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By (user no longer on site) OP 41 weeks ago
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I’m curious
What is your personal definition of a swinger? Is it someone in a relationship who partner swaps? Or is it anyone who has casual sex OR something in between.
For me I think it’s a really loose term - but if you go to swingers clubs / parties / events and have sex with people there - you are probably a swinger…
If you have sex with people in relationships with other people - again - probably a swinger
I define myself as poly because I know I personally can and do love multiple people at once and monogamy doesn’t seem to work long term for me because one person doesn’t seem to ever fit with ALL of my various different character / personality / interests / changes of who I am… and I’ve never had a casual encounter that has satisfied me (though I have tried as that would be much easier).
Sex is something I don’t want all the time but when I do I do…
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By (user no longer on site) OP 41 weeks ago
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Also / maybe multiple people at once makes you a swinger?? I don’t know.
It’s something i think about - but in my mind it’s with the people I’m already involved with but together… I don’t think I’d be comfortable with me and a bunch of random guys. |
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As I already said in the other thread I've never had sex with multiple people or been to a club etc.
Many others have offered the opinion in previous threads that single people can't be swingers.
Some have said that one to one meets are just hookups and not classed as swinging.
I can't offer a definitive opinion because I've only ever had one to one meets and in all my time here I've never once considered it a lifestyle choice or felt I've been part of a community so that's why I don't believe I am a swinger. |
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It's whatever the individual wants it to be really.
Everyone has their own ideas and I see lots of new people who worry that they aren't doing it 'right'. There isn't a right way, it's really not that important or serious |
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I generally classify true swingers as being couples. Singles are just singles enjoying themselves and tagging into the swinger lifestyle
They are part of it in that fashion but the image of swingers / swinging is always generally perceived as married couples or couples not married
Well that’s my opinion anyway lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"I generally classify true swingers as being couples. Singles are just singles enjoying themselves and tagging into the swinger lifestyle
They are part of it in that fashion but the image of swingers / swinging is always generally perceived as married couples or couples not married
Well that’s my opinion anyway lol "
That is exactly how I see it from the outside  |
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By *apybarasCouple 41 weeks ago
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"I generally classify true swingers as being couples. Singles are just singles enjoying themselves and tagging into the swinger lifestyle
They are part of it in that fashion but the image of swingers / swinging is always generally perceived as married couples or couples not married
Well that’s my opinion anyway lol
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Personally I think it's less about your present relationship status, and more about a mindset.
I suspect a lot of the single people within the "community" are likely to continue when they find the right partner.
Obviously it doesn't really matter too much, but it is interesting seeing people's take on the definition. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 41 weeks ago
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Personally I think it's less about your present relationship status, and more about a mindset.
I suspect a lot of the single people within the "community" are likely to continue when they find the right partner.
Obviously it doesn't really matter too much, but it is interesting seeing people's take on the definition."
This!
I’ve had every intention of being a swinging couple for as long as I remembered. HOWEVER my only relationship with a swinger was completely monogamous as it only lasted 18 months and we never got around to it because we enjoyed each other enough as it was a short time frame and then realised we were not compatible for long term so it ended.
I’m poly and I’m complicated so I’d happily swing but only with one of my partners with me at all times and since none of them are into it / it won’t be happening anytime soon. But when one is ready - it will happen so maybe I’m a swinger in mind only hahaha
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I think you can be a single swinger if you are into group sex and go to parties and clubs. I don't think singles who are only looking for one on one hook ups are swingers even if they are on fab.
Couples are swingers if they have sex together with others. I also don't think couples are swingers if they just have one on one meets separately. That's just non monogamy. |
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