... |
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"What is a "normal weight"???"
Exactly what I was going to ask. |
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Surely it's the connection with the person that matters not the kg |
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My bmi says overweight. My waist to height ratio says dangerously underweight. I like my curves and have a bit of jiggle in the right places.
Appealing to the majority of men isn't high on my priorities list.
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Isn't it that almost 75% of the population is now overweight or obese?
Which would make being overweight normal. |
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I love a curvy lady as much as a slim one, it's about that ooooompfff and sex appeal that the individual has to catch my eye |
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By *eliWoman 37 weeks ago
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I'm not sure OP but three months ago you weren't that bothered by it.
It might be because the average woman is overweight. I'm not angry, nor am I the sort of woman who has a list of demands for a man. I am fat. Aware of that. Working on it.
Hope you get the answer to your questions soon anyway Op. |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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When is curvy now obese? Just saying. I get killed for this but hey ! There some fat people on here nowadays!!!! |
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By *LiamMan 37 weeks ago
Midlands |
"Define overweight? "
being too heavy for their height.
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By *bi HaiveMan 37 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?
Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.
Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.
Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.
Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?
Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "
I'd be curious as to how you come to any of those conclusions. Especially the repeated use of the word 'most'.
I've seen and met swingers of all shapes and sizes.
I've had partners ranging from a size 10 to size 22.
I know men who are more attracted to curvier women than slim.
What the media decides is 'attractive' doesn't concern me at all.
And when out in public the first thing that dictates whether I find someone attractive or not isn't body size or bmi. My eye is drawn by more than that.
But good luck with your thread OP.  |
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We've been to several BBW events they are so popular the single men usually end up on a waiting list; contrast that against your 'most men find slimmer' comment...
I'm not sure if you actually believe the premise of your post or are just trying to play devil's advocate.
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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I think the real question is why do people think they have the right to comment on other people's bodies. If it's not for you, move along. |
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"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height."
I'm too short for my BMI  |
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"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.
I'm too short for my BMI "
Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all |
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By *lhr1061Man 37 weeks ago
Warwickshire |
Seeing as the curvy women appreciation thread is on part 9, I think the OP has got his research a little wrong.  |
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I think it’s a British thing we’ve spent thousands of hours on naturist swinging and bi beaches in Europe and you see far healthier people. We’ve been to Chameleons 3 times and most couples we saw were in fact clinically or dare I say morbidly obese. Quite off putting actually so we stick to the beaches of Europe. |
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BMI s just one tool used for defining a healthy weight, and it’s a blunt tool. In general it’s pretty good but there are a lot of very healthy people whose BMI would declare them overweight. |
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"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.
I'm too short for my BMI
Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all "
I'm not a big ( pardon the pun ) believer in BMI.... i was just poking fun at myself |
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Fab should be a fun place to boost confidence, to show people they are beautiful however they look. NOT body shaming |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Surprising how many muscly people we have in our population. |
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I assume OP would turn down the chance to play with Sazz then... |
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Normal weight ladies
Good luck OP.
I'm off to go find myself a chubby chaser to cheer myself up |
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"I assume OP would turn down the chance to play with Sazz then... "
I’m not sure the OP has had a lot of opportunity to turn anyone down in the last couple of years. |
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I think OP you might have confused what you like with others personal preference.
Some of my best nights have been with the curviest of women.
For me, it's all in the attitude and of I'm attracted to you then it's on. |
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I'm proud of my curves op and as much as you may not believe I get meny compliments a day off meny different people you don't like it just walk on by |
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I'm always amazed how many doctors with magical powers there are on the internet, who can accurately assess a complete stranger's health just by looking at a photograph of their tits. |
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"I'm proud of my curves op and as much as you may not believe I get meny compliments a day off meny different people you don't like it just walk on by "
You look wonderful  |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Reading this while eating my McDonald's breakfast. Best hit the gym after else this guy will never meet us! |
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By *ediraMan 37 weeks ago
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Wow, what a bigoted point of view |
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"My bmi says overweight. My waist to height ratio says dangerously underweight. I like my curves and have a bit of jiggle in the right places.
Appealing to the majority of men isn't high on my priorities list.
Especially on here "
Well said, love this response |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Being considered sexy or desirable is nothing to do with weight or body type |
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By *rBobbMan 37 weeks ago
Birmingham |
Loving the curves ladies. You all look amazing  |
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"I'm not sure OP but three months ago you weren't that bothered by it.
It might be because the average woman is overweight. I'm not angry, nor am I the sort of woman who has a list of demands for a man. I am fat. Aware of that. Working on it.
Hope you get the answer to your questions soon anyway Op."
Don't work at it to hard, please !! Love your profile and pics..... |
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"I think it’s a British thing we’ve spent thousands of hours on naturist swinging and bi beaches in Europe and you see far healthier people. We’ve been to Chameleons 3 times and most couples we saw were in fact clinically or dare I say morbidly obese. Quite off putting actually so we stick to the beaches of Europe. "
Sadly, you have hit the nail on the head with your comment x |
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"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?
Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.
Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.
Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.
Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?
Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "
You’re making a lot of generalisations there, who cares as long as folk are happy? |
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I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
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I'm out then |
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By *rBobbMan 37 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then "
Oh no you're not  |
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For me it’s about personal energy. I’ve been chatting with a woman (in person and not on fab) she’s overweight but keeps herself well dressed and is just lovely, pleased to call her my friend.
Totally love her energy and how she speaks. I would love to date her unfortunately she’s married and I’d never instigate anything with her. Lucky guy |
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By *hagTonightMan 37 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
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Why would I be angry? You've stated what you've seen on here, and possibly in clubs, I'm assuming.
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I mean it's no secret that the UK has a problem with obesity.
I can't see that swingers would make up a disproportionate number though. Why would they?
Anyway well done for getting people to bite (see what I did there?).... I guess you got what you wanted from your post  |
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Talk about sweeping generalisations! Anyway, one person’s overweight is another’s nicely curvy! |
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I'm fat. I'm honest about that. People have the option to be interested or not. I'm cool with that.
If someone isn't into me, you won't find me taking a side swipe at them. You'll never find me putting anyone down because of their size, big or small. I don't need to do that.
Everyone has their preferences. How you express those preferences though can say a lot. If you need to insult a whole demographic in order to stay relevant, then I'm going to draw my own conclusions about the type of person you are. |
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not "
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By *hagTonightMan 37 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
I have a 6pack bod. I like all kinds of bodies, variety is the spice of life  |
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"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?
Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.
Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.
Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.
Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?
Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "
What is normal weight?. People are all shapes and sizes and have different wants and needs. Beauty is more than skin deep my man. Its all about mutual attraction. Ive met many people that would be classed as gym bod but with personalities of a newt, and vice versa. |
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not "
But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.
I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.
I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not
But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.
I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.
I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.
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Im officially clinically obese but to look at me even now being under 20stones dont look it. Theres guys that go to the gym that are just ripped adonises and are officially classed as clinically obese due to their weight and height ratio. Honestly i think the op is very wrong. |
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All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not
But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.
I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.
I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.
Im officially clinically obese but to look at me even now being under 20stones dont look it. Theres guys that go to the gym that are just ripped adonises and are officially classed as clinically obese due to their weight and height ratio. Honestly i think the op is very wrong."
I was obese by definition and people kept telling me I wasn't fat.
Can't win on here, sometimes.
Anyway, the OP isn't coming back so shall we talk amongst ourselves? |
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not
But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.
I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.
I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.
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It was the poster above my comment " I'm out who said obesity was a no from him.... but thank you for your kindness xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Duck and cover! Incoming! |
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"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me
I'm out then
Oh no you're not
But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.
I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.
I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.
Im officially clinically obese but to look at me even now being under 20stones dont look it. Theres guys that go to the gym that are just ripped adonises and are officially classed as clinically obese due to their weight and height ratio. Honestly i think the op is very wrong.
I was obese by definition and people kept telling me I wasn't fat.
Can't win on here, sometimes.
Anyway, the OP isn't coming back so shall we talk amongst ourselves?"
Absolutely lol. |
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"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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That my man is a sign of an ugly personality. Be kind to all. |
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"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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OP you can ask for whatever you want. Everyone has that option, even us fatties |
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"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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Oh, there you are. I didn't think you were coming back.
Yes, people are aware that they're overweight. Why are you bothered about women wanting someone specific? If you don't fit their criteria, move on.
You don't want fat women. I'm not upset about that; I concentrate on the men who are interested in me.
If slim women can have preferences why can overweight ones have them?Are you saying we should be having sex with men we aren't attracted to, just because we aren't a normal weight?
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By *ex LutherMan 37 weeks ago
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The OP is a brave man with this post and his status and as other have said I have had the pleasure of meeting all shapes and sizes from athletic / slim to curvy women and they all have a place on here |
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"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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Just state your preferences on your profile mate. Not that it will make much difference to your Fab experience, as women rarely make the first move in here, so you can still do your own searches, and contact those who do meet what you are looking for  |
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Fabsters fuck that much we need a much higher calorie intake, op you should try it |
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"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.
I'm too short for my BMI
Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all "
This is true. My BMI tells me I’m overweight. Apparently I should be a stone lighter!!!! |
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By *ampire69Man 37 weeks ago
Birmingham West Midlands |
you say most swingers are over weight that an interesting statement to make have you done a poll of everyone on here to eastablish that fact, what form of metrics did you use to corrolate your numbers. its all about perception and this happens to be your personal perception .
Do you recall the expression there are lies adam lies and then there are statistics, while i would agree with you that as a nation we are increasing in body mass , i have known some very fit and athletic high BMI people, its all down to personal taste and preference remember we all have choice.
so my question is does it really matter coulsd some people have the perception that you are over weight or your to tall, or they dont like the colour of your eyes, your hair, your skin. so if an over weight person was providing you with a rather nice sexual experience would you be complaining ?? |
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"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?
My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.
I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.
If you protest you know you're over weight.
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Men can ask for whatever they want too.
If you don't like overweight women, that's okay. Move along and find someone that does appeal. There's no body shape filter on the site and even if there was, many people categorise themselves differently to how others would. So it's just a case of manually searching for what does appeal.
No need to try and bring anyone down over it |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"you say most swingers are over weight that an interesting statement to make have you done a poll of everyone on here to eastablish that fact, what form of metrics did you use to corrolate your numbers. "
In fairness it's likely to be true given most of the general population are overweight. |
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By *ugby 123Couple 37 weeks ago
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For information, we have rules we all have to stick to on the forum.
https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules
No matter what we think of a post we can't attack the person for it. We should just answer the post.
We can't discuss a persons profile unless they have asked for it
If you think a profile is fake you should report it rather than name and shame it.
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