"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular? "
For me its more about building a relationship based on mutual interests and friendship. The spark of attraction must be there as sex will become a factor. I have my own life and respect others privacy like i do mine. I dont want to live others pockets but when we are all in the mood and available get together for swinging fun. I would hope this would last like friendships do. But if not then when the fun stops part our ways amicably. Asking a lot i know.  |
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"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular?
For me its more about building a relationship based on mutual interests and friendship. The spark of attraction must be there as sex will become a factor. I have my own life and respect others privacy like i do mine. I dont want to live others pockets but when we are all in the mood and available get together for swinging fun. I would hope this would last like friendships do. But if not then when the fun stops part our ways amicably. Asking a lot i know. "
This mirrors our idea of what we see as regular. But sadly not of many single guys. One guy wanted twice a week and staying for the weekend, hubby suggested that he moved in and pays rent. |
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"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular?
For me its more about building a relationship based on mutual interests and friendship. The spark of attraction must be there as sex will become a factor. I have my own life and respect others privacy like i do mine. I dont want to live others pockets but when we are all in the mood and available get together for swinging fun. I would hope this would last like friendships do. But if not then when the fun stops part our ways amicably. Asking a lot i know.
This mirrors our idea of what we see as regular. But sadly not of many single guys. One guy wanted twice a week and staying for the weekend, hubby suggested that he moved in and pays rent. "
I have a wife ( who plays also and knows and supports me playing solo, kids, a job and a need for down time to decompress. I havent all that much time to commit so i want it to be special. I use the term freinds because that is how i would want to play it. A get together when available. |
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"Regular is just I'll meet you when we can meet I'm hoping for every other week at least don't want every day/few days that's too much but don't want it to be a rare thing either"
Thats my point. Its a case of understanding each others committments and finding that middle ground for frequency of meets but understanding if its not possible because of life getting in the way. |
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"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular?
For me its more about building a relationship based on mutual interests and friendship. The spark of attraction must be there as sex will become a factor. I have my own life and respect others privacy like i do mine. I dont want to live others pockets but when we are all in the mood and available get together for swinging fun. I would hope this would last like friendships do. But if not then when the fun stops part our ways amicably. Asking a lot i know.
This mirrors our idea of what we see as regular. "
This matches my idea of regular. I have a few friends like this where our relationship is peppered with occasional messaging and a meet when it's convenient for all.
Fun is always better with friends.
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"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular?
For me its more about building a relationship based on mutual interests and friendship. The spark of attraction must be there as sex will become a factor. I have my own life and respect others privacy like i do mine. I dont want to live others pockets but when we are all in the mood and available get together for swinging fun. I would hope this would last like friendships do. But if not then when the fun stops part our ways amicably. Asking a lot i know.
This mirrors our idea of what we see as regular.
This matches my idea of regular. I have a few friends like this where our relationship is peppered with occasional messaging and a meet when it's convenient for all.
Fun is always better with friends.
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Ive given this a lot of thought and discussed it over with my wife who shates my interest and wants similar for her self. It helps that we are in an open marraige. No secrets is so fucking liberating. I have know guys havimg affairs and having multiple burner phones conducting their private alternative lives like james bond reject. Not for me. Wetalk about everything and have interest in each other. She is my OG FWB. |
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"Regular is just I'll meet you when we can meet I'm hoping for every other week at least don't want every day/few days that's too much but don't want it to be a rare thing either
Thats my point. Its a case of understanding each others committments and finding that middle ground for frequency of meets but understanding if its not possible because of life getting in the way. "
Had someone get pissed cos I couldn't reply instantly during work hours in the middle of the week some people have no common sense or consideration just think the world revolves around them & their privates |
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"Regular is just I'll meet you when we can meet I'm hoping for every other week at least don't want every day/few days that's too much but don't want it to be a rare thing either
Thats my point. Its a case of understanding each others committments and finding that middle ground for frequency of meets but understanding if its not possible because of life getting in the way.
Had someone get pissed cos I couldn't reply instantly during work hours in the middle of the week some people have no common sense or consideration just think the world revolves around them & their privates "
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"So guys messaging saying that they want regular meets. Every guys seems to have a different perception of regular. What to you guys is regular? "
I had this with a couple I got to know tears ago. We would meet for fun. Have parties go to clubs and hang out for drinks and a good time
Sadly they moves away and I lost touch I wish I had those times again. The lifestyle .nowadays has been taken over by people wanting money, and Only Fans. there are few genuine people left. |
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Even tough I am single I have a busy life with work, sport and kids. For me regular means meeting weekly when we both free for social like meal, cinema or similar ending evening with good sex. Overnight stay preferred. But no other relationship related things like meeting her parents, friends, supporting financially. |
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"Regular doesn't mean frequent, it just means on a fairly predictable repeated pattern.
So once every 5 years technically counts as regular."
Yes I agree, I think in some cases (ours) regular is the wrong word. We want a guy that we meet for sex when it fits in with ours and his lives. We don't want dates, we don't want him sleeping over. Friends but not a relationship and no getting aggy when we say that we aren't free because of life, or going to meet someone else. He's very hard to find.
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"Even tough I am single I have a busy life with work, sport and kids. For me regular means meeting weekly when we both free for social like meal, cinema or similar ending evening with good sex. Overnight stay preferred. But no other relationship related things like meeting her parents, friends, supporting financially. "
That sounds more like FWB |
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"Regular doesn't mean frequent, it just means on a fairly predictable repeated pattern.
So once every 5 years technically counts as regular.
Yes I agree, I think in some cases (ours) regular is the wrong word. We want a guy that we meet for sex when it fits in with ours and his lives. We don't want dates, we don't want him sleeping over. Friends but not a relationship and no getting aggy when we say that we aren't free because of life, or going to meet someone else. He's very hard to find.
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We find it's better to have a large group of friends, so when calendars permit we can meet either at home or a club, and if stars align a group of those friends can all meet up for something spectacular. |
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"Regular is just I'll meet you when we can meet I'm hoping for every other week at least don't want every day/few days that's too much but don't want it to be a rare thing either
Thats my point. Its a case of understanding each others committments and finding that middle ground for frequency of meets but understanding if its not possible because of life getting in the way.
Had someone get pissed cos I couldn't reply instantly during work hours in the middle of the week some people have no common sense or consideration just think the world revolves around them & their privates "
Yes that's very common. "But you were online" no hubby was catching up with messages.
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"Regular doesn't mean frequent, it just means on a fairly predictable repeated pattern.
So once every 5 years technically counts as regular.
Yes I agree, I think in some cases (ours) regular is the wrong word. We want a guy that we meet for sex when it fits in with ours and his lives. We don't want dates, we don't want him sleeping over. Friends but not a relationship and no getting aggy when we say that we aren't free because of life, or going to meet someone else. He's very hard to find.
We find it's better to have a large group of friends, so when calendars permit we can meet either at home or a club, and if stars align a group of those friends can all meet up for something spectacular."
We only meet single guys so not easy to find a large group, it's hard enough to find 1 |
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"Regular is just I'll meet you when we can meet I'm hoping for every other week at least don't want every day/few days that's too much but don't want it to be a rare thing either
Thats my point. Its a case of understanding each others committments and finding that middle ground for frequency of meets but understanding if its not possible because of life getting in the way. "
I think it's depends on the guys life off of Fab too, if he's not got any family commitments and other friends he wants more than we do. |
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