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Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Do they enjoy it themselves or do they do it for the woman’s benefit?
I personally can’t stand it but I’ve wondered this and could never get a clear answer.
Any other women hate being fingered? |
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I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though |
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By *limeyoMan 40 weeks ago
Oswestry |
For the womens pleasure and my own.
It’s nice to feel how turned on the women is, then there’s the clit, g spot etc for stimulation, it just feels nice and warm and wet in there lol
Of course like anything, we are all different and have different likes/dislikes so the fact you don’t like it shouldn’t be an issue for anyone |
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though"
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this. |
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this. "
Absolutely this |
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By *CLM87Woman 40 weeks ago
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I love it when they know what they are doing... luckily I can't remember the last time I didn't enjoy it.
If they aren't hitting the spot.. I'll normally guide them a bit... hopefully then it will be better for the next beautiful lady  |
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this.
Absolutely this"
So all these years, I’ve put up with fingering thinking the guy was getting his own enjoyment out of it and it was for my benefit all along!!!
Off to build a time machine!  |
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"I love it when they know what they are doing... luckily I can't remember the last time I didn't enjoy it.
If they aren't hitting the spot.. I'll normally guide them a bit... hopefully then it will be better for the next beautiful lady "
I don’t mind the external touching but I don’t enjoy the internal.
I absolutely hate what I can only describe as the “come hither” fingering. Makes me shudder (in a bad way). The vigorous movements that some make that just makes you piss yourself makes me feel like I’m getting cystitis! Like porn style fingering! |
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"I love it when they know what they are doing... luckily I can't remember the last time I didn't enjoy it.
If they aren't hitting the spot.. I'll normally guide them a bit... hopefully then it will be better for the next beautiful lady
I don’t mind the external touching but I don’t enjoy the internal.
I absolutely hate what I can only describe as the “come hither” fingering. Makes me shudder (in a bad way). The vigorous movements that some make that just makes you piss yourself makes me feel like I’m getting cystitis! Like porn style fingering! "
Have you tried multiple techniques and if you don’t mind me asking do you do it to yourself? Might just be you’ve not found your magic method but I get it if you just don’t like it.
Dare I say it, I’m not a massive fan of BJs |
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When in a couple we both loved it. I liked the sensation and the throw back to early sexual encounters. D loved being fingered,as some have said, properly, not just a finger blast but slow start gentle touch building up a frenetic climax but also staying gentle, and erotic combined with me giving oral to her. It’s horses for courses! |
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For me, I do get a thrill to reach down, to slowly build up the sensual feelings...
Things swelling and becoming wet.
As the fingering builds, it's so wonderful to feel her twitching and then the big climax, eyes rolling back and the legs shaking.
It's always about the lady |
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this. "
^Pretty much this for me too. I like getting feedback, especially if the lady is enjoying it, and that raises my enjoyment too 
But I do appreciate that not all ladies like being fingered  |
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On those rare occasions when my ex was in the mood for sex she didn't always want me to lick her to orgasm, in which case we both had a lot of fun as I fingered her instead. I liked the way I could keep her just this side of orgasm until I chose the moment. She said she hated when I deliberately delayed things but in a 'please always do it like that' kind of way, or so I thought. She always came in the end once I worked out what I was doing. |
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"I love it when they know what they are doing... luckily I can't remember the last time I didn't enjoy it.
If they aren't hitting the spot.. I'll normally guide them a bit... hopefully then it will be better for the next beautiful lady
I don’t mind the external touching but I don’t enjoy the internal.
I absolutely hate what I can only describe as the “come hither” fingering. Makes me shudder (in a bad way). The vigorous movements that some make that just makes you piss yourself makes me feel like I’m getting cystitis! Like porn style fingering!
Have you tried multiple techniques and if you don’t mind me asking do you do it to yourself? Might just be you’ve not found your magic method but I get it if you just don’t like it.
Dare I say it, I’m not a massive fan of BJs"
I have and I just don’t like the feeling. Much prefer clitoral stimulation. |
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Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years. |
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Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years. |
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By *ig-LMan 40 weeks ago
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this. "
I'm the same i enjoy foreplay more than sex and that is with none performed on me but just the women.. the build up starting with a long sensual massage teasing with out touching intimateley hearing them breath heavier an heavier until they force or insinuate you to, but then only still introduce slowly with brushes past as i tease up the thigh.. feeding off the reaction and the noises to where I'm going to take it next until she erupts into a deep strong shuddering orgasm. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I'm not the biggest fan , hardly ever cum through fingering and I get really impatient during it , also high majority of men think there digging for gold and it can turn into a very uncomfortable and sore situation really quickly , I don't even particularly like fingering myself . |
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"I'm not the biggest fan , hardly ever cum through fingering and I get really impatient during it , also high majority of men think there digging for gold and it can turn into a very uncomfortable and sore situation really quickly , I don't even particularly like fingering myself ."
Exactly!! Sometimes it’s like a gynae examination! |
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"Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years. "
We never “finger” and my man always knows when I’m ready. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years. "
There is many ways to tell , breathing patterns , mouth , grinding ....or the biggy she could tell ye |
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"Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years.
There is many ways to tell , breathing patterns , mouth , grinding ....or the biggy she could tell ye "
Exactly! I think it’s obvious when she’s ready without needing to dip a finger |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Without it being an ignorant question, how does a man know when a woman is ready for sex without fingering. I've always like foreplay and a build up to sex with my wife or partner but gauge when they are ready by how wet a woman is. Maybe i have been doing it wrong for the last 49 years.
There is many ways to tell , breathing patterns , mouth , grinding ....or the biggy she could tell ye
Exactly! I think it’s obvious when she’s ready without needing to dip a finger "
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"I had the most awful experience with a guy who was incredibly rough and clumsy - I stopped proceedings. I ended up with a urine infection. I like to be clit rubbed"
Ooof that made me shudder! I know that feeling well, that’s awful! |
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When it comes to meets and there's usually a chat before hand about likes and dislikes. I've never yet had a woman say they don't like being fingered. I remember one saying they didn't like a oral, but only that they don't get much from it rather than being a turn off.
Personally fingering goes hand in hand with oral - you're down there so you licking alone would wear you out. I t also gives you an idea when they're ready.
While you don't have to, women are usually wetter after, which makes penetration a whole lot easier than if you hadn't. It'd be like a bj and just nodding your head, not using your hands, you usually get more from both.
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"When it comes to meets and there's usually a chat before hand about likes and dislikes. I've never yet had a woman say they don't like being fingered. I remember one saying they didn't like a oral, but only that they don't get much from it rather than being a turn off.
Personally fingering goes hand in hand with oral - you're down there so you licking alone would wear you out. I t also gives you an idea when they're ready.
While you don't have to, women are usually wetter after, which makes penetration a whole lot easier than if you hadn't. It'd be like a bj and just nodding your head, not using your hands, you usually get more from both.
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See I’m the opposite, stick a finger in and I’ll dry up like an empty crisp packet in the Sahara. |
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"When it comes to meets and there's usually a chat before hand about likes and dislikes. I've never yet had a woman say they don't like being fingered. I remember one saying they didn't like a oral, but only that they don't get much from it rather than being a turn off.
Personally fingering goes hand in hand with oral - you're down there so you licking alone would wear you out. I t also gives you an idea when they're ready.
While you don't have to, women are usually wetter after, which makes penetration a whole lot easier than if you hadn't. It'd be like a bj and just nodding your head, not using your hands, you usually get more from both.
See I’m the opposite, stick a finger in and I’ll dry up like an empty crisp packet in the Sahara. "
I was trying to work out the difference between fingers, a cock and a dildo.. I suspect you don't mind cock/dildo, but they're all penetrative with fingers being a bit more 'able'? Maybe not.. |
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"When it comes to meets and there's usually a chat before hand about likes and dislikes. I've never yet had a woman say they don't like being fingered. I remember one saying they didn't like a oral, but only that they don't get much from it rather than being a turn off.
Personally fingering goes hand in hand with oral - you're down there so you licking alone would wear you out. I t also gives you an idea when they're ready.
While you don't have to, women are usually wetter after, which makes penetration a whole lot easier than if you hadn't. It'd be like a bj and just nodding your head, not using your hands, you usually get more from both.
See I’m the opposite, stick a finger in and I’ll dry up like an empty crisp packet in the Sahara.
I was trying to work out the difference between fingers, a cock and a dildo.. I suspect you don't mind cock/dildo, but they're all penetrative with fingers being a bit more 'able'? Maybe not.. "
Toys, not so much. Cock, yes.
I find fingers a bit stabby and unpredictable. I can control a cock a bit more. |
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"I like to be clit rubbed"
I consider that to be part of the whole thing.
Occasionally, from behind putting my thumb a little inside whilst my middle and index finders rub her clit has produced all the right noises especially when combined with kissing her neck. |
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"I like to be clit rubbed
I consider that to be part of the whole thing.
Occasionally, from behind putting my thumb a little inside whilst my middle and index finders rub her clit has produced all the right noises especially when combined with kissing her neck."
Aaargh, fucking hate the thumb!!! It’s soooo uncomfortable!!! (For me, and all my friends!) |
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Aaargh, fucking hate the thumb!!! It’s soooo uncomfortable!!! (For me, and all my friends!) "
Everyone is different and I respect that. I'll know not to try that with you (not that we'd ever meet). |
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Aaargh, fucking hate the thumb!!! It’s soooo uncomfortable!!! (For me, and all my friends!)
Everyone is different and I respect that. I'll know not to try that with you (not that we'd ever meet)."
Haha appreciate it |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Fingering can be amazing, but a lot of times the stabbing fingers and heavy rubbing of clit can be sore and damaging!
I'd say it definitely is an art form and there have been a small number of men I've met who get it completely right! |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
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Omg fingering is the BEST.
I could lay for hours being finger blasted.
Oral, however, take if or leave it. Just dont cafe for it yet men are obsessed. I let them do their thing but at least use your fingers at the same time hah |
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Omg fingering is the BEST.
I could lay for hours being finger blasted.
Oral, however, take if or leave it. Just dont cafe for it yet men are obsessed. I let them do their thing but at least use your fingers at the same time hah"
I prefer kissing whilst fingering rather than oral + fingering |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Omg fingering is the BEST.
I could lay for hours being finger blasted.
Oral, however, take if or leave it. Just dont cafe for it yet men are obsessed. I let them do their thing but at least use your fingers at the same time hah
I prefer kissing whilst fingering rather than oral + fingering"
Yes!!! 
Tantalising, feel their breath moaning against your lips at the same time. Yummy |
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I love fingering - I find it incredibly hot to be able to kiss whilst doing so and/or look in their eyes as they orgasm.
I’ve also had the pleasure of making two women cum at the same time as they kissed and I fingered them both.
Hot AF
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By *VineMan 40 weeks ago
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"I love fingering - I find it incredibly hot to be able to kiss whilst doing so and/or look in their eyes as they orgasm.
I’ve also had the pleasure of making two women cum at the same time as they kissed and I fingered them both.
Hot AF
K"
This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Do they enjoy it themselves or do they do it for the woman’s benefit?
I personally can’t stand it but I’ve wondered this and could never get a clear answer.
Any other women hate being fingered?"
As long as my clit is being played with at the same time
Being fingers in pussy and ass at same time feels amazing |
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I enjoy doing it as part of mixture of everything, in a mix of fucking, licking, fingering all mixed up. Easiest and indeed almost only way I can directly stimulate the A spot due to it's location and can be combined with licking or sucking clit then straight back to fucking. Bit like a buffet lots of different stimulation all mixed together, just do long enough to get result then immediately something different. |
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By *oxesMan 40 weeks ago
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Do they enjoy it themselves or do they do it for the woman’s benefit?
I personally can’t stand it but I’ve wondered this and could never get a clear answer.
Any other women hate being fingered?"
For the women's benefit. But i get turnrd on by the other persons happiness.
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I love it. It’s all part of the foreplay, but the way she opens her legs to allow my fingers to slide in is a massive turn on. There’s an aspect of power play when she wants more but only allowed to be teased. |
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Do they enjoy it themselves or do they do it for the woman’s benefit?
I personally can’t stand it but I’ve wondered this and could never get a clear answer.
Any other women hate being fingered?"
Female half here and I like yourself am not a massive fan of it I prefer external stimulation.
I find that most men when fingering me previously have been really quite rough and left me painful the exception being my amazing man who knows how to finger me nicely x |
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By *avin77Man 35 weeks ago
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"Something I’ve always wanted to know.
Why do men do it?
Do they enjoy it themselves or do they do it for the woman’s benefit?
I personally can’t stand it but I’ve wondered this and could never get a clear answer.
Any other women hate being fingered?"
Being honest, I enjoy it. Enjoy having a good play x |
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"I enjoy doing it. It feels nice when she cums and tightens. Mrs likes playing with her clit, licking in and reaching with a finger to her g-spot. "
That’s such an amazing feeling especially when Mrs is moaning loader and loader |
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By *OYFBWoman 35 weeks ago
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"I had the most awful experience with a guy who was incredibly rough and clumsy - I stopped proceedings. I ended up with a urine infection. I like to be clit rubbed"
Ouch! Sounds awful.
A lot of men in my experience don’t know how to finger well. |
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"I had the most awful experience with a guy who was incredibly rough and clumsy - I stopped proceedings. I ended up with a urine infection. I like to be clit rubbed
Ouch! Sounds awful.
A lot of men in my experience don’t know how to finger well. "
To many people relying on porn videos for sex education instead of asking and reading body language. |
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I love doing it. When it comes to sex in general I'm always more about her enjoyment than my own so, fingering is perfect!
Plus, as I was recently told I have "magic hands" I think I must be pretty good at it so, why wouldn't I want to do something g I'm good at? |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Love it when I younger. (Still do !) used to meet a teenager we used to stand together kissing & often progressed to her waking me off whilst I fingered her. Jeans open enough to get my hands into her knickers. Warm & wet - loved it. |
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"cant think of much worse than calloused fingers and rugged finger nails hacking away at your cervix "
My lover uses nitrile gloves for fingering me as he often has rough hands, think it started when he had a deep cut on his thumb. And lube. |
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"Love fingering and tasting my fingers after making her cum
Who are all these women coming from fingering? I couldn’t cum that way if my life depended on it!
Obviously done do (or pretend to!)."
Me here...
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I absolutely love it, when my partner knows what they are doing, it is the most sexy amazing turn on.
Having his cock in my hand, feeling him grow as he listens to me moan, kissing deep as I get wetter and closer to orgasm, him having total control over my orgasm, bringing me closer and closer to squirting....
It's my favourite part of sex. |
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"I really enjoy doing it. For me it’s seeing the woman enjoying it and being in control of her pleasure. Depending on the vibe you can do it really close and sensual or rough and dominating. I like being able to see all of the woman while I’m doing it, her hips twitching, arching their back and eventually rolling their eyes back and their legs shaking. I’m interested to see how many women don’t like it though
So you’re doing it for the woman’s enjoyment. And via her enjoyment, you then enjoy it.
I thought it was this. "
Yes this reason. Some of us will do whatever it takes to see a woman pleasured. |
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"Love fingering and tasting my fingers after making her cum
Who are all these women coming from fingering? I couldn’t cum that way if my life depended on it!
Obviously done do (or pretend to!)."
I can cum from fingering I certainly do not pretend to as there is no point in that as I only do what I enjoy. |
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By *ony MannMan 35 weeks ago
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"Love fingering and tasting my fingers after making her cum
Who are all these women coming from fingering? I couldn’t cum that way if my life depended on it!
Obviously done do (or pretend to!).
I can cum from fingering I certainly do not pretend to as there is no point in that as I only do what I enjoy."
I do who I enjoy Cherry |
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By *ylvieMWoman 35 weeks ago
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"I do it to check the engine is warm and lubricated before sticking in the dip stick and going full throttle "
Ahh this is really frustrating though, you start to get really turned on and then it just stops  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I simply adore making a beautiful lady orgasm. If this does it I’ll do it. If it’s not their ‘thing’ then it’s not happening x it’s all about communication and reading the room |
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"Love fingering and tasting my fingers after making her cum
Who are all these women coming from fingering? I couldn’t cum that way if my life depended on it!
Obviously done do (or pretend to!).
I can cum from fingering I certainly do not pretend to as there is no point in that as I only do what I enjoy.
I do who I enjoy Cherry "
There is nothing wrong with your fingering technique xxx |
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Have a lovely FWB who loves my fingering...nails short and smooth ..build up with kissing and teasing...gently exterior stroking then a single finger inside...then another, rhythmically teasing her G spot, never rough or too fast...but 100% guaranteed to make her climax. Also loves slow sensual fingering from behind as she sucks my cock....Seeing and feeling the effect of fingering is such a turnon...love it! |
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