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dominant or submissive - which are you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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If you had to define yourself at either end of the scale, how would you describe yourself when it comes to sex - dominant or submissive?
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By *oxy jWoman 45 weeks ago
somerset |
sexually dom to cuck sexually submissive to boyfriends submissive with sex not on a bdsm level |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Dom. Always Dom. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Dominant. |
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With fems I'm v dom. With males sub |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Tend to be dom, but am a switch so very versatile to all sorts of scenarios. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Always Dom but sometimes just sometimes I love to be pegged good and proper. Once in a while I have a craving to have my arse fucked by a women. Mmmm
Sexy as fuck it is. |
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Him: pleasure dom
Her: bratty sub to guys, preferably sub to girls |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Mostly dom but can switch foe the right person |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Sub for guys n girls |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Submissive x |
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I wouldn't. I'm really neither.  |
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"If you had to define yourself at either end of the scale, how would you describe yourself when it comes to sex - dominant or submissive?
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M - Dom
F - Sub |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 45 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
Contrary to the big spankable arse, I’m dominant (no I don’t need a submissive) I like to take control, but I enjoy animalistic sex & wouldn’t be too put out if I was thrown around like a rag doll  |
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Always been Dom
But would like to try being a Sub |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Sub. I'm too lazy to be a dom. |
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Dom with women, sub with guys. |
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Female is dom with men
Male is neither (yes even though Mrs is Dom) |
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By *J GeminiTV/TS 45 weeks ago
Northumberland |
Dom with men and TVs, neutral and sometimes sub with ladies ,
Xx |
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Male half, I can gladly switch depending on the company. |
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Sub here incase my username hasn't already indicated |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Dominant |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Interesting reading |
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My choice lies on the stubby side of things although I don't have a submissive nature. I do switch occasionally but my preference is for stubby play |
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By *ags73Man 45 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
Dunno to be honest. Guess I need more experience in that sort of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Defo a switch |
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90% of fellas claiming to be dominant haven’t got a clue. Fact. Such an overused and misunderstood term! |
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Dom with a small d....take the lead and have a submissive lady but not a full on Dom by any stretch of the imagination |
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"90% of fellas claiming to be dominant haven’t got a clue. Fact. Such an overused and misunderstood term! "
Normally you can replace dominant with arsehole |
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Very def sub, unless it’s just before my period at which time it’s my way or the highway   |
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Submissive…which comes naturally to my character and outlook. |
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By *RWoodyCouple 45 weeks ago
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I'd say neither really, not in the strict sense anyway.
Dom and sub have always sounded like there's a kinky side to them to me, and are different to just using other terms? For example, dom, just taking the lead, and sub, just getting sorted out 
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Sub |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Submissive |
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Mmmmm very submissive I would say xx |
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By *axo25Man 45 weeks ago
lightwater |
Not sure I could ever be submissive, feels totally unnatural |
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I'm very much a switch. Mostly dom with guys unless they are very dom or hung like a shirehorse.. with ladies very much a switch. Happy to kneel and serve.. or take. control ... what ever feels right for everyone on the occasion I guess. |
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Dom, can and do switch for the right guy |
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"Both - I’m a switch"
same here.
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By *an_spMan 45 weeks ago
Coventry |
I think there should be a “neither” option too
Dom btw |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I’m not submissive.
But I would’ve done for 1 woman. Call it switch or whatever.
But it takes a special woman to seduce me, and if she does, she can have anything she wants. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Defo a sub but can go dom if she needs it |
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As a TV I prefer to be submissive but I have had plenty of offers to be dominant. I can switch but enjoy being sub more than dom. |
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By *sWyldWoman 45 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Possibly ever so slightly domme but only because I'm not remotely submissive |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Typically highly submissive! Like 98% of the time. But 1% I like to switch and 1% I like to be domme for a change
(Mrs commenting) |
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By *ebbie69Couple 45 weeks ago
milton keynes |
100% submissive to the point of being someone's sex toy. I have only been Dom to a cuck but had to act whereas be sub cones naturally |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Most definitely dominant |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Dominant, I like being in control - and I'm good at it  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Both sub but we're trying to switch |
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I’d call myself assertive rather than Dom. |
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I'm definitely a Dom here, taz is very submissive so we work well together, especially when it comes to impact play |
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Submissive...all Doms my way please |
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Definitely submissive though i find it hard to find Dominants |
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I love a woman to blindfold me and just fucking have her erotic ways
I have gotten into being dom some more it's very good in its own ways  |
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Mrs submissive
Mr somewhere in the middle lol |
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Sadistic Dom through and through |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Yet to figure it out XD |
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Switch with a very kinky woman or very convincing TV/CD but normally VERY Dominant |
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Neither. I can't be dom, I've tried it's just not for me. And although people think I may be sub because of my profile I don't class myself as submissive. I don't submit to a dominant, I just like to be treated like meat by large groups of guys |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Man Dom, woman submissive. X |
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Straight sigma male and dominant with lots of experience |
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"Straight sigma male and dominant with lots of experience"
Sigma male!  |
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"Neither. I can't be dom, I've tried it's just not for me. And although people think I may be sub because of my profile I don't class myself as submissive. I don't submit to a dominant, I just like to be treated like meat by large groups of guys"
That's pretty fascinating. Because yes: your profile does make you sound submissive. And yet... not. |
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By *eyeYCouple 45 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Both switch. Mood and scenario depending |
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By *agusMan 45 weeks ago
Near by |
Prefer Submissive, love someone else deciding how far to push my boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Prefer submissive to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Sub to my core |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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"Dom... As Dom as it gets"
How Dom does it get ? |
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L is submissive and E Dominates her. |
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Submissive with men
Dominant with women
S xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Definitely submissive |
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Switch, sexy fabbers bring out both in me, and great to feel both sides  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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With women I love to be very dominant, with men I like to be submissive
Horses for courses |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Can be both depending on who I'm with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Sub |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"But know what I want x"
The sub has all the power. Once you understand that you begin to understand what it means to be a dom. |
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Me I enjoy being submissive to hubby but Dom with other men.
With women I switch |
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DOMINENT always looking for local sub woman for ltr . |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Mrs wants to be more submissive to a hunky dominate guy... local please |
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Mr- Dom
Mrs- switch with women, very sub with Mr |
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By *D3!Man 43 weeks ago
Cheltenham |
A little of both, bit more submissive I would say |
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Dom with wife mostly but I’m a switch so enjoy both sides, she isn’t into switching. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I guess I'd say Dom but I'm not really one of those guys who is all about that stuff |
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i am dominant in the bedroom i am looking for a sub but i would also like a dominant to :} |
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On the whole I'm submissive but I do enjoy facesitting for the control element and fancy trying pegging for the same reason x |
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Very submissive just here to please a man |
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By *andb69Couple 43 weeks ago
leeds |
Neither - I enjoy sex far, far more when it's on equal terms whether it's a twosome, threesome or moresome. |
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A good balance years back ,seems to be leaning more dom as I get older |
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Our kink roles are Mr - Dom, Mrs - Sub/Brat (depending on mood).
But that doesn’t mean we are full time D/s no contracts or collars. Also I (Mr) wasn’t really Dom until met Mrs, have been taken down this road by M, I’ve always wanted to fulfil my partners desire so does that make me more Submissive but just playing the Dom role.
That’s one for you guys who say you like to be dominants to consider. It’s not all about being in control or treating your sub as a toy.
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Mainly Dom with women and trans, and some guys. If the guy has a bigger cocks than me then I'm sub |
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I find you can only be one or the other. I am a very willing sub for a Dom that understands my needs, limits and boundaries. I have never come across the right one yet and would love to hear from someone that wants to give me a try....Anyone out there? |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Definitely submissive and very dirty, very eager too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I would say switch but for me it depends on the person.
I have found it easier to top people but there's not many that I could really bottom for |
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With women I'm usually very dom, with men or cples mostly im sub. But it depends on who I'm with of course, I can be both |
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Both switch, so makes for some interesting times |
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"Our kink roles are Mr - Dom, Mrs - Sub/Brat (depending on mood).
But that doesn’t mean we are full time D/s no contracts or collars. Also I (Mr) wasn’t really Dom until met Mrs, have been taken down this road by M, I’ve always wanted to fulfil my partners desire so does that make me more Submissive but just playing the Dom role.
That’s one for you guys who say you like to be dominants to consider. It’s not all about being in control or treating your sub as a toy.
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Well that depends on individual dynamics.
A lot of men who claim to be doms tend to just be arseholes with no idea of the scene. It’s the same with all the “Bulls” there is not enough desire for these types to actually understand what dominance and submission is. |
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Sub here I luv dominant guys as my hubby isn’t Dom at all |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I’m not dominant. I just want her to get on her knees, unzip me and take my cock to the back of her throat as I fuck her lovely mouth. |
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Both on Submissive side, Female more so than male half ... |
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I love to feel the cane so suppose I'm sub but I can sometimes switch |
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more sub when we play with another guy , aslong as he is more assertive |
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By *icentiousCouple 43 weeks ago
Up on them there hills |
Him, he leads, her she is switch, yet intellect is the driver. |
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Definitely dominant all the way |
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By *renzMan 43 weeks ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
I like to lead, but a true Dominant works with his submissive so both have enjoyment. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I'm Dom but sensual/kinky too. |
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One at each end of the spectrum here |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Submissive once you crack through the exterior |
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I’m definitely on team submissive if anyone struggles to guess that  |
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By *J2009Couple 43 weeks ago
Greater Manchester |
A - D type
J - switch, mostly submissive |
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Getting more submissive now I’m over 50 |
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Switch, all down to the guys and girls, and the fun |
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Female is sub but male can switch. |
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I’m sub. I struggle to be dominant… unless the inhibitions are lowered by alcohol |
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Submissive. Dominance makes me feel uncomfortable (Mrs) |
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Is it unnatural to be a bit of both |
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