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What makes someone 'good' at sex?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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So, if everybody is looking for something slightly different....
What makes somebody 'good in bed' as a general rule.
(Women AND men)
What is ONE thing that somebody should do or be that without it you just couldn't enjoy it?
Does 'experienced' make someone generally better ... Or is it a turn off when a guy says that on their profile?
Interested to know your views  |
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I'm not sure that one certain person is always good but some just click well together.
I've found that the connection is very easy with some people and everything just flows and feels natural.
I find that in these situations, the sex is just really good .
I'm not sure if it's me, them , or a combination of us all being receptive to eachother . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"I'm not sure that one certain person is always good but some just click well together.
I've found that the connection is very easy with some people and everything just flows and feels natural.
I find that in these situations, the sex is just really good .
I'm not sure if it's me, them , or a combination of us all being receptive to eachother ."
This is true. Just some form of effortless compatibility whether you chose it like that or not |
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I don’t think there is just _one_ thing that matters - it is lots of things that add up to making a great night.
It is probably easier to say the thing that stops it from being a good meet - selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"Not all women enjoy the same kinds of foreplay or penetration, some people forget that. "
Yes this!!!
Just because Karen loved being eaten out for 2 hours with you 'gills' doesn't mean I want that haha.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Not all women enjoy the same kinds of foreplay or penetration, some people forget that.
Yes this!!!
Just because Karen loved being eaten out for 2 hours with you 'gills' doesn't mean I want that haha.
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Yes!!! So true - sex is not a one size fits all!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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" selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner."
I hear this. But also. Im sure I'm not the only one that quote enjoys having someone take exactly what they want and using me like a dirty whore....
I guess that IS giving me what I want in a way so not being selfish.... By being selfish haha.
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For me I'd say being adaptable, confident In their own abilities and willing to adjust what they are doing to the other persons body cues.
Only time I won't adapt is for group play as that's all about me.
. Where as something more intimate is about all involved
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" selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner.
I hear this. But also. Im sure I'm not the only one that quote enjoys having someone take exactly what they want and using me like a dirty whore....
I guess that IS giving me what I want in a way so not being selfish.... By being selfish haha.
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I wouldn’t say that was selfish - that is a scenario I can get right into |
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By *rispyDuckMan 50 weeks ago
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"Does their own sex stunts 
Haha I love this reply.
What impressive stunt can you perform? "
Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’ pulled many muscles that day lol |
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One key thing is listen
You can hear if someone is enjoying what you’re doing- also 1b:- its not porn dont keep switching positions every 30 secs when a woman is starting to enjoy your cock inside her - dont flip her over after 30 secs then again 30 secs later - she’ll just punch you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’ pulled many muscles that day lol"
Ooof, probably should have stretched first.
Hope they paid you well! |
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For me it is the connection.
If you can get on to a very sensual level with someone, loads of foreplay, devouring each other orally before moving naturally to hot steamy sex.
Oh and don’t forget the eye contact  |
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By *rispyDuckMan 50 weeks ago
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Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’ pulled many muscles that day lol
Ooof, probably should have stretched first.
Hope they paid you well!"
I did it for free for the people, just cause I care hahaha |
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By *eliWoman 50 weeks ago
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If only one thing? Compatibility.
I don't think it's one thing though. But being compatible with the person you're with, how everything can organically flow when it clicks and works effortlessly. That's what makes sex so incredible for me. Better than good. |
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By *ukaMan 50 weeks ago
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It changes so much, sometimes good sex is hard and fast, sometimes it's teasing her until she's desperate to cum and not letting her, sometimes it's constant eye contact and gentle strokes. I suppose being good is being able to tell what your partner wants or showing them what you want. Actually it's both wanting the same thing at the same time. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Interesting question,
For myself, not being selfish, respecting one’s boundaries, exploring are learning what gives the other party pleasure.
Taking your time, I’ve always found the more you give the more they want to see you again.
Best advice I ever got was, you know they enjoyed it and you were good if they invite you back  |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Confidence can mask quite a lot of ‘bad sex’ at times, in both men and women. But true confidence can open up communication which is vital.
Emotional intelligence too, being able to interpret accurately your partners wants and needs, accepting that they can change even in the same play/sex session. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"So, if everybody is looking for something slightly different....
What makes somebody 'good in bed' as a general rule.
(Women AND men)
What is ONE thing that somebody should do or be that without it you just couldn't enjoy it?
Does 'experienced' make someone generally better ... Or is it a turn off when a guy says that on their profile?
Interested to know your views "
a) For regular partners: taking the time to learn how their partner's mind and body works and applying that knowledge in practice.
b) For ons partners: staying hard for long and being able to fuck repeatedly, this hopefully being enough of an advertisement for the fun that awaits if the ons turns into something regular |
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Communication: watch and listen to the other person (or people) and react accordingly. Do more of what they like and less of what they don't. Also don't be selfish!
If we're playing with others, we always try and establish boundaries before we play and seek consent before we move to something new. That prevents any awkwardness.
Oh, and fellas - there's no shame in a tactical wank beforehand. No one wants a one pump fuck |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Quite often it's knowing that foreplay exists and it isn't just oral"
This have had some really bad sex where its been a kiss, a grope of my tit (yes just 1), a bj (no oral on me) then sex (2 mins if that) then leave, its actually not worth the effort of getting ready, so many guys are 2 pump wonders and believe they are the "best" |
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