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Just a little respect
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Just seen a new lady member join the site and leave again in under 10 minutes.
Doing this time two people offer her money for sex and she hadn’t got around to posting a photo.
So please guys show the ladies some respect and you might have a little bit more luck. |
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Exactly what I thought, plenty of places to go if you want to pay.
I know how frustrating this site can be for a single bloke but there’s just no excuse.
Unfortunately she was gone before I could say report them. |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site..."
I actually think that dickheads like that make it easier for the rest of you.
All you have to do is have basic manners and you already stand out head and shoulders above the other blokes. |
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By *afkaMan 52 weeks ago
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"Loads of women leave after a short time of been here....very few stay cos of the content of lots of msgs....that's why there's very few women on Fab!!!!"
Really?? What kind of horrific messages do you girls get? |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
I actually think that dickheads like that make it easier for the rest of you.
All you have to do is have basic manners and you already stand out head and shoulders above the other blokes."
Definitely so. |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
This aint actually true, I was alright on my old single..males account, the twats did me a favour
Mr "
Guess you’ve been a lucky one
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By *oxy jWoman 52 weeks ago
somerset |
"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site..."
nope they ruin it for themselves and nobody else ...if your getting nowhere yourself thats squarely with yourself ... alot hide behind this they ruin it for us rubbish nope your responsible for yourself ...
ive interduce quite a few women to this scene via fab most dont last a week and we could write a book on why ... too many treat women as meat with a hole and thats it so why should they stay ... there are less women on this scene now than ever ive known in the last 30+ years and it will only get worse as more and more men flood in daily ...theres less couples now too so its only ever going to get harder for guys and lets be clear this is not a few guys this is a big percentage of guys who think its just a porn/fuck site the good thing for women is its easy to see and delete / block .... |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
nope they ruin it for themselves and nobody else ...if your getting nowhere yourself thats squarely with yourself ... alot hide behind this they ruin it for us rubbish nope your responsible for yourself ...
ive interduce quite a few women to this scene via fab most dont last a week and we could write a book on why ... too many treat women as meat with a hole and thats it so why should they stay ... there are less women on this scene now than ever ive known in the last 30+ years and it will only get worse as more and more men flood in daily ...theres less couples now too so its only ever going to get harder for guys and lets be clear this is not a few guys this is a big percentage of guys who think its just a porn/fuck site the good thing for women is its easy to see and delete / block ...."
I guess I'm being a rude piece of shit without realising it then. |
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By *oxy jWoman 52 weeks ago
somerset |
"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
nope they ruin it for themselves and nobody else ...if your getting nowhere yourself thats squarely with yourself ... alot hide behind this they ruin it for us rubbish nope your responsible for yourself ...
ive interduce quite a few women to this scene via fab most dont last a week and we could write a book on why ... too many treat women as meat with a hole and thats it so why should they stay ... there are less women on this scene now than ever ive known in the last 30+ years and it will only get worse as more and more men flood in daily ...theres less couples now too so its only ever going to get harder for guys and lets be clear this is not a few guys this is a big percentage of guys who think its just a porn/fuck site the good thing for women is its easy to see and delete / block ....
I guess I'm being a rude piece of shit without realising it then."
that i dont know as i dont know you and just to be clear nowhere in what i wrote suggested YOU were  |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
nope they ruin it for themselves and nobody else ...if your getting nowhere yourself thats squarely with yourself ... alot hide behind this they ruin it for us rubbish nope your responsible for yourself ...
ive interduce quite a few women to this scene via fab most dont last a week and we could write a book on why ... too many treat women as meat with a hole and thats it so why should they stay ... there are less women on this scene now than ever ive known in the last 30+ years and it will only get worse as more and more men flood in daily ...theres less couples now too so its only ever going to get harder for guys and lets be clear this is not a few guys this is a big percentage of guys who think its just a porn/fuck site the good thing for women is its easy to see and delete / block ....
I guess I'm being a rude piece of shit without realising it then.
that i dont know as i dont know you and just to be clear nowhere in what i wrote suggested YOU were "
Oh I know you weren't suggesting I was. I'm just extrapolating and coming to that conclusion! |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"Loads of women leave after a short time of been here....very few stay cos of the content of lots of msgs....that's why there's very few women on Fab!!!!
Really?? What kind of horrific messages do you girls get? "
.M-rder Threats
.R-pe Threats
.Terrible uncalled for abuse if we politely say someone just isn't our type
(to name but a few)
Yup....Fact....(lots of other stuff too). |
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When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting. |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting. "
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that? |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting.
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that? "
Probably fine for guys, but I wouldn’t for women personally.
You’re just adding to the massive volumes women get in their first week or two. |
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"Loads of women leave after a short time of been here....very few stay cos of the content of lots of msgs....that's why there's very few women on Fab!!!!
Really?? What kind of horrific messages do you girls get?
.M-rder Threats
.R-pe Threats
.Terrible uncalled for abuse if we politely say someone just isn't our type
(to name but a few)
Yup....Fact....(lots of other stuff too)."
Yep! I (Goodgirl) have a couples and a singles account, the stark difference in messages between them is incredible. Being offered money is a daily occurence and quite honestly the least horrific.
At the very least its a simple filter to rule out a lot of people but the general attitude is shocking. I was only joking with boss earlier that I should keep a forum diary! |
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"Loads of women leave after a short time of been here....very few stay cos of the content of lots of msgs....that's why there's very few women on Fab!!!!
Really?? What kind of horrific messages do you girls get?
.M-rder Threats
.R-pe Threats
.Terrible uncalled for abuse if we politely say someone just isn't our type
(to name but a few)
Yup....Fact....(lots of other stuff too)."
Yes all of this, plus plenty of extremely misogynistic messages and kind offers of extremely abusive sex (no, not kink, just abuse).
You only have to look at the forums to see how many men are just casually misogynistic. Well, that carries through into private messages but there they don’t feel the need to be polite. |
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"Exactly what I thought, plenty of places to go if you want to pay.
I know how frustrating this site can be for a single bloke but there’s just no excuse.
Unfortunately she was gone before I could say report them. "
So did you know her before she joined or were you one of the guys who messaged as soon as she joined? |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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The abuse on here from certain people is overwhelming and can have you deleting your account which I did at the very beginning but I did come back because there are some lovely men and women on here |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting.
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that?
Probably fine for guys, but I wouldn’t for women personally.
You’re just adding to the massive volumes women get in their first week or two."
Noted. |
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The perils of the internet.
We get messages weekly that I guarantee no one would say out loud to us in a club environment.
I think for some people its like the comments section of the newspapers; they say something outrageous to get a response, as they cant get one by being “normal”  |
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By *oxy jWoman 52 weeks ago
somerset |
on the plus side those that are understanding and know how to approach a woman / couple in the right ways ore on here its a thin vein but more than enough for the minority that are women and couples ...
its so easy to see why men struggle with the sheer amount of them trying to get the attention of the few thats before any attraction / compatibility and with more and more joining everyday it will only get harder ... since covid the numbers have gone silly i was talking to a guy a few weeks back moaning how hard it was then in the ne breath hes to;d all his mates about the site too not realizing that just adds to the overwhelming numbers already ... there nothing that can be done as its a free site and its just the way things are but there will be a red line that gets crossed that will kill the site one day as it will be all men and basically a wank site ... hopefully not to soon tho
still the best site online in uk for swinging tho i only meet men so great for me but i dont need it often as i have my regulars guys and a little black book with 50 years of contacts
i screenshot all the abuse i get on here to a folder all i can say is its a big folder why do i keep well after my stalker got caught i made sure just in case another tries ... we had a guy follow us all the way back home from a night out in a club how do we know well we put cameras up and saw him sat outside our house hubs had to go out and tell him to piss off and hes on camera that is how dangerous some guys get when desperate |
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"And people wonder why men have such a hard time on this site...
This aint actually true, I was alright on my old single..males account, the twats did me a favour
Mr
Guess you’ve been a lucky one
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Not lucky, just not a twat, and a non twat stands out from the twats, quite simple really...
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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It’s unfortunate that some men are too horny to contain themselves, and to ruin other men’s image in this site. iMessage someone if you don’t respond the first time or the second time I just stop there’s really no need to continue if you don’t get a response, you just move on and find someone else |
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By *WB85Man 52 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
Me and my partner recently both opened solo accounts to try a different dynamic.
A huge percentage of men it seems don't even have the ability to read a profile.
The abuse in some messages of she doesn't reply is absolutely appalling. It's no wonder some are single. |
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"Loads of women leave after a short time of been here....very few stay cos of the content of lots of msgs....that's why there's very few women on Fab!!!!
Really?? What kind of horrific messages do you girls get? "
I've been called all kinds of names for being overweight.
A lot of men are fine and complimentary until I say no thanks thanks then there's torents of abuse and threats.
It's water off a ducks back for now I just report and block but if you haven't got a thick skin this place can be very demoralising and depressing. |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting.
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that? "
At least let them get some sort of profile on before you message.
I was getting messages telling me I looked great and it was a great profile before I even had any pics or bio sorted. |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting.
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that?
At least let them get some sort of profile on before you message.
I was getting messages telling me I looked great and it was a great profile before I even had any pics or bio sorted. "
I think that's the norm on here. I got messages complimenting my pictures when I had a blank new profile. So I asked them to explain in detail which picture they liked best, they often buggered off then  |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"Just seen a new lady member join the site and leave again in under 10 minutes.
Doing this time two people offer her money for sex and she hadn’t got around to posting a photo.
So please guys show the ladies some respect and you might have a little bit more luck. "
Thats horrible. But I don't quite understand these "Treat ladies with respect" sort of posts. Those who need to see it probably won't and it they did, I highly doubt it would be a lightbulb moment for them. |
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"When I joined I had over 50 messages in the first hour and I hadn't put a photo on.
I think some men just watch the 'new women' section and message them straight away.
It's definitely off putting.
Sometimes I message new members just to say 'welcome'. Maybe I shouldn't do that?
At least let them get some sort of profile on before you message.
I was getting messages telling me I looked great and it was a great profile before I even had any pics or bio sorted.
I think that's the norm on here. I got messages complimenting my pictures when I had a blank new profile. So I asked them to explain in detail which picture they liked best, they often buggered off then "
I get probably a guy a day telling me how beautiful I am.
I clarify that they mean my butt cheeks are beautiful, and they do talk themselves in some knots after that… |
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