I guess because I’m into kink my profile probably attracts a certain type of chancer, but you see it on the forums as well occasionally.
Men who want a woman who has “no limits.”
Guys, here’s your chance. If you really want a woman with “no limits” then I’d love to understand why.
Because surely being able to set a boundary and say things like “no actually, I don’t want you to cut my leg off during sexy time with a chainsaw” is a good thing, right? |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Is it possible the newer profiles that are like this ?
When we first started out we was all in for mostly everything (not involving water sports )
But after a week or two had whittled it down to our main way we like to play
I suppose we got caught up in the moment and eventually came back down |
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"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word  
Needless to say we did not meet. "
See, I never play with a safe word. But I operate a simple “no means no” policies.
Safe words are only required because society has taught people (men) that no means yes. And we can push back against that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I don't think people really mean no limits. Surely we all have limits? What about the moral, legal and downright disgusting limits. To say you have no limits and mean it, means you're an absolute psychopath, very dangerous and anyone in their right mind would avoid at all cost. So people who say no limits, I'd say 99.99% of those are just fantasist or haven't really thought through what no limits mean. |
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"Men who want a woman with no limits until she mentions she likes CBT and wants to punish him!  "
"No limits? Lovely. I'm going to human traffic you to a Russian gulag for you to be the boss's prison wife. Yes darling, it would really turn me on thinking about you there." |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Because surely being able to set a boundary and say things like “no actually, I don’t want you to cut my leg off during sexy time with a chainsaw” is a good thing, right?"
Let’s pretend that that’s a limit for everyone here. 
But, I like the idea she hadn’t set any limits yet, and her mind is open to try alsorts with me so we can discover where we put our boundaries.
It’s difficult for me to explore a lot of things I haven’t done, with somebody who is already got the limits and made her boundaries.
Yes, communication is there and I find clout quickly that we’re not compatible, if she is already saying all the rules and putting her boundaries in place before I’ve got to even speak up about my needs and desires.
So hopefully that explains why some might say, I’m looking for a woman who has no limits.
It doesn’t necessarily mean I want to do something severe  |
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"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word
Needless to say we did not meet. "
Massive red flag to us too, tells us the person is either very inexperienced or possibly has no idea about what they want |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word
Needless to say we did not meet.
See, I never play with a safe word. But I operate a simple “no means no” policies.
Safe words are only required because society has taught people (men) that no means yes. And we can push back against that."
Very true ... the words No and Stop should be enough. Sadly too many women discover it is not. |
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Chancers are everywhere. But don’t discount the obvious.
Some can’t think of anything beyond than a cpl of spanks, hair pulling, calling names and sex.
I find that no limits also show how one’s creativity is limited
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By *DW1983Man 46 weeks ago
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I usually assume they're new and/or inexperienced, and that what they really mean is they're open to trying all sorts of new things, but it's a phrase I don't like either. Everyone has their limits, and it's important to communicate and understand them. I'd see it as a bit of a red flag if a woman said it to me, but if it were someone I was interested in and the rest of her profile was 'right' then I'd maybe try to engage, inform and educate. |
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