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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I wouldn't be too down on yourself OP, people are gonna have preferences and sometimes it isn't going to be you, it's life.
No doubt you have alot to bring to the table otherwise. |
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
One of your veris says you are hung? Confused. |
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The thing about 'average' is that it is what most of us are - it wouldn't be average otherwise. One of life's great realisations that with 8 billion people on the planet there is always going to be someone quicker, stronger, brighter, more good looking, and with a bigger schlong. We all just have to come to terms with that and get on with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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That’s why it’s called average.
For every man who has a 10 inch penis there is someone who has 3 inches. If anyone complains, it’s their problem not yours.
The proliferation of porn has normalised men with giant willys. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"The thing about 'average' is that it is what most of us are - it wouldn't be average otherwise. One of life's great realisations that with 8 billion people on the planet there is always going to be someone quicker, stronger, brighter, more good looking, and with a bigger schlong. We all just have to come to terms with that and get on with it."
Unless you're Usain Bolt, Brian Shaw, Albert Einstein, Brad Pitt and John Holmes  |
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See a lot of these posts so thought I would look something up..
Vaginal depth ranges from approximately 2–5 inches (in), or 5–13 centimeters (cm). The average vaginal depth is around 3.6 inches (9.1 cm).
..there are bound to be exceptions to this, just as there are with penises. |
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You will always find the addage "the bigger the better" it happens to women too.
Simply move on from those looking for something different to what you have.
You can't change someones preference but it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, just that you don't match those requirements.
If it helps change your own preference eg "I prefer a person who enjoys average" that way they are failing to meet your preferences. It may help to change your mindset.
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
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"If a guy self-professes to be ‘hung’ it actually puts me off. I’ve been with some larger guys and they were painful and uncomfortable. I prefer average sized x"
That is also me. I have to tell them I can’t take anything to big but it falls on deaf ears most of the time. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Women looking for average sized dicks don't have to specify, because most dicks are of average size. Same as other preferences - e.g. you start to notice a lot of women asking for black guys, or tall guys, or hairless guys or whatever.
The negative space is invisible, basically. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
I can tell you now I’m 5.5” and have never had a complaint or failed to pleasure a woman. I’ve been with plenty of women who didn't find sex with anything larger than 6-7” comfortable. Average is perfect once you’re confident in yourself and know what your doing. Good sex is all about energy not dick size. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
One of your veris says you are hung? Confused. "
The webcam was in front of me and slightly below so it looked bigger. I’m only 5.9 inch bone pressed |
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Share your pain, brother. Also a non winner of the genetic lottery and wasn't blessed with a large one.
Having said that I never let it put me off having a go. Never had any complaints either from the women I've slept with. Biggest case in point, we had a foursome the other week. The other guy was absolutely huge, a good 10 or 11 inch. For a second made me feel inadequate. But his wife said I was a great fuck and I could tell she meant it sincerely and wasn't just "being nice".
Loads of so called "size queens" on here who think bigger is better. I'd just ignore them and you'll find someone else who's suitable and won't judge immediately on the contents of your boxers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
I can tell you now I’m 5.5” and have never had a complaint or failed to pleasure a woman. I’ve been with plenty of women who didn't find sex with anything larger than 6-7” comfortable. Average is perfect once you’re confident in yourself and know what your doing. Good sex is all about energy not dick size. "
Really? I’ll work on the energy and find someone like you likes my size |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"If a guy self-professes to be ‘hung’ it actually puts me off. I’ve been with some larger guys and they were painful and uncomfortable. I prefer average sized x"
Really?  good to know that not everyone thinks bigger is better. Maybe there’s hope for me yet |
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
I might be above average but the number of women I've met either IRL or online who've not seen my dick before we shagged is pretty high.
Women aren't really interested in it and they don't ask you your dick size over a plate of chips. They're more interested in if you're half decent, can have a chat or have one one two laughs. You only get naked once you're into each other so whether your 4 or 9 inches, they haven't got a clue, and it still doesn't mean you're quids in shag again.
Here endeth the lesson (shamrock) |
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
OP, you appear to have remembered only those posts and profiles that affirm your expectations.
If you read all the posts from men about cock size, a significant number of women don't care about it.
I have honestly never chosen a lover based on the size or shape of their genitalia.
You can't change what you have, you can change your attitude and approach.
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I actually measured properly a few months ago, and put myself into a calculator. You can do it too - look at calcsd dot info, and while I think worrying about size is ultimately pointless it does give you some perspective. You can also click around the various studies to see the variance there, too.
And now I know the size of my penis in millilitres  |
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We have no preference about dick size but have a preference about the size of peoples barins though so cheer up as most are like us though as the brain really should be the largest sex organ on anyone's body and shouldn't ever be a optional extra !!! |
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I'm small 2/3 inch erect. Its pretty much inverted soft.
I asked my wife last night what she thinks when she's taking another mans pants off... "Wow thats what I need makes me realise how small you are" was her reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
OP, you appear to have remembered only those posts and profiles that affirm your expectations.
If you read all the posts from men about cock size, a significant number of women don't care about it.
I have honestly never chosen a lover based on the size or shape of their genitalia.
You can't change what you have, you can change your attitude and approach.
Nita"
Yeah you’re right. This post and the responses I got put it in a wider perspective and it’s not the be all end all
You’re right. I can’t change it. Gotta realise it’s not everything when it comes to sex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It’s not all fun being hung, I’m 8ins but sometimes I wish I was smaller"
Yeah some comments did mention it was painful. You just gotta do the best with your size and do your best to make it work |
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I consider myself average. Women have said I'm big and that I go deep. I'm happy because I can generally get it all inside and feel everything the lady has to offer.
Everyone is different. I'm sure you are fine! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
One of your veris states you have a massive cock? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
One of your veris states you have a massive cock? "
Yeah that was on webcam and good angle. I measured it and it’s not massive |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
One of your veris states you have a massive cock?
Yeah that was on webcam and good angle. I measured it and it’s not massive "
Who said the camera never lies |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I’m average. I’ve had a few women complain I’m too small.
Makes me think that when women say size doesn’t matter they are just saying that to be nice. My cock is about 6 inches |
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Thing is, mate, there's literally nothing you can do about it.
So you can either let it bother you (accepting that we all have bodily hang ups at some point) or make the most of what you've got. Not saying it's easy, but obsessing over it will just make you miserable. |
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"I’m average. I’ve had a few women complain I’m too small.
Makes me think that when women say size doesn’t matter they are just saying that to be nice. My cock is about 6 inches "
Reality is everyone likes different things sexually / fantasy…. It’s not a one size fits all
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that.
One of your veris states you have a massive cock?
Yeah that was on webcam and good angle. I measured it and it’s not massive
Who said the camera never lies "
Just being honest. It’s around 5.9 inch |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Who cares. 6 is perfectly fine, or should be for someone who doesn't have a bat cave between their legs.
For a woman who wants hung only, trust me, it says more about them then it does about you. You're not missing out. |
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"One of your veris states you have a massive cock?
Yeah that was on webcam and good angle. I measured it and it’s not massive
Who said the camera never lies "
They say the camera adds ten pounds. Now that would make a massive cock. |
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I can think of two things that might make this problem seem worse than it really is:
1. Women who want average sized cocks don't need to day anything: if they don't say anything, near average is what's going to turn up most of the time.
2. Cocks that are significantly larger than average are rare (from the definition of average). So women who do want men with large cocks will have to be very vocal about it and be searching harder and possibly compete more with other women, depending on the numbers of each.
If you combine 1 and 2 then you'll be hearing a lot more from those specifically want big than those who don't.
I hope that's at least a little reassuring. |
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I've seen plenty of profiles that state average is what they are looking for or nothing above 6" etc.
I see far more that state no preference than anything, profiles asking for whoppers are in the minority. |
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We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus? |
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I personally do have a preference, my husband is 7-7.5 so I won't go below that and enjoy flexing my size queen abilities because the bigger guys can hit both the A and the G spot whoch is what I prefer
However, most women I know and have discussed this with will absolutely say that's not for them, they prefer average.
The vaginally canal is around 6 inches in lenght/depth. Most women don't enjoy getting their cervix pounded.
There's nothing wrong with you, you just have to find the ladies interested in what you're offering and also accept that some of us enjoy something different. You'd do well to also remember that swing is often about fantasy, people search out what they don't have at home to try different/new things. |
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?"
Before even thinking about besmirching my search history's good name (ha! - like it had one), I'm not sure if it's worth going all the way to looking up distribution data and calculating all the kinds of averages to arrive at detailed numbers.
Partly because I'm going to guess that the distribution is mostly symmetrical and normal-like, which would mean those numbers are quite close to each other.
But mostly because I think the definition of "big" that's inportant here is relative to the "fuzzy wuzzy what people think" average, not a real one.
That and I think the most important message is reassurance, not numbers. Unless those numbers happen to provide reassurance... |
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I saw an advert "guaranteed to make your dick bigger... Only £29.99"
So I sent off my cash and a few days later it arrived.... A magnifying glass
Any profile that mentions a preference I don't match I don't give it a seconds thought.. I move very quickly on to one that I do  |
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By *TG3Man 39 weeks ago
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"I see alot of comments and bios on here asking for bigger dicks and i wish i was. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery. No one mentions average or small. Just hung in preferences in their bio
I’m average and it feels like I’m not good enough. I read about saying just use oral but not every woman wants that. "
Don't wish to be somebody else because you're not just be yourself and you'll do ok |
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?
Before even thinking about besmirching my search history's good name (ha! - like it had one), I'm not sure if it's worth going all the way to looking up distribution data and calculating all the kinds of averages to arrive at detailed numbers.
Partly because I'm going to guess that the distribution is mostly symmetrical and normal-like, which would mean those numbers are quite close to each other.
But mostly because I think the definition of "big" that's inportant here is relative to the "fuzzy wuzzy what people think" average, not a real one.
That and I think the most important message is reassurance, not numbers. Unless those numbers happen to provide reassurance..."
A good observation. I don't know whether the distribution is normal or skewed, since my exposure to dicks is relatively limited. I really just posted the maths question because I'm a pretty nerdy kind of guy and couldn't resist. I could almost say that I am anal, but I guess that could be misinterpreted on Fab and potentially lead to all sorts of embarrassment given my heterosexual nature. But then again, it's pretty unlikely that many will read my nerdy stuff. |
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?
Before even thinking about besmirching my search history's good name (ha! - like it had one), I'm not sure if it's worth going all the way to looking up distribution data and calculating all the kinds of averages to arrive at detailed numbers.
Partly because I'm going to guess that the distribution is mostly symmetrical and normal-like, which would mean those numbers are quite close to each other.
But mostly because I think the definition of "big" that's inportant here is relative to the "fuzzy wuzzy what people think" average, not a real one.
That and I think the most important message is reassurance, not numbers. Unless those numbers happen to provide reassurance...
A good observation. I don't know whether the distribution is normal or skewed, since my exposure to dicks is relatively limited. I really just posted the maths question because I'm a pretty nerdy kind of guy and couldn't resist. I could almost say that I am anal, but I guess that could be misinterpreted on Fab and potentially lead to all sorts of embarrassment given my heterosexual nature. But then again, it's pretty unlikely that many will read my nerdy stuff."
Normal distribution will give you the value 'u' which is the mean, mode and median all in one. 'u' in terms of penis size is ~5.2". |
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?
Before even thinking about besmirching my search history's good name (ha! - like it had one), I'm not sure if it's worth going all the way to looking up distribution data and calculating all the kinds of averages to arrive at detailed numbers.
Partly because I'm going to guess that the distribution is mostly symmetrical and normal-like, which would mean those numbers are quite close to each other.
But mostly because I think the definition of "big" that's inportant here is relative to the "fuzzy wuzzy what people think" average, not a real one.
That and I think the most important message is reassurance, not numbers. Unless those numbers happen to provide reassurance...
A good observation. I don't know whether the distribution is normal or skewed, since my exposure to dicks is relatively limited. I really just posted the maths question because I'm a pretty nerdy kind of guy and couldn't resist. I could almost say that I am anal, but I guess that could be misinterpreted on Fab and potentially lead to all sorts of embarrassment given my heterosexual nature. But then again, it's pretty unlikely that many will read my nerdy stuff.
Normal distribution will give you the value 'u' which is the mean, mode and median all in one. 'u' in terms of penis size is ~5.2"."
Yes I know the characteristics of a normal distribution but did not think through that penis size is a normal dickstribution (see what I did there). I wonder if the distribution of penis size of Fabbers, being a possibly biased subset of the natural population, is also normal. Also, does the range of dick sizes preferred by female Fabbers follow a normal or skewed distribution ? There must be a PhD thesis here somewhere. Possibly at Sydney University. One thing that can be stated for sure is that the deviation on this site is far from standard. |
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Really enjoyed this thread, both entertaining and educational. I used to be a bit self conscious but since joining Fab and having a few meets I’ve put my shyness to one side and I’ll get naked at the drop of a small hat these days! |
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By *ornLordMan 39 weeks ago
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?
Before even thinking about besmirching my search history's good name (ha! - like it had one), I'm not sure if it's worth going all the way to looking up distribution data and calculating all the kinds of averages to arrive at detailed numbers.
Partly because I'm going to guess that the distribution is mostly symmetrical and normal-like, which would mean those numbers are quite close to each other.
But mostly because I think the definition of "big" that's inportant here is relative to the "fuzzy wuzzy what people think" average, not a real one.
That and I think the most important message is reassurance, not numbers. Unless those numbers happen to provide reassurance...
A good observation. I don't know whether the distribution is normal or skewed, since my exposure to dicks is relatively limited. I really just posted the maths question because I'm a pretty nerdy kind of guy and couldn't resist. I could almost say that I am anal, but I guess that could be misinterpreted on Fab and potentially lead to all sorts of embarrassment given my heterosexual nature. But then again, it's pretty unlikely that many will read my nerdy stuff.
Normal distribution will give you the value 'u' which is the mean, mode and median all in one. 'u' in terms of penis size is ~5.2".
Yes I know the characteristics of a normal distribution but did not think through that penis size is a normal dickstribution (see what I did there). I wonder if the distribution of penis size of Fabbers, being a possibly biased subset of the natural population, is also normal. Also, does the range of dick sizes preferred by female Fabbers follow a normal or skewed distribution ? There must be a PhD thesis here somewhere. Possibly at Sydney University. One thing that can be stated for sure is that the deviation on this site is far from standard."
Maybe somebody could come up with a bell curve...
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"We need a little enlargement (so to speak) on what is meant by 'average'. Are we referring to the arithmetic mean, which will be comparatively heavily influenced by the extraordinarily well hung? It's probably better to use the median or 50th percentile (i.e 50% of the measured population will have members smaller than this number and 50% will have larger). One could also quote the mode or most common length. What's the consensus?"
Not necessarily. You’re leaving out the micro penises. They would mitigate the humongous wang coefficient. |
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