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Hi there! I wanted to share my experience with this platform. Unfortunately, I have been stood up by my potential meets three times already, and it's only been six weeks since I joined. I was wondering if anyone else using this platform has experienced something similar? |
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By *ickD80Man 41 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
That’s why the site has a verification system OP, so that people know who’s genuine and who’s a time waster. If someone has verifications from previous meets then you know they’re genuine and they turn up to meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Welcome to fab. … or any other sites where people can hook up or meet up.
I think it’s becoming the norm, I had it when I first joined, and it sucks.
Just look for the signs, they’re there.  |
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By *ickD80Man 41 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Not my experience, in 10 years only stood up once, I guess you are not choosing wisely, maybe you’re in too much of a rush and thinking with your cock ? "
So you’re saying that it’s OP’s fault that he got stood up? You’re saying that he should have known that the people he arranged to meet weren’t going to turn up? I think that’s what they call victim blaming.
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"Not my experience, in 10 years only stood up once, I guess you are not choosing wisely, maybe you’re in too much of a rush and thinking with your cock ?
So you’re saying that it’s OP’s fault that he got stood up? You’re saying that he should have known that the people he arranged to meet weren’t going to turn up? I think that’s what they call victim blaming.
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They are your words not mine.
If you are unsure what I said just read the message again it’s not difficult |
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"Not my experience, in 10 years only stood up once, I guess you are not choosing wisely, maybe you’re in too much of a rush and thinking with your cock ?
So you’re saying that it’s OP’s fault that he got stood up? You’re saying that he should have known that the people he arranged to meet weren’t going to turn up? I think that’s what they call victim blaming.
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Victim blaming Requires that there be a victim of something like assault , abuse etc. I know in 2020 for some people think it’s your God given right to be a victim of something but honestly being stood up on a date doesn’t make you a victim, It’s unfortunate at worst |
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By *TG3Man 41 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"Hi there! I wanted to share my experience with this platform. Unfortunately, I have been stood up by my potential meets three times already, and it's only been six weeks since I joined. I was wondering if anyone else using this platform has experienced something similar?"
I haven’t been stood up for years and even then they rang me to apologise, maybe its the people you are choosing to meet?  |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Not my experience, in 10 years only stood up once, I guess you are not choosing wisely, maybe you’re in too much of a rush and thinking with your cock ?
So you’re saying that it’s OP’s fault that he got stood up? You’re saying that he should have known that the people he arranged to meet weren’t going to turn up? I think that’s what they call victim blaming.
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I don’t think that’s what you were saying.
Back in the day when it happened to me, I was all dressed up and ready to go, but I checked before I left the house and that’s when the signs happened.
Now I look for those signs very early on. And if it does happen, and I let myself get to a point of being stood up, I just remember myself that time.
Is everything that happens should teach you something new?
My best advice to the OP? If something doesn’t feel right, nothing is. Somebody should feel easy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"That’s why the site has a verification system OP, so that people know who’s genuine and who’s a time waster. If someone has verifications from previous meets then you know they’re genuine and they turn up to meets. "
9 hours ago you wrote how the verification system is crap?! |
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By *rpeggioCouple 41 weeks ago
Baughurst |
"That’s why the site has a verification system OP, so that people know who’s genuine and who’s a time waster. If someone has verifications from previous meets then you know they’re genuine and they turn up to meets.
9 hours ago you wrote how the verification system is crap?! "
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You were not the only one noticing that. |
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Sorry to hear you've been stood up three times it must be very frustrating.
What's communication like before the meet, do you confirm with each other on the day?
There are things you can do to mitigate this but there will always be people who'll mess you around. What do you do to try and establish that they genuinely want to meet?
Better luck next time. |
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Sorry to hear that, OP.
I've not been stood up on the actual day, but have been blocked/they've left the site a couple of times in that period between agreeing a meet and the actual meet, so I guess a virtual standing up! Been here a few years though so only a couple of annoyances in that time not so bad, imho. |
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By *irthandgirthMan 41 weeks ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"Hi there! I wanted to share my experience with this platform. Unfortunately, I have been stood up by my potential meets three times already, and it's only been six weeks since I joined. I was wondering if anyone else using this platform has experienced something similar?"
If you feel that strongly you can report the profile. There is an option for 'arranged meet, did not show up' |
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By *ornycougaWoman 41 weeks ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
"Not my experience, in 10 years only stood up once, I guess you are not choosing wisely, maybe you’re in too much of a rush and thinking with your cock ? "
I think this is judgy and rude. Most of us have been stood up. In my case the impromptu meets when I have been horny and on the hunt have showed up. The ones (happened twice I think) that have stood me up I have been chatting to for a while and it was a genuine surprise to be left in the lurch |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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You are learning that there are many fantasists on fab, and many men using couple /female profiles for wank fodder unfortunately.
How are you screening before arranging the meet ? An easy way would be to move the chat to telegram and then do a live telephone /video call so at least you can see who you are talking (you can hide your number in the privacy settings) and then building the connection that way.
Also general tip is that women tend to be less sexual in their chat than men
There are many genuine people on fab, but i imagine with what you've said in your profile that you have a lot of attractive /hot photos that people can't wait to get their hands on for their next wank 
Perhaps consider going to clubs /socials as a way to meet real people and start making connections - the Manchester Lounge Social is on 23 March, that would be easy for you looking at your location |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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But why male models? Sorry OP, had to get that out my system
I've luckily never been stood up and the meets I've had cancel have generally let me know on the day or before. But I generally chat quite a bit with them before plucking up the courage to ask them to meet so maybe taking a bit more time chatting to them and really knowing them may help? |
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By *archelCouple 41 weeks ago
A field somewhere |
This site is full of flakes and messers, the only genuine people we know from here are the ones we've met at organised socials and clubs. For a swingers site there's not many genuine swingers here.
You'd be better off going to organised socials and clubs to make connections and a network of like minded genuine friends.
We stopped doing out of club/socials for the exact same issues as you're having.
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People flake. For all sorts of reasons. It’s a reflection on them, not for you to take it personally.
If I’m meeting someone, always social first so I can tell myself I’m enjoying a solo date with a drink and a book so if they actually turn up, it’s a bonus and I’m not disappointed if they don’t. |
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By *TG3Man 41 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"You are learning that there are many fantasists on fab, and many men using couple /female profiles for wank fodder unfortunately.
How are you screening before arranging the meet ? An easy way would be to move the chat to telegram and then do a live telephone /video call so at least you can see who you are talking (you can hide your number in the privacy settings) and then building the connection that way.
Also general tip is that women tend to be less sexual in their chat than men
There are many genuine people on fab, but i imagine with what you've said in your profile that you have a lot of attractive /hot photos that people can't wait to get their hands on for their next wank
Perhaps consider going to clubs /socials as a way to meet real people and start making connections - the Manchester Lounge Social is on 23 March, that would be easy for you looking at your location "
The live chat wouldn't be something i would be interested in doing plus i don't use telegram so does that make me unreliable, i don't think so. Its all about how you chat, how genuine you come across and how long you chatted before you organised a meet |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Bro imagine being sent to the wrong address and knocking on some random persons door at 2 am!!!
This is not uncommon. "
Haha. I knocked on the wrong door once., it was totally my fault, they watched me in the window across the road |
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"Bro imagine being sent to the wrong address and knocking on some random persons door at 2 am!!!
This is not uncommon.
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Did that once at a naked bed and breakfast location. It was a shared street entrance and split level.
Before I even said anything, the attractive woman who answered my knock, said "You'll be wanting downstairs".
Now, let's see who else has stayed there!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Were you sure they were actually real too? I would not meet without talking on live camera or them having multiple legitimate looking veris. They could have been fake profiles some of them. Not nice being messed around though, we all had it at some point  |
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By *istr3ssWoman 41 weeks ago
Stockton-on-Tees |
I believe a lot of them on here can talk the talk, but when it comes to the actual meet, they get scared (for whatever reason).
In all the time I've been on here, I've only managed 4 meets that have actually turned up. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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I've never been stood up but I imagine it's very frustrating. 3 times in just a few weeks seems sn awful lot so I would maybe look at how you're going about it on here, eg are you chatting to get to know people a little 1st, are you going for well verified people. Look at your method for meeting people. Good luck in your next arrangements. |
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"Hi there! I wanted to share my experience with this platform. Unfortunately, I have been stood up by my potential meets three times already, and it's only been six weeks since I joined. I was wondering if anyone else using this platform has experienced something similar?"
Even if they stood you up, I'm impressed you got three people to agree to meets within three weeks of being on here.
I've been on and off this site for 13ish years and in that time I think I've had 3 people agree to meet and I've been stood up each time. |
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By *oxy jWoman 41 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
if you keep getting let down then you need to look at your selection process .. you being a guy will be targeted by fake profiles run by guys who just love messing around and dont get me wrong there are women and couples who do this too as a laught ...
if its too easy then its more than likly not going to happen ..sex / porn chat 99% fake you cant rely on veries as so many are selg given or given by others who think they are helpping when they clearly are not and cam veries biggest joke on fab ...
sadly with you being a guy and being one of many ie most of the site then this is going to be a very challenging site/scene for you its a mine field if your a guy ... simple maths will tell you most men wont and dont get anywhere on this scene unless you put the extra work in like clubs n socials and they are not for everyone |
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By *ickD80Man 41 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"That’s why the site has a verification system OP, so that people know who’s genuine and who’s a time waster. If someone has verifications from previous meets then you know they’re genuine and they turn up to meets.
9 hours ago you wrote how the verification system is crap?!
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You were not the only one noticing that."
I was being sarcastic, thanks for noticing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Hi there! I wanted to share my experience with this platform. Unfortunately, I have been stood up by my potential meets three times already, and it's only been six weeks since I joined. I was wondering if anyone else using this platform has experienced something similar?"
I have been so lucky so far it hasnt happened to me yet but im sure it will . Im dreading it |
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