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Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over  |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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Some profiles do seem to have a lot of Do's and Dont's but I suppose that does let you know exactly what they are looking for.
I also don't think there's a problem with being picky. Attraction is very important. |
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"We're all picky in our own way, some of us don't like people who cheat at chase the ace for example  "
How naughty too cheat at that game IF that's actually possible but they must be a good dip sorry dab hand at it  |
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Getting to know people is very hard when your only contact is through the site....
If, like a lot of people on here, you just dont have the time to meet socially and get to know each other a bit better, the instant attraction is required based solely on pics.....
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"Getting to know people is very hard when your only contact is through the site....
If, like a lot of people on here, you just dont have the time to meet socially and get to know each other a bit better, the instant attraction is required based solely on pics.....
Some people never look as good as they do in real life a few people we have met look much better in the flesh (excuse the pun)
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over a year ago
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over "
i agree lots of peope on here think they are so precious i suprised they ever find anyone that meets there scarily high standards.i like a laugh and a gigle as well as good sex .you don't have to be perfect looking to be well skilled or to have a sees of humour.xx  |
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"Getting to know people is very hard when your only contact is through the site....
If, like a lot of people on here, you just dont have the time to meet socially and get to know each other a bit better, the instant attraction is required based solely on pics.....
Some people never look as good as they do in
real life a few people we have met look much
better in the flesh (excuse the pun)
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yes some people look better in the flesh cos you see their personality and demeanour li think pics should just give you an idea .very few of us are supermodels or even catalogue models.lol.poppyxc  |
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Some people never look as good as they do in real life a few people we have met look much better in the flesh (excuse the pun)
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And some have looked worse....
I think its more about your mood at any given time.... |
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over a year ago
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I think its great when people are specific about what they want. It saves wasted time. This is not a democracy where what is fair is what goes, its people's opinions and what they are into. I only wish we knew what we wanted ...  |
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over i agree lots of peope on here think they are so precious i suprised they ever find anyone that meets there scarily high standards.i like a laugh and a gigle as well as good sex .you don't have to be perfect looking to be well skilled or to have a sees of humour.xx
Completely agree with this , unfortunately any Internet type set up is alittle like a cattle market, so many profiles to glance over its easy to find reasons NOT to choose this person or that , we much prefer to give the benefit of the doubt and will try and have a social meet with people, alot of attraction is based on personality which is something that just doesn't tend to shine when you take the face to face contact out of the equation "
Thank god I'm not alone some people have all the looks and body but
There the sort that know it
And normally have minus personality.....I need too move lol |
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OP we are all picky (well, maybe not all) but I get what you mean about the Do's and Don'ts......
Everyone has a preference, but its how they put it across on their profile tht gets me..
IF it comes across a demanding, simply move on and let them get on with it...
Would you really want to meet someone like that anyway?? |
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A persons profile and pics are usually the first and last opportunity people have for 'advertising' themselves and personality doesn't always shine through as well in words and pictures as in real life. It's the way of a website like this.....  |
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"OP we are all picky (well, maybe not all) but I get what you mean about the Do's and Don'ts......
Everyone has a preference, but its how they put it across on their profile tht gets me..
IF it comes across a demanding, simply move on and let them get on with it...
Would you really want to meet someone like that anyway??"
The ones that have the long list of shouty donts always put us off ( they may be really nice and know exactly what they want but some times it's nice to be flexible ) but as they say there's plenty more fish in the sea lol x |
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I must admit even if I was the best looking guy in the world I'd be put off some profiles which come across as so demanding. To me, good sex is about mutual giving, and some profiles are so "hard" it's difficult to imagine the writer being any good at it!
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"A persons profile and pics are usually the first and last opportunity people have for 'advertising' themselves and personality doesn't always shine through as well in words and pictures as in real life. It's the way of a website like this..... "
Better put than my clumsy rambling's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is the definition of irony, people posting on a thread accusing people of being picky whilst having a profile detailing their own preferences? 
As ever, for some people preferences are fine when they are their own but not when they (presumably) exclude them. |
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"A persons profile and pics are usually the first and last opportunity people have for 'advertising' themselves and personality doesn't always shine through as well in words and pictures as in real life. It's the way of a website like this.....
Better put than my clumsy rambling's "
You can clumsily ramble all over me |
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"A persons profile and pics are usually the first and last opportunity people have for 'advertising' themselves and personality doesn't always shine through as well in words and pictures as in real life. It's the way of a website like this.....
Better put than my clumsy rambling's
You can clumsily ramble all over me "
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"Is the definition of irony, people posting on a thread accusing people of being picky whilst having a profile detailing their own preferences?
As ever, for some people preferences are fine when they are their own but not when they (presumably) exclude them."
We're a couple, we'll fuck anything with a pulse...as long as they meet our preferences ! We wouldn't go and eat in a restaurant we didn't like... |
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over "
in simple.. because they can be, this past time is for fun and if thats what they require for their ideal fun time then good luck to them. thisite is fun away from daily life so if they want to be strict about who they want to play with good for them. not everyone is. but everyone is allowed to have their own requirements strict or otherwise on this site after all. |
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to be honest there is being 'too picky', moreso when the people/person in question have set some high agenda and then claim the whole site is useless as things dont go their way..and thats even before they consider the meet.
obviously some initial attraction is needed yes...but sitting on the computer for days/weeks/months building up a 'communication' with one particular member/couple is something that can occasionally lead to disappointment on just arranging the meet.
I cover my bases and end up seeing who is likely to commit to the meet, regardless of who ticks my box more than the others
Its great to have the 'ideal' meet, but given the choice of accepting differing types of people gives me more satisfaction of enjoying myself on the scene
take a risk, get organized have the meet..if it doesnt lead to play on the meet through no sexual interest, I'm sure we should all be adult enough to say it isnt working
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The question isnt about preferences....
Hell, i dont want to meet the ones that have no preference!!!
Its the long list of Do's and Dont's...but more importantly, how it is typed on profile!
I dont do short fat blokes, but I would put it down as I prefer tall slim ones....
Im sure you get what I mean... |
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"The question isnt about preferences....
Hell, i dont want to meet the ones that have no preference!!!
Its the long list of Do's and Dont's...but more importantly, how it is typed on profile!
I dont do short fat blokes, but I would put it down as I prefer tall slim ones....
Im sure you get what I mean..."
damn.............. |
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over a year ago
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I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way. |
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"I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way."
"ach fuck it"., uve pulled x |
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"I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way.
"ach fuck it"., uve pulled x"
I only meet guys with cocks over 15"... Do you fit the bill? If not I'm reporting you for being a time waster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont do short fat blokes, but I would put it down as I prefer tall slim ones....
Im sure you get what I mean... damn..............
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I have no chance then ( ok that and it's a long way to go for some fun lol) Paul  |
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I dont do short fat blokes, but I would put it down as I prefer tall slim ones....
Im sure you get what I mean... damn..............
I have no chance then ( ok that and it's a long way to go for some fun lol) Paul "
Simply the distance Paul |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own.
I actually prefer people with standards. Much better than the people who would have anything with a pulse It always amazes me when people don't change the age range on their profiles, would they really shag a 99 year old? lol Good luck to them with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way.
"ach fuck it"., uve pulled x
I only meet guys with cocks over 15"... Do you fit the bill? If not I'm reporting you for being a time waster. "
I'm sure if its a gangbang our cocks would surpass that 15" criteria |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont do short fat blokes, but I would put it down as I prefer tall slim ones....
Im sure you get what I mean... damn..............
I have no chance then ( ok that and it's a long way to go for some fun lol) Paul
Simply the distance Paul "
Oh thank you |
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"Is the definition of irony, people posting on a thread accusing people of being picky whilst having a profile detailing their own preferences?
As ever, for some people preferences are fine when they are their own but not when they (presumably) exclude them."
Just about nailed it
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"Is the definition of irony, people posting on a thread accusing people of being picky whilst having a profile detailing their own preferences?
As ever, for some people preferences are fine when they are their own but not when they (presumably) exclude them.
Just about nailed it
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Not gonna start eating sprouts, just coz someone thinks i ought to |
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"to be honest there is being 'too picky', moreso when the people/person in question have set some high agenda and then claim the whole site is useless as things dont go their way..and thats even before they consider the meet.
obviously some initial attraction is needed yes...but sitting on the computer for days/weeks/months building up a 'communication' with one particular member/couple is something that can occasionally lead to disappointment on just arranging the meet.
I cover my bases and end up seeing who is likely to commit to the meet, regardless of who ticks my box more than the others
Its great to have the 'ideal' meet, but given the choice of accepting differing types of people gives me more satisfaction of enjoying myself on the scene
take a risk, get organized have the meet..if it doesnt lead to play on the meet through no sexual interest, I'm sure we should all be adult enough to say it isnt working
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Well said but don't just go on the looks....I like the social side aswell as the physical so I want a good time with GSOH not a wham bang thank you lol |
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"I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way."
What happens if you meet that person had a lovely body but a horrid attitude would you say ach fuck it?? |
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"to be honest there is being 'too picky', moreso when the people/person in question have set some high agenda and then claim the whole site is useless as things dont go their way..and thats even before they consider the meet.
obviously some initial attraction is needed yes...but sitting on the computer for days/weeks/months building up a 'communication' with one particular member/couple is something that can occasionally lead to disappointment on just arranging the meet.
I cover my bases and end up seeing who is likely to commit to the meet, regardless of who ticks my box more than the others
Its great to have the 'ideal' meet, but given the choice of accepting differing types of people gives me more satisfaction of enjoying myself on the scene
take a risk, get organized have the meet..if it doesnt lead to play on the meet through no sexual interest, I'm sure we should all be adult enough to say it isnt working
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do agree.. if couples want to be super picky that is their choice.. but then those doing it cant say the site doesnt wotk if they feel they not getting the meets they want.
As being really picky will reduce possible meets.
Some would prefer just a few very select meets over more no so select.
but you cant moan about site if you have been really picky. |
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over "
I agree - we like looks, body and humour |
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"I'm exceptionally fussy, and if it meant i never had any meets then i wouldn't mind - I would rather no meets than meeting someone for the sake of it and I would be horrified if I found out someone met me and didnt think I was attractive but thought "ach fuck it"... I want to be attracted to the people I meet and for them to feel the same way.
What happens if you meet that person had a lovely body but a horrid attitude would you say ach fuck it?? "
Nope, as I said, I'm fussy. That counts for all aspects of my meets, not limited to what they look like as attraction is both physical and mental for me. |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
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So many profiles start off like rules on the factory gates that we are put off before we've hardly started reading the profile. A few basics are needed but not an essay.
We try to get a rapport with the other couple before a meet is arranged and even then we emphasise that play isn't obligatory from either couple.
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We've had fun with people at party.s that if we had not met them at a party we would not of had the attraction and not had fun but getting to know them is as exciting some times as the sex afterwards lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I'm not a couple but same applies that actually yes people are allowed an can be picky, everyone has standards dont they and I personally would just meet and have sex with just anyone, and I suppose for couples they might not like the same person so can be extra picky x |
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"So many profiles start off like rules on the factory gates that we are put off before we've hardly started reading the profile. A few basics are needed but not an essay.
We try to get a rapport with the other couple before a meet is arranged and even then we emphasise that play isn't obligatory from either couple.
Dave
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I think it is only natural to be a bit cautious online, you don't want to be organising a meet with a person or couple you might not be sure you fancy, because it gets awkward if you open the door and think "oh fuck....no....". Whereas if meeting in a club you may feel attracted to someone who is not your usual type because you feel a chemistry and their personality shines through. I believe it is better to be picky from the outset if it means you are more likely to get what you want than to react badly at the actual meet because you have not set out clearly your "wants" and "dislikes". |
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over "
Why shouldn't they be picky. Or should they shaggy any asker!
We are picky but its our life so we do it our way. Its the ones that arent picky worry us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's best to be picky and everyone has that right even single males who I think cos we are single and a couple mail is we should be great full not on you're nelly attraction is the main point of a meet I'm not attracted my big man won't do Battle simple as that really lol |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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There always seems to be an assumption by people who label others as 'picky' that a good sense of humour and good looks are mutually exclusive. Happy to say that they don't seem to be, in our experience! |
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"Im just ranting but why are some profiles especially couples so picky...it's obvious we are not all perfect model sizes with a few lumps and bumps in places we don't like but some go way OTT with a list of do's and don'ts it's not all the looks or body size for us....GSOH in a couple is great too...rant over "
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have a longish profile, but it clearly states what we are looking for.
Even tho its very clear, we still get crude ill thought one liners - i'm sure you know the type of mail i mean.
Thing is our profile is ours, if you don't like it, or agree with it, well, jog on cos we dont care.
I will add tho, we have met a lot of single guys, and have liked every single one of them, with one exception. So it must work! (99% of the time)
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