OP, you've had 2 meets since you've been on here in the 3 months. That's good.
Why not attend a local social and get talking to others.
And don't whinge on the forums about how hard it is. It's hard for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I’d say stop generalising to “young single male”s in general and look more specifically at yourself.
Not that I’m saying there’s anything wrong with you at all. It’s just that it seems like you’re saying the reason you haven’t got to meet anyone is because of the demographic you fall into?
It’s unlikely to be that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play "
This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play
Tip number 1.
Use reply+quote on the forums so people know who you are replying to.
T"
Thank you for yours suggestion |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play
This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site"
Yeah I know but I need some tips or suggestions which can improve my chances |
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"No dear I didn't visit again after that. "
It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore  |
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"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion "
Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.
They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.
There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.
That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.
Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way! |
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Hey - I'm an older guy but still manage to find friends on here.
No secret - but be patient, courteous, accepting and try to be interesting.
If you are really genuine then the people that are interested will find you -- secret then is too be good enough that people want to see you again
Too much hard work for a one-off!
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
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"No dear I didn't visit again after that.
It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore "
that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
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"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion
Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.
They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.
There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.
That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.
Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way! "
Thank you for your kind words I will try my best to stick with that |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
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"Hey - I'm an older guy but still manage to find friends on here.
No secret - but be patient, courteous, accepting and try to be interesting.
If you are really genuine then the people that are interested will find you -- secret then is too be good enough that people want to see you again
Too much hard work for a one-off!
Good luck "
I got it thank you |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play
This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site"
Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone |
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Posts like this won’t help. You’re not owed or guaranteed playing or meets whether it’s through here or in a club. We are very particular about who we play with, we would rather not play than do it for the sake of doing it.
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play
This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site
Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone "
You will never please everyone - you’re much better off being yourself and looking for what you actually want |
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By *ickD80Man 42 weeks ago
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If someone gives you tips and advice on how to get meets and then you change your behaviour to suit the tips and advice you received then it means you’re not being yourself. If you behave in a way that someone has told you to behave rather than how you’d normally behave and you get meets because of it then it means you’re manipulating and deceiving someone so that they’ll have sex with you. |
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By *marty300 OP Man 42 weeks ago
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"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play
This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site
Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone
You will never please everyone - you’re much better off being yourself and looking for what you actually want"
that's what I'm doing but didn't get anything |
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"No dear I didn't visit again after that.
It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore
that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes "
I’ve been to several different clubs mate, and they’re all basically the same; as far as meeting women is concerned, you’re better off in your local Weatherspoons
Give Fab time. Think about what/who you’re really looking to meet in here, and when you message someone, just be yourself. If you get knocked back, just block their profile, and move on. You’re in a far better location for opportunities than I am, and I’ve done ok over the years  |
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By *marty300 OP Man 41 weeks ago
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"No dear I didn't visit again after that.
It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore
that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes
I’ve been to several different clubs mate, and they’re all basically the same; as far as meeting women is concerned, you’re better off in your local Weatherspoons
Give Fab time. Think about what/who you’re really looking to meet in here, and when you message someone, just be yourself. If you get knocked back, just block their profile, and move on. You’re in a far better location for opportunities than I am, and I’ve done ok over the years "
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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This is the unfortuate reality of our situation, vastly outnumbered and people can be choosy
I think the thing that is most annoying is those who start a conversation then just disappear or ignore, I get ignoring an initial message but to just disappear after an exchange is frustrating. Social conventions and general decency seem lost these days.
"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion
Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.
They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.
There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.
That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.
Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way! "
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"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play "
It's better to be ignored if they don't see that you match them. Wasted effort on people who you are not compatible with is futile
Make realistic expectations and sell yourself. If you don't, somebody else will. |
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