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Should single straight men quit fab?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now? |
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I think a lot of people rely on fab solely too much for meeting.
For me I’m looking for other singles that attend clubs and parties. But there has to be that attraction and vibe there.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I think a lot of people rely on fab solely too much for meeting.
For me I’m looking for other singles that attend clubs and parties. But there has to be that attraction and vibe there.
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That’s fair. |
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By *WB85Man 39 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
It's hard for all genders to find nice and genuine people.
Seeing the messages my wife gets on a daily basis, it's no wonder men have a certain stigma attached to them.
Try a nice and relaxed approach and in time hopefully you'll find someone.
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"Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now?"
Totally agree... This ! |
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No, the single straight men shouldn't quit fab |
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I know plenty of single straight men who are extremely successful on here so no they shouldn't all leave |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 39 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
I wouldn’t be here if there weren’t any single straight guys & I wouldn’t go to the clubs if I wasn’t here 1st |
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By *allnlongMan 39 weeks ago
Torpoint & Stonehouse |
No such thing as a straight guy 
Seriously, no you cant make that judgment |
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"...Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics."
... This is just the basics of bare minimum for most people. Roughly equivalent to seeks human male, preferably with a torso. Yes, many people will meet that base requirement, but then there's attraction, compatibility, chemistry, etc to factor in.
I'm not going to bone someone just because they didn't send me a dick pic and made polite small talk at me. |
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To be honest, I'm now mainly on Fab for the forum and the occasional perusal of some naughty photos/videos in the ‘hot photos/videos’ section  |
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Just imagining all the great experiences I’d of missed out on and people I’d never of met including my beautiful girlfriend if as a (formerly) single, straight man I’d just quit fab… |
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By *ee69Man 39 weeks ago
glasgow |
"Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now?"
pretty much sums it up these days |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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It takes a while, a bit of leg work and a lot of interactions, but it is worthwhile in the end.
I think interacting in the forums has really helped me get noticed more and broke the ice for a couple of meets/potential meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise |
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"So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?"
No, this is just an excuse men tell themselves when they can’t get meets. |
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"Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now?"
Oh poor me, woe is me. I'm just a poor single man on fab.
Get a grip. These posts are ridiculous |
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Single men are the real prize. |
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By *had835Man 39 weeks ago
North West |
Completely agree its near impossible no matter what you do without being a big head I'm not a bad looking guy I'm quite successful in the real world but this is getting stupid on here |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Its the 80/20 rule. The hottest 20 percent, get 80 percent of the women. Its exactly the same as any platform, swinging, dating or otherwise.
This is why polygamy isn't an ideal solution |
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god no !! Everyone complains about everyone, men complain about the women, women complain about the men! its about working out who is who and trying to find a fit - its not a quick fix but often a marathon - i do socials and chat and love meeting new people all the time, its about no expectations and expecting the unexpected.
you cant go demanding - everyone has different needs and requirements, I find it hard and get a lot of time wasters, its frustrating, but I keep going -  |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
No they definitely should not leave fab.
I love single men  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I think they should all definitely leave, straight away!.. then there'd be lots of beautiful women for me  |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"I think they should all definitely leave, straight away!.. then there'd be lots of beautiful women for me "
Greedy |
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By *TinRedCouple 39 weeks ago
Reading |
"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
This is the attitude that puts us off meeting single guys... If you want a guarantee of 'action' after paying a fee... Go see a sex worker.
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By *bi HaiveMan 39 weeks ago
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Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
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Serious question.
Would any of the guys unhappy that they're not getting meets actually meet a woman they weren't at all attracted to or interested in, just because they were polite, had put effort into their profile and didn't send unsolicited nudes?  |
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By *ee69Man 39 weeks ago
glasgow |
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Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
Serious question.
Would any of the guys unhappy that they're not getting meets actually meet a woman they weren't at all attracted to or interested in, just because they were polite, had put effort into their profile and didn't send unsolicited nudes? "
lol well known most guys will pump anything lol |
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No they shouldn't.
Your probably just trying too hard.
Thr chat rooms is a good place to get speaking to people and perhaps connect the old fashion way if using socialising skills rather than sterile messages.
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Believe it or not, we don't all want the same thing.
If you're not getting a bite from any woman then maybe your bait isn't tempting them.
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There's no guarantee of being attractive and a match for others here.
Certainly making an effort is going to be more likely to be helpful than being lazy and not showing consideration for potential partners. Even so, Fab needs single men, for the many users here who want them.
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By *ee69Man 39 weeks ago
glasgow |
Bad nanna that’s a beast off a name Mrs class lol |
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Considering I am not looking for a life partner what difference does it make how much people earn?.
Great conversation is a priceless currency and just my thoughts but a big dick is usually attached to a big dick .
Personality over looks anytime |
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Single guys should stay, but you’re never likely to be successful with every wink and message, everyone has a type and it will take time |
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"It's hard for all genders to find nice and genuine people.
Seeing the messages my wife gets on a daily basis, it's no wonder men have a certain stigma attached to them.
Try a nice and relaxed approach and in time hopefully you'll find someone.
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This has a lot to do with it... I don't tar all men with the same brush, far from it as it's actually lovely and refreshing when you get a nice message, but sifting through the insults, misogyny and BS can be exhausting!
It's also worth saying we don't always get meets as a couple either, maybe because we can be picky but meets don't always just happen instantly. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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When you just been lied to for the umpteenth time...or
Message first time..wanna fucc brigade my filter is on. I am not a cry baby every time this shit happens. I take bull by horns say fucc you and move on. |
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By *sWyldWoman 39 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I like single men. It's why I am here. I'd hang up my fab profile for good if they weren't here |
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There’s a lot of successful guys on FAB - they do well, not because of their looks - they get further because they aren’t worrying about what each different person wants and trying to conform to that.
They are themselves, they sell themselves well and they are respectful.
I honestly don’t understand why some people stay on FAB - it must be a depressing place for people who don’t try but expect magical results.
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Serious question.
Would any of the guys unhappy that they're not getting meets actually meet a woman they weren't at all attracted to or interested in, just because they were polite, had put effort into their profile and didn't send unsolicited nudes? "
A very good point and a good 180 view. In truth nothing that's truly worth doing is ever easy nor should it be. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Attraction for me is not how he dresses his material world. How he respects,communication and his personality need to shine through his wallet or gucci shoes or Armani suits. Neither should I be bothered if he is more about notches.Each to our own. Fab should be a fab place to hang out with others who enjoy a lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Attraction for me is not how he dresses his material world. How he respects,communication and his personality need to shine through his wallet or gucci shoes or Armani suits. Neither should I be bothered if he is more about notches.Each to our own. Fab should be a fab place to hang out with others who enjoy a lifestyle. "
Not through his wallet |
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As a straight single guy I think Fab is great. I have no intention of leaving. |
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"As a straight single guy I think Fab is great. I have no intention of leaving."
Hurrah long may the marmite love continue  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I like single men. It's why I am here. I'd hang up my fab profile for good if they weren't here"
Too damn right |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Whenever there are these kind of threads I go have a peek (where I can) of the profiles of the people complaining about unfairness of fab. I don't recall a single one where the profile says fun or someone I'd want a beer with or a meet with. Most are either bland or fun sponges.
Maybe it's a chicken or egg thing.
And almost all of the profiles of the gents I see being successful are unique and personable.
If fab isn't working you can blame luck, other guys, or look at yourself. While it may be 90pc the other stuff, you can only work on the 10 pc.
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
In any other circumstances this would be absurd.
I like this guy two very true posts. |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"I like single men. It's why I am here. I'd hang up my fab profile for good if they weren't here"
Same here |
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"As a straight single guy I think Fab is great. I have no intention of leaving.
Hurrah long may the marmite love continue "
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"As a straight single guy I think Fab is great. I have no intention of leaving.
Hurrah long may the marmite love continue
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I'm deffo not leaving. Too many people I want to meet on here, either for fun in the bedroom or just a laugh via a social.
This app is great. |
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"I'm deffo not leaving. Too many people I want to meet on here, either for fun in the bedroom or just a laugh via a social.
This app is great."
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Nooo I love all you men, you are legends  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
This is the attitude that puts us off meeting single guys... If you want a guarantee of 'action' after paying a fee... Go see a sex worker.
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your right they are because at least sex workers will be cheaper |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire an friend instead. |
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No single men shouldn't leave fab, many couples and single ladies want to meet them.
However, many single guys probably need to adjust their expectations of Fab and consider clubs and socials.
Men who show their personality and know how to communicate well, are likely to be the ones who are more successful on here. Most women aren't that shallow and are looking for more than a pretty face, muscles or a large cock.
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
This is the attitude that puts us off meeting single guys... If you want a guarantee of 'action' after paying a fee... Go see a sex worker.
your right they are because at least sex workers will be cheaper "
At least you're getting your monies worth I guess? Even if they're just faking you getting them off?... I'd rather stay home for free, and wank myself vs paying someone totally disinterested to rub my clit for £75, but that's just me |
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Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool "
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP. |
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Lmao I went to check and I'm blocked too |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
Clearly don't understand how the prices at clubs works. Don't go. Simple. |
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I rather like single men, they shouldn't quit fab! |
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Single men , have a bad rep that’s understandable as a few message me with no idea about how to hold a conversation, also just because we see a nice photo of a lady or a couple , doesn’t mean they think likewise, I get blocked for trying to interact , personally I prefer that, as im won’t waste my time messaging someone who’s not interested , happy to go to clubs and say hello to fellow swingers much easier |
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"Lmao I went to check and I'm blocked too "
We're all in the blocked club... Then OP can state nobody talks to them |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP."
my money is on dude has been suspended. |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended. "
Nope, looks like they went unlos... |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended. "
Ah there was me about to have sleepness nights haha
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It’s definitely more challenging these days that say 5-7 years ago. Probably due to the numbers.
However I think a lot of men seem to think that just because they’re on here, they have a divine right to meet women.
I’ve gone through purple patches and droughts. It’s the ebb and flow. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended.
Ah there was me about to have sleepness nights haha
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are sleepless nights good or bad things in fab land ?
Sounds more like a promise... |
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"I think a lot of people rely on fab solely too much for meeting.
For me I’m looking for other singles that attend clubs and parties. But there has to be that attraction and vibe there.
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What I look for on here, to share the club experience. Like your answer. |
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Everyone wants different things. Decent profile, polite, etc, is necessary but not sufficient. Attraction can't be quantified like that. |
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I do ok on Fab. I’m single and straight. |
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested "
Well that’s certainly not me. I meet plenty of people on Fab. |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended.
Ah there was me about to have sleepness nights haha
Mrs are sleepless nights good or bad things in fab land ?
Sounds more like a promise... "
Looking at your pic, a good thing |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended.
Ah there was me about to have sleepness nights haha
Mrs are sleepless nights good or bad things in fab land ?
Sounds more like a promise... "
Do you promise to give us all sleepness nights?
If not, I want my fiver back! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire an friend instead. "
I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool
Same here
Blocked, I have no idea why but maybe that's your problem... too trigger happy on that block button OP.my money is on dude has been suspended.
Ah there was me about to have sleepness nights haha
Mrs are sleepless nights good or bad things in fab land ?
Sounds more like a promise...
Do you promise to give us all sleepness nights?
If not, I want my fiver back! "
I charge a fiver just for entry. Then it's pay at the pump. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested
Well that’s certainly not me. I meet plenty of people on Fab. "
you're probably the 5% the women want |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire an friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them"
where the fuck are they going ?
Do they also reply to emails from Nigerian princes?
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I think Fab is a great site. Treat it like life, ignore those you’re not interested in and make an effort with those you are. My single rule is to be unfailingly polite even when faced with anger and contempt….of which there appears to be a lot about, again perhaps mirroring life!
Enjoy yourselves, I do! |
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I agree mate, too many wish to take their anger out on others. When I discovered swinging it was a release from those stresses in life. Enjoy and have respectful fun |
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Just checked after reading all the thread and also blocked!!
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire an friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for themwhere the fuck are they going ?
Do they also reply to emails from Nigerian princes? I have no clue but it sounds like it
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"I agree mate, too many wish to take their anger out on others. When I discovered swinging it was a release from those stresses in life. Enjoy and have respectful fun "
This..it is escapism for us, we love it |
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I have swapped and changed my profile to suit over the years after sourcing the dreaded advice from the forums, which constantly changes. You cant win. No interest. So it is what it is now, I may tweak it occasionally. I'm not attractive enough for someone to take the time to interact in person, as ive been told from some on here. Ridiculed for being single, yet becoming a widow is not exactly something i can control. Yes the good looking guys get the fun, the broken don't get a look in very often.
I stay on here because I have made some good friends to chat with, I like the site, there are still some good folk out there and I still hope that I can find a partner in crime to share the lifestyle with again, but that don't wash. Singletons are tarred with the same brush most of the time and treated as such by a fair few.
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Why the hell did the OP block me? Haha. What the hell. That is funny |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire an friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them"
The clubs I've attended its max £10-15 extra for a guy. Nobody is holding a gun to their head, if they don't want to attend then fair play.... I've paid more on a New Years Eve to stand like a plank to get entry to a pub... I also didn't expect a shag at the end of it. Either pay/don't pay... Its your choice. |
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"I rather like single men, they shouldn't quit fab!"
And that’s the reason I’m here  |
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"Also, I'm blocked by you OP. Zero idea why. Maybe we interacted, maybe I missed a message, maybe I'm not your type... But I don't recognise your profile so it's you not me... If you're blocking women after a one no reason response I totally get it! But you're possibly also diluting your response pool "
I'm blocked too. What a weirdo. |
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Also... Its pay/demand. I can recall sooo many club nights in my 20s where girls were free entry, half price drinks. Yes, it's crap, but it's consumerism at its finest. If women don't rock up, it's just men paying to attend a sausagefest |
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"Why the hell did the OP block me? Haha. What the hell. That is funny
Great profile and three meets in eight weeks come to think of it we might block you…. Your making us look bad. "
Hahaha thank you appreciate the compliments. You have a great profile too |
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By *eeman1Man 39 weeks ago
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I’ve met a couple of women off here, and chatted to a few. Mostly on here to read the stories etc and a perv now and again. Send a few messages now and again but if I don’t get a response or it’s a no then so be it. No good getting bothered about. Women have always ruled when it comes to sex etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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think OP has definitely been suspended, or he’s gone on a blocking spree for some reason |
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"think OP has definitely been suspended, or he’s gone on a blocking spree for some reason "
The way you find out if there's a block or something else is hit "message privately". If it doesn't say you've blocked them or they've blocked you, it means... something else |
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I'm not even competition for blokes on here, yet I'm blocked by OP too! 
Then again, I'm guessing OP is in the Land of the Banned, or venturing into the Regions of Unlos. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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The site is just a dating platform, with a very niche clientelle. It'll follow the same rules as any other.
If men thing its bad getting no responses on here, jesus, you should try tinder where there are literally thousands of women ready to ignore you on mass because you have slightly misshapen eyebrows.
This place is a pussycat by enlarge. Men. Just do yourselves a favour and go to clubs, and don't be weird at them either, and you'll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"think OP has definitely been suspended, or he’s gone on a blocking spree for some reason
The way you find out if there's a block or something else is hit "message privately". If it doesn't say you've blocked them or they've blocked you, it means... something else "
ohhh wonderful good to know thanku! x |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Probably the best way to meet swinging women or couples is by going to a club I think it's hard for some women to know if there's an attraction to you over fab and need to see you in person first |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Probably the best way to meet swinging women or couples is by going to a club I think it's hard for some women to know if there's an attraction to you over fab and need to see you in person first "
we always try to establish a vibe first by chatting first for a bit, then a social, then the fun begins x |
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By *t12guy49Man 39 weeks ago
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If all the single men quit, Fabs would go under! We are a necessary evil for the success of the site.
As with normal dating sites, the single men outnumber the ladies. It’s frustrating to show interest in someone but not to get a reply but that’s the numbers game! It’s sheer luck of the draw if your message gets read, let alone responded to.
Fabs is still fun though, the chat / cam rooms are very good and for me, it’s way of seeing who is going to my local club and maybe set up a meet.
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"If all the single men quit, Fabs would go under! We are a necessary evil for the success of the site.
As with normal dating sites, the single men outnumber the ladies. It’s frustrating to show interest in someone but not to get a reply but that’s the numbers game! It’s sheer luck of the draw if your message gets read, let alone responded to.
well said, the ratio is probably 50 males to a female, so it’s always going to be harder for men, but as a couple that mainly only meets men, you are all wanted on here!x
Fabs is still fun though, the chat / cam rooms are very good and for me, it’s way of seeing who is going to my local club and maybe set up a meet.
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By *agusMan 39 weeks ago
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The chances of me winning the lottery are slim but I still play and hope |
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It’s difficult for everyone. We haven’t been able to find a compatible couple in years and have only found a regular guy recently after almost giving up.
If you have a particular set of criteria you are looking for then it can make it tough even for couples and we assume single women too. |
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"No, the single straight men shouldn't quit fab"
Personally I think that both single guys who are only looking for single ladies, and single ladies who are only looking for single guys, for a one to one, are probably on the wrong site. There are loads of better sites for straight hetrosexual hookups.
There is no reason to ban any "type" from the site though, and no one person's personal opinion should decide what other people can do... not even mine.
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire a friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them"
So you are bemoaning clubs but you’ve never actually been to one |
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"Probably the best way to meet swinging women or couples is by going to a club I think it's hard for some women to know if there's an attraction to you over fab and need to see you in person first "
This is very true. A guy can look good in a pic but his attitude or character can turn me off instantly. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire a friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them
So you are bemoaning clubs but you’ve never actually been to one "
I have been to one and never again |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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The reality is quit if you like ,you will always be replaced with an endless supply of men that message us trying to bypass me , this on top of not having actually read our profile to see out preferences
Some men are extremely respectful just to add
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Single straight men please stay.
I appreciate you x
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By *oxy jWoman 39 weeks ago
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op youve miss one very important thing from you opening post well may be two ..
sexual attraction people normally need to like what they see and sexual attraction at the very least ...
and two ... most guys are here as hook ups where couples and women wat to swing noy all but most ..
and three do the maths and it will tell you why most men cant get a meet ...
its always been a hard scene for most men even 30 years ago when there were alot less men but still to many its silly %s today ...
only the vad guys get bad press the rest it just dow to weather someone wants to meet you or not and for most it will be a not... its just a very hard scene if your a guy and no amount of moaning is going to change that no matter what..
being good polite non pushy should be the norm and not a special requirement these things dont make you stand out they are expected as norm |
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The key is to just be yourself, if nobody finds what you have to offer attractive then your problems are more fundamental than what you write in a profile or a message.
Put the effort in, don’t be a dick, be patient, remember that you are far more impressed by pictures of your cock than any woman will ever be, and eventually you’ll get somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire a friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them
So you are bemoaning clubs but you’ve never actually been to one I have been to one and never again "
how much did you pay ? |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
So don't go? Is that extra tenner or 15 quid crippling your bank balance? If so, don't go. It's not a free for all. Just because you paid £45 entry fee doesn't entitle you to a shag. If that's your bag hire a friend instead. I dont go to none of them but the single guys I've spoken to said they paid near £100 to go to a swingers club while for women is £10 or less so yes the men shouldn't go since it's daylight robbery for them
So you are bemoaning clubs but you’ve never actually been to one I have been to one and never again how much did you pay ?"
£200 |
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Lol, single men shouldn't quit fab. But single men who don't have a big cock should quit fab. Clearly only big cock men get meets it shows in reviews! Makes sense though if you're only meeting for a fuck you're gonna pick someone fairly decent sized. |
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I did extremely well on here as a straight single guy, met lots of great people, had some fantastic experiences,made lots of friends and best of all met my amazing partner.
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
Guarantee action haha wtf! This is what separates the guys though.
Those that go to clubs to socialise and anything else is a decent night. And those that go with unrealistic expectations. Most people go to clubs to socialise first and foremost (most, not all!)
Also as I’ve said many times before. What guys pay to get in, is still probably less than what it costs a woman to prep for a club visit. |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
Guarantee action haha wtf! This is what separates the guys though.
Those that go to clubs to socialise and anything else is a decent night. And those that go with unrealistic expectations. Most people go to clubs to socialise first and foremost (most, not all!)
Also as I’ve said many times before. What guys pay to get in, is still probably less than what it costs a woman to prep for a club visit. "
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"...Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
... This is just the basics of bare minimum for most people. Roughly equivalent to seeks human male, preferably with a torso. Yes, many people will meet that base requirement, but then there's attraction, compatibility, chemistry, etc to factor in.
I'm not going to bone someone just because they didn't send me a dick pic and made polite small talk at me."
Exactly his, some are super entitled on here & think by being slightly more polite than the last they should get meets - there's way more to it than that.
For men there's a lot of you, and no not everyone wants a muscular god type - I see slim, large and in-between having meets and success on here.
Doesn't matter how polite or nice of a message you send if there's no attraction.
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Considering I've only offered a bit of advice and not been judgemental on the OP profile.
Being blocked tells you everything you need to know. |
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"Considering I've only offered a bit of advice and not been judgemental on the OP profile.
Being blocked tells you everything you need to know. "
It's OK we are all blocked |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise
Guarantee action haha wtf! This is what separates the guys though.
Those that go to clubs to socialise and anything else is a decent night. And those that go with unrealistic expectations. Most people go to clubs to socialise first and foremost (most, not all!)
Also as I’ve said many times before. What guys pay to get in, is still probably less than what it costs a woman to prep for a club visit. "
Think many use the price difference as an excuse not to go. They have no grasp of the reasons behind the difference. Its all about supply and demand as it is in many businesses. By letting women and couples to a lesser extent in cheaper, the clubs are encouraging women to come which will have the knock on effect of then attracting others including single men. If single men were the same price and their numbers not capped the club would be full of them and potentially put women and couples off. And because numbers are often limited the price then rises too. It is what it is. The choice is always the same, go or don't go. |
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested "
You just described life,
Fab is a microcosm of that. |
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"As a straight single guy I think Fab is great. I have no intention of leaving."
Me neither. I’ve been using Fab for over 11 years now, and shared some great times with lots of fantastic, likeminded people! I have loads of sexy memories to let slip out of my mouth when I’m in the old folks home
I would say the club scene as a solo, straight guy is dire though, based on my experiences….  |
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"Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now?"
As someone else has said, what you have described is having basic decency and respect for someone you would like to chat to. That's a starting point, not a checklist for guaranteed action.
Nobody is obliged to meet you if you don't fit their desires, just because you had the good grace not to send them 10 pictures of your Wang and you talk to them like they are a fellow human being.
We get a whole range of messages. Some from nice guys that just aren't for us.
One of the surest ways to put us off? Having a sense of entitlement and crying about not being given a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested
You just described life,
Fab is a microcosm of that."
unless the 5pc are fucking anyone and everyone (and I'm not ) that's a lot of people not having sex ! |
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By *hipdaleCouple 39 weeks ago
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Sad thing is the minority spoil it for the majority, don't read profiles , can stung an opening message together apart from " want to fuck " I'd smash the pussy to bits" " can I cum in your " , not the bestcway to introduce yourself to someone , we have met plenty of single guys who have been lovely. Lots forget there has to be a connection and an attraction. If there are no pictures on there profile and very little thought gone into it too then people will just scroll past , you want to impress then you have to make an effort. |
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No they should not.
Men should put a good profile up to put themselves out there the better the profile the better chance you have of being found.
You got to sell yourself to get noticed. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Sad thing is the minority spoil it for the majority, don't read profiles , can stung an opening message together apart from " want to fuck " I'd smash the pussy to bits" " can I cum in your " , not the bestcway to introduce yourself to someone , we have met plenty of single guys who have been lovely. Lots forget there has to be a connection and an attraction. If there are no pictures on there profile and very little thought gone into it too then people will just scroll past , you want to impress then you have to make an effort."
disagree. True, the shit can wear people down, but on the whole if your fab time is being spoilt you need to look at your approach first. After all, plenty of us are not having our time spoilt. Indeed, the shit help make us look amazing my contrast  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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given that i don't consider myself any oil painting, when i was a single straight guy on here i had a certain level of success on here before i met my lady on here, and that was only meant to be for nsa fun together, and yet were engaged 3 years later. i've asked her a few times why she picked me out of the hundreds of messages she got. heres what she said:
1. (most important) i had obviously read her profile and understood what she wanted and tailored myself to her needs
2. i let her introduce the subject of sex and meeting at her pace, and was flexible with the approach to meeting so she was comfortable.
3. i made her laugh
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By *hipdaleCouple 39 weeks ago
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There is nothing wrong with our approach, but if we are messaged with message like we have posted then you will get the reply that is deserved, just because you on fabs doesn't mean you have to meet every person who messages you , if people were to read the profile look at age limits and preferences then get the hump with rejection as they are not in that criteria then that's there problem |
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Just had a look through our ‘local updates’ here’s a few typical statuses on there.
“Balls are full who wants a load”
“In xxxxxxx any ladies looking for fun nice thick cock and heavy cummer”
“Outdoor at your place on this pissing wet day, do t be shy ladies, nice day for a play”
“Ready to blow my load anyone want to help”
“Looking for a 3rd woman for a threesome tomorrow? Other woman is married and needs discretion”
Along with about 50 dick pics.
Not exactly enticing, and today is a really good day in comparison to the usual.
If you’re not getting meets and post statuses like this then is it any wonder? |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I think there are to many men on here with a big percentage of men who are just idiots who can't or just don't bother reading profiles which does make it more difficult for the more genuine men on here. I also think the is a big increase in women who like to make men jump through hoops and be spiteful just for the fun of it I have had success on here in the past with my old profile before I moved and if I'm honest I probably put in more effort before I live a very busy lifestyle and don't get much time to do much anyway these days so I'm not going to jump through loads of hoops to get a slim chance of a possible meet and in reality I've never done that. The effort has to be 2 sided. As with a lot of women I like to get to know someone before anything happens so I don't expect anything to happen with my current workload as I'm just not into it enough. If I message someone to give them a compliment its just that a compliment if they want to chat from there that's great and I'll chat and we get to know each other if not or the only say thanks or nothing at all that's also fine. But I can see why some would think the single straight guys get a bad deal. I don't think we do its just the ones that give us a bad name are very loud and a lot of the women on here only hear the loud ones |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"given that i don't consider myself any oil painting, when i was a single straight guy on here i had a certain level of success on here before i met my lady on here, and that was only meant to be for nsa fun together, and yet were engaged 3 years later. i've asked her a few times why she picked me out of the hundreds of messages she got. heres what she said:
1. (most important) i had obviously read her profile and understood what she wanted and tailored myself to her needs
2. i let her introduce the subject of sex and meeting at her pace, and was flexible with the approach to meeting so she was comfortable.
3. i made her laugh
4. face and body picture (not a cock shot), "
Congratulations firstly on your engagement. Your list of points really are common sense and I cannot understand why so many people find it hard to follow? Not reading profiles, no face, blank profiles yet they moan |
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By *raigxMan 39 weeks ago
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I’ve only had 3 meets off fab to date but I won’t just give up even tho personal circumstances restrict when I can meet. I enjoy reading/respecting profiles and know everyone has different tastes, preferences etc. No point taking it personally when it doesn’t work out. |
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"There’s a lot of successful guys on FAB - they do well, not because of their looks - they get further because they aren’t worrying about what each different person wants and trying to conform to that.
They are themselves, they sell themselves well and they are respectful.
I honestly don’t understand why some people stay on FAB - it must be a depressing place for people who don’t try but expect magical results.
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I don’t do too badly on here but then I get myself to socials mix with people and build up a network of swinging friends, that network leads too meeting more people.
Ultimately you are your shop window not fab.
Get to socials clubs, meet people, the meets will then come. |
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"given that i don't consider myself any oil painting, when i was a single straight guy on here i had a certain level of success on here before i met my lady on here, and that was only meant to be for nsa fun together, and yet were engaged 3 years later. i've asked her a few times why she picked me out of the hundreds of messages she got. heres what she said:
1. (most important) i had obviously read her profile and understood what she wanted and tailored myself to her needs
2. i let her introduce the subject of sex and meeting at her pace, and was flexible with the approach to meeting so she was comfortable.
3. i made her laugh
4. face and body picture (not a cock shot), "
All valid points and approach is sensible and respectful.
However, she may have appreciated all those things and still decided that she didn't want to meet you. Which is also absolutely fine.
That's the bit some struggle with I think. You can be nice, polite, chat and have friendly conversation. Those are all plus points. But they don't 'earn' a shag. Its not an application form or loyalty system.
And just to be clear I'm not suggesting the author of this reply wouldn't be totally respectful of that x |
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I must admit some have said the bad eggs are in the minority - my inbox doesn't agree & we don't even meet men.
In all seriousness I've never been so put off men since joining fab, the majority who enter our inbox are rude, entitled and think a cock allows you sex.
If I wasn't married I'd have turned lesbian!
They just need to treat people how they would in person rather than caveman style - cock here - vag - let's sex
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
No, this is just an excuse men tell themselves when they can’t get meets."
I gave up with my single account because every time I expressed myself I was put down by women saying a similar thing despite being on the site for years and having successful meets with single women and couples. It changed on here after 2020 and got a lot more nasty comments. |
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"It's hard for all genders to find nice and genuine people.
Seeing the messages my wife gets on a daily basis, it's no wonder men have a certain stigma attached to them.
Try a nice and relaxed approach and in time hopefully you'll find someone.
I get those too and I'm a man.
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"Just had a look through our ‘local updates’ here’s a few typical statuses on there.
“Balls are full who wants a load”
“In xxxxxxx any ladies looking for fun nice thick cock and heavy cummer”
“Outdoor at your place on this pissing wet day, do t be shy ladies, nice day for a play”
“Ready to blow my load anyone want to help”
“Looking for a 3rd woman for a threesome tomorrow? Other woman is married and needs discretion”
Along with about 50 dick pics.
Not exactly enticing, and today is a really good day in comparison to the usual.
If you’re not getting meets and post statuses like this then is it any wonder?"
I'm a bi man and my updates are pretty much the same here.
I really often wonder if these status updates ever work for them .
I'm thinking not so much by the messages I get late at night from the straight men. |
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"Single men shouldn't go to clubs where they pay the highest prices to get into them with no guarantees of getting any action. You be paying just to socialise "
If this is your attitude as a single man then you are 100% part of the problem.
You should NEVER be expecting any sort of guaranteed action.
And if you do, then please do avoid clubs and leave fab because you are not wanted |
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Also, as a man of average looks and equipment, I can confidently say that it still possible to have success on here by being genuine, polite and friendly AS A BASIC MINIMUM, and then working from there.
If you don’t want to put effort in then by all means stick to Tinder, this isn’t Insta shag |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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in all honesty its not a one size fits all ..
us women are specific we want someone to be interested in us as individuals , a generic albeit well thought out mail doesnt cut it , stimulate a womans mind and the rest will come , we're not as complicated as guys think ,and we dont generally let our appendages do our thinking for us .
i also think advice threads are silly because what works for one wont work for another and before long comes a time that everyones saying the same thing , profiles are like carbon copies ..
just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may |
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Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Yes... They should all quit...that'll teach em ... |
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"Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW "
Women have too much choice?
That's hilarious.
I think you'll find that everyone has the same power and the same choice, and that "no" is also a choice.
I've been overwhelmingly choosing "no" as my choice for a couple of years now, and my life is better for it.
If more guys decided their answer was no, then maybe, like me, they'd be happier. |
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We all have the right to say no it's all built on trust and consent right? Alot of men lack confidence I get it so they say silly things they wouldn't do face to face but you have to understand you all want a unique message as hey/ how are you don't cut it no more it's classed as you're boring and no effort but in reality thats how we still greet others. The more attention a woman gets the more her confidence grows so even all those unwanted dick pics still keeps you in control as a man constantly has to chase |
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"We all have the right to say no it's all built on trust and consent right? Alot of men lack confidence I get it so they say silly things they wouldn't do face to face but you have to understand you all want a unique message as hey/ how are you don't cut it no more it's classed as you're boring and no effort but in reality thats how we still greet others. The more attention a woman gets the more her confidence grows so even all those unwanted dick pics still keeps you in control as a man constantly has to chase"
Yes, searching through hundreds of dick pics, whining, insults, abuse, with the occasional nice message is really confidence inducing.
I like it so much that I've turned off all ingoing messages for four years. |
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Why is it that men always have to make excuses? It’s always someone else’s fault, Nev et their own. |
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They shouldn't quit fab but they should go on some kind of induction course before being let loose on other people's inboxes. I'd like to see them learn:
1. How to read profiles.
2. How to read profiles before they wink.
3. How to read profiles before they send friend requests.
4. How to read profiles before they send dick pics.
5. How to express their own sexuality without sending a dick pic (because if your only plus point is your pale pink stiff appendage, then I will be responding with the one I have in the middle of my hand). |
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Personally, we've given up on single guys on fab for now as there are plenty to choose from at clubs and parties and some of the best ones already have a wonderfully understanding partner who lets them play with us. Lx |
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No they should just put more effort in to stand out there are a lot of really good profiles but they are surronded by millions of low effort pic collectors |
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"No they should just put more effort in to stand out there are a lot of really good profiles but they are surronded by millions of low effort pic collectors"
You're gorgeous |
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"Also, as a man of average looks and equipment, I can confidently say that it still possible to have success on here by being genuine, polite and friendly AS A BASIC MINIMUM, and then working from there.
If you don’t want to put effort in then by all means stick to Tinder, this isn’t Insta shag"
Amen to this |
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"Granted women say they come across so many men on here who make zero effort in their profile, I don’t think there’s enough appreciation or respect for the men who do.
More and more over time on here, I’m noticing women berating men for almost everything as if they can do no right. Women’s profiles including demands often rooted in double standards.
Might sound like I’m complaining, but I’ve seen women complain about men on here all the time.
But what is it that women of fab (I know you’re not a monolith and can’t speak for each other) really want?
Because I’ve seen from a lot of guys saying they can’t get a meet despite being polite, putting effort into their profiles, not sending unsolicited dick pics.
So is it just one rule for one and another for the next? Do the “attractive” guys get to bypass requirements?
I’ve had my fair share of meets in the past (outside of clubs), but it seems impossible these days.
Do we just stick to clubs now?"
I find if ladies/couples are negative berate others in their posts or profiles its a great filter, move on to the profiles that include block if necessary
If they have double standards why try to engage with those folks.. move on to the next profile block if necessary
Fab ain't easy for any gender demographic on here, the site provides various tools that make the time on here less stressful / beneficial |
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"Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW "
Men have as many choices as women do. They can choose to wait for attraction and connection, or not.
If a bloke is too damn horny to wait, it is very much a them problem. |
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"We all have the right to say no it's all built on trust and consent right? Alot of men lack confidence I get it so they say silly things they wouldn't do face to face but you have to understand you all want a unique message as hey/ how are you don't cut it no more it's classed as you're boring and no effort but in reality thats how we still greet others. The more attention a woman gets the more her confidence grows so even all those unwanted dick pics still keeps you in control as a man constantly has to chase"
It's such a huge confidence boost being talked to like your nothing but a hole to poke - yeah I feel great.
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"Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW
Men have as many choices as women do. They can choose to wait for attraction and connection, or not.
If a bloke is too damn horny to wait, it is very much a them problem."
I find the option of a good book and an early night to be very appealing, and much better than meeting the vast majority of other options I come across. |
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"We all have the right to say no it's all built on trust and consent right? Alot of men lack confidence I get it so they say silly things they wouldn't do face to face but you have to understand you all want a unique message as hey/ how are you don't cut it no more it's classed as you're boring and no effort but in reality thats how we still greet others. The more attention a woman gets the more her confidence grows so even all those unwanted dick pics still keeps you in control as a man constantly has to chase
It's such a huge confidence boost being talked to like your nothing but a hole to poke - yeah I feel great.
Mrs "
Set of holes, wet optional, pulse optional. |
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I think the main problem for single men on here is probably the ratio of men to women, and due to this, women get constantly bombarded by messages from men, most of whom are idiots, and anything from anyone decent just gets lost within them all. It's also very difficult to portray your true character on a forum profile.
I personally found my "success rate", for want of a better term, went up massively when I started going to clubs, meeting and chatting to people first hand, which I feel gave people a much better opportunity to get to know me as a person rather than a profile.
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While some guys feel entitled on
here which they shouldn't because if you get turned down accept it and move on females are them same too |
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"I think the main problem for single men on here is probably the ratio of men to women, and due to this, women get constantly bombarded by messages from men, most of whom are idiots, and anything from anyone decent just gets lost within them all. It's also very difficult to portray your true character on a forum profile.
I personally found my "success rate", for want of a better term, went up massively when I started going to clubs, meeting and chatting to people first hand, which I feel gave people a much better opportunity to get to know me as a person rather than a profile.
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Exactly this... been on this site for many, many years (and others before this) - 90% of our veris and friends list are from people we have either met in clubs or over in Gran Canaria... we used to do 1-on-1 meets with both singles and couples but the time that it takes to get it organised etc etc only then to have a few no shows (both couples and singles) started to put us off that side of meeting.. hence clubs have been our go to in that respect - appreciate clubs are not to everyones taste and some of the clubs we go to the single guys are not charged much extra if at all - depending on if a party night etc |
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By *rispyDuckMan 39 weeks ago
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Just here for the laughs I didn’t read anything lol |
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"think OP has definitely been suspended, or he’s gone on a blocking spree for some reason
The way you find out if there's a block or something else is hit "message privately". If it doesn't say you've blocked them or they've blocked you, it means... something else "
Doesn't allow me to "reply privately" to OP, reason given is just a big blank page...
As a single lesbian trans woman (which is _not_ the same as single straight man), I find that being on fab has allowed me to meet plenty of people of all genders. Sometimes it has led to sex, sometimes it has led to friendships, often it has just been a night in a pub or club chatting with nice folk, sometimes it has been "why the fuck did I bother!" or even "omg, how the hell do I get out of here!!".
I find that by just being honest on my profile about who I am and what I want out of fab, both the good and the bad, interactions happen. Not with everyone, not every day, quite often just being a polite online chat about something, occasionally leading to in-person meetings. Certainly giving me a more successful social life than if I just did nothing.
It is possible to "hit the jackpot" where you get a message out of the blue from some gorgeous person who you've never seen before, and an hour later be entwined with them on a bed. Just doesn't happen very often for me, and I suspect doesn't happen very often for anybody on fab, whatever their appearance or gender.
Fabswingers is just a tool, and as they say, "it is a poor work-person who blames their tools". |
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By *ubyRonCouple 39 weeks ago
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To be honest I don't think anyone gets an easy meet. We certainly don't but that's partially our fault.
I do feel for single males, we get inundated with messages and half the time they get left on the back burner and we never get round to answering them. |
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It’s just as hard for couples.
Finding what you want is difficult when you don’t just want to shag the first person in your inbox! |
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"Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW "
What a lot of shite |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"They shouldn't quit fab but they should go on some kind of induction course before being let loose on other people's inboxes. I'd like to see them learn:
1. How to read profiles.
2. How to read profiles before they wink.
3. How to read profiles before they send friend requests.
4. How to read profiles before they send dick pics.
5. How to express their own sexuality without sending a dick pic (because if your only plus point is your pale pink stiff appendage, then I will be responding with the one I have in the middle of my hand)."
If only, I think the induction course should be mandatory like conscription. I get endless people not reading and following my profile. |
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"They shouldn't quit fab but they should go on some kind of induction course before being let loose on other people's inboxes. I'd like to see them learn:
1. How to read profiles.
2. How to read profiles before they wink.
3. How to read profiles before they send friend requests.
4. How to read profiles before they send dick pics.
5. How to express their own sexuality without sending a dick pic (because if your only plus point is your pale pink stiff appendage, then I will be responding with the one I have in the middle of my hand)."
Nailed it |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Meeting for both men and women is hard but for men its harder because they dont get a response to a well thought message to the women they contact with |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested
You just described life,
Fab is a microcosm of that.unless the 5pc are fucking anyone and everyone (and I'm not ) that's a lot of people not having sex !"
yeap, according to statistics between 20% to 40% of men in the world are having sex with 80% of the women |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Women on here have too much choices a man doesn't get to choose who he really wants to play with it's just anyone that bites the bait could be far from attraction but a man will still complete the deed. I understand some men might send xrated messages before they know the person but it's just like a woman straight away as (they in the inbox so how big is it then) MEN KNOW YOUR WORTH WE KINGS DICK JUST AS VALUABLE AS A PUSSY WE ALL GOT NEEDS BUT WOMEN HIDES IT BETTER ..CHOW "
Im quite picky with the women I have sex with, I dont dint have sex with just any female
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"90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested
You just described life,
Fab is a microcosm of that.unless the 5pc are fucking anyone and everyone (and I'm not ) that's a lot of people not having sex ! yeap, according to statistics between 20% to 40% of men in the world are having sex with 80% of the women"
That's one hell of a big orgy! I hope that the ones at the bottom of the pile don't get suffocated... |
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